Gender Secret Suggestions

*Unhacked!!! We got back in!!* Ask, suggestion, etc. blog for trans and all lgbtqia people

[gendersecretsuggestions-blog]

Important!

Hey there...it’s mod Alex/Aaron. A lot of things have changed in the past few months, and you have no idea how guilty I feel for not being on here at all. I feel like I owe you all an explanation. 

Basically, I’ve been going through a rough time. My mental health really hasn’t been at it’s best, I’ve been dealing with family issues, and on top of that I’m swamped with schoolwork. If you follow my personal blog (the url changed to verity-the-dreamer) then you’ll notice I’ve been active on their a bit. I’m on there more, as this blog is on a completely different account and it’s annoying to continuously log in and out. 

I want to continue this blog, and I want you to know that it’s not dead! I tried adding my personal blog as an admin, but since this blog is a main blog, I’m unable to add admins. If you’ve followed us for awhile, you’ll remember the whole issue with the hacking thing. Remember how we made another backup blog to get in contact again? That blog happens to be a side blog. 

Basically, I won’t be on this blog anymore, and will instead be on the side blog, @gendersecretsuggestion (same url just take the s off the end). I haven’t had any contact with the mods on here for ages, so I’ll be adding new mods. Important message to the mods on this blog: if you want to continue working with me on this wonderful blog, message me on my personal blog, @verity-the-dreamer )

TL;DR: Follow us on our side blog @gendersecretsuggestion and spam us with asks! We miss you! And get the word out that we’ve moved!

One last thing: I’ve changed my preferred name from Alex to Søren! I still use he/him pronouns. I love you all!

[velveetashellsandcheese]

i mean a huge part of lgbt culture is the whole “it’s not a phase” and “i’m not confused" thing but that’s just not really true y'know?

like here’s to the people that have gone through countless labels, and still can’t find one that fits here’s to the people that have declared a label, but then realized that label might not be accurate here’s to the people that have to come out 1,000 times because their identity is constantly changing here’s to the people who are confused, and have gone through phases. you’re real and you’re valid.

i love all of you. you don’t have to have everything figured out to be lgbt

[starduststarling-deactivated201]

Maybe you’re not a fighter; maybe you’re not the kind of person to march on the front lines throwing bricks, molotovs, and yelling.  That’s okay.  That’s so so so very okay.  You’re important. What’s equally as important as that are small radical acts of kindness.  Love your neighbors, love your friends.  Love yourselves.

Be there for each other, be willing to lend a helping hand or shoulder or couch.  Don’t be afraid to put yourselves out there and do what you can for your community.  Anything you can do or provide matters.  You matter.

You can help in the gentlest and most personal ways, and those matter at least as much as any protest.

A people united are so much harder to fight and tear down than individuals.  Link arms with your neighbor and they can’t break you.  They’ll never break you as long as you still care, and as long as you’re still willing to show it.

You’re important and you’re valuable, and you’re all so so dear.  You can help and you can make a difference.

You’re important.

[gendersecretsuggestions-blog]

(dfab)could I have ID as something other than cis & be actaully cis? I used to use he/him but I don't anymore (personal reasons?) and it doesn't bother me anymore. Honestly I feel more bad about myself when I'm using he/him or even something they. The only thing that bothers me is my name online. Maybe bc I've used a chosen name before (when I used he) I want a nickname that pretty nuetral but far from my name or something idk. Is it okay to want to change name but not pronouns online?

Of course! You don't have to change your name or pronouns to be nonbinary or trans. You're valid no matter what!

[gendersecretsuggestions-blog]

A happy ask for you: I came out as nonbinary to my therapist, and she changed all the pronouns on my paperwork to they/them, and she tries to work in ways to use them each session. It makes me so happy!

Good for you!!!

[thebibliosphere]

Remember you are not powerless.

Even if tomorrow doesn’t go the way you want it to, you are not powerless. No matter what people try to tell you. You Are Not Powerless.

You are here, and this is now, and we will never stop fighting against those who wish we weren’t.

No matter what happens, we’ve got this. It will be okay, don’t give up.

[lilihierax]

IMPEACHMENT -  c :  to remove from office especially for misconduct

[lushthemagicdragon]

Impeachment leaves us with Pence who is worse.

[bluechromia]

Is it possible to impeach Pence as well?

[lushthemagicdragon]

Not likely, he’s a snake. He hasn’t done anything strictly speaking illegal and the party loves him.

[transgenderteensurvivalguide]

Suicide Hotlines and Mental Health Services

Emery says:

Hello, everyone! I’ve gathered together some resources for those of you that are going through a very difficult time. We would love to help each and every one of you individually, but answering asks from suicidal anons puts us in a very questionable legal situation. Also, since many of us mods have dealt with suicide in our lives, it is a very difficult topic for us to cover. Nonetheless, I hope all of you are able to benefit from this mental health resource list that I have put together. 

I believe in each and every one of you, and as cliche as it sounds, it can get better. As someone who has been in the same situation, you can take it from me. This existence of ours can often feel like ascending a mountain without any climbing gear, but it is possible to do so when you have a bit of help. I know that all of you can reach the peak if you are just given a helping hand.

Much love. <3

Suicide Hotlines

- Trans Lifeline - US.: (877-565-8860) or Canada: (877-330-6366)

- The Trevor Project’s “Trevor Lifeline” - (866-488-7386); they also have a texting and online chatting service.

- CrisisChat - www.crisischat.org (an online chatting service)

- Crisis Text Line -  www.crisistextline.org (texting service)

- Longislandcrisiscenter.org - US: (516-679-1111); they also offer online chatting services.

This post has more LGBT hotlines

This page as a few non-US ones also

Non-Crisis Mental Health Resources

- 7 cups of tea - an online chatting service. It’s not really meant for crisis situations, but it can used to talk about a host of issues with other individuals. It appears to be mostly geared toward mental health support and discussion.

- www.dbsalliance.org/ - a nationally recognized organization that offers support and resources for those dealing with bipolar disorder(s) and depression.

Canada

- PFLAG Canada - ( 1-888-530-6777 ext. 226);  resources and education on issues of sexual orientationand gender identity. E-mail: [email protected]

- Trans Lifeline - (877-330-6366); http://www.translifeline.org/

UK

- Switchboard: The LGBT+ Helpline - (0300-330-0630) available from 10am-10pm daily; also offers onlinechatting services. E-mail: [email protected]

- Samaritans - (116-123); seems like they are LGBTQ friendly and offer online chatting services. E-mail: [email protected]

“ We positively welcome enquiries from all sections of the community, including Black and Minority Ethnicgroups, people with disabilities and members of the LGBT community. “

Australia

- Q Life - (1800-184-527); also offers online chatting services from 5:30-10:30 pm daily.

- beyondblue - (1300-22-4636); LGBTQI friendly and also offers online chatting services.

- Kids Helpline - (1800-55-1800) for people between the ages of 5 and 25.

- OII Australia (Organisation Intersex International Australia Limited) - “OII Australia is an independentsupport, education and policy development organisation, by and for people with intersex variations or traits.Our work focuses on human rights, bodily autonomy and self-determination, and on evidence-based,patient-directed healthcare.”

- http://au.reachout.com/ - may help with finding region-specific resources

If any of you know of resources like these, please feel free to comment on this post or send an ask/message to my personal blog, @the-most-emo-hermit-to-ever-live. Suggested resources will be compiled, looked over, and added to the current Suicide Hotlines and Mental Health Services masterpost. 

[shelbys-advice-blog]

Calming masterpost:

crisis/urgent support lines and sites

hotlines/crisis lines for depression, domestic abuse, alcohol and drug abuse, teens, pregnancy, lgbt and more

mental support community - a forum where you can post that you are in a crisis right now and need peer support as soon as possible

imalive crisis chat - online one-on-one chat for if you’re in at risk of hurting yourself etc

self harm alternatives

si urges alternatives

relaxation/anxiety relief

do nothing for two minutes

interactive silk art

guided relaxation

watch a dream

100,000 stars

thisissand - create sandscapes on your screen with your mouse

calming gif

the quiet place project

the quiet place - find some quiet

the thoughts room - a super calm page to unburden yourself from bad thoughts

the comfort spot - a place for anonymous venting with out anybody judging you for who you are

the dawn room - my personal favourite, especially good for when you feel alone

know that it will be okay - when a moment is too hard for you - come here.

music and sounds

my anxiety relief playlist - on 8tracks

my positivity/recovery playlist - on 8tracks

‘stay strong’ playlists - on 8tracks

coffee shop sounds

rain sounds

calmsound - nature sounds

rainycafe

comfort food

one minute cookie in a mug

brownie in a mug

several cookie recipes

25 hot chocolate recipes

loads and loads of snacks - 533 quick and easy recipes for a range of snacks on studentrecipe

lots of different in-a-mug recipes

chocolate pudding in a mug - my personal fave (lil tip: add mini marshmallows for extra gooey yumminess)

advice and tips

how to be okay with yourself

25 resolutions

life hacks

more life hacks

a hella ton more life hacks - so many life hacks dude soon ur gonna never have a day-to-day stress again

school masterpost - school sucks so bad but hopefully this can help ease the stress

how to love yourself

how to bypass restricted wifi omg

alleviate menstrual cramps

boost your confidence

love yourself!

self help after anxiety

stop biting your nails

stop procrastinating

stop skipping breakfast

videos and movies

cure to sadness (video)

the movie blog - a blog dedicated to movie masterposts you will never be without a movie to watch again

cute roulette - THE BEST PLACE ON THE INTERNET ITS LITERALLY JUST A HUGE ROULETTE OF VIDEOS OF CUTE ANIMALS WHAT MORE COULD YOU WANT FROM LIFE

random acts of kindness caught on film

disney movies

movies for angsty teens

distractions etc

rice questions - answer simple questions and donate free rice to people in poverty!!

click to give - just click a button to donate (it costs nothing) food to animals shelters, people in poverty and homeless veterans; mammograms to fight breast cancer; therapy for people on the autism spectrum; alzheimer’s and diabetes research; a book to a child; protect wildlife habitat

break something - good for anger

loads of cute games

how to make a blanket nest

learn something new - a masterpost of hobbies

exercise like a superhero

nice words

things to do when your sad

slap a bald guy with an eel - this is ridiculously entertaining

watch a dog lick your screen - it loops, so you could literally watch for hours if you want

calmingmanatee

daily puppy

how to make a comfort box

download free books

extras

emergency compliment!

lots of compliments - they even include ur name aw

huge list of bloggers who have put themselves forward as willing to listen/chat without judgement

getting anon hate?

:) tag - all the posts that i’ve tagged for making me happy

7cupsoftea - free, anonymous, confidential talks with trained listeners

get a hug

Calming songs, playlists and instrumentals:

Sing Me to Sleep

The Boulevard of Broken Dreams

Boost your Mood (peppier and happy songs)

The Driving Mixtape

Study

Summer Nights

It’s Going to be Fine

Calm & Collected

Once Upon a December - Piano (song)

Clair de Lune (song)

The Moon is a Harsh Mistress (song)

Calming/distracting Websites

The Quiet Place

Rainymood.com

Calm.com

Soundrown.com - calming sounds to mix and match

A website to distract yourself

A recovery masterpost

A post of interesting things

Ungruntle yourself

Press a magic button and fix everything

Play cute games

Almost every movie your little heart desires (i suggest you use with adblocker)

How to love yourself

A website that compliments you

Crafts and activities, easy and fun DYI projects

Glitter calm jars

A list of things to do to curb anxiety

Make a blanket nest

Silky summer legs

Lots of food recipes; mostly desserts  

For bad days masterpost

Make some microwave snacks

Five minute fudge

Make a phone case

A bunch of hobbies!

Self care list!

Pretty gold-dipped feathers (for decorating or anything)

What to do when:

You’ve been triggered

You’re having an anxiety attack

You’re having a panic attack

Your face is red and puffy after crying

You just had a fight

You hate yourself

You want to avoid being stressed

You want to get over your ex

Meditation and breathing

Guided Meditations

Do Nothing for 2 Minutes

Calm Down

Meditation Tips

90 second relaxation exercise

Simple things

Pretty Tree

When You Feel You Have Lost Everything

See Some BLOOD

Press a Button to Make Everything OK

Calming Manatee

Calming Gif

Make Something!

Jump into a Sofa Fort!

Make a Comfort Box

Glitter Jar Or This One

Other Nice Things

A Page To Help You Recover!!!

Coping Skills & Distractions

The Quiet Place. Shhhhh

For When You’re Upset

The Nicest Place on the Internet

Player 2

10 Most Relaxing Online Games

Talk To Someone That Will Listen

Not Having a Good Day?

How-to Love Yourself

Ground Yourself X X  X

Mood Chart

Do Nothing For Two Minutes

Rainymood

The Comfort Spot

Weave Silk

Seed Plant Breeder

This Is Sand

C.A.L.M

Calming/Relaxing Music:

Soft Piano: x, x, x, x, x

The Sound of Waves: x

The Sound of a Storm + Waves: x

[equinoks]

Yo did you guys see this shit

[studywithnessa]

OHHHHHH SHIT

[your-dilemma]

THE SHADE HOLY CRAP THE SHADE IS REAL

[glumshoe]

For everyone planning to kill themselves in the event of a Trump victory:

Don’t.

We need you. The world needs you. We’ve been through this before, in one way or another, and we have prevailed. Who benefits from your death? Only those who want you silenced.

There will be blue skies ahead. There will be triumphs. This is not the end of the world.

Do not go gentle - we are here today because of the stubborn refusal of our predecessors to go away. There are oases even in the darkest of times. You are not alone, and you have not been abandoned. There *will* be blue skies ahead, and you will live to see them.

[gendersecretsuggestions-blog]

I'm sorry. My life has been so busy, but please know that this blog is not dead. I'm sure that the other mods have really busy lives right now. Let us all hope for the best on such a terrifying night. Whatever happens after tonight, stay strong and know that we all have ways to speak out against things that we disagree with. I'll be getting to our inbox within this week. All the best, >Mod Ethan

[askboxmemes]

Reblog this if I can vent to you? Like completely skip all the awkwardness and just start talking to you.

[gendersecretsuggestions-blog]

I'm a cis lesbian, but I like the idea of queer platonic partners. Is this something I shouldn't look into because I'm cis?

Queerplatonic relationships can be experienced by anyone! It doesn't matter what your sexual orientation and gender is. It is commonly used by ace/aros in replacement of a sexual/romantic relationship, but they can be pursued by anybody. And remember, sexual orientation and gender are not linked!>Mod Ethan

[skygenders]

I was doing some digging in lgbt history i have discovered the lesbian avengers and oh my god 

they ate fire in front of the white house 

[skygenders]

just in case you were wondering trans women were included!!

(x)

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[gun-metal-soul-deactivated20210]

@garagedyke !!!

[landercomic]

Happy National Coming Out Day! I love you guys <3

[gendersecretsuggestions-blog]

I don't have anything from school, but something really off-putting happened to me at work today (pet store). A couple came in, and considered buying a guinea pig. But they already had a male guinea pig at home, and (I kid you not; the very NEXT thing they told me was this), they didn't want the new boy "if they'd be doing any homosexual things together". (?) In a PET STORE? Homophobia at ANIMALS? I could only say, "I dunno, you can't tell animals not to do that". But is anyone else HORRIFIED?!

That's horrible! I would have such a tough time not bringing up facts like there is an extremely small amount of recorded cases of homosexuality in animals (so that they wouldn't need to "worry"), and that it isn't caused by any kind of environmental factors. Just like humans, they are born with needs (or lack thereof). I feel like past me might have said that jokingly, so I'm going to hope that they were joking and not being homophobic nuts.>Mod EthanKind of related: I was discussing with my friend about trangender cases in animals, and I was thinking that animals just don't have the same contemplation of identity that humans do. Animals just "are." There are plenty of personality deviations that might be attributed to a sort of transgenderism, but I just don't think that they have the mind to think about what those deviations mean. Please send in your own thoughts on this topic because I'm curious.

[gendersecretsuggestions-blog]

Send in some asks! School has been in for a while; I'm sure that something good and/or bad happened. Send in some problems that you might be having trouble on.