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Geneva: Cabin in the Woods Surprise Hen Weekend?
So things are getting a lot more fun when it comes to the the wedding. If anyone actually reads this blog, you'll know I've had quite a few logistical schtuff to sort out when it comes to selling my flat (no offers yet), lots of work and of course trying to write my book while also getting to the gym
Even more excitingly, I have officially got the date (NOV 3rd) for my first day of trying on dresses. My mum and 2/3 friends will be joining. I spared my male of honour the hassle, even though I know he would attend (because he is that awesome), as I know some girlfriends would probably get more joy out of it.
So diet has begun although not as crazy as I usually am and Monday will be D-Day for mandatory 2 hours of cardio and 1 hour of weights a day hopefully. I know how to lose it, it's just so god damn boring in the beginning as you end up having to skip a lot of fun stuff, just to shed the fat.
Anyways, another fun thing that has only cropped up in the past 2 days is that I am going to Geneva to see a good friend of mine who moved there last year as well as with another mutual friend from London.
We're going to her chalet..... a la Cabin in the Woods style .... for a (very niche) geek-girls-who all happen to be -financial-bloggers weekend in her chalet:
Furthermore, there will be lots of THIS:
Even more awesome we are going to be wining and dining (not good for the diet I know) and have super awesome marathons of:
- Choice Whedon movies (thinking Serenity and Cabin in the Woods)
- Best episodes of Firefly and Buffy
- Star Trek Movies and favourite TNG episodes
CANNOT WAIT!
While my main sten weekend is clearly going to involve this, it's nice that for these couple of friends who wouldn't probably be able to attend the aforementioned tom foolery, are considering this an early hen present.
Very, very excited.
Oh. And I may even be going here before the chalet jaunt. Good times.
Life Getting In the Way.....
It's been a while since my last update. I have still been running around trying to sort out finances, my taxes and selling my flat and sadly no takers yet. As predicted, things aren't going as smoothly as I would have hoped or been granted, so I have been quietly swimming underwater for a while.
I have also been ill for a while, nothing to be concerned about, but I went into A&E the other day after having ongoing symptoms, coupled with flu for the last month and I took some heart tests (EKG) and some blood tests. Luckily everything has come up negative, which is great news, but I am still a bit touch and go with the wellness issue.
However, ploughing on as usual and just trying to get back to normal.
In the meantime, I of course have quite a few questions about wedding plans .... I don't know if I am being blase about it, but I think because the main bits have been done, again - the venue, caterers, reception, booze and registrar etc, there isn't really much else right now I am can.
There are a few things that just need to be confirmed but have already been sorted in a way:
- photography
- videography
- piper
- bouquet, groom buttonhole and top table arrangement
- cake
and a few other things, I don't know if it is because I have been told by some people who seemed to be stressed all the time with arrangements that it seemed like a miserable operation but really I can't think of anything pressing that needs to be done right now...... I think.
As per other post, I am not even going to bother thinking about a dress until I have shed some weight as I am still feeling rather uncomfortable in my own skin right now and all the table decorations and what not, Big D and I will do ourselves.
The main things that we wanted was a beautiful venue and surroundings, a sitdown meal. That's the main structure and things we and I definitely want and right now, since that is sorted, I am just going to chill on arrangements for another month or so.
My Big Obese Wedding Diet
So the time has come - well again - to go on the diet and get back into ship shape - especially with a wedding coming up :) Looking at me, I know you wouldn't think it, but I've done marathons, triathlons, 3 peaks in under 24 hours, various runs and even in my heyday- ran 100m, 200m and did longjump for districts (Surrey) was on the girls footie team, was briefly an nco in the raf and ran two marathons only a day apart with a half marathon in between. Oh and was the youngest girl in Surrey to score brown belt in Aikido through the toughest gradings. Oh and my mother has a rather fetching display of my swimming trophies gathering dust on her shelf amongst pictures of me showjumping.
I'm not saying any of this to boast but more in reaction to the up and down / raised eyebrow looks I get when I say I have done so or to put into context that I don't just whine about being unfit, I try and have exercised within an inch of my life. Yes, I know a lot of slim skinny people who don't go to the gym and I can run further than them - but hell - I look frumpy 95% of the time. Now I wrote this while sitting on a bike at the gym with another hour of cardio to go and weight training after. I'm sweating like a pig and look a state and realised the last 2 months of indulgence has thoroughly hit me. In fact I had a rather fetching patchwork of sweat that looks like a Rorschach blot.
Now I am sitting at the computer with a treat of chirashi salad from Wasabi (SO EXPENSIVE!) The problem is I love booze and I like socialising. Note I say socialising because to me good food, good wine and good company is bliss and there is nothing more annoying (no matter what the person says) going out people who pick at a salad and drink tap water. I hate that and don't want to be that.
[[[I remember going to a PR lunch once and there was a PR woman who was - yes, super skinny and wore immaculate designer clothing that a regular journalist couldn't afford - and while we were at a fish restaurant she ordered a small bowl of boiled spinach and a side salad, no dressing. She spent the entire time watching me eat and obviously wasn't listening to me talk shop.]]] However, over the years after formerly becoming massive orca (nearly double my current size) when I went to uni, I've had the ongoing battle of loving sports and doing sports but not Necessarily counting the calories, losing the weight permanently and keeping it off for good. I know I hear that people say that "oh you don't need to lose anything" or "you're meant to be that size" but that's not true. They said that when I was a whole adult heavier than now and I couldn't walk without getting sweaty - in winter. In fact, every single person who has said that is half the size of me. This isn't a dig or comment on anyone else apart from myself - this is just me and how comfortable I am and being honest about what's going on inside my head. I am not, nor should anyone be defined by their weight or being known as the fat one - which I have always had to put up with. Even in various places I've worked, I've heard catty comments in the women's toilets and yes- who cares right? Well it does effect you and there is no way on my wedding day that I want to be seen as a fat bride. But first and foremost I want to be happy, healthy, wear what i want and kick ass at sport I love. I want to be comfortable in my own skin once again, run the same distance I do now but at more ease and of course not worry that my jeans are creating a rubber ring like I'm going to jump into the sea. There's the usual thing where brides lose the weight and put it back on and more or lose the weight and develop an unconfirmed but obvious eating disorder or just stay the same as they are truly happy with themselves (which is something I would love).
Here are the stats:
1. Average weight loss by UK brides is 11lbs 3oz
2. Six months before big day is most popular time to start slimming
3. One third of women pile all weight back on during their honeymoon
4. 8 out of 10 feel there is too much pressure to be slim for wedding day
However, again this is just about me (well it is my blog and I can't speak for everyone else) but this is the kickstarts (third time round) to get back to my happiest (the size I was when big D first started dating) from what I am now. I've already got suggestions from people about what type of dress I should wear for my shape - even if I hate it - and frankly it's up to me, no one else.
I have the London Triathlon Olympic distance coming up and I am going to be kick scooting into work hopefully 5 times a week at least and carry on with training.
So there you go, there's the elephant in the room out of the way and hopefully in the future.
This cake // cakes has so much win, it hurts
I love this wedding cake so much. (it's a borg cube for those that don't know)
The Horror of Renting My Property
While I hate marring my delightful little wedding blog with this crap, so many people have asked about what's been going on with my property that I have rented out to two of the most awful tenants. While I am grateful they are not squatters, they have essentially bullied, harassed and caused me so much emotional and financial damage, I just had to write most of it down.
This isn't even the full story ......
From the outset, I have had to deal with endless damage to the property but as a landlord you have to pay for it yourself and not touch the deposit that is held in one of the government deposit schemes.
Whether you have a property manager or not, the landlord still has to approve all works and funds need to be paid on completion of the job immediately. Despite having insurance, there is always a deductible of course but they have, despite what they say, ways of wriggling out of paying out or expect only claims to be made after you have paid.
From the first week, the tenants somehow broke the door and the handle and all needed to be replaced. From never having a single handyman in the flat before when I lived there for 5 years, the toilet was broken and leaking several times over.
Despite the agreement showing that I did not want to provide a bed as the slats were loose and that it would be their responsibility to buy a new bed base they harassed me for months until I finally gave in and bought them new ones because I couldn’t deal with the stress especially since I had gone into hospital and wasn’t able to walk properly.
They complained about squirrels in the roof and despite getting roofers out and what not and them saying there is no hole and nothing they can do, I had to spend hundreds of pounds on pest control, despite there being no attic and no way of stopping squirrels scurrying around outside.
The pest control people even remarked that it is pointless as there is nothing stopping them go in and across the roof but I still, as a landlord, had to do something. They ended up cutting holes into my roof which now make the ceiling look uneven and despite the paintwork, look odd.
The boiler decided to keep freezing up and I took calls sometimes at midnight trying to help, despite them having an emergency line through the property managers to call. I responded to every call, text , email within 5-10 minutes, even if in the following incidences:
From 0000 in the morning
When I had just come out of hospital (after 5 hours returning to the hospital I was organising and responding to calls)
Before I was about to run a charity run – was about to run with my mum in a race and I was taking calls and texts.
When I had just finished a charity run (different day to above) – I had just finished a race where I sat down, took a drink of water and then had got a text and call from the tenants
When I was abroad
When I was out of London
However, they of course would not respond so quickly to taking my property or details for their deposit.
When the boiler reportedly broke down, I responded within 5 mins, if not immediately to all calls. I would all emergency npower boiler experts (those who are familiar with my property and under warranty with them) to go out at the earliest.
Even though appointments were booked immediately, I would still receive texts, calls, emails saying it wasn’t good enough and wasn’t soon enough. I had to respond, even though there was nothing I could add.
I shamefully cried down the phone to the npower several times just hoping there was anything they could do to get there earlier because of the harassment. They couldn’t – and because rightly – my property’s boiler wasn’t the only one in the world and they had other customers.
When the electricity went out, they called and texted me. I responded straight away but I told them to check with the neighbours to see if it’s a road wide thing / district thing. They were very angry with ME on the phone and saying how I owe them money for any food that goes off in the fridge from the electricity outage etc. I told them to check with the neighbours (like any adult would) and guess what?
It was a district thing and several roads were out of power.
They complained of flies in the flat, even though they had been living there for now about 9/10 months. They assumed and said that there was a dead squirrel in the roof and pest control should come in. Anyone who has lived anywhere other than halls of residence knows you get flies. When they die, you clean them up. However, they didn’t. They accumulated them and didn’t bother cleaning because they said it’s not their responsibility.
I cut short my own one weekend to visit my family to go to the flat to inspect and get in pest control. They didn’t bother hovering or cleaning. Despite complaining about the cleanliness of the flat when they moved in (everything was clean bar the skirting boards really when they checked in) they were living in filth. There were empty cartons all over the flat. There were dirty dishes everywhere.
The beautiful sash windows were encrusted with dirt from a solid year of neglect – nothing was clean. The bathroom was testament to this. The sealant round the bath was so eaten away with mould, it was irreparable. The bath was so filthy, it took nearly an hour just to clean the basin.
The floor was matted with hair, so much so that myself and my partner had to rip up the lino and replace it when they left. Same with the sealant.
However, despite all this, I was pressured and basically bullied through threats of taking it to a “higher level” to get in pest control. Pest control came over and I have a recording of him saying that it had nothing to do with anything “dying” and in his professional opinion there was so health hazard, there was nothing out of the ordinary for London, especially when its humid weather in London that share sewage systems etc.
However, he still performed fumigation and said if anything does die (pest wise) over the next 5 days they will just drop dead and die. My partner and I still tried to do some cleaning for them because I was so sad to see my flat like that and thought they would stop being so aggressive.
No.
Over the next few days I go calls and threats, despite taking all right courses of action and professionals saying its nothing. Recorded on voice on my phone and on email.
While we were also there, there were a number of shitty posters up on the walls – although the contract stipulated no posters or signs as it causes damage. And it did. Their shitty Trainspotting posters (which they claimed were collectibles yet stuck them up with blu tack and some NAILED INTO THE WALL) stained all the walls, pulled off some plaster from the lounge and bedroom and was generally ruined. There was no way in rectifying it other than redecorating.
After the fly incident, they said they wanted to leave early. As part of a contract they signed, it says they can go but they need to pay me the rent until the end of the tenancy and the letting agent fees which actually cost me £1000 in just letting fees alone.
They then came back with saying I should owe them for the time they spent out of the flat for flies (even though they didn’t clean up and it was their choice) and that I ripped their posters and therefore that should be like-for-like costs for the flat redecoration. They refused any payments.
They have been so awful, I said they can leave at the end of their rental month and no extra charges and just pay the bills and go.
Easy right? Considering they have stiffed me of thousands of pounds in lack of rent and repairs and now loss of rent.
No.
As the landlord, I have no part in the check-out process. The property managers book an inventory clerk, inventory clerk arranges with the tenants a time and then proceed.
In this case, they were booked for 11 to check out on a certain day.
I took the day off from work (a holiday day) with all my cleaning gear to get the place in ship shape condition because from previous emails they clearly would not / will not / didn’t think it was their responsibility to clean. Even though they clearly lived in utter filth, they still clearly didn’t want to.
Fine, I can deal.
So I turn up, come out of the tube and I get an email from the property manager that the tenants “were not ready to leave.”
Any professional or non student or freaking adult knows that when you have a check out time and date, you have to have a vacant property and ready to hand the keys over. Right protocol right?
Despite being in the wrong and abusing the inventory clerk about them not being able to wait around, the inventory clerk still waited until 1130 to check them out. They still had so much to move and clearly would not be able to move out on time. So the inventory clerk had to reschedule and charge them a fee for rescheduling.
Rightly so.
However, apparently the property manager was getting abuse and the tenants refused to pay and I was told I would be contacted. Even though this has nothing to do with me. They ended up only checking out / well dropping off their keys past 1300 – so I don’t know how they expected the person to wait for hours for them.
I waited around in the area and had to spend the day waiting and wasting a fully paid holiday day for this.
Subsequently, I only entered the property the next day when the inventory clerk came back in the evening, the day before.
It was awful. It was worse than when I left it and the report said same as check in. I actually had a bit of a cry. I hate crying and it getting to me but it was awful. I had to (like I said) take another holiday day off and scrub the place and rip up the bathroom sealant, bathroom floor and replace.
The flat had one solid year of neglect and it showed. The Blue tack marks were horrendous, there was screws screwed into the walls. Clearly some of the cupboards they didn’t clean for an entire year. Maybe just quick wipes of surfaces.
It was just awful.
Anyways, I carried on, went back on the Sunday with my partner and we just redecorated and replaced everything. My futon mattress was gone but I KNEW that if I even bothered trying to claim any money back from them, despite it being my property and I wanted to sell it – I would be given abuse, stress and threats.
Well fast-forward to the inventory report and I knew they would have issues although it has already cost me hundreds in costs after they moved out, not just while they were there.
They fired back an awful email about how they are being victimised and how the futon is theirs as I said I didn’t want it. I have no more strength to deal with this anymore.
Honestly, I understand how older people or people with health dispositions end up having a heart attack or throwing themselves under a train.
I don’t mean that crassly, but there have been times when I don’t know if I have been able to cope as it has been relentless. Of course I’d never do anything like that but I have had to go and throw up in the toilets from stress and carry on with my life.
Anyways, even though I have said that they are having their full deposit back in receipt for final bill settlement evidence, they are still sending me emails about the cancellation inventory fee which has nothing to do with me. I reiterated and told them but again, all the stress gets piled onto me.
Again despite all this, I am returning their deposit as I simply cannot take the stress of all this. The disputes are so relentless that I cannot bear it.
Even when things are in black and white it has been horrendous and while I hate the principle of them “winning” financially and effectively despite them breaching contract and being in the wrong, I want them out of my life.
So there you have it.
This isn’t even the full story.
Countdown to the Wedding - my friend's blog
Hey y'all
The friend who inspired me to do my own blog is currently on the 5 day countdown to her wedding.
As she calls it, a Faustian Pact, she will be blogging every day in the run up and actual day of her wedding.
See it here.
I've been an avid reader for sometime and her blog gives a really unique and honest flavour to all the trials, tribulations, hilarious, wonderful and sometimes downright stressful moments for preparing for the big day - especially as she is having a UK while living and working in Hong Kong.
Check it out, you can thank me later
x
Organisation + Friends. Win!
So epic win for me today.
I have sent off all the wedding venue hotels and spreadsheets with all the rooms, people's names, deposit money (paying later today) and arranged free coaches for people staying at the sister hotel to the castle.
Remarkably, it hasn't been too stressful, well compared to this shiz (and that story was a joke, which FB friends will be aware of) but anyway, it has been rather fun and really touching how so many friends are just as excited as me and have booked hotels already.
I understand it is a big commitment to do that with over 1 year away, but it really is so great to know that so many of my amazing friends are definitely going to be there! And lots have RSVPed already
Just. so. awesome.
(Big D and I have the best friends in the world!)
Wedding plans stressful? Try renting out your flat.....
Nothing to be worried about! But I have been asked a few times this week how plans are going.
Luckily I have the main structure of the wedding sorted, venue, deposit, hotels (as of tomorrow), cake, piper, photography, videography etc sorted! :) and a few other surprises. It has been incredibly fun on the days i can concentrate on the big day.
So that's great, really glad that's ok for now. But some of you know, I am in the middle of trying to get the flat I own on the market for 30th July and sell it as quickly as possible.
Well yeah, that pretty much sums it up. Selling a place and planning / saving for a wedding is a bit nuts, but has to be done.
Big D and I want to of course buy somewhere after we get married. I mean, in an ideal world, that would be sorted, but we love our flat in East Dulwich, albeit renting but it's a great home at the moment and I currently own a place in North London.
Of course in hindsight, as always, I wish I bought a place that was bigger, so I wouldn't have to have the problem of selling or moving. Also it would have meant I didn't have to rent it out to horrific tenants, run my horrifically terrible property managers.
This is essentially what I want to do to the tenants and property managers : Click Here
So today IS THE DAY!
Today is the day where the cretinous, spoilt c words move out and while it will be expensive to have an empty flat for a while, I won't have to deal with incompetency from the property managers and tenants who have caused so much damage and strain that it has left me with absolutely no profit to cover my bills, just enough to let me get on by.
They have been awful. I warn anyone that is renting out a flat that if you can find good property managers through friends - this is the best as unfortunately, like myself and other people have been stuck with terrible property managers that have caused more stress and money than what they are paid for.
The tenants have just been awful. I didn't realise they were just a lousy student couple who were in London for a year (I specifically paid and asked the property managers to get in a professional or professional couple) and they have been even worse than expected.
they have:
- broken the bathroom door
- broken the handle
- new extractor fan
- wrecked the walls with their shitty posters and blu tack marks everywhere
-complained and made me (out of harrassment) try to sort out problems that couldn't really be solved other than them cleaning (they complained about flies but when I went over, they have loads of dirty empty food containers on the floor)
- complained to ME when the whole street's electricity was cut by mistake by the council
- complained about the cleanliness - even though they have been living there for a year: erm it's not my responsibility to clean the flat
- broken the door
- keep complaining about the bed slats
Then they tell me about how I shouldn't charge them any money because of the wall damage from the posters (I now need to redecorate the whole place, buy new paints which costs) because.... get this: their posters are slightly ripped:
I mean, you fucking kidding me? Also they are trying to get their deposit money back before even showing me they settled their bills - what a joke.
This is but a few.
They have been horrific.
I could go on but my blood boils (quite literally in this weather as well talking about it.
However, for the new person, if I do get a new tenant (which I am ONLY going to let through friend recommendations or keep the place empty) the place is virtually RENOVATED ha!
But this isn't just the problem. Over the past year the property managers have systematically failed at every turn and once the tenants are out, deposit is settled, I am formally complaining and at least asking for 75% of the management fees back.
They have:
1. Lied to tenants about what furniture and what's included
2. Lied to me about it
3. Messed up me being paid rent on time on 6 occassions
4. ALWAYS ignore emails or calls until the 5th time or over a week later
5. Did not ask permission or keep me updated on maintenance works
6. Rude
7. Messed up organising an EPC certificate until I asked about it a year later
8. Got in students when specifically didn't ask
9. Ignore the tenants on maintenance requests
10. Lost vital documents and lied about it
Again, I could go on but already annoying me talking about it.
Anyways, all I can say - with everything, there is a silver lining and what it has taught me is that nothing goes to plan, you can only do what you can do and this was probably one of the most stressful things I have had to deal with - I really mean it. Although SELLING the place will be super stressful too.
But now it's great, organising a wedding is honestly a piece of cake compared to this.
Anyways, only about 2 hours until the bastards move out.
New start.
Rip-off Merchants
And so the wedding rip off begins. As anyone who is getting married or has been married know, as soon as the word wedding comes into it, everywhere adds about 50% extra rip off tax. Suddenly a plain white cake has gone from £50 to £500, some small time student band that play in pubs for free suddenly want £900 to play some sub par version of The Commitments. You know the score. But JUST now the sheer audacity of a shop owner just astonished me. So Big D are going to design our own invitations but not to just save but also to put our own unique stamp on it. Looking at ones you can buy from companies range from £1-£5 an invitation (even more for others) but none suited us. So we are designing our own and printing it on card. I thought I'd go an ask at some small local printing shop which is this ramshackled cramped place with a couple of copying machines. "how much is it to just print a picture half a4 sheet of card for around 80" I ask. "oh about £40" daylight robber replies. "ah ok cool" I say. "what's it for?" asks daylight robber "just doing some simple wedding invitations. So just probs a pic and we'll fold over and write on the inside" "well if it's invitations it'll be £100." quickly retorts daylight robber. "erm but why? I'm just doing exactly what you just quoted me for, who cares if I'm doing it for a wedding invitation or printing a picture of a pug on it just to say I love pugs!?" I say immediately and quite pissed off with the arbitrary robbery. "because they are invitations." Sigh. I quickly left thinking if that's their response no wonder they look like they sleep under the recycling bin on the shop floor. While perusing the Internet, I looked up similar services just printing a pic on some card and looks like others do the same. If you click the wedding invitation tab, some charge £200 while the same thing under just printing services are a lot less. Well, it will be a long time until we send them out as the wedding just a little over a year to go. But it's just been interesting seeing how , already, the rip off merchants come out the woodwork.
Sten Do (day time) - ZOMBIES
So I had in mind that I really wanted to do something that related to paintballing but including zombies.
I freaking love them. Well not them, but the concept and those who know me well I am a horror film nut.
Also I am not afraid to admit that nothing would please me more than running around and doing some sport while shooting the undead in the face, repeatedly and shouting / crying at the horror of being forced to battle way through a pile of horrific animated corpses.
So nothing pleases me more to see that there is a service that allows you and a group of people to spend three hours locked in with zombies in an abandoned shopping centre.
I know I am probably going to have to be careful not to be thrown out.... T&Cs says "Please be aware that live actors are used in this experience and can get injured or hurt. If your behaviour towards them is deemed too aggressive it is the supplier's right to remove you from the experience and you will forfeit your voucher."
ahem.
Well especially when:
“'ll leave you with this absolutely pants-browning thought: part of the mall you go through is an abandoned childrens' play centre. ABANDONED. CHILDRENS. PLAY CENTRE. There are freakin' CLOWNS painted all over the walls. There are no lights. Just some unnervingly active shadows and shallow breathing around every corner...”
Another thing, I call this a sten do, not because I am having a joint one with Big D - we are most definitely going to have separate ones but it's because it's likely that more than half of the people attending my shindig will be guys. My male of honour will be arranging, so it makes sense to call it a Sten Do. Well - better than Hag do. (I ain't no hag)
Anyhoos, I know that one of the issues is that a number of people (mainly the girls - sorry) have already voiced that they really wouldn't be up for this. So I decided that I am going to do something like this during the day and then have the usual drunken night out at a club somewhere in the evening.
Everyone's happy.
Spreadsheets are girl's best friend.
Thank god for Microsoft Excel. That's all I can say. Many girl's may have their scrapbooks and their beautifully crafted diaries, but I have my spreadsheet and I can't live without it.
Some now married brides have forwarded on budget spreadsheets which have been great, but already spreadsheets are ruling my life. I can't live without them.
As many of you know, I have already had to put together a list of people staying at either the castle where we are marrying or a sister hotel down the road. Because the contract is under our names, we have to allocate, notify the venues and pay a deposit on each room taken. It's been a logistical minefield and there is nothing worse than asking for friends for money, even if it's for the room they are staying in.
Spreadsheets have been a godsend in this occasion and have allowed me to really plan and update as I go along. Sounds like a "no shit sherlock" situation but it's amazing how many people I know who refuse to do an electronic copy and want to do it "old school."
Speaking of spreadsheets, while mine is rather simple I did have a laugh looking at some that are online and what they include, like this one:
You can tell it's American by the gratuity part. I am sorry but WTF? You're spending over the odds on one day, on the average £22k according to recent stats, so why the hell would you pay "gratuity" on top of that?
I know it's a cultural thing, but seriously that is just taking the p***.
Anyway, before I get into a rant about going to the states where even you using the bog needs a tip, I cannot stress enough how important spreadsheets are in the planning process.
Whether it is monetary, guest list, who's paid what - SPREADSHEETS ARE CRUCIAL!
How awesome are these? Would love them for the top table! :)
Wedding Dress: China made or Not?
So much like I've made obvious in previous posts, I have absolutely no idea when it comes to dresses and costs for various cost components for a wedding. All I know is that we've got to seriously got to budget like hell for the event.
Of course on the big day I would like to have a beautiful and comfortable dress but not pay over the odds. I mean, as an especially rant-tastic human being anyways - well I am a journalist - it does strike me as irritating that as soon as something is to do with weddings, whether a freaking cake or a piece of paper (invitations) there seems to be a 90% added Muggins Tax because ... it's a wedding and people and their businesses seem to want to over charge thinking that every single woman is a bridezilla with an endless supply of money to spend. Well that ain't the case!
Anyways, I do want a beautiful dress, albeit a simple, corsetted one. I love corsets and have some gorgeous tailormade ones I wear out and about but for my wedding dress I do want a simple corsetted one, A-line - pretty simple, no bling.
Consulting the guru of the internet search engines, I have of course stumbled across a few big/well-known websites where it seems too good to be true wedding and bridesmaid dress websites where the pictures look incredible and all for under £300 - even under £100 in some cases!
The price seems great, but like with any market of supply and demand, it does make me wonder of the quality.
I am not and will never spend heaps on anything if it's not worth it, especially putting into perspective how much we have monetary wise, but I don't want to walk down the aisle in a shiny, teflon linked piece of crap that looks like you could fry an egg on it.
I had a dig ... read millions of reviews for Light in a Box and JJ's House that have garnered a major mixed set of reviews. The pics, of course look amazing, but truthfully I don't think I could risk it - especially since I am not exactly the slender of people and have less likelihood of fitting into a "classic" cut.
All these sites seem to come from China, where they are made. Thing is, I am half Chinese, have spent most of my extra time in Asia, lived in Asia and I have yet to find a time that even when I have been physically in the vicinity for tailormade clothes, I have yet to have a single time that the item of clothing in question has even turned out exactly how I have wanted / envisaged - even with a picture. to show how it should replicate.
Look at this:!!!!
THIS is a picture of a dress I got measured and cut in Penang and it has turned out like a fancy dress. Granted I am totally going to wear this in an ironic way for the Sten Party I am having next year, but that's not the point. The bastard thing cost me around £60 and looks ridiculous! I would have got something better from Primark and doesn't make me look like I'm pregnant.
I don't know if I could do it for something so big like a wedding day and not being physically there to see how it goes?
One of my friends, who does this awesome wedding blog by the way, has had a really great time with Chinese tailors as she blogged (she is an expat in Hong Kong and has travelled to Shenzhen, China for one of her dresses) and she has been able to get measured and oversee how the design was going. This would be ace.
Alas I am in London and would be, like most of the people on the websites, hoping my amateur measurements will match up and the dress and fabric will be how I hoped.
Sadly, from what I have inspected from reviews and bodices coming back that don't even fit above the waistline, it looks like I am going to try and find something in the shops.
Any suggestions, please send on a postcard......
You and me we can ride on a star If you stay with me, we can rule the world Yeah you and me we can light up the sky If you stay by my side, we can rule the world.
us.