[bakerybutch]

shoutout to the butches who didn’t always know they were butch.  to the butches who tried so hard to make femininity fit because it was expected of them, who didn’t realize that there was any other option.  to the butches who looked up to and admired other butches but didn’t know they, too, were allowed to be butch.  

to the butches who didn’t realize until they were adults that it was okay to embrace masculinity, the butches who are still figuring it out, the butches who are afraid they’re not “real” butches because they haven’t known their whole lives.  

it’s okay if you didn’t always know, it doesn’t make you any less butch.  what matters is that you know now, and you can finally start to express yourself and learn what feels right for you.  discovering and embracing your butchness is about freedom, about what makes you happy, and you don’t have to prove to anyone else that you’re butch enough.  you are butch enough. 

[thanatopsick-deactivated2024052]

I still use the pronoun she for my publicity materials, and for mainstream media stuff, for two reasons: the first is that I do a lot of work in public schools, and I want those young women and girls to see every kind of she there can be. I want them to see my biceps and my shorn hair and shirt and tie and for some of them to see me as a possibility. For the ones that need to see other possibilities to see me, and recognize a future for themselves. I want them to see me living outside of the boxes, because they might be asphyxiating in their own box and need to see there is air out here for them to breathe, that all they have to do is lift the lid a little.

Gender Failure by Rae Spoon and Ivan Coyote from “Their, There” by Ivan Coyote

[yekkes]

That butch experience of growing up thinking you are undesirable until you become butch and then

[gatedcommunityfish]

[schizophrenicarchivist-remade-d]

my take on the butch hierarchy of needs (for nerds)

[powerfulwizard]

y’all like to joke about butch/butch relationships but how is two women constantly trying to out-gentleman each other not the cutest shit ever?

[powerfulwizard]

[starlit-mermaid]

It’s taken me such a long time to accept I’m a lesbian, but here we are and I couldn’t be happier or more relieved.

[lesbianlegacies]

Pulp covers by Liuxing Johnston / IG

Lemon Liu Art

[warpeddesires]

yes!!!

[biandlesbianliterature]

[image description: three line drawings that reimagine lesbian pulp covers with two butch women on the cover. “A Butch’s Butch” has the blurb “BUTCH ON BUTCH LOVE. Can it ever be condoned? Here is a powerful comic which intimately relates the other side of the story!” The second cover is “I Prefer Butches.” "Two Romeos:“ “An intimate picture of butches in love… with each other!“ “Tender yet deeply revealing… a courageous excursion into a forbidden world.”

[monty-green]

reminders for the young wlw out there

it’s okay to want to have sex with a girl

it’s also okay to be totally terrified at the thought of having sex with a girl- internalized homophobia affects all of us to a certain extent

it’s okay to want to make out with a girl for hours on end (seriously, it’s totally an okay thing to think about)

it’s okay to fantasize about girls, even in a sexual way. you are not dirty for doing this.

you can absolutely wear clothes that are stereotypically lesbian, such as flannels. in the same note, you can totally cut your hair short if you want. you aren’t perpetuating a stereotype, you’re embracing who you are

you can also completely stay away from any clothing that would signify you might be a wlw (especially if you’re in a situation where the suspicion that you’re a wlw could cause you harm)- it’s completely your choice, just don’t shame anybody that does decide to take on that style.

it’s okay to not immediately date a girl once you come out. take some time to figure out your feelings, it’s okay. you’ll find somebody that you want to date in your own time, or you can just decide you don’t want to ever date anybody. that’s also perfectly okay.

it’s okay to dream about a future with a wife

it’s okay to hold your girlfriend’s hand in public and be affectionate in public. it’s not gross or icky, it’s good and cute, i promise.

it’s okay to come out to everybody you speak to (there’s nothing wrong with you, and if people judge you, they’re the ones who are wrong), but it’s also valid to only come out to a small select group of people. both approaches are fine.

it’s okay to masturbate while thinking about girls. it’s okay, you’re not weird for doing this. it’s a common thing.

it’s okay to watch movies or tv shows with wlw, even the ones that are cliche and really cheesy. if they make you feel validated and happy, continue doing so.

being a wlw is not shameful

you are not broken

you aren’t somebody that needs to be “fixed”

your thoughts and feelings are valid

you are not alone

you are loved

[lesbianettes]

wlw aren’t dirty for being sexually attracted to women. I know it can feel that way sometimes, but you’re not a pervert or predatory because you want to have sex with women. It’s natural and healthy and absolutely not dirty or wrong.

[hatbutch]

Okay I need y’alls opinion on if I’m overthinking/overreacting to this

So last night one of my friends texted me and was like “hey can you ft, I need to rant about my homophobic racist sexist grandma” and I was like yeah dude go for it. So she fts me and she’s talking about her crazy grandma and I’m listening bc I’m a messy bitch who lives for drama

At one point she’s like “when me and [fiance] get married, you’ve gotta officiate” and I’m like hell yeah, bc I got ordained online a couple years ago and I really wanna officiate my friends’ weddings and then she says “I want you up there, in a suit, your haircut, your Jewishness, your stutter, everything” and like at the time that seemed really sweet. We finish up our ft and that was it.

But like after I got off the phone w her I realized that she’s basically just using me to make her conservative family members uncomfortable....but like she’s also one of my closest friends and I really do want to officiate her wedding exactly as I am. I know that the first thing she probably didn’t realize that that’s what it sounded like so I feel like I can’t really be mad about it.

So idk. Am I overreacting or overthinking this?? Bc the more I think about it the more it feels weird. She’s from a very red midwestern state that I also lived in for 4 years and is very straight so I’m just like....at a loss.

[assignedligmaatbirth]

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[lesbianvelmadinkley]

ive been thinking abt that “being a lesbian is just constantly the cant relate meme” and its actually so true it makes me sad lmao.  like my friends can rant for five minutes about how badly they want to suck some dudes dick but i feel uncomfortable even mentioning that im slightly attracted to some girl. so much of “girlhood” or “womanhood” thats portrayed in mainstream pseudo feminist media, or even coming of age literature is about the heterosexual experience; about a women coming into her (straight) sexuality and thats just so frustrating.  little women was hailed as one of the first books to write about girlhood and growing up and a lot of it involves all the girls falling in love with men.  also honestly the whole “sex positive revolution” thing is annoying and exclusive too lmao.  i read an article that cited sex and the city, 30 rock, magic mike (??), and amy schumer, as “sex positive media” thats contributing to a “more open discussion” on “female sexuality”.. while literally none of these are in any way relatable to the lesbian experience.  im forever grateful to alison bechdel, and anyone else who is making space to talk about the lesbian coming of age experience because we literally have nothing at the moment and it fucking sucks.

[lesbianvelmadinkley]

hi this is a post that I (a lesbian) made about my experience as a young lesbian.  arguably the most alienating thing about being a lesbian is our lack of attraction to men and that combined with dealing with our attraction to women is what this post is about.  dont rb if ur not a lesbian. 

[lesbianegg]

Butch ask game!

Please only reblog if you’re a butch lesbian!

What does “butch” mean do you?

When was the first time you thought of yourself as butch?

What’s your favourite shirt?

Favourite pants?

Favourite boots/shoes?

What do you wear to dress up?

What do you wear when you’re lazing around?

What do you wear to the beach?

Opinion on snapbacks?

Do you have any butch friends? How did you meet?

Do you like any butch musicians? Which ones? 

Who are your favourite butch celebrities/writers?

What’s your current hair style? Any hair plans/goals?

Share a positive butch experience!

What would you tell a young lesbian struggling to accept herself as butch?

What is your favourite piece of butch media/media with a butch in it?

Do you experience dysphoria? If so, how do you cope?

Do you ever get misgendered? 

What do you do when homophobia/lesbophobia/butchphobia gets you down?

Were you a tomboy or gender non-conforming as a kid?

Ever given/received a butch nod on the street?

Aside from butch lesbian, do you identify as anything else? (Ex. stud, tomboy, stone)

Are you good at fixing things? Into cars? Into sports?

Boxers, briefs, or boxer briefs?

What do you love about being butch?

What do you dislike about being butch?

Are you into other butches?

Are your family/friends/colleagues supportive of you being butch?

Do you wear cologne?

What makes you feel butch?

[sinfulscorpios11]

not to be gay or anything but i really want to make out with a cute girl on my lap

[pussyhaver-deactivated20231126]

Make sure to, on this international women’s day, uplift and appreciate lesbians!

[pussyhaver-deactivated20231126]

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[inkskinned]

i told myself it wasn’t the same as when boys did it but it felt the same, kind of. sitting with sweaty palms in the changing stalls and staring at the floor tiles because i was dirty and disgusting and obviously defiling them. every time a girl crawled into my bed or held my hand or kissed me on the cheek. every time she asked me to zip her dress or get under her sheets. i felt like i was using her, that i was harmful for being. it didn’t matter if it was platonic. it didn’t matter if i told her everything. what mattered was that i knew what it was like to have a man devour me in a glance and i hated that when i looked at girls, i turned hungry.

i keep boundaries so wide they miss opportunities all the time. i keep my hands to myself and my eyes always upwards. i don’t kiss her unless she kisses me first, and even then, i wait for her to be the one who is acting. i tell her how i feel only if i think i can say it in such a way it won’t ruin our friendship. i promise her that she doesn’t need to even worry about it. i don’t go after her. i don’t want to creep her out. i just want to be friends.

someone told me today i should be better at forgiving myself. i don’t know how, though. i don’t know how.