That thing about when you stop people pleasing, people stop being pleased … yeah. Once I started being direct and honest and stopped trying to placate people, people have been Upset. Especially my family, who I learned people pleasing from. It’s such an insidious affliction because on the surface it looks like keeping the peace but right under that it’s years and years and years of unsaid shit and swallowing your own needs and injustices to keep others “happy”. And the reality is you’re keeping them ignorant, and you’re keeping them from the consequences of their own actions. You’re keeping them from healthy conflict and learning how to navigate through that. AND you’re abandoning yourself. It does nobody any favors, it just keeps us stuck in the same cycle going round n round n round n round n round n round n round
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