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May he go to jail after being impeached.
May the survivors of his abuse find justice.
May the thousands of innocents subject to hate motivated violence perpetuated by him find closure.
May he never know peace.
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if he gives you this look…
like, then, Perish, man…
I fucking hate it when you’re in such a fantastically giddy mood and then you see one simple little thing that makes you think, “oh” and then you just get this empty feeling in your chest and you get nauseous and the world just crumbles and you want to just lay under a blanket and close your eyes and fall asleep and never wake up.
From what my therapist told me, this happens because our emotions aren’t really on the ‘opposite’ ends like we tend to think of it. Happiness is not ‘up’ and sadness is not ‘down’-. In a way they’re actually right ‘next’ to each other.
If you’re super happy, it can turn into super sad very easily, because your emotions are already highly elevated and it’s only a very minor shift as far as your brain is concerned.
Knowing this can help you fight it, and it can help you be more aware of what’s going on while you’re happy and help avoid shifting towards misery.
I used to always wonder why it seemed like my happy days ‘couldn’t last’ or that bad things would ‘always’ happen when I was happy. It’s not that happiness is doomed to fail, it’s that emotions are volatile. I hope that helps people who experience this too- when you understand what’s going on more it’s easier to manage.
Reasons my new physics prof is adorable
- on the first day of class he brought his favorite toy truck from when he was a child - is from Argentina and has a cute accent and sometimes speaks in Spanish on accident - teaches us Spanish phrases for fun - very tall and awkward and has super curly hair that falls into his face constantly - giggles at his own jokes - on the second day of class he showed us pictures of his cat eating a salami - the cat’s name is Pants
- i saw his teaching notes today and he doodles little flowers in the margins of his notebook
- Brought us a smiley face balloon to cheer us up when the weather was bad
- played with legos for half the class
- likes balloons a whole lot
It’s now the middle of summer. I do research in the physics department, my office is right across the hall from his. And so:
- He knows I’m into observational astronomy and despite him being a nuclear astrophysicist himself he will email me (and some of the other observationalists) interesting articles and videos about astronomy, usually and around 2am, the poor insomniac
- He became a dad yesterday! In his email he said “sorry, I won’t be in this week, I’ll be frantically googling how to take care of a newborn instead”
- his last name is Estrada and so I simply replied “congratulations on becoming an Estradad!!!” To which he replied “:D”
some of y’all be like oh mercury is in retrograde? lemme just unhinge my jaw and go be feral on the roof
and all of us are valid
oh boo hoo let me clap the world’s smallest ass cheeks
green day: i walk these empty streets on the boulevard of broken dreams when the city sleeps and i’m the only one and i walk alone
eight year old me:
21 year old me:
10 year old Czech me with zero knowledge of English:
I’m holy, I want you to know it
“Male kindness is so alien to us we assume it is seduction every time.”
— Blythe Baird, from If My Body Could Speak
what the signs fall for (or should fall for)
+ check venus signs!
aries: adventure and recklessness. you want someone that knows what they want and someone that will pursue you endlessly. you want a person that is exciting, daring and brave. thus, you may have a tendency to fall for individuals that are good with their words and know how to have a good time.
taurus: stability and supportiveness. you fall for individuals that can crawl under your skin in the best ways. someone that knows what to do when you’re upset and always answers when you call. you fall for people that know the little things about you and always stand by your side. you’re not one to fall for individuals that are fickle and are hard to pin down.
gemini: you fall for people who give you the opportunity to travel and are willing to experience an abundance of fun moments with. you love the ones who can put up with your weird behaviour and can keep you entertained. geminis tend to be flighty individuals and depending on your chart, you may find it difficult to find one person that you want to stick with for the long term, so finding someone that has similar interests, a sense of humour you enjoy, and someone that puts up with your different moods is someone you are likely to fall for.
cancer: comfort is something that is of utmost importance to you, so it’s no surprise that you fall for people that take care of you. you’re kind of like a baby; you need hugs, constant attention, and someone that will love you unconditionally and always take your feelings into consideration. people who do all of the aforementioned are the types you fall for (or should, at least), but sometimes you have a tendency to fall for the ones who also cause you the most pain. but be careful with your heart, cancer, because you are often too attached to leave people even when they are the ones breaking your heart.
leo: you love being showered with love, as well as showering others with love. for you, love is something that should be grandiose and you love showing off the people you’re with, whether it be on social media or just simply talking about them. so because of that, you adore the type of people that allow you to show them off, while also giving you the attention you crave. you want someone you can be proud of, someone pretty, and someone who makes you feel like you’re living some sort of fairytale relationship.
virgo: you fall for people who are intelligent and who you can see yourself form a stable relationship with. earth signs tend to prefer stability over reckless behaviour, so you might be prone to falling for individuals who are either really smart in class or ones who have good charisma, goals, and confidence. while you are prone to being headass, you don’t like the overly emotional types, so you are probably more likely to fall for people who are more in control of their emotions.
libra: you have a tendency to fall for all sorts of people, as you crave love and intimacy. you generally enjoy people who are flirty, know how to keep you interested, and make you feel safe. however, libras have a tendency to put up with a lot due to their need to keep peace, so sometimes you may find yourself falling for the wrong people but you stick with them anyway.
scorpio: you fall for the passionate and intense types; you like people who commit themselves to you as much as you commit to them. when you are in love, you tend to throw yourself fully into the relationship without considering boundaries or limitations, and to have someone allow you to do all of this makes you feel wanted. scorpios also tend to crave sexual intimacy, so anyone that knows how to please you in that manner will probably win you over.
sagittarius: you fall in love with adventure and creating new memories. you love people who can make you laugh and give you freedom, but someone that is also willing to go along with your crazy plans. you don’t like being limited in love because then you tend to get bored and go looking for someone else, so to find someone that allows you to flourish without suffocating you is someone you will consider keeping around.
capricorn: you fall for people with power and status; people who are capable of showing their determination and commitment in anything they throw themselves into. but you also have a soft spot for the goofy types – you enjoy people who make you feel like all the worries on your shoulders slip away like water. you fall for stability, comfort and support.
aquarius: you fall for the people who don’t want you, or the ones who don’t show you how much they want you. you don’t like feeling suffocated by individuals who feel the need to message you all the time or shower you with affection, as you adore your freedom a little too much. so you tend to fall for those who make you chase them rather than them chasing you.
pisces: you tend to fall for the people that are a little dangerous and detrimental to you, as you are obsessed with the idea of saving others or being saved yourself. even though you deny it, you secretly love a little drama and emotional outbursts in your relationship as you need to feel like you’re constantly needed in order to be completely happy in a relationship.
how the venus signs know they’re in love
aries venus: an aries venus knows they’re in love when they no longer feel like they have to chase the object of their affection. when they finally feel like time isn’t running out.
taurus venus: a taurus venus knows they’re in love when they finally feel safe trying new things. when they feel like the world is expanding and opening up new opportunities and experiences.
gemini venus: a gemini venus knows they’re in love when they can lay in silence and still feel so fulfilled. when the silence isn’t awkward.
cancer venus: a cancer venus knows they’re in love when they find themselves much more outgoing than ever before. when the home is not the safest place anymore, but their loved one is.
leo venus: a leo venus knows they’re in love when they realize they’ve become the biggest fan. when they no longer need to show off their loved one, cause their loved one is already standing beside them under the stage lights.
virgo venus: a virgo venus knows they’re in love when they no longer need to fix or adjust. when they fall in love with quirks and flaws. when they finally accept that nothing is perfect.
libra venus: a libra venus knows they’re in love when they only want to give their attention to that one special person. when the rest of the world just fades away, and they’re left with their loved one (and for the first time, that feels perfectly fine).
scorpio venus: a scorpio venus knows they’re in love when they don’t have to worry. when they know their loved one will come home safe. when they feel warm and fuzzy inside, and all the hurt is gone.
sagittarius venus: a sagittarius venus knows they’re in love when they wanna stay home. when the love they feel inside is way more exciting than any adventure.
capricorn venus: a capricorn venus knows they’re in love when they feel unstoppable. when they feel like they want to conquer the world with their loved one.
aquarius venus: an aquarius venus knows they’re in love when they don’t feel like running anymore. they can finally meet their love in the middle. they finally feel like it’s okay to feel something.
pisces venus: a pisces venus knows they’re in love when they no longer feel the burden of giving too much. when there is a healthy amount of give and take. when they finally feel appreciated and not stepped over.
♡ types of crushes; venus sign edition
aries venus: infatuated crush. their love is possessive and on fire. they want to spend every living, waking moment with you and when they aren’t, you’re the only thing on their mind. their heart is aflame and you’re the air that’s only making it grow.
taurus venus: cherished crush. they’re there for you! always and forever. if you need anything, they want you to let them supply it. whether it be safety, comfort, or support; your happiness is their happiness. let them take care of you, that’s all they want.
gemini venus: breathtaking crush. ‘love is a game’ has never meant more to anyone than these people. expect the unexpected with them, because you’ll never see anything coming. and if you find yourself getting too comfortable, they’ll shock you all over again. they’re conversations at 3am and the real laughter from your stomach. they’ll make you wonder what fun was before you met them.
cancer venus: first love crush. every time feels like the first to them. they’ll fall in love a million times and still want to give nothing but the world to that person. they’re blushing easily and soft smiles. they’re doodling hearts in a notebook and laying in bed dreaming of confessing their feelings.
leo venus: grand crush. in love with the idea of love, you may have a hundred and one crushes but you’ll always know when you really fall in love. they’re being on the top of the world and never wanting to come down. feeling like the only two people on earth and as if you’re constantly spinning in a dream. love may not exactly be forever for them, but they always make the most of it when it’s there.
virgo venus: devoted crush. very similar to taurus, these people are always there for you. even though their love is light like a breeze, their feelings are always very very real. they’re grocery shopping at 6am & starting a bubble war with the soapy dish water. love is supposed to be comfortable and like home to them.
libra venus: enchanted crush. crushes are easy to fall in for you but also easy to fall out of; and the other person would have never even known. you treat love as if it’s a unfamiliar reality with an infinite amount of things to be discovered and experienced. love is always a fairytale for you.
scorpio venus: intoxicating crush. they engulf you when they have a crush; similar to aries. they’re possessive and addicted to being around you. they want to break you down to your center and memorize all your scars and deeply hidden secrets until there’s nothing left except two souls. then you’ll be with them for life.
sagittarius venus: wild crush. you want nothing more than to see the world and break all the rules with the one you love. these crushes are impulsive and insane and they make you feel the true beauty in life and forget all the questions or unknown. they’re fast and they strike hard and then leave you wanting more when it’s all over.
capricorn venus: tender crush. these crushes are always a secret for the entire time they’re there, never even beginning to think of making the first move. they’re warm and innocent yet also very mature and serious. they’re talking about you to their friends and gazes across a room, devoted time and putting you first. they’re always one of the best because they’re filled with real loyalty and care; a type you can’t find any other place.
aquarius venus: best friend crush. they’re your best friends, because it’s hardly unlikely they would fall in love with you any other way. they’re intrigued and in love with all your flaws and differences from the world, admiring you like a star in their very dark sky. these crushes are unique and rare.
pisces venus: daydream crush. you’re the inspiration behind their poetry and their art. you’re their comforting thought and safe place for them to go. they think about you all the time but always in a caring way: whether you’ve ate, drank plenty of water, got a good nights sleep, had a hard day. you’re always on their mind, and they care the world for you; whether they’ve told you or not.
The Signs Expressing Affection
*check venus signs* Aries: takes you on adventures, challenges you, shows you off, protects you, tries hard to impress you, flirts and plays around with you, always strives to keep things exciting, seeks your attention and recognition
Taurus: shares their belongings, cooks for you, buys you things you want, invites you to concerts, museums, or for a day at the park or beach, gives physical affection, always wants to be around you
Gemini: listens to you, talks with you about anything and everything, laughs at all your jokes, plans dates and adventures with you, writes poems and writings about you, shares their deepest thoughts and ideas with you
Cancer: acts shy around you at first, looks at you like you’re a dream come true, nurtures and cares for you, brings up sentimental memories, opens up about their past to you, invites you to watch movies and shows with them, cooks for you
Leo: treats you like royalty, shows off their charm and talents when around you, encourages your self-esteem and self-expression, makes you their main focus, lets you know exactly how they feel, public displays of affection
Virgo: supports your goals to achieve, plans and organizes their future with you, checks on you frequently, cleans themselves up more around you, is the first to let you know when you’re doing wrong, works hard to keep the relationship balanced and healthy
Libra: changes their mannerisms and style to fit your aesthetic, gives you all the attention, admires your beauty and appeal, tries hard to keep their appearance up to par, acts flirty and alluring around you
Scorpio: gives you an obsessive amount of attention, does what you ask of them, publicly acts relatively normal but in private acts extremely intimate and passionate with you, expresses their passion physically, may be distant at first but watch for their smirks and gazes
Sagittarius: tries to be more humorous around you to make you laugh, surprises you with dates and gifts, is open and honest with you, always tries to keep things fun, has deep conversations with you
Capricorn: works hard for your attention, gives you anything you want that they can offer, remains devoted and loyal to you, follows your demands, expresses emotions and inner thoughts to you
Aquarius: settles down for you, adores your individuality, makes you feel special, talks to you about their feelings, supports your beliefs and opinions, shows you off on social media, has deep, intellectual conversations with you
Pisces: is vulnerable and open around you, may be shy and not the first to admit it, gives you sentimental and romantic gifts, always knows how you’re feeling, their romantic feelings towards you are pretty obvious, creates fantasies about you, listens to your every word, idealizes you
"Should parents read their daughter's texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"
Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, “Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?”
I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.
I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”
Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.
Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.
It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.
It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.
Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:
Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.
Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.
Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.
Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”
TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:
You do not respect their rights as an individual.
You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.
You probably haven’t been listening to them.
Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.
Part of me is really excited to see that the original post got 200 notes because holy crap 200 notes, and part of me is really saddened that something so negative has resonated with so many people.
I love this post.
Too many parents wonder why their kids aren’t honest with them, and never realize their own non-receptive behavior and their failure to listen are the reasons why.
At one point or another, a child WILL keep a secret from you, but if it’s to a point where all their emotional feelings are being poured away from you as opposed to toward you, it’s probably because you haven’t been emotionally trustworthy or open.
Adultism :(
not to mention, you then take away one of your child’s coping mechanisms. if your parents read your journal, you’re never writing in it again. if your parents monitor your conversations with friends, you won’t tell them when you’re depressed anymore. if you have a therapist that reports what you say to your parents, you won’t tell that therapist anything. now all those methods of venting, feeling better, self-soothing, sorting out your issues, and feeling safe are gone. “i want information” is not synonymous with “i want my child to talk to me.” those are two separate goals, but i think parents conflate them – i want my child to talk to me, but since they won’t, i’m stealing information from them. no. you didn’t ever want them to talk to you. you wanted information. if you wanted them to talk to you, if that was your entire end goal, you would have approached things completely differently. stealing information from a child ensures they will never talk to you again. but if all you want is information, then you can take it however you want and call it a parenting success. if what you wanted was a child who talks to you, you would apply the same principles you do to literally any other human interaction in your life, and cultivate a relationship and trust.
I had to stifle my horror and revulsion at my last job, when a conversation about removing the door from a child’s bedroom came up, and I was only one not in favor of it.
May be worth noting I was the only millennial in a conversation that was otherwise full of baby boomers.
