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The reddest video EVER is out now. Directed by Blake Lively who SMASHED it just like I smashed this cake.

https://Taylor.lnk.to/IBYTAMVideo

it’s so fucked up when you see something you KNOW is a portal to somewhere but you can’t figure out how to activate it. this is the most frustrating feeling that plagues modern man.

catsuggest

gatheringkeepsakes

I’ve seen this post easily 12 times now and EVERY TIME it’s just a different cat looking at a different door.

#whenyoukeepactivatingportalsonaccident

aiiizawa

not to be a person of color on main but once again everybody who is white needs to consistently and continuously be conscious of how you treat and interact with other people of color. are you holding creators of color to higher standards than white creators? do you find yourself making excuses for your white friends when they’re being told an action they did had made a person of color uncomfortable? do you find your friends of color less approachable and more aggressive than your white friends? do you find yourself only listening to the opinions of people of color who are like you in other ways (trans, gay, ND, etc) or who validate your opinions on media, the most egregious being “my friend of color says it’s okay to like this”. It isn’t enough to try and default it to treating them just like they’re white, because there is a notable difference in said treatment and you are unable to recognize it if you do not check yourself on it without constantly being told.

ok and encouraged to reblog but if you’re white I want to your silence, including in the tags.

druidcore

final thoughts: the haunting series is so good at… delivering scares but leaving you with this feeling of… just realizing how human you are. in every way that lovecraft horror makes you feel small, this kind of horror makes you feel big, and full of feelings. it’s tragic and sad and terrible and beautiful and awful and heartbreaking and I wish I was eloquent enough to be able to say every reason why it works so perfectly, and why the writing is phenomenal and how clever and deep and thoughtful it is but I trust that if you watch it, you’ll know.

bella-donna-energy

The way Edmund describes having to ask Dani over and over again to marry him and she kept putting it off by saying they weren’t old enough and how the first time she dared him to kiss her it was probably because she knew how he felt and hoped she would be able to feel the same once they kissed because it wasn’t just him, it was him and his mom and the family her own never was, and then spent every moment since still hoping and letting herself be swept along with things, even asking for a big wedding and trying to throw herself into it, until she just couldn’t anymore.

But then she comes to Bly because she wants to make a difference for kids, especially kids who need good adults around them the way she did after her dad died and her mom checked out, and she finds good adults of her own, people to make her family and Jamie who she’s determined to try with despite her guilt about moving on and she does, she does make them all her family and she loves them so much that she sacrifices herself in a different way, not by denying herself but by accepting another person, accepting Viola’s rage into herself and using her love to protect everyone from it.

And I don’t know, it’s sad that in the end it was too much for her to stand and that the only way to truly protect everyone was by leaving them, but she had years with a family that truly knew and loved and accepted her, years to watch the kids grow and see the difference she made for their lives, years with a person she loved the way two people are supposed to love and who she never had to pretend with, and those years are so much more than she’d expected.

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The Haunting Of Hill House (Dir. Mike Flanagan 2018)

notimnotatop

umm i don’t think it’s really spoken about much but i think we should normalise bisexuals being inexperienced with a particular gender. we don’t have to ‘keep it even’ to be bisexual and it’s okay if you haven’t experienced anything with a particular gender :)

notimnotatop

someone mentioned in their tags that we should also be normalising having no experience with anyone, & i think that’s an important addition to this post !! that is definitely okay and valid too :)

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ahhthelegend

not you

clamchowdurr-deactivated2022040

Yo that’s a good ass point!!!

littlescratches

“If that’s rape, then I have been raped,” scoff the women.

“If that’s rape, then I would be a rapist,” whisper the men to themselves.

And nobody wants to talk about that.

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REBLOG THIS KNOWLEDGE!

nothorses

Yall know that “toxic masculinity” refers to expressions of masculinity that are toxic, right? it doesn’t imply that all masculinity is toxic- it’s used to talk about like, how people will repress their emotions aside from anger in order to seem “manly”, and how they might act in violent or self-destructive ways because that is what society expects of men.

masculinity is not inherently toxic. it hasn’t been poisoned or corrupted. it is a neutral concept, a kind of gender presentation, and it doesn’t make you a bad, unhealthy, or toxic person to be masculine.

masculinity does not need to be “soft” to be acceptable, it can just be neutral. because it is not toxic, just sometimes expressed in toxic ways or for toxic reasons.

ninjakittenarmy

Does this mean there is toxic femininity?

nothorses

imo? Yes.

Like when white women fake cry to win arguments, or to appear to be the victim (despite how much damage they may have caused), or when female abusers point to their femininity as a reason they couldn’t possibly be hurting anyone. Or when the girls in school weaponize their performances of femininity against more androgynous, less traditionally attractive, or more masculine girls.

Plenty of cis women have a similarly toxic relationship to femininity as cis men do to masculinity. A good example of a less material expression might be the tendency to self-martyr, using the “caregiver” role to guilt trip and gaslight, and abuse in a more manipulative, emotional/mental way than the physical aggression more typical with toxic masculinity.

The patriarchy rewards gender conformity, and requires cis people of both genders to uphold it. Cis women are at a structural disadvantage to cis men regardless, but can absolutely gain more social power by adhering more strictly to traditional femininity- and weaponize that power against others.

eyrliss-camille-rogers

Educate yourself.

sentimental-apathy

Hey y’all. I don’t get paid anything until the 26th of August and I’m really struggling. Haven’t had enough hours at work lately and I’ve got barely any food to eat and I’ve got an upcoming insurance bill. If anyone can spare anything I’d really appreciate it! Links to my paypal and Venmo can be found under my description. Please help!!

tanrak

listen. i know i sound like a broken record and it’s a bit annoying but i have to once again ask you to watch the old guard on netflix. and if you like it, please recommend it to other people that you think might like it too. the potential this movie has for a sequel/franchise is enormous but it depends on viewers nonetheless. netflix isn’t doing much to promote it but i refuse to go down without a fight. so please just give the old guard a chance. feel free to yell at me if you don’t like it!! but in the name of black female directors and female leads and lgbtq+ characters and well done action scenes and great plot with great characters and a crew that is devoted to their work, i am asking you to at least try

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i took a deeper dive into the racism in the film industry, the hair and makeup aspects of it.

stingchronicity

maybe i’m wrong but??? disabled people sometimes need help??? and everyone should be okay with that???

for example: i am disabled. have two abled siblings. we are all adults; they’re a lot older than me. my siblings both have children. i get a lot of assistance from our parents. right now, i can’t work. right now i can’t go out into public spaces comfortably on my own (i can, but it’s hard and i prefer to have someone with me). that means i can’t shop for groceries alone; i can’t go out on necessary outings alone.

it looks a lot like i’m “coddled” and babied by my parents because of this, and my siblings are both so angry over it. they get so angry that i receive assistance. they talk about how they never do (which is extremely untrue). they talk about how unfair it is; about how i’m taking the easy way out. but they are abled. they have children and jobs. they take care of themselves extremely well–especially compared to me.

i get it. really i do. but look:

nobody who receives special assistance enjoys it. nobody likes being stared at while they get help. we all want to be able to say yes, i have a job; yes, i can take care of myself; yes, i am abled. but not all of us can.

i am an adult who is often seen as a child because of the assistance i receive and the life i lead. of course i don’t like it. nobody would like it. i hate “taking the easy way out” as my siblings and so many people refer to it. i want to be an independent human being. i want a career and a life. but right now i can’t; some people never can.

tl;dr some disabled people need help, and that should be respected. we aren’t taking anything away from abled people. we are getting the help we need to survive.

absolutely okay for abled people to reblog

foxyshadow

We as a society don’t make a big deal out of glasses or crutches, but yet we do with this. This has to change.

As someone who requires assistance, practically every day I just win I could live a normal life. People who require assistance don’t like having to have assistance.