and since im feelin chatty. the forms/stages of weaponized whiteness lmaooo
hollow platitudes bc "the best they can do" is basically go "sorry thats life"
self victimization in the form of:
tone policing. usually the addition of an "umm?" "ouch" "sheesh" etc. meant to indicate that ur not being respectable and theyre prioritizing Their own feelings in this conversation
accusations of aggression or singling them out. "they deserve better than to be the outlet for ur anger!" 🙄 or "is this about me bc it feels like it's about me" well if the shoe fits bitch 😭
and then throughout all this
misarticulating ur point back to u showing a clear lack of comprehension bc they Refuse (this is an active choice) to admit to the truth and nuance of ur lived experience
going "oh gotcha" then proceeding to waste ur time with a whole ass paragraph of justification for some bullshit u dont care about
chalking it up to a "difference of opinion/taste/experience" as if no harm or violence has occurred. a reiteration of their desire to do Nothing and change Nothing
and then they will inevitably follow up with More self victimization like a couple vague statements about how hard their life is rn and how theyre trying their best and everyone is so mean to them
and then they go full klan and tell black ppl to shut up and leave if they dont like it here :)))