There's something so hetero poisoned about the way people think of bdsm like when they aren't actively in Gay Kink Community & are just Posting. Some of you are still equating dominance -> penetration -> masculinity & you think doms aren't people with emotional needs & it's all soooo... what are we doing here. Certainly not having sex, I hope. Your booktok daddy dom doesn't exist you're gonna get a weird faggot with complexes and you need to cherish them
The fantasy isn't real that's just porn. "There's a dom shortage" frankly I doubt this many people are actually subs. Like if you're in a position where you're only subbing because you're afraid of expressing your own desires & it seems easier, or you're subbing because you think that's the only way to be taken care of, you gotta get out of there. That's brain poison & it happened to me. Kill your boyfriend. Death to jakey. Free yourself
Conversely if you're domming somebody and they don't treat you like a person you need to Run
