Can we have a collective moment of silence for media literacy?
Because apparently it’s missing.
The older I get, the more fascinating fandom sociology becomes.
I genuinely love watching BTS interact with each other. That’s honestly one of my favorite parts of being ARMY. The little glances, inside jokes, years of history, the comfort they have with one another it doesn’t really matter which members are on screen together because they’re all entertaining in different ways. Of course, like any group of friends who’ve spent over a decade together, there are probably members who naturally gravitate toward each other more than others. That’s just…being human.
Then I reopened X.
Good Lord.
I have my own opinions. I make observations. I notice dynamics. I enjoy certain interactions more than others. That’s literally part of being in a fandom.
What I don’t do is spend my entire existence trying to convince strangers on the internet that my interpretation is the only interpretation.
I don’t hijack edits.
I don’t write think pieces under every post explaining why everyone else is “delusional.”
I don’t narrate BTS’s lives as if Namjoon accidentally added me to the group chat in 2014.
Some of y’all genuinely speak with the confidence of eyewitnesses.
“Jimin interrupted…”
“Taehyung was clearly upset…”
“Jungkook actually meant…”
According to…who?
Your PhD in Freeze-Framing a 0.3-second clip?
You.
Do.
Not.
Know.
That.
None of us do.
The thing that genuinely grosses me out, though, is how quickly so much of it turns into outright hatred toward Jimin.
Not disagreeing.
Not preferring another dynamic.
Flat-out hatred.
I’ve lost count of the edits, threads, and essays where It’s like some people have decided Jimin has to be the villain in every story because otherwise their preferred narrative falls apart. Every smile is manipulation. Every interaction is “proof.” Every time he’s simply existing, someone is writing a twelve-paragraph essay about why he’s secretly ruining everyone else’s life.
Do you hear yourselves?
You don’t know these men.
Neither do I.
That’s why I stay in my lane.
I’ll make my observations, appreciate the moments I enjoy, laugh, cry, scream over concert clips, and then…go live my actual life.
Because fandom is supposed to be something that adds joy to your life not something that becomes your entire identity.
At some point, that’s no longer fandom.
That’s fixation.
Solo whoever you want. Ship whoever you want. Seriously, I couldn’t care less. Taekook, VMin, YoonMin, JiKook, Jinkook, NamJin whatever you enjoy. That’s your business.
What isn’t normal is making it your life’s mission to “debunk” everyone else, harass people who see things differently, or tear down a member of BTS because your favorite storyline requires him to be the bad guy.
If your version of being a “fan” involves relentlessly insulting one-seventh of the very group you claim to love…
I have a hard time calling that fandom.
It starts looking a lot more like obsession.
Or, honestly, sasaeng behavior the mentality that you somehow have ownership over strangers’ personal lives, that your imagined access is more real than the boundaries they’ve repeatedly asked fans to respect.
Admire them.
Support them.
Make your observations.
Share your edits.
Laugh at the chaos.
Maybe stop acting like you’ve been personally appointed as BTS’s official narrator and relationship analyst.
Maybe I’m just getting old, but some people genuinely need to log off, go outside, touch grass, hydrate, and remember that admiration should never require inventing certainty.
Because the rest of us are just enjoying watching seven incredibly talented men who have chosen to share pieces of their lives with us and being completely satisfied and content with that. ❤️
The moment you start speaking for them, attacking one of them, or rewriting reality to fit your preferred narrative…
that’s no longer appreciation.
IT’s just weird.

















