How To Flirt

Everything you need to sweep that cute guy, gal, and/or nonbinary pal off their feet.

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If I flip a coin what are the chances i’ll get head?

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heyy i'm a high school student and there's a younger girl (1 year) who's just the cutest. i can befriend almost anyone but i dunno what to do because she's just SO pretty... what should i do to get nearer her? i know some people on her group but we're not friends nor they are on the same class, so i have to begin from 0. what should i do? what kind of thing can i talk about to her? thank you so much!

find common ground. finding common ground is crucial. it’s the one thing that will connect you seperate from all her friends. for example, i have lots of friends that neither of us talk to the other’s friend group, but we are friends. like my friend E, we had a study hall together with no other Juniors so we hung out and did work together and now we’re super good friends. so if you join a club that she’s in, have a class with her that doesn’t have her friends, or she plays a sport or other extracurricular, those areas where she’s not surrounded by that group will make it easier for you to start from, as you said, zero, and work your way up to a friendship and maybe, hopefully, more :))))

hope this helps?!

xoxo- grace

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heyy i am totally new to the lgbt community bc it took me sooo long to figure out that I LIKE a girl and i don’t just envy her or sth. anyways she has short hair, she’s kinda tomboyish i guess with her clothes and stuff, idk could it mean that she’s not straight? is there ANY chance? thx ❤️

i wish there was a for sure way to know, but there is not… A couple ways that tend to work is getting to know her and then seeing if she flirts or how she reacts to your flirting, and another is one that I talked about in a couple asks ago (if you scroll down you should be able to find it) and that is by asking if they like things that pertain to lgbt culture. Don’t explicitly say lgbt culture, just talk about hayley kiyoko or something and be subtle and find out if she knows/likes her music. those are the little things— but most of all just getting to know her a flirting will build your relationship— and if she’s lgbt then hopefully she feels the same way, and if she isn’t, then you still got some experience and a friend out of it. this is the first crush of many— don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t go to plan. you have many girls in your future :)

hope this was helpful

xoxo - grace

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it’s april fools day!

YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS! yes, i’m talking to you. yes you the one scrolling through tumblr, don’t scroll past, cuz i need to let you in on a little secret: YOU CAN ASK ANYONE OUT TODAY WITHOUT RISKING CRIPPILING REJECTION. because if they say no... then you say “SIKE! hahaha happy april fools day!”

GO BE MERRY AND ASK PEOPLE OUT. PLEASE DATE MY GAYS

I’m sorry i’m extra hyper and extra excited for y’all today. with love, xoxo grace

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so my crush doesn’t like hayley kiyoko but she’s gay and it’s so CONFUSING like how am i supposed to ask girls if they’re gay subtly now if they don’t like lesbian jesus

hmm this is a tough one. i mean i’ve even read posts that say hayley should make her own perfume so we can tell gays by their scent. (which is genuis) but if they don’t like hayley, that wouldn’t always work. so if they don’t like hayley, you might wanna double check by name dropping people like kehlani (that’s the majority of your bisexuals right there), youtubers like shannon bev and stevie, and tv shows with wlw relationships like one day at a time (#saveodaat), the 100, brooklyn 99, and others...

sorry about your crush not liking hayley kiyoko, mustve broke your expectations... but maybe if y’all have a sleepover you can say what you need in order to keep her curious.

hahaha best of luck xoxo - grace

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babe your titties are so hot that i could crack eggs on them and they’d fry

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thank you for spending V day with me. hopefully next year i’ll be spending V day with your V

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So I like this girl and she is just really confusing. I try to flirt with her all the time but she sometimes flirts back and then other times just changes the subject or says nothing. I really want to do something for Valentine’s Day but I don’t want to scare her. What should I do that can help her get closer and maybe help me pursue something in the future with her? I need some tips and ideas for flirting and a Valentine’s Day gift or something!!!

I’d say probably a cute card related to her interests, (one of those meme ones that always start popping up around now maybe?) and something else small. Best of luck! -Mod Cerise

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ariana grande this lady gaga that who cares???? janelle monae, insanely talented black bisexual icon, has dirty computer up for album of the year. i’m not even watching the grammys but i can tell you right now i care more about her than any other artist that was nominated

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Thanks! Anyways, do you have any tips for coming out to my mom? (Yes she is supportive, and i have talked about sexualities and stuff, so she know im okay with the lgbt+ community.) I have came out to my sister, and she was okay with it, and shes been unrging ne on to come out to mom. Sorry this is a long question but i'd be very thankful for you to answer this, have a good day! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

If you're really nervous about it but you know she'd be accepting, I'd suggest writing a note or a letter! It's a good way to do it because you don't have to talk face to face (which can be really difficult for some people) and you can plan out what you need to say in advance! I wish you the best of luck <3-Mod Cerise

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Hey, i was wondering if you are still answering questions

yes totally! we just get a lot of asks, so we try to pick the ones that will be the most helpful to everyone! If you have a question ask away!

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I Am Ashamed

Hey all. I just wanted to apologize for what happened earlier— I was wrong and out of line. What I did was unforgivable. And to the girl out there who needed help flirting with her boyfriend: Just be yourself. I cannot say that enough. Because if he really likes you, all you have to do is be your kind, maybe a bit shy self. And that’s okay, because he’ll find that cute. Everyone flirts in their own way. Say compliments without leaving your comfort zone— and no matter your sexuality, I believe in you, and I’m always here if you need anymore help.

Us bi’s need to stick together, and instead, I tore us apart. I am so disappointed in myself because this blog is about bringing each other up and I brought you down.

I am sorry.

Best of luck

Grace

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Ok sorry this is kinda a two part question but the only time I end up being sexually attracted to girls there my best friends or just random celebrities so I’m just confused about that and also one of my best friends is gay I really like her but I’m seeing this guy right now so idk what to do about it should I tell her it’ll leave it be sorry if this isn’t really a question but I just need some advice on the situation thanks

Hey anon, ok so i’ll answer this in parts:

1. I know a couple people who go through the same thing with sexual attraction (girls or boys doesn’t matter)— you’re only sexually attracted to people you know and people you’re close to. This is called demisexuality. It is the ability to be sexually attracted to someone only once you have an emotional connection with them. If you relate to that in anyway, i suggest you looking more into it, but I am in no way going to define your sexuality, that is your thing.

2. This really depends on who you like more and who you see yourself with. When you date someone, you’re either going to get married or break up, so when you’re in a relationship you really have to decide if you’re in it for the long hall with that person. Don’t stay in a relationship with your mans if you like your friend more, because that’s not fair to him. If you like him more, stay with him— if not what are you waiting for?!? go after that girl.

hope this helps anon <3

xoxo - grace

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Hiii!! I'm a bisexual girl and I have a crush on my friend who's also bi, which is great. BUT I have two problems: a) I have generalized anxiety disorder and the idea of telling her how I feel makes me very anxious because I don't want to ruin our friendship; and b) we've been friends for almost two years and we're both very affectionate people, so I don't know how to flirt with someone who I already call sweetheart and cute all the time. Help me please ;-;

I understand, I personally struggle with anxiety as well and it makes things extra tricky. What is so good about your relationship with her is that you two being very close leaves a lot of leeway. You could get away with a lot without making things awkward, and she’ll eventually pick up what you’re doing— which will result in her being like “hey why are you acting different” or her reciprocating feelings. Either way you don’t lose the friendship, and instead you just give yourself a better chance of dating the girl you like cuz at the end of the day, who doesn’t want that? So how do you push your boundaries? Well because y’all seem to have very few, I would make advances through body language rather than words because words with anxiety can only make us more nervous if we are saying the right thing — so by touching her thigh, trying to snuggle up with her on the couch when watching a movie, making good eye contact, looking at her lips when you’re not making eye contact, etc you can make a lot of advances without really leaving your comfort zone and still being able to see if you can take your relationship to the next level.

hope this helped love!

xoxo - grace :)

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I have a crush on my friend, and I kinda think that she might be flirting back. She knows I’m a lesbian & I hear that she’s bi. We sang all I want for christmas is you together, when our whole friend group goes on field trips we always sit together, we make lots of eye contact, and walk each other to class sometimes. But she has a twin sister who is always around her so I always feel like I have to get her sister gifts and invite her places too bc I don’t want her to feel left out. Help!

i think that the best way to approach this: if you really believe this is going somewhere is that you tell her sister your intentions. let’s call her tina and her sister sabrina. tell sabrina that you’re not trying to leave her out but that you really like tina and these gifts and hanging out with her are so you can get to know her more. just an idea so you don’t create drama and hurt feelings for sabrina.

best of luck !

xoxo - @breathetheresstilltomorrow

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I don’t know how to flirt and I’m pansexual and have a phat crush on this girl. She’s a year older than me and a lesbian so that’s good. She’s called me pretty and charming and I’ve already told her I like her. How do I flirt over text and in person? Can you give me tips because I really like her?

alright!!! sounds like you’re off to a good start. what i’d say is be the absolute best, wittiest, most charismatic person you can be over text and then try to imitate that person irl(mainly bc it’s easier to be funny when you’re not face to face.) also, if something makes her laugh, stick with it or at least jot it down mentally. know what she likes and doesn’t like, that should give you at least basic guidelines for what works best. my advice? cheesy puns are the best. 

best of luck, mod cerise