From the heart of the TARDIS

I wanted to see the universe, so I stole a timelord and ran away. I am a bisexual slave to my Master and my heart. I am on the autism spectrum. I am fire, I am the wind, I am the rain. I am a black rose among a garden of pink peonies.  

[heckifiknowcomics]

[tastefullyoffensive]

by Heck If I Know

[wilwheaton]

ohhhh right in the feelings.

[momma-rose]

when your child comes to you and says “this is something that makes me uncomfortable and unhappy and makes me not want to spend time with you” and you respond with a 20 minute speech that boils down to “deal with it because life sucks” you have no respect for your child and you need to change your parenting tactics

[riderofpern]

YES! This is why we parent with respect for our child. Doesn’t like tickling? we are a tickle free house. Doesn’t like it when I call him my baby boy? Ok, sucks for me, but I get it, he’s a big boy now and so I don’t call him my little baby boy. At the end of the day, we are teaching him NOT to ignore his own intuition and autonomy. If I kept on tickling him, even after he told me he doesn’t like it, I’m teaching him that he doesn’t have the right to say who can and cannot touch him, that he should ignore that voice inside of himself, and that because I’m bigger he has to do what I say. I ABSOLUTELY do not want a child who:

1. is afraid to tell people (especially grownups) to stop touching him/stop talking to him in a certain way

2. thinks that he has no right to ask an adult to stop touching him/saying things to him

3. thinks that his parents won’t listen to him when he expresses himself, especially if someone has done something his intuition says isn’t right. 

[heartofthetardis18-blog]

The Mental Illness™: *takes all motivation*

Me: *motivated solely by the power of spite* fuck u

The Mental Illness™: no... how...

Me: *ascends in golden light* because fUCK YOU, THAT'S HOW

[damnyourdarkeyes]

Click here to support Neil Gaiman Will Do A Reading Of The Cheesecake Factory Menu If We Raise $500K For Refugees by Sara Benincasa

I asked Neil Gaiman if he'd do a live reading of the Cheesecake Factory menu if I raised $500,000 for a charity of his choice. And because he's not just a great artist but a great person, he said yes. He chose UNHCR, the United Nations Refugee Agency. I want to hit this goal by World Refugee Day on June 20. You read that right. If we hit $500K, Neil has kindly agreed to do a live reading of the greatest restaurant menu of all time. It's about 8000 pages, last time I checked. Have you heard Neil's voice? Mellifluous, I tell you. There's a reason he won an award for audiobooks along with all the 18,000 other things he's won as an author/screenwriter/producer/raconteur/hero. FYI, the hashtag for this silliness is #neilcake. Why? Because it is silly and good. I'll arrange with Neil at his convenience to do the reading within the next year in a public setting, whether onstage or online. If it's onstage, I'll sell tickets and donate profits after costs to UNHCR. Regardless, I will make the event available to the general public via livestream or a lovely video you can watch later whilst weeping at the beauty of Neil Gaiman saying "avocado egg rolls." You think you loved "American Gods" or "Sandman" or "Good Omens" or his "Doctor Who" episodes or the other 18,000 great things he's written? This will almost certainly be better or at least ...

Help refugees. Make Neil Gaiman read the Cheesecake Factory menu.

This is completely full of win. 

[neil-gaiman]

Madness. Pure madness.

[neil-gaiman]

Hi, I read that you've dealt with with impostor syndrome in the past, and I'm really struggling with that right now. I'm in a good place and my friends are going through a lot, and I'm struggling to justify my success to myself when such amazing people are unhappy. I was wondering if you have any tips to feel less like this and maybe be kinder to myself, but without hurting anyone around me. It's a big ask, I know, but any help would make my life a lot less stressful

The best help I can offer is to point you to Amy Cuddy’s book, Presence. She talks about Imposter Syndrome (and interviews me in it) and offers helpful insight.

The second best help might be in the form of an anecdote. Some years ago, I was lucky enough invited to a gathering of great and good people: artists and scientists, writers and discoverers of things. And I felt that at any moment they would realise that I didn’t qualify to be there, among these people who had really done things.

On my second or third night there, I was standing at the back of the hall, while a musical entertainment happened, and I started talking to a very nice, polite, elderly gentleman about several things, including our shared first name. And then he pointed to the hall of people, and said words to the effect of, “I just look at all these people, and I think, what the heck am I doing here? They’ve made amazing things. I just went where I was sent.”

And I said, “Yes. But you were the first man on the moon. I think that counts for something.”

And I felt a bit better. Because if Neil Armstrong felt like an imposter, maybe everyone did. Maybe there weren’t any grown-ups, only people who had worked hard and also got lucky and were slightly out of their depth, all of us doing the best job we could, which is all we can really hope for.

(There’s a wonderful photograph of the Three Neils even if one of us was a Neal at http://journal.neilgaiman.com/2012/08/neil-armstrong.html)

[foodnetwork]

Recipe of the Day: Giada’s Fan-Favorite Farmer’s Pasta The name of Giada’s recipe might transport you to the fields, but it’s anything but hard labor. This easy-as-can-be dish is also as creamy as it gets, with ricotta, Parmesan and pancetta clinging to every bite of pasta. [recipe in bio] http://ift.tt/2pkMM2r

[just-shower-thoughts]

“If you want to know who controls you, look at who you are not allowed to criticize.” I love Voltaire.

[postitforward]

Hey, Tumblr.

Today is May 1. The first day of Mental Health Month. This entire month we want to nudge all of you to celebrate triumphs, acknowledge struggles, and just come together. Let other people know they’re not alone. Feel less alone yourself. It’s what Post it Forward is all about.

One of the incredible ways you—all of you—have helped shape Tumblr is with your ability to be open and honest.  It was you that turned this platform into a community, one based on genuine expression, creativity, and acceptance.

Neat. How can I participate?

Glad you asked! Each week, for all four weeks, we’ll be giving you ideas for ways to Post it Forward.

Week 1—Post it for you: How you practice self-care and personal well-being.

Week 2—Post it for each other: Ways you can be there for each other.

Week 3—Post it for reflection: Sharing stories of personal growth and development.

Week 4—Post it for the future: Committing to continuous reflection and improvement.

This week is all about posting for you. Acts of self-care. Here are some places to start:

Post an emoji spell for self-care and positivity. 🌈 🔮 💕 🌱

Share a photo or GIF of something that calms you down. Don’t have one? Here’s one.

What’s the one thing that always cheers you up? Post a photo of it, take a GIF, or illustrate it. Toss a sticker on it, if you’d like.

Never forget that you are valid! Post a selfie with “valid” sticker (see below).

Make a list of things you like about yourself.

Make a checklist of 5 acts of self-care you promise to do for yourself this week.

Make an audio post with a song that helps you zone out and re-energize.

Don’t forget to tag all your posts with #postitforward this month! It makes it easier for everyone to find each other’s contributions.

What else?

We’ve asked our pal Tumblrbot (@tumblrbot) to help out with any extra encouragement you might need. Try sending them messages like “tell me about Mental Health Month” or “what’s this week’s prompt?” Tumblrbot will let you know what’s up, because Tumblrbot is a friend to all of us.

We got Answer Times, all of them taking place right here on Post it Forward unless indicated otherwise:

5/4—Utkarsh Ambudkar, NAMI (@namiorg) ambassador, Pitch Perfect actor, and member of hip-hop improv group, Freestyle Love Supreme.

5/8—AJ Mendez Brooks, NAMI (@namiorg) ambassador, former pro wrestler, and author of Crazy Is My Superpower, a memoir about her experiences with bipolar disorder.

5/9—Brittany Snow and Courtney Knowles, co-founders of Love is Louder, from their official blog (@loveislouderofficial).

5/10—Kelly Williams Brown, New York Times best-selling author, from her official blog (@adulting).

5/15—Cynthia Germanotta, Lady Gaga’s mother and co-founder of the Born This Way Foundation.

5/16—Shannon Beveridge (@now-this-is-living), 25-year-old YouTube star. She’ll be partnering with It Gets Better (@itgetsbetterproject).

5/23—The creators of #TheBlackout movement, from their official blog (@theblackoutofficial).

5/25—Anna Akana, YouTuber, writer, director, and activist, from her official blog (@annaakana).

5/26—Mental health advocates Patrick and Amy Kennedy.

We even have some limited edition stickers ready for you in the Tumblr app right now:

<3 Tumblr

[heartofthetardis18-blog]

My anxiety: somethings off

Me: how so?

Anxiety: somethings wrong

Me: what

Anxiety: something

Me: like can you give me a general idea

Anxiety: somethings off

Wil's Depression: and its your fault

[cassandracalin]

Mood.

[fandomsandfeminism]

Full time work should entitle someone to enough pay for rent, food, bills, and leisure activities. Full time work for a full life wage. You put in your 8 hours a day, 5 days a week? You should be able to afford the basic shit you need in life, no matter where you work.

[rainydayshea]

pisses me off that this is considered a radical statement.

[ew--gross]

I do agree with this but from economic standpoint if you are working at a job like McDonalds as someone flipping burgers and making fries you are getting paid for the amount of skill needed for the job. But if its any other job that requires you to have an actual skill that you can make a career out of then yeah you should be getting paid enough to live a standard life.

[geekandmisandry]

If you work FULL TIME you should be able to afford to fucking live. No, it doesn’t matter if it’s flipping burgers, these people contribute to our fucking economy and they MATTER. They should be allowed to be alive.

Jesus fucking Christ do you people hear yourselves?

[janothar]

People like this are why we can’t move on to issues like reducing how many hours is full time, or working out UBI. We’re going to need to do that. Most people just don’t know what’s coming down the pipeline, without a major change to the structure of the economy, we’re looking at large scale permanent unemployment, even in the “skilled” labor force.

[tikkunolamorgtfo]

Also? Making food is a fucking skill. Running a fast food kitchen is a fucking skill. Operating a drive-thru is a goddamn fucking skill.

I do not know how to do these things. I have a masters degree and I have no fucking clue how to operate a deep fryer or make coffee drinks. I’d probably not be very good at it, because that kind of hands-on, fast-paced work is very hard for me.

But thankfully, there are people who are good at it, so I can do my job, and they can do theirs, and we can benefit one another by putting our skills to use in different areas. People who work in fast food are not less deserving of comfort and security in their lives just because their skills aren’t valued like they should be. That is a myth developed to deprive people of rights.

[goodness-gracious-great-balls-of]

My friend works as a medical assistant and I’ve worked at McDonald’s and Starbucks. You know there’s a lot of things you gotta learn in this typa job?

Like in addition to it being physically demanding (standing up for 4-6 hours straight, carrying heavy ice/coffee, constantly getting burned by boiling water and an oven, a lot of reaching and squatting (like a lot a lot I lost 40 FUCKING pounds in a year okay this job demands a lot from the body)), there are actual skills required. Also your skin splits from using so much antibacterial soap.

Do you know what temperature different foods have to be to prevent contamination? If it’s a “cold” or “hot” plate?? Do You know how long food can be out before bacterial contamination can happen?? Do you know the difference between say 1% and heavy whipping cream? Can you teach a chemistry class using milk????? That’s p much what you gotta learn to be able to do. My friend who works as a medic was surprised, because I do more in my day than they do, and THEY told me that. They were shocked how much I actually do; I am on my feet more, talking to more people, I have a working knowledge of food germs food born illnesses and chemistry, I gotta do the same shit with sterilizing my tools the same exact way a doctor sterilizes theirs. Etc etc.

There’s no such thing as an unskilled job. There are only undervalued skills.

[tikkunolamorgtfo]

“There’s no such thing as an unskilled job. There are only undervalued skills.”

[wilwheaton]

A hidden camera show where people who think they’re too good to work in a fast food kitchen, or register, or drive through. They have to work full time for one week, and they can only spend what they earn from that job. If they don’t perform up to the same standard as people already doing the job, they pay one week of their current salary to the employee they couldn’t replace.

[exgynocraticgrrl-archive-deacti]

Deconstructing Masculinity & Manhood with Michael Kimmel @ Dartmouth College

[girldwarf]

YAAAAEEESSSSSSS

[worldoflis]

You know what I like, and feel is so important? That he doesn’t say “Men thinks those are THEIR positions”. He says “We think those are OUR positions.”

As a male feminist, he still doesn’t exclude himself from the group of men.

[ruckawriter-deactivated20200128]

Damn.

Well said.

[wilwheaton]

As a person with mental illness, do you find it hard to respond to all the compliments that you receive? They (those paid me) make me incredibly uncomfortable. Thank you

Oh yes. I struggle with Imposter Syndrome every day. I have learned to be grateful for the kindness that is behind compliments, though, even if I feel like I don’t deserve whatever I’m being complimented for.

[dailyinspirationquotes]

[throughthick-and-thin-deactivat]

[mymodernmet]

“Unicorn Hair” Trend is a Fantastical Way to Celebrate the Pastel Colors of Spring

[wilwheaton]

so pretty!

[just-shower-thoughts]

I wish saying “Sorry, I’ve been depressed the past couple of days, but I’m ok now.” was as socially acceptable as “Sorry, I’ve been really sick the past couple of days, but I’m ok now.”