how much more delightful your love than wine

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[ghostsarecool]

i love all the like 40 something men on threads who love olivia rodrigo like. THANK you!! you’re right and you should say it!!!! i just love when adult men can genuinely appreciate the talent of a young woman

[ghostsarecool]

okay preliminary olivia rodrigo new album thoughts!!!

drop dead- 7/10 didn’t blow me away or anything at first but grew on me after multiple listens

stupid song - 9/10 love the music video love the concept love the sound

honeybee - 9/10 love the concept love the instrumentation

maggots for brains - 7/10 love a more upbeat song and i get that the whole album is abt a relationship but do kinda wish the song was not about feeling bad bc “my baby’s away” but even so it’s a fun song and i like the sound

u + me = <3 - 6/10 fun but does feel a little childish in a certain way but like an overall fun way im just not sure the lyrics are her strongeeest

my way - 7/10 i like the vibes but smth abt the lyrics is not 100% clicking for me but maybe i’ll feel differently after more listens!

purple - 6.5/10 this is a cute song i think it will grow on me with more listens

the cure - 8/10 i really like the sound and the message but it feels like it’s sliiiightly missing something to me like maybe an additional verse ??

begged - 8/10 super sad and relatable and beautiful vocals !!

what’s wrong with me - 7.5/10 i think something about the melody of part of the chorus was not clicking on my first listen but i think it will grow on me with more listens

less - 6.5/10 classic ORod pretty and sad ballad

expectations- 6.5/10 i like the upbeat and i like the overall meaning but im not 100% sold on the sound after the first listen but we’ll see how i feel after listening again

cigarette smoke -7/10 this one is definitely relatable after first listen but i almost always need more time when it comes to ballads for them to grow on me

overall i’m a little sad she did less of the pop rock sort of sound of a lot of GUTS & songs like brutal/good 4 u buuuut i think it makes sense for the concept of the album & i still really like it overall

[ghostsarecool]

people criticizing phoebe bridgers for the fact her tickets are more expensive now than 6 yrs ago like babe that’s how it works she’s way more popular now than when punisher came out like it is basic supply and demand plus stadium tickets tend to be more expensive in my (admittedly limited) experience but maybe that’s the same phenomenon, like if you’re popular enough to fill a stadium you’re popular enough for the venues to charge more. and even if she’s wealthy enough to not necessarily need to make money off the tour she needs to pay people who work on the tour and so does the venue ? like i get wanting her to do more to challenge the capitalist nature of the whole affair but like. there’s only so much she can do as an individual artist!

[flamingkorybante]

My friend worked with the People With AIDS Coalition in 1990 and found this while cleaning out some old folders. I can't stop thinking about it.

[ghostsarecool]

i got phoebe bridgers tickets today and i do not think it has fully sunk in !!!!! im not a big concert person but i Was interested in olivia rodrigo’s tour but the tickets were simply tooooo expensive but i thought maybe phoebes would be reasonable when it was announced and well it seems like the prices depended a lot on the venue but i was able to get them for $89!! & i was lucky enough to get access to first day of presale. im def gonna make some sort of really cool mask chain to fancy up my N95!! yayyy i never really do stuff like this so im excited. i missed both of the last 2 concerts i was supposed to go to bc i had los camp tix but my then-partner bailed on me and i didnt want to go alone and then we were supposed to see pigeon pit together but we were half broken up by the time it happened and i decided not to go :( but they were also a bitch about masking whereas my current boyfriend heard me explain my reasons for it once and was just like yeah that makes sense i’ll do it too

[ghostsarecool]

feeling some type of way abt being bi and never having been with a woman and currently being with a cis het man who i love and want to be with maybe forever ?? but also will i always be wondering abt women?? and idk the last 2 people ive been with were also queer in some way and it’s odd to not be able to relate to him on that level and like, is that something i need ??? or is that kind of superficial in a way. i hate being a bi woman in a relationship with a cis het man going”i don’t feel queer enough :(“ during pride month esp in this political climate but like genuinely i am feeling some type of way about it all

[lovertm]

pins by Abprallen

[ghostsarecool]

also when people say they only dated for “a few months” but it was actually about 10 months and in your 30s that’s like. you could 100% be heading towards engagement at 10 months. like you could fully reasonably be 2-6 months out from engagement as a 30 something in a 10month long relationship. and i get that only so much of that time was actually in person but still it was clear she fell hard & fast & planned her future around him so it shouldn’t be shocking that she’s taking it this hard. and like maybe that was naive of her to go so all in so fast but okay!! i’m glad you’re so worldly and wouldn’t make that mistake but she did and so she gets to feel how she feels about it!!!! not to mention it doesn’t sound like he was discouraging the future talk & from her telling (which is of course all we have to go off of so sure she could just be lying but like i have no way to know that right now & i don’t feel compelled to make that assumption like 3/4 of people on threads) he was the first one to bring up the future (3 days) and to say he loved her (5 days) which again! you can say it was naive of her to have believed him but like. she did so. now what?? you want her to just be chastened and get over it ?? like, she’s still allowed to feel how she feels about it. all of this not to mention the cheating aspect.

also so many people accusing her of being “male centered” and making the relationship/breakup her whole personality but a) she was in a relationship with a man and was broken up with by a man and she’s talking about it, does that make her inherently “”male centered”” ? and b) if you follow her on other social media/when this story isn’t trending on threads she actually does talk about a lot of other stuff ?? and also it makes sense to be talking a lot about something that just happened and has upended your idea of your future (given that sharing her life on the internet is what she does)

[ghostsarecool]

also hilarious re:hot chef drama that people just hallucinated the idea that he was 7/8 years younger than her and ran with it when he’s literally. 1-2 yrs younger than her depending on their exact birthdays. like. how is this man an executive chef of a restaurant group in paris and supposedly only 24 when they met ?? also i do think that people made out like she was significantly wealthier than him like they described it as if he was some poor 24 yo line cook and she’s some sort of Old Money WASP when he’s literally a 31 yo executive chef of an entire restaurant group in PARIS and idk what you make for that but i don’t think it’s too shabby!! and i think people’s perception of her wealth is overstated bc people turned the “rape money” thing into her having enough money to never need to work which i don’t believe she said it was that much like she just called it a “nest egg.” obviously she never stated the exact amount and she shouldn’t have to but it sounded to me like money she was using to do some things now like traveling and then also for saving up for future home/wedding/kids which like it’s a privilege in many ways to even be able to save for that stuff but also she got the money from a settlement re: being sexually assaulted & then kicked out of school for it so like it was a result of trauma so not exactly the Height of privilege. meanwhile she primarily lives off a grad stipend & patreon money (which is like less than $10,000/yr) and then re:family wealth people use the fact she went to private boarding school and private college as evidence of massive generational wealth but like. have you guys heard of scholarships & financial aid?? like i think i vaguely remember her talking about going to boarding school on a scholarship but i could be wrong. like going to private boarding school is more of a wealth flag to me than private college bc tons of people go to private college with scholarships/financial aid/loans but private school & esp private boarding school is probably a better indicator of wealth but i also think it depends on location. like some places have really bad public schools so it’s not too unusual for middle class families to try to get their kids into private schools on scholarships and i also think boarding schools are more of a thing in new england. anyway all of this to say shes definitely privileged financially in a number of ways but she also doesn’t seem like Super Wealthy to me and hot chef definitely has a good income at the top of the culinary field in a country where that’s highly valued so from my perspective it doesn’t seem like there was a HUGE wealth gap by any means, and there was practically no age gap sooooooo what are you guys still on about???

[ghostsarecool]

like there were tons of abuse survivors who fell for johnny depps coordinated DARVO campaign so i just don’t think that being an abuse survivor makes you magically able to know who’s an abuser and who isn’t! also using reactive abuse as evidence that the victim was the abuser without looking at context doesn’t work. not actually saying that either one of them is definitively abusive or not just that i think people take the things that are most similar to what they went thru and build a narrative around that which can lead to people seeing reactive abuse by the victim that is similar to their experience of abuse and then using that as evidence that the victim is the abuser. or maybe they never personally engaged in reactive abuse so they deny that could be an explanation for certain behaviors. i also just think that engaging in isolated “abusive behaviors”doesn’t necessarily make one an Abuser. like most people have done things once/a few times that if they were patterns of behavior would be emotionally abusive but doing them one or two times is just like. not being a perfect person. especially if we take into account mental illness & trauma!

[ghostsarecool]

anyway downloading threads was the worst idea i’ve ever had people are absolutely heinous over there

[ghostsarecool]

personally i actually think it’s within your right to make jokes about your OWN RAPE ??? like that’s your experience you get to do dark humor about it if you want to ??

[ghostsarecool]

also can we shut the fuck up about narcissistic abuse like bro abuse is abuse it doesn’t matter if the person has a personality disorder about it or not? it feels like it became kind of gauche to stigmatize people with bpd in this way in the last maybe 10 yrs so people moved on to a personality disorder that’s seen much less public advocacy in the last decade or two. like crazy ex gf and pete davidson kind of made BPD more accepted but NPD can still be ~scary abuser disorder~

it just feels like it’s been watered down to abuser=narcissist….. which also dovetails with a common dichotomy i see of abuser/victim when the world is not actually neatly split up into abusers and victims or potential abusers and potential victims! like, we are all capable of being abusive and being victims of abuse in the right circumstances, i don’t really think it helps to turn “abuser” into a type of person that someone inherently is bc so many abusive people are also victims of abuse and as much as i will defend any victims right to not forgive an abuser— i don’t actually think it’s helpful to label people as inherently abusive and therefore beyond some kind of rehabilitation or repair and i think the narcissistic abuse framing only adds to the idea that abuser is a type of person who is inherently abusive and can’t be helped.

[ghostsarecool]

okay it’s so funny that when a woman doesn’t want to share intimate details of her breakup everyone is mad but when she starts to do so bc she realizes how much he was lying to her suddenly she shouldn’t be “airing dirty laundry.” and when a woman says she’s gonna take a social media break bc she’s getting hate about her very public breakup she gets criticism for that but when she posts a bunch about how much he lied to her suddenly it’s “‘maybe she should take a social media break” like can you just shut up maybe. can you just shut the fuck up! i’m not saying katie has no flaws or is dealing 100% perfectly with the situation even but i feel like people on threads are unnecessarily mean to her about this like get a hobby/therapist/touch grass etc etc

[ghostsarecool]

olivia rodrigo releases a song and losers immediately try to find a song it sounds similar to so the can accuse her of plagiarism like why don’t you get a damn hobby

[ghostsarecool]

i really am gonna need alecto the ninth to have some good gideon/harrow content bc they haven’t actually directly interacted since book 1 and im DYING

[driftwoodsix]

still living with my parents as an adult is just like. i'm grateful to not have to pay for groceries. i have to get out of here. i'm grateful to have a roof over my head and not have to pay rent. i have to get out of here. i'm grateful to not have to worry about sending out endless job applications that all lead to nowhere. i have to get out of here. i'm grateful i'm grateful i'm so fucking grateful. i have to get out of here