BLACK LIVES MATTER

[glowupandhoeup]

Hey, just wanted to know your mind about that so, I would like to wake my significant other to a bj because I read people who experienced that felt amazing waking up but that kind of goes against my notion of consent because he couldn't withdraw his consent while asleep you see. I didn't talk about it to him yet but I mean, even if he said yes and it's finally a no, it's too late and I definitely don't want to be a rapist. What is your mind about it

This might be super late but I don’t know who else needs this advice.

When it comes to sex in general consent is key. In order to gain consent you must communicate. In this case I would suggest having a talk with your partner about whether or not they’re down for this.

You need to understand his limits as well as him. Safe words and motions are amazing for stuff like this. I say have that conversation and come up with a plan if he does agree. Pay attention to any discomfort and stop immediately if you see any. Then discuss if this is a definite no in the future.

Basically when it comes to this kind of stuff talking is key. I’m not sure about your gender but if you are a woman you’re doing amazing by keeping consent in mind. I’ve seen many women in my life who didn’t acknowledge that the guy needs consent as well and refused to see that they were wrong.

Best of luck to those who need it

-Mod J

[mxrbidslvt]

a very friendly but important reminder that women who post sexual content on the internet are no less worthy of respect and consent matters always

[dathen]

On twitter I’m seeing dozens of threads from Black activists warning people against burnout, giving all sorts of useful tips about preventing and managing it for the sake of a long-term, sustainable effort.

On tumblr I’m seeing a hell of a lot of young white kids yelling at anyone who actually follows those steps, and acting like burnout is a moral falling rather than a well-proven psychological phenomenon.

Be careful who you get your information from. Don’t let guilt lead you to make choices that will harm both you and the movement.

[nilzhoglander-deactivated202303]

I’m going to reblog this again since I see more individuals are inquiring about burnout prevention tips in the notes and it’s why I sought out this resource. I hope it helps you!

source

[eowyntheavenger]

What have the protests accomplished?

5/26 4 officers fired for murdering George Floyd 5/27 Charges dropped for Kenneth Walker (Breonna Taylor’s boyfriend, who police accused of killing her) 5/28 University of Minnesota cancels contract with police 5/28 3rd precinct police station neutralized by protesters 5/28 Minneapolis transit union refuses to bring police officers to protests or transport arrested protesters 5/29 Activists commandeer Minneapolis hotel to provide shelter to homeless 5/29 Former officer Chauvin arrested and charged with murder 5/29 Louisville Mayor suspends “no-knock” warrants 5/30 US Embassies across Africa condemn police murder of George Floyd 5/30 Minnesota Attorney General Keith Ellison takes over prosecution of the murdering officer 5/30 Transport Workers Union refuses to help NYPD transport arrests protesters 5/30 Maryland lawmakers forming work group on police reform, accountability 5/31 2 abusive officers fired for pulling a couple out of their car and tasing them - Atlanta, GA 6/1 Minneapolis public schools end contract with police 6/1 Confederate monument removed after being toppled by protesters - Birmingham, AL 6/1 CA prosecutors launch campaign to stop DAs from accepting police union money 6/1 Tulsa Mayor agrees to not renew Live PD contract 6/1 Louisville police chief fired after shooting of David Mcatee 6/1 Congress begins bipartisan push to cut off police access to military gear 6/1 Atlanta announces plans to create a task force and public database to track police brutality in metro Atlanta area 6/2 Minneapolis AFL-CIO calls for resignation of police union president Bob Kroll, a vocal white supremest 6/2 Pittsburgh transit union announces refusal to transport police officers or arrest protesters 6/2 Racist ex-mayor Frank Rizzo statue removed in Philadelphia 6/2 6 abusive officers charged for violence against residents and protesters - Atlanta, GA 6/2 Civil rights investigation of Minneapolis Police Dept launched 6/2 San Francisco resolution to prevent law enforcement from hiring officers with history of misconduct 6/2 Survey indicates that 64% of those polled are sympathetic to protesters, 47% disapprove of police handling of the protests, and 54% think the burning down of the Minneapolis police precinct was fully or partially justified 6/2 Trenton NJ announces policing reforms 6/2 Minneapolis City Council members consider disbanding the police 6/2 Confederate statue removed from Alexandria, VA 6/3 Officer fired for tweets promoting violence against protesters - Denver, CO 6/3 Walker Art Center and the Minneapolis Institute of Art cut ties with the MPD 6/3 Chauvin charges upgraded to second degree murder, remaining 3 officers also charged and taken into custody 6/3 Richmond VA Mayor Stoney announces RPD reform measures: establish “Marcus” alert for folks experiencing mental health crises, establish independent Citizen Review Board, an ordinance to remove Confederate monuments, and implement racial equity study 6/3 County commissioners deny proposal for $23 million expansion of Fulton County jail 6/3 Minneapolis Park and Recreation Board unanimously votes to sever ties with MPD 6/3 Seattle withdraws request to end federal oversight/consent decree of police department 6/3 Breonna Taylor’s case reopened 6/3 Louisville police department (Breonna Taylor’s murderers) will now be under review from an outside agency, which will include review on training, bias-free policing and accountability 6/3 Colorado lawmakers introduce a police reform bill that includes body cam laws, repealing the “fleeing felon” statute, and banning chokeholds 6/3 Los Angeles Mayor Eric Garcetti announces plans to reduce funding to police department by $150M and instead invest in minority communities 6/4 Virginia governor announces plans to remove Robert E. Lee statue from Richmond 6/4 Portland schools superintendent discontinues presence of armed police officers in schools 6/4 MBTA (Metro Boston) board orders that buses wont transport police to protests, or protesters to police 6/4 King County Labor Federation issues ultimatum to police unions: admit to and address racism in Seattle PD, or be removed 6/5 City of Minneapolis bans all chokeholds by police 6/5 Racist ex-mayor Hubbard statue removed - Dearborn, MI 6/5 NFL condemns racism and admits it should have listened to players’ protests 6/5 California Governor Gavin Newsom calls for statewide use-of-force standard made along with community leaders and ban on carotid holds 6/5 2 Buffalo officers suspended within a day of pushing 75 year old protester to the ground, and lying about it 6/5 2 NYPD officers suspended after videos of violence to protesters 6/5 The US Marines bans display of the Confederate flag 6/5 Dallas adopts a “duty to intervene” rule that requires officers to stop other cops who are engaging in excessive use of force 6/5 Dallas City Manager T.C. Broadnax releases an 11-point action plan for immediate police reforms 6/6 Statue of Confederate general Williams Carter Wickham torn down - Richmond, VA 6/6 2 Buffalo officers charged with second-degree assault for shoving elderly man 6/6 San Francisco Mayor London Breed announces effort to defund police and redirect funds to Black community 6/7 Frank Rizzo mural removed, to be replaced with new artwork - Philadelphia, PA 6/7 Minneapolis City Council members announce intent to disband the police department, invest in proven community-led public safety 6/7 Protesters in Bristol topple statue of slave trader Edward Colston, throw it in the river 6/7 NYC Mayor Bill de Blasio vows for the first time to cut funding for NYPD, redirect to social services 6/7 A Virginia police officer faces charges after using a stun gun on a black man 6/8 NY State Assembly passes the Eric Garner Anti-Chokehold Act 6/8 Democrats in Congress unveil a bill to rein in bias and excessive force in policing 6/8 Black lawmakers block a legislative session in Pennsylvania to demand action on police reform 6/8 France bans police use of chokeholds 6/8 Seattle council members join calls to defund police department 6/8 Boston reevaluates how it funds police department 6/8 Honolulu Police Commission nominees voice support for more transparency, reforms 6/8 Rights groups and Floyd’s family call for a UN inquiry into American policing and help with systemic police reform

No, it’s not enough, but this is only the beginning. Keep fighting!!!

(I adapted this list from this blog post and added sources and new entries. Please reblog with additions.)

[leavethesky]

Keep fighting, protesting, donating, demanding. It’s working.

[glowupandhoeup]

They fired wooden bullets at the San Antonio protest last night... I’m beyond pissed off and saddened by this. All because they got hit with PLASTIC bottles. The mayor asked what caused them to use this force and the police responded with they got hit with GLASS!!?!?Luckily there’s proof that’s not the case but still wtf.

-Jadie

[twin-fox]

Someone put red paint on the "Serve and Protect" sculpture at the Salt Lake City police building and it is such a powerful statement.

"Good art should disturb the comfortable and comfort the disturbed." -C.A.C.

If anyone knows who took the photo, it would be much appreciated. I want to give credit where credits due. Found here on insta.

https://www.instagram.com/utagainstpolicebrutality/

[redrola]

[view-from-up-here]

[halfinvisible]

queue this post when it’s your birthday and be surprise

I queued this like 8 months ago I’ve waited a long time for this moment

[glowupandhoeup]

How do I gain confidence in my looks? I'm not conventionally attractive I'm dark skin with a big forehead big nose and small lips with Hella acne I'm skinny for the most part but I'm kinda chubby in my stomach with short 4c hair sorry that was a long description I just wanted you to have a picture lol but yea I'm not attractive because of this I just want to know if its anyway to make me feel better about my looks

Hi!

Just know you’re beautiful!

I’ve always had issues with my confidence due to being short and chubby :) What helps me is to tell myself what i’m good at and what i like about myself :) i used to have hella acne now my face is pretty clear. i very rarely get acne. If you want suggestions on a skincare routine i will be happy to help! Just remember you’re beautiful inside! Try doing this for 30 days: look at yourself in the mirror and list off your favorite things about yourself ! :) Love you 💕

-S

[glowupandhoeup]

How do u deal with a baby face when trying to glo up?

hi!

If you’re into makeup then this is gonna be the best way! practice contouring by using bronzer, highlighter and concealer! If you want a list of some of my favorite items in each category i would be happy to help!

-S

[glowupandhoeup]

How can I get rid of stretch marks on my inner thighs??

Hey!

I recently broke my leg in october (it’s still broken) and the scars that i got from my accident make me self conscious. I’ve been using cocoa butter lotion on my knee bc that’s where the majority of the scars are! Also they have stretch mark cream in the baby section in any big retail store!

-S

[glowupandhoeup]

do you have tips on how to get rid of dandruff? moisturizing for the scalp or something helpful? (i showered in hot water and POOF, it's finally snowing this winter)

Hair is best when it’s washed in cold water (as cold as you can stand)! Use shampoos with no sulphates in them. If you need specific brands i can make a list of affordable ones to more expensive brands! Also don’t wash your hair everyday ! Invest in a dry hair shampoo !

-S

[glowupandhoeup]

What does conconut oil help with other than hair?

hey !!

My mom is a hair stylist (for over 20 years) and this is what i’ve learned from her!

Don’t put coconut oil in your hair bc it sits on top of the follicles and suffocates them. It just will make your hair oily! But i’ve also learned it can be okay if you have ethnic hair and use coconut oil but not much.

Coconut oil is good if you have dry skin

It can also be used in the bedroom

-S

[glowupandhoeup]

I have 2 questions : My friends are acting salty AF , what should I do , it's like when I talk they shoo me away :/ and also I'm 17 and I don't have a boyfriend , is there something wrong with me?

hi!

per the friend question; my boyfriend had a similar situation with his “friends” and had a heart to heart with them. If they don’t give af then you need to get better friends. Don’t feel bad if you don’t have many friends bc in the real world there’s only going to be a few people who you consider a friend. I can’t count all of mine on one hand. As for the boyfriend thing, i didn’t have my first real boyfriend until i was 18. There’s nothing wrong with you. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Just stay focused on you:) I used to think something was wrong with me too. Most boys your age are just looking for hookups and that isn’t fun. When you get older, that part gets a little better. I’m 20 rn and i’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years. I know it sounds too good to be true but we met on Tinder :)! When you turn 18 try making an account and go on dates! I hope this helps! If you have any personal questions you can follow me on Insta @/Gothiccc

-S

[glowupandhoeup]

I have scars/marks from when I have scratched myself from it went insects have bit me. I was wondering if there was any natural way to like lighten them without using like straight up skin bleach because I don't want to do that. I have naturally dry skin. And I am 17 years old.

hey!

I personally have scars from many things and some are also from mosquito bites (i’m allergic as heck) ! What’s helped me a lot is using a lotion meant for stretch marks! You can find them in any big retail store like Walmart and or Target in the baby section!

-S

[glowupandhoeup]

I was out with my friend and her friends. She posted on snap all her other friends but not me AND it was my birthday! Is that shady? I put her in my snap that day. She put everyone but me. Like am I ugly or she doesn't like me?

hey!

I had a similarish situation with my best friend where she was posting about her other her other friends on their birthday but she didn’t post about me on mine. I confronted her when she called the other night and told her it had hurt my feelings. she didn’t realize that she had hurt my feelings and felt like shit. After we talked about that we were all good. I suggest you talk to her and tell her how it made you feel! :) I hope this helps!

-S

[glowupandhoeup]

Do u have an recommendations for leave in hair masks?

Yes! I love leave in hair masks and conditioners! Last year for christmas I got a trial one and LOVED IT. The trial one lasted me 3 masks and i have very thick, longish hair (past my chest). It’s a little pricey but it’s so worth it! If you have anymore questions feel free to hmu on insta @/Gothiccc ! (This picture is from Ulta)

-S