I need someone to do a linguistic/ psychological study on how fast certain sentences can turn you off/give you the ick.
E.g. I went out with a guy after we had talked online for months. I thought he was funny and nice, but he had a few red flags(He was pretty right and kind of racist but in a way where you don't know if he means it or has just really dark humor). I ignored these redflags in the beginning because I really liked him, dumb idea I know. Now we are from totally different cultures, where in my culture everyone will try to pay for everyones meals by themselve, in his everyone pays for their own. Now I get that, thats just cultural differences; however, after we ate and went over to pay, he DID pay for both of us. I was ready, wallet in hand, to pay my own share but accepted it and thanked him for it.
Then later on when we went to get a drink he got out his money (as did I) and he suddenly turned to me and said, in a really annoyed tone "you know I just realized I paid for both of us at dinner"
This threw me off bcs why would you pay for both if you don't want it. He then turns to pay for the drinks, I think he will pay for both of us bcs he added it up out loud and got his money out, but no. He just paid for himself and looked at me saying "thats 5 euros you still have to pay"
I kid you not, I have never believed that people can get The Ick from just a sentence, but that made my whole mood change; furthermore, every red flag I had previously ignored just suddenly seemed so much worse.
If anyone already knows of such a study, hit me up bcs I found this extremly interesting.