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uoa , class of 2021 gentle reminders to self, outfit inspirations, and bits to keep me going with my studies. >.< be brave and be patient. [following from avocadofix]

[chibird]

There are so many reasons to keep going! Here are just a few.

[thededfa]

Listen, maybe I can’t change the world, but I can pass eggs over the fence to my neighbor to save them a few dollars. I can cross the street and fix another neighbor’s cabinets. I can send my kid to the house next door with a can of tomato sauce they need and they’ll come back with a box of cocoa powder they weren’t going to use. We can leave our old furniture at the curb and one of us will drive by and pick it up to fix and sell or keep. I’ll plant a garden since I have the space and time and I’ll share what I can and I’ll get calls from someone else asking if I can use a crate of oranges.

I may not be able to change the world but I can do something

[sirenadeloceano]

Peonies and calligraphy✨ Chheliflow

[cocainejuul]

You truly never forget a genuinely kind hearted teacher. When I was in 4th grade my mom went into deep depression for a while and basically had no energy to do my hair anymore aside from brushing it and since it was really long it’d be a knotted mess by the end of the day and my teacher took note and one day asked if I’d like for her to start doing my hair every morning and I happily agreed. From then on while all my classmates had breakfast I’d go into class early and she’d do my hair any way I wanted. She even took a curling iron to curl it for me and got me the prettiest butterfly shaped hair clips because she knew I loved butterflies. Mrs Templeton I love you and still think about you 14 years later…

[quiet-nymph]

All rights reserved by alankae

[cottaqecore]

source

[rentz]

left alone - fiona apple / geoff mcfetridge / does the universe fight for souls to be together? - jamie varon 

[prachella]

[flowerlines]

things on my mind 15/4/22 10.51pm

1) an abundance of fruit & veg garden 

2) wrinkle-free clothing 

[genterie]

Normal People (2020)

[vampireapologist-archive-deacti]

sometimes there’s a big hole in your soul and that’s just the way it is and you have to fill it up with songs you love and people who make you feel better and towels in your favorite color and socks that feel just right on your feet and even then sometimes part of you will leak out and other times it’ll all gush at once and you’ll feel like you’re fighting a losing battle but the fact is every time you flood you just pick up the pieces of all the little good things around you and start laying the bricks over again and yeah it’s too bad there’s got to be a hole in the first place but that’s life sometimes you babble and ebb and flow and burst but your soul is part of what keeps the world alive and it’s really just amazing you’re here so don’t worry that the sadness never fully goes away I’m just really glad we exist. the world is full of everyone and I’m happy that includes us.

[rumade]

I’d divorce him too lmao

[sustainableseparatists]

[sisyphereantask]

It’s never JUST about the tomatoes.

[probablyasocialecologist]

Basically!

Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: He’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.

The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.

These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow-up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in 10 of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of 10, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.

The Secret to Love Is Just Kindness

Those who showed genuine interest in their partner’s joys were more likely to be together.

[educatedsavage]

Damn, this made me think of all the “shouting into the void” social media posts everyone makes. Just bids for connection. From ANYONE.

[c-ptsdrecovery]

I think that is ABSOLUTELY what a lot of that is. Our culture is very isolated (even BEFORE covid!), and we’re desperate to connect with others. I read an article one time that suggested that childcare workers stop saying that a child is “Just wants attention” and start saying that the child is “looking for connection.” We’re starved for it even from childhood.

[ritikajyala]

There'll be a moment when you realise you're 27 when yesterday you were just 17; and you wouldn't be able to tell how a decade passed away and your life got divided into before and afters. The fury of youth will subdue and nothing will really change but everything will feel different when you look at old photographs and blurry videos taken on cheap mobile phones. Scents will remind you of childhood and certain friends you don't talk to anymore, hangouts will become reunions and mom's burnt pie will become the best food you ever had. And I know on some days you won't be able to show anything of those 10 years but I hope you remember to breathe, and let go of the knot in your chest. I hope you go out in the sun and live a little, because tomorrow is 37.

Edit- I added the visualizer for this piece on my YT, check it out here

-Ritika Jyala, excerpt from The Flesh I Burned

[photosbygy-deactivated20200605]

How amazing would it be to live next to the ocean, wake up every morning and go for a walk on the beach… this is kinda my dream, first thing u hear when u wake up is the ocean and last thing u hear when u go to sleep is the ocean, thats peaceful

[hairstylesbeauty]

[anastasiatasou]

note to self 6

[wylanvnneck]

you are my son, my moon, and all my stars, e.e. cummings // the song of achilles, madeline miller // owl and pussycat, some years later, margaret atwood // the starry night, vincent van gogh // seven, taylor swift // @ashberrrry via tumblr // two men contemplating the moon, caspar david friedrich // red, white and royal blue, casey mcquiston // anyway, richard siken // end of the day, one direction