i made a flag

18 • he/him • gay

[yourdangerousmind]

Note: Photoset uses the gay man pride flag posted by gaymanflag.

[A set of stylized dual pride flag images. Each image is split down the middle with a wavy line, and contains two flags. First is split between an aro flag and gay man flag. Second is the gay man flag and ace. Third is an aroflux and gay man flag. Forth is a gay man flag and aceflux flag. Fifth is a gray aro and gay man flag. Sixth is a gay man flag and gray ace. Seventh is a demiromantic and gay man flag. Eighth is an alternate demiromantic flag and gay man flag. Ninth is a demisexual flag and gay man flag.]

Link to the previous set. Made with the apps PaintJoy and Blender Camera: Photo Blender.

[gaymanflag]

Over the years I’ve seen a lot of things about how there isn’t a distinction between the general LGBT+ community flag and the flag for gay men, and if you want a short history lesson please [click here] because i want to keep this post not horrifyingly long. 

Long story short: to help fix all the [problems people are complaining about], gay men need a specific flag. So, with a bunch of discussion with people and a few different incarnations of the flag, I’ve made a (potential) flag for gay men.

The colors have the following meanings:

Blue A connection to masculinity (in terms of gender) and attraction to men.

Green This partly shares a meaning with Gilbert Baker’s original flag. The green stands for nature, as our love is natural, as well as a connection to the green carnation, which was popularized as a symbol for gay men by Oscar Wilde.

Yellow This also shares a meaning with Baker’s flag – sunlight. In a sun/moon dichotomy, sun is typically considered masculine. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of nonbinary men.

Grey The grey stands for navigating a grey area of society, where we are ‘accepted,’ but not really. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of aspec gay men.

[gaymanflag]

@pride-color-schemes

[davestridirk]

@gaymanflag

[gaymanflag]

That functions just like mobile in terms of how links work, if you go on my blog (not in dash, in a separate tab) it works

[gaymanflag]

Over the years I’ve seen a lot of things about how there isn’t a distinction between the general LGBT+ community flag and the flag for gay men, and if you want a short history lesson please [click here] because i want to keep this post not horrifyingly long. 

Long story short: to help fix all the [problems people are complaining about], gay men need a specific flag. So, with a bunch of discussion with people and a few different incarnations of the flag, I’ve made a (potential) flag for gay men.

The colors have the following meanings:

Blue A connection to masculinity (in terms of gender) and attraction to men.

Green This partly shares a meaning with Gilbert Baker’s original flag. The green stands for nature, as our love is natural, as well as a connection to the green carnation, which was popularized as a symbol for gay men by Oscar Wilde.

Yellow This also shares a meaning with Baker’s flag – sunlight. In a sun/moon dichotomy, sun is typically considered masculine. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of nonbinary men.

Grey The grey stands for navigating a grey area of society, where we are ‘accepted,’ but not really. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of aspec gay men.

[gaymanflag]

Over the years I’ve seen a lot of things about how there isn’t a distinction between the general LGBT+ community flag and the flag for gay men, and if you want a short history lesson please [click here] because I want to keep this post not horrifyingly long.

Long story short: to help fix all the [problems people are complaining about], gay men need a specific flag. So, with a bunch of discussion with people and a few different incarnations of the flag, I’ve made a (potential) flag for gay men.

The colors have the following meanings:

Blue A connection to masculinity (in terms of gender) and attraction to men.

Green This partly shares a meaning with Gilbert Baker’s original flag. The green stands for nature, as our love is natural, as well as a connection to the green carnation, which was popularized as a symbol for gay men by Oscar Wilde.

Yellow This also shares a meaning with Baker’s flag – sunlight. In a sun/moon dichotomy, sun is typically considered masculine. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of nonbinary men.

Grey The grey stands for navigating a grey area of society, where we are ‘accepted,’ but not really. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of aspec gay men.

[davestridirk]

If it weren’t for there not being an actual link, and the [problems people are complaining about] stuff, I would have thought someone had actually made this being serious, and I honestly have no idea how to feel about that.

[gaymanflag]

there were supposed to be links and there are now, and that was one of the links. I have seen people complaining, and this is serious.

[davestridirk]

Okay guys, this is great, because the link they edited in just takes you back to the top of their blog. I fucking love this. Some quality humor right here. They’re not wrong, nonbinary and aspec gay men are real and out there, and I know one, but this is fucking great.

[gaymanflag]

pages don’t work on mobile. also: the links are broken rn, I’ve been running this blog entirely on mobile and it’s hell to add/edit links on mobile. im fixing them now. stop being fuckin rude

[davestridirk]

I’m on my laptop my dude. And I’m not making fun of the cause, because I’m fully supportive of them. I’m poking a bit of fun at the flag and all. The original rainbow flag was for gay men. I genuinely can not tell if you’re being serious right now though. If you are, I’m sorry, and I support you.

[gaymanflag]

i fixed the links (i added them on mobile and couldn’t tell that they didn’t work) just now and you can see that no it wasn’t

[davestridirk]

My dude, I just checked both of your links again. They both still go right back to your page.

[gaymanflag]

… scroll…

[davestridirk]

Bruh, I’ve scrolled to the bottom of your blog every time. I have to in order to get to the links. They take me right back to the top.

[gaymanflag]

they take you to pages. on my blog. they are different.

[davestridirk]

Sorry man, but that ain’t what’s happening. It just takes me to the top of your blog again. I can take a video and post it if you want proof?

[gaymanflag]

well they work perfectly for me, in multiple browsers so its something on your end

[davestridirk]

I genuinely think you’re pulling my leg right now, because they continue to bring me to the top friend. You want that video I was talking about?

[gaymanflag]

I also just changed my theme so if that was causing the problem (which I have no idea about) it’s different now, it was kind of a place-holder until I was on my computer long enough to find a better one anyway

[gaymanflag]

I’m changing my theme, I didn’t realize how it looked in a full window (my browser is never full window and most themes have the problems crop up in a smaller window) and apparently someone is having problems with links and it could be part of the theme (idk if anyone will see/care but it’s happening)

[gaymanflag]

Over the years I’ve seen a lot of things about how there isn’t a distinction between the general LGBT+ community flag and the flag for gay men, and if you want a short history lesson please [click here] because I want to keep this post not horrifyingly long.

Long story short: to help fix all the [problems people are complaining about], gay men need a specific flag. So, with a bunch of discussion with people and a few different incarnations of the flag, I’ve made a (potential) flag for gay men.

The colors have the following meanings:

Blue A connection to masculinity (in terms of gender) and attraction to men.

Green This partly shares a meaning with Gilbert Baker’s original flag. The green stands for nature, as our love is natural, as well as a connection to the green carnation, which was popularized as a symbol for gay men by Oscar Wilde.

Yellow This also shares a meaning with Baker’s flag – sunlight. In a sun/moon dichotomy, sun is typically considered masculine. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of nonbinary men.

Grey The grey stands for navigating a grey area of society, where we are ‘accepted,’ but not really. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of aspec gay men.

[davestridirk]

If it weren’t for there not being an actual link, and the [problems people are complaining about] stuff, I would have thought someone had actually made this being serious, and I honestly have no idea how to feel about that.

[gaymanflag]

there were supposed to be links and there are now, and that was one of the links. I have seen people complaining, and this is serious.

[davestridirk]

Okay guys, this is great, because the link they edited in just takes you back to the top of their blog. I fucking love this. Some quality humor right here. They’re not wrong, nonbinary and aspec gay men are real and out there, and I know one, but this is fucking great.

[gaymanflag]

pages don’t work on mobile. also: the links are broken rn, I’ve been running this blog entirely on mobile and it’s hell to add/edit links on mobile. im fixing them now. stop being fuckin rude

[davestridirk]

I’m on my laptop my dude. And I’m not making fun of the cause, because I’m fully supportive of them. I’m poking a bit of fun at the flag and all. The original rainbow flag was for gay men. I genuinely can not tell if you’re being serious right now though. If you are, I’m sorry, and I support you.

[gaymanflag]

i fixed the links (i added them on mobile and couldn’t tell that they didn’t work) just now and you can see that no it wasn’t

[davestridirk]

My dude, I just checked both of your links again. They both still go right back to your page.

[gaymanflag]

… scroll…

[davestridirk]

Bruh, I’ve scrolled to the bottom of your blog every time. I have to in order to get to the links. They take me right back to the top.

[gaymanflag]

they take you to pages. on my blog. they are different.

[davestridirk]

Sorry man, but that ain’t what’s happening. It just takes me to the top of your blog again. I can take a video and post it if you want proof?

[gaymanflag]

well they work perfectly for me, in multiple browsers so its something on your end

[davestridirk]

I genuinely think you’re pulling my leg right now, because they continue to bring me to the top friend. You want that video I was talking about?

[gaymanflag]

sure

[gaymanflag]

Over the years I’ve seen a lot of things about how there isn’t a distinction between the general LGBT+ community flag and the flag for gay men, and if you want a short history lesson please [click here] because I want to keep this post not horrifyingly long.

Long story short: to help fix all the [problems people are complaining about], gay men need a specific flag. So, with a bunch of discussion with people and a few different incarnations of the flag, I’ve made a (potential) flag for gay men.

The colors have the following meanings:

Blue A connection to masculinity (in terms of gender) and attraction to men.

Green This partly shares a meaning with Gilbert Baker’s original flag. The green stands for nature, as our love is natural, as well as a connection to the green carnation, which was popularized as a symbol for gay men by Oscar Wilde.

Yellow This also shares a meaning with Baker’s flag – sunlight. In a sun/moon dichotomy, sun is typically considered masculine. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of nonbinary men.

Grey The grey stands for navigating a grey area of society, where we are ‘accepted,’ but not really. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of aspec gay men.

[davestridirk]

If it weren’t for there not being an actual link, and the [problems people are complaining about] stuff, I would have thought someone had actually made this being serious, and I honestly have no idea how to feel about that.

[gaymanflag]

there were supposed to be links and there are now, and that was one of the links. I have seen people complaining, and this is serious.

[davestridirk]

Okay guys, this is great, because the link they edited in just takes you back to the top of their blog. I fucking love this. Some quality humor right here. They’re not wrong, nonbinary and aspec gay men are real and out there, and I know one, but this is fucking great.

[gaymanflag]

pages don’t work on mobile. also: the links are broken rn, I’ve been running this blog entirely on mobile and it’s hell to add/edit links on mobile. im fixing them now. stop being fuckin rude

[davestridirk]

I’m on my laptop my dude. And I’m not making fun of the cause, because I’m fully supportive of them. I’m poking a bit of fun at the flag and all. The original rainbow flag was for gay men. I genuinely can not tell if you’re being serious right now though. If you are, I’m sorry, and I support you.

[gaymanflag]

i fixed the links (i added them on mobile and couldn’t tell that they didn’t work) just now and you can see that no it wasn’t

[davestridirk]

My dude, I just checked both of your links again. They both still go right back to your page.

[gaymanflag]

… scroll…

[davestridirk]

Bruh, I’ve scrolled to the bottom of your blog every time. I have to in order to get to the links. They take me right back to the top.

[gaymanflag]

they take you to pages. on my blog. they are different.

[davestridirk]

Sorry man, but that ain’t what’s happening. It just takes me to the top of your blog again. I can take a video and post it if you want proof?

[gaymanflag]

well they work perfectly for me, in multiple browsers so its something on your end

[gaymanflag]

Over the years I’ve seen a lot of things about how there isn’t a distinction between the general LGBT+ community flag and the flag for gay men, and if you want a short history lesson please [click here] because I want to keep this post not horrifyingly long.

Long story short: to help fix all the [problems people are complaining about], gay men need a specific flag. So, with a bunch of discussion with people and a few different incarnations of the flag, I’ve made a (potential) flag for gay men.

The colors have the following meanings:

Blue A connection to masculinity (in terms of gender) and attraction to men.

Green This partly shares a meaning with Gilbert Baker’s original flag. The green stands for nature, as our love is natural, as well as a connection to the green carnation, which was popularized as a symbol for gay men by Oscar Wilde.

Yellow This also shares a meaning with Baker’s flag – sunlight. In a sun/moon dichotomy, sun is typically considered masculine. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of nonbinary men.

Grey The grey stands for navigating a grey area of society, where we are ‘accepted,’ but not really. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of aspec gay men.

[davestridirk]

If it weren’t for there not being an actual link, and the [problems people are complaining about] stuff, I would have thought someone had actually made this being serious, and I honestly have no idea how to feel about that.

[gaymanflag]

there were supposed to be links and there are now, and that was one of the links. I have seen people complaining, and this is serious.

[davestridirk]

Okay guys, this is great, because the link they edited in just takes you back to the top of their blog. I fucking love this. Some quality humor right here. They’re not wrong, nonbinary and aspec gay men are real and out there, and I know one, but this is fucking great.

[gaymanflag]

pages don’t work on mobile. also: the links are broken rn, I’ve been running this blog entirely on mobile and it’s hell to add/edit links on mobile. im fixing them now. stop being fuckin rude

[davestridirk]

I’m on my laptop my dude. And I’m not making fun of the cause, because I’m fully supportive of them. I’m poking a bit of fun at the flag and all. The original rainbow flag was for gay men. I genuinely can not tell if you’re being serious right now though. If you are, I’m sorry, and I support you.

[gaymanflag]

i fixed the links (i added them on mobile and couldn’t tell that they didn’t work) just now and you can see that no it wasn’t

[davestridirk]

My dude, I just checked both of your links again. They both still go right back to your page.

[gaymanflag]

… scroll…

[davestridirk]

Bruh, I’ve scrolled to the bottom of your blog every time. I have to in order to get to the links. They take me right back to the top.

[gaymanflag]

they take you to pages. on my blog. they are different.

[gaymanflag]

Over the years I’ve seen a lot of things about how there isn’t a distinction between the general LGBT+ community flag and the flag for gay men, and if you want a short history lesson please [click here] because I want to keep this post not horrifyingly long.

Long story short: to help fix all the [problems people are complaining about], gay men need a specific flag. So, with a bunch of discussion with people and a few different incarnations of the flag, I’ve made a (potential) flag for gay men.

The colors have the following meanings:

Blue A connection to masculinity (in terms of gender) and attraction to men.

Green This partly shares a meaning with Gilbert Baker’s original flag. The green stands for nature, as our love is natural, as well as a connection to the green carnation, which was popularized as a symbol for gay men by Oscar Wilde.

Yellow This also shares a meaning with Baker’s flag – sunlight. In a sun/moon dichotomy, sun is typically considered masculine. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of nonbinary men.

Grey The grey stands for navigating a grey area of society, where we are ‘accepted,’ but not really. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of aspec gay men.

[davestridirk]

If it weren’t for there not being an actual link, and the [problems people are complaining about] stuff, I would have thought someone had actually made this being serious, and I honestly have no idea how to feel about that.

[gaymanflag]

there were supposed to be links and there are now, and that was one of the links. I have seen people complaining, and this is serious.

[davestridirk]

Okay guys, this is great, because the link they edited in just takes you back to the top of their blog. I fucking love this. Some quality humor right here. They’re not wrong, nonbinary and aspec gay men are real and out there, and I know one, but this is fucking great.

[gaymanflag]

pages don’t work on mobile. also: the links are broken rn, I’ve been running this blog entirely on mobile and it’s hell to add/edit links on mobile. im fixing them now. stop being fuckin rude

[davestridirk]

I’m on my laptop my dude. And I’m not making fun of the cause, because I’m fully supportive of them. I’m poking a bit of fun at the flag and all. The original rainbow flag was for gay men. I genuinely can not tell if you’re being serious right now though. If you are, I’m sorry, and I support you.

[gaymanflag]

i fixed the links (i added them on mobile and couldn’t tell that they didn’t work) just now and you can see that no it wasn’t

[davestridirk]

My dude, I just checked both of your links again. They both still go right back to your page.

[gaymanflag]

... scroll...

[gaymanflag]

Over the years I’ve seen a lot of things about how there isn’t a distinction between the general LGBT+ community flag and the flag for gay men, and if you want a short history lesson please [click here] because I want to keep this post not horrifyingly long.

Long story short: to help fix all the [problems people are complaining about], gay men need a specific flag. So, with a bunch of discussion with people and a few different incarnations of the flag, I’ve made a (potential) flag for gay men.

The colors have the following meanings:

Blue A connection to masculinity (in terms of gender) and attraction to men.

Green This partly shares a meaning with Gilbert Baker’s original flag. The green stands for nature, as our love is natural, as well as a connection to the green carnation, which was popularized as a symbol for gay men by Oscar Wilde.

Yellow This also shares a meaning with Baker’s flag – sunlight. In a sun/moon dichotomy, sun is typically considered masculine. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of nonbinary men.

Grey The grey stands for navigating a grey area of society, where we are ‘accepted,’ but not really. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of aspec gay men.

[davestridirk]

If it weren’t for there not being an actual link, and the [problems people are complaining about] stuff, I would have thought someone had actually made this being serious, and I honestly have no idea how to feel about that.

[gaymanflag]

there were supposed to be links and there are now, and that was one of the links. I have seen people complaining, and this is serious.

[davestridirk]

Okay guys, this is great, because the link they edited in just takes you back to the top of their blog. I fucking love this. Some quality humor right here. They’re not wrong, nonbinary and aspec gay men are real and out there, and I know one, but this is fucking great.

[gaymanflag]

pages don’t work on mobile. also: the links are broken rn, I’ve been running this blog entirely on mobile and it’s hell to add/edit links on mobile. im fixing them now. stop being fuckin rude

[davestridirk]

I’m on my laptop my dude. And I’m not making fun of the cause, because I’m fully supportive of them. I’m poking a bit of fun at the flag and all. The original rainbow flag was for gay men. I genuinely can not tell if you’re being serious right now though. If you are, I’m sorry, and I support you.

[gaymanflag]

i fixed the links (i added them on mobile and couldn't tell that they didn't work) just now and you can see that no it wasn't

[gaymanflag]

Over the years I’ve seen a lot of things about how there isn’t a distinction between the general LGBT+ community flag and the flag for gay men, and if you want a short history lesson please [click here] because I want to keep this post not horrifyingly long.

Long story short: to help fix all the [problems people are complaining about], gay men need a specific flag. So, with a bunch of discussion with people and a few different incarnations of the flag, I’ve made a (potential) flag for gay men.

The colors have the following meanings:

Blue A connection to masculinity (in terms of gender) and attraction to men.

Green This partly shares a meaning with Gilbert Baker’s original flag. The green stands for nature, as our love is natural, as well as a connection to the green carnation, which was popularized as a symbol for gay men by Oscar Wilde.

Yellow This also shares a meaning with Baker’s flag – sunlight. In a sun/moon dichotomy, sun is typically considered masculine. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of nonbinary men.

Grey The grey stands for navigating a grey area of society, where we are ‘accepted,’ but not really. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of aspec gay men.

[davestridirk]

If it weren’t for there not being an actual link, and the [problems people are complaining about] stuff, I would have thought someone had actually made this being serious, and I honestly have no idea how to feel about that.

[gaymanflag]

there were supposed to be links and there are now, and that was one of the links. I have seen people complaining, and this is serious.

[davestridirk]

Okay guys, this is great, because the link they edited in just takes you back to the top of their blog. I fucking love this. Some quality humor right here. They’re not wrong, nonbinary and aspec gay men are real and out there, and I know one, but this is fucking great.

[gaymanflag]

pages don't work on mobile. also: the links are broken rn, I've been running this blog entirely on mobile and it's hell to add/edit links on mobile. im fixing them now. stop being fuckin rude

[gaymanflag]

Over the years I’ve seen a lot of things about how there isn’t a distinction between the general LGBT+ community flag and the flag for gay men, and if you want a short history lesson please [click here] because I want to keep this post not horrifyingly long.

Long story short: to help fix all the [problems people are complaining about], gay men need a specific flag. So, with a bunch of discussion with people and a few different incarnations of the flag, I’ve made a (potential) flag for gay men.

The colors have the following meanings:

Blue A connection to masculinity (in terms of gender) and attraction to men.

Green This partly shares a meaning with Gilbert Baker’s original flag. The green stands for nature, as our love is natural, as well as a connection to the green carnation, which was popularized as a symbol for gay men by Oscar Wilde.

Yellow This also shares a meaning with Baker’s flag – sunlight. In a sun/moon dichotomy, sun is typically considered masculine. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of nonbinary men.

Grey The grey stands for navigating a grey area of society, where we are ‘accepted,’ but not really. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of aspec gay men.

[thatfeyboy]

You had me till “nonbinary men”.

[gaymanflag]

anyway there are gay nonbinary men who actually exist

[thatfeyboy]

That’s very disrespectful to nonbinary people to treat them as an aesthetic. I’m really not against nonbinary people at all the fact that I care about them is exactly why this stuff bugs me. If you want the flag to include it I won’t stop you or say anything more all I know is that the nonbinary people in my life are not comfortable with this idea and I want to help them in any way I can.

[gaymanflag]

fun fact: I am a nonbinary gay man. its not part of the aesthetic, it’s using dual meanings (apparently you are skipping over the part where the yellow has another meaning) and explicit inclusion

[gaymanflag]

Over the years I’ve seen a lot of things about how there isn’t a distinction between the general LGBT+ community flag and the flag for gay men, and if you want a short history lesson please [click here] because I want to keep this post not horrifyingly long.

Long story short: to help fix all the [problems people are complaining about], gay men need a specific flag. So, with a bunch of discussion with people and a few different incarnations of the flag, I’ve made a (potential) flag for gay men.

The colors have the following meanings:

Blue A connection to masculinity (in terms of gender) and attraction to men.

Green This partly shares a meaning with Gilbert Baker’s original flag. The green stands for nature, as our love is natural, as well as a connection to the green carnation, which was popularized as a symbol for gay men by Oscar Wilde.

Yellow This also shares a meaning with Baker’s flag – sunlight. In a sun/moon dichotomy, sun is typically considered masculine. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of nonbinary men.

Grey The grey stands for navigating a grey area of society, where we are ‘accepted,’ but not really. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of aspec gay men.

[thatfeyboy]

You had me till “nonbinary men”.

[gaymanflag]

anyway there are gay nonbinary men who actually exist

[gaymanflag]

Over the years I’ve seen a lot of things about how there isn’t a distinction between the general LGBT+ community flag and the flag for gay men, and if you want a short history lesson please [click here] because I want to keep this post not horrifyingly long.

Long story short: to help fix all the [problems people are complaining about], gay men need a specific flag. So, with a bunch of discussion with people and a few different incarnations of the flag, I’ve made a (potential) flag for gay men.

The colors have the following meanings:

Blue A connection to masculinity (in terms of gender) and attraction to men.

Green This partly shares a meaning with Gilbert Baker’s original flag. The green stands for nature, as our love is natural, as well as a connection to the green carnation, which was popularized as a symbol for gay men by Oscar Wilde.

Yellow This also shares a meaning with Baker’s flag – sunlight. In a sun/moon dichotomy, sun is typically considered masculine. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of nonbinary men.

Grey The grey stands for navigating a grey area of society, where we are ‘accepted,’ but not really. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of aspec gay men.

[davestridirk]

If it weren’t for there not being an actual link, and the [problems people are complaining about] stuff, I would have thought someone had actually made this being serious, and I honestly have no idea how to feel about that.

[gaymanflag]

there were supposed to be links and there are now, and that was one of the links. I have seen people complaining, and this is serious.

[gaymanflag]

Over the years I’ve seen a lot of things about how there isn’t a distinction between the general LGBT+ community flag and the flag for gay men, and if you want a short history lesson please [click here] because i want to keep this post not horrifyingly long. 

Long story short: to help fix all the [problems people are complaining about], gay men need a specific flag. So, with a bunch of discussion with people and a few different incarnations of the flag, I’ve made a (potential) flag for gay men.

The colors have the following meanings:

Blue A connection to masculinity (in terms of gender) and attraction to men.

Green This partly shares a meaning with Gilbert Baker’s original flag. The green stands for nature, as our love is natural, as well as a connection to the green carnation, which was popularized as a symbol for gay men by Oscar Wilde.

Yellow This also shares a meaning with Baker’s flag – sunlight. In a sun/moon dichotomy, sun is typically considered masculine. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of nonbinary men.

Grey The grey stands for navigating a grey area of society, where we are ‘accepted,’ but not really. It is also for explicit inclusiveness of aspec gay men.