Disclaimers, Rules, FAQ, and Resources
Hi everyone! Hereâs the official one-stop post for this blog and how it runs. Iâm excited to get things moving again after my long hiatus!
Disclaimers and rules are subject to change at any time~
The resources list is always expanding; if you have resources for help in the UK, Canada, Australia, or any other country, please message me so I can include them in the list. As of right now, I only have US resources.
Note: as of April 20, 2021 I am putting a temporary hold on answering advice asks. The inbox is still open for advice, but Iâm just going through some personal things and need a little break, so I might not respond as soon as you like. Submissions will still be posted and my own suggestions will still be coming! Thank you~
Disclaimers
All suggestions are my own thoughts and feelings about my own partner and relationship. I have not, do not, and will not ever take another suggestion blogâs work as my own. Submissions from followers are tagged âsubmissionâ and I will never take credit for someoneâs submission. If you think I am stealing another blogâs posts or there are any other sourcing issues, please message me directly.
Iâm not a therapist and do not claim to be. Iâm just a stoner college student giving third-party relationship advice on a dead website.
Any advice I give is purely based on my own thoughts, opinions, and experiences. I try to be objective at the same time, but at the end of the day, Iâm going to go with what I feel is the best answer. If you disagree with or are upset by my advice, please ignore it and move on. I canât tell you what you want to hear just to make you feel better; that doesnât help anyone.
Iâm not responsible for the outcome of your situation if you choose to apply the advice I give. Iâm not a fairy godmother, so I canât fix things for you. Please donât blame me for things not working. I donât like being harsh about this, but I just want to make this known and understood.
Rules
Homophobia, transphobia, racism, misogyny/misandry, and any other sort of discrimination is prohibited in your reblogs, replies, and tags. If I find anyone breaking this rule to any degree, you will be blocked on the spot, no questions asked. Itâs not 1950 anymore. Youâre better than this.
If you find my advice or my suggestions to be problematic in any way, please message me directly and tell me why, so I know to correct myself and/or delete the problematic post in question.
DD/LG blogs will be blocked immediately if I find any interaction with my posts whatsoever. This is not kinkshaming. This is me wanting no part of a community that sexualizes children.
No asks about family situations and relationships. These will be deleted, as I am not in any position to help with matters like these. Iâm still trying to figure out my own family lmao
Asks about sex and sexual relationships are allowed, but please do not be overly graphic in your descriptions. Sex asks are reserved for those 18 or older**. I will tag all sex-related posts with âtw sexâ for those who wish to avoid them.
I wonât post submissions about breakups, rejections, or any other sorrowful situations. I want this blog to be a happier place for people. Iâm really sorry for this one, and I can still be here to support you if you want to direct message me.
If you have any questions about the rules, please send a message! I donât want to discourage anyone from interacting with this blog.
** If you are a minor looking for resources relating to things like sexual assault or birth control, please see the resources below. If you have any other questions or situations you need resources for, please message me directly.
FAQ
This is a list of the topics asked very, very frequently and have a quick answer to them. If I find your ask to be redundant and think it can be answered on this list, it will be deleted. This is not meant to ignore you; this is to keep ask traffic lower so that I can answer more people instead of repeating the same answer for one general topic.
âWould it be wrong of me to get revenge on [person] for [reason]?â - Yes. I donât ever condone revenge for any reason when it comes to relationships. Donât stoop to their level. Donât give them the satisfaction of knowing youâre angry/upset with them. The best way to say âfuck youâ to someone is to cut them off and move on, because youâre taking away the power they held over you.
âIâm in an LDR and my partner isnât reaponding to my texts like they used to.â - Communicate. LDRs have no room for not responding to texts and calls because thatâs the only way you get to connect. If they still arenât willing to talk after multiple attempts to discuss the issue(s) at hand, you can give them an ultimatum or just leave.
âHow do I get my crush to notice me?â - Talk to them. If youâre wanting to get their attention, reach out to them.
âHow can I start a conversation with my crush?â - Casually compliment them, find something in the environment to comment on or send them a meme or something. Itâs not creepy to start a conversation, and it could lead to a new friendship or something more! Just donât rush things.
âHow do I impress my crush?â - Be yourself. Seriously. If you try to be anything other than you, or if you do things you usually never do or donât like to do, it wonât end well. If you did manage to reel in your crush and start dating, it would be under false pretenses and likely wouldnât last long.
âI confessed to my crush, but they rejected me.â - Accept their answer. No means no, no exceptions. The worst thing you could possibly do is keep trying to get them to say yes. If they offer to stay friends after they reject you, itâs your choice to keep them in your life or to move on.
âI have a crush on someone who is already in a monogamous relationship.â - Thereâs nothing wrong with having a crush. What matters is that you do not, under any circumstances, interfere with their relationship. It will hurt to see them with someone else, but if you love them, you should respect their choices and who/what brings them happiness.
âI have/my partner has a crush on someone else.â - Simple, fleeting âcrushesâ (squishes, maybe?) just happen sometimes. As long as you donât act on them, theyâre generally harmless. If you/your partner has a serious crush on someone, though, it could be time to communicate again and reevaluate your relationship.
âI have a crush on someone, but theyâre [sexuality, gender].â - In the same way they respect your gender and sexuality, you need to respect theirs, too. If they express interest outside of their sexual orientation, you can be there to support them, but do not force things unless you want to push them away or break your bond with them.
If you feel your question isnât answered here depite being related to something on the list, or you need more specific advice, please donât hesitate to reach out after you have read this list thoroughly and completely!
Resources (USA)
Crisis text line: Text HELLO to 741741
Domestic abuse hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)
Sexual assault hotline: 1-800-656-4673 (HOPE)
Suicide prevention hotline: 1-800-273-8255 (TALK)
Substance abuse services (SAMHSA): 1-800-662-4357 (HELP)
Trevor Lifeline (LGBTQ mental health crisis hotline): 1-866-488-7386
Eating disorder helpline: (Call or Text) 1-800-931-2237, via NEDA
Dating issues/abuse: via loveisrespect.org
Birth control information: via Planned Parenthood
If anyone has resources for the UK, Canada, Australia, or any other country, please let me know. I want to only have the best and most reliable ones here, and itâs difficult to know which ones to include. Thank you in advance!
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About Me
I started this blog in 2018 to express my feelings for a guy I had a massive crush on who eventually became my boyfriend. We have been together for 7 years now and are living happily in Colorado! My side of our story can be found here đ
Iâm happy to make people smile with this blog; you guys are so kind, and it makes every second of writing worth it!
(Last Updated: November 12, 2025)













