so i dated my teacher crush
i even ran a tc blog @pumpkinspice-teachercrush that i no longer have account access to, thus didn’t really get to update at all. and once i figure out how to get access to it, i will post this there too. because it’s important.
i was 18-19 when i ran that blog. i’m now 21 and i’m in intensive therapy dealing with the major trust issues that came from our relationship.
i’m not here to lecture you or tell you you’re wrong to feel how you feel. trust me, i get it. and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with a crush.
but it needs to stay a crush. a teacher dating their student, even after they graduate, is morally and ethically wrong for so many reasons. there’s a reason why it’s not allowed.
my tc groomed and manipulated me. and i didn’t see it, bc i trusted him. which i should be able to do. he was my teacher, i should’ve been able to trust him.
he pushed boundaries and blurred lines more and more until the time came where i was legally an adult and graduated from high school and we had sex. and he dumped me right after.
it was all a carefully crafted manipulation. he was a predator. our relationship was predatory in every sense of the word.
he abused his power and authority and the trust i had in him as an educator.
i’m still unpacking our whole relationship through therapy. and i didn’t even realize how much of our relationship was inappropriate from the jump until i filed my report with the school district and the school district official was like “wait what the fuck he did that?! and that?!”
if your teacher crush (or any teacher) is pushing boundaries with you and blurring the lines between student and teacher, you need to report it. if your tc or any teacher does or says something that makes you feel weird, you need to report it.
trust me, i wish i did. i regret letting things get as far as they did.
again, i am not here to lecture anyone. it is perfectly perfectly fine to crush on a teacher. the problem is if they reciprocate and act on those feelings.
if your teacher crush is the amazing person you fell for, then they would keep things ethical. even if they do reciprocate the feelings, they would put your needs as a student over their own wants. because, as a student, you need them to do their jobs.
i’m sure your teacher crushes are amazing, fantastic people. that’s why we love them, right? mine ended up not being good. and i’m still recovering after all these years.
i know probably no one will read this, but i hope someone does and that it reaches them. i just don’t want anyone to go through even a fraction of what i’m going through.
