Xander and Harry: The Xarry timeline
Hello, I made this timeline on twitter (link) and some people asked me to made in english so here we go. English isn’t my first language, be kind. And please, if you know something I don’t, tell me! Honestly, I knew they were “back” in 2016.. But I tried to give space to them for a while… When he decided to public support Harry, I decide to made this.
Okay, so first of all: Who is Xander? Xander is from the US and lives in NY (as far as we know). He was born in 1983 (11 older than Harry). He used to play lacrosse but now he is a businessman. He does not have professional relanshionship with Jeff or Harry.
No one knows for sure how Xander and Harry met. We think they met in late 2014, when they were tagged in the same pic after the One Direction sing at The X Factor UK.
Nadine was the winter gf of that year and Xander is (or was?) her friend. Xander was at the SNL’s after party with Nadine and Harry in 2014. Harry and Xander stared to followed each other in december in 2014 and Harry liked a pic that he posted.
>> 2015
Xander was at Harry’s 21 birthday party. He posted this pic that time (“zero direction from protographer”, really??). And we have this pic of both of them at the photo booth.
JUNE
In June 11th Harry flew to NY to spent one night only in the city (The Europe leg of OTRA would start in june 13th). He hang out with Xander and friends there.
And in June 12th Harry and Jeff were photographed hunting houses in NY. We don’t know who moved, but was probably Xander.
JULY
When the European Leg was over, Harry flew to LA to spend the 4th of July with Xander. First, he was seen having a brunch with him.
In the afternoon they went to a party in Malibu. People who was there said that many people tried to talk with Harry but his attention was in his group.
In July 5th they were seen having breakfast together.
In July 6th they were seen together during all day (eating Chipotle and having dinner with Jeff)
In July 7th they went to eat at Harry’s friends restaurant in Malibu and later went shopping in LA.
In July 8th Xander was seen with Harry leaving a studio in LA.
In the July 9th was the first show of OTRA’s american Leg, in San Diego. Xander was there with Jeff.
Xander was seen at the OTRA Minnesota in July 26.
AUGUST
Harry took Xander to Lottie’s birthday in August 4th.
August 5th: Xander and his brother at the OTRA’s show in NY
Here Harry is ‘’playing’’ lacrosse while looking at Xander (in NY)
Xander’s birthday is August 27. Instead of being with his family. He decided to go to Chicago (where 1D was) and spent his birthday with Harry, who had a show in Cleveland that day.
Harry posted a cake’s pic on Ig.
They went together to Cleveland
And back to Chicago after the show.
People who were there told it that they stayed at the hotel all night. :)
August 28, they went to the Art Institute of Chicago with Cal. (both pics were taken there and Xander liked).
August 29, fans saw Harry and Xander at the Chicago’s airport, they were going to Detroit, where 1D had a show. And Harry posted this pic (Hi Xander!)
At the same day (08/29) they were seen flirting at backstage during the opening act Augustana.
August 30 and 31, Xander took Harry to his hometown, in the state of Pennsylvania. They went out with Xander’s friends and family.
Harry stayed in the Xander’s parents house while he was there.
SEPTEMBER
September 1st was the OTRA’s Philly show. Xander was there with his brother and friends.
They went back to NY driving
And in NY went out with friends.
People said Harry had a room at the 1D’s hotel in NY, but he stayed at some private house. Probably in Xander’s house. Xander and Harry were seen walking in NY in September 4th and September 12.
September 17 they were seen having dinner with Jeff in LA.
September 24 until september 30, Xander and Harry have a interactions on twitter and Instagram. Xander followed Harry’s friends and family.
Harry followed Max, Xander’s brother on Instagram in September 25
OCTOBER
OTRA UK leg. 10th October, Harry read a sign saying “I’m here for Xander Ritz” and answered “Me too”.
OTRA’s last show in October 31, Xander was there.
NOVEMBER
In November 2th, Xander was Harry’s date when One Direction gave a award to Simon Cowell at the MITS Award. He was there with Glenne and Jeff. He stayed at Harry’s house while he was there.
And finally, he posted this pic of London in november 5th :)
IN THE END OF 2015…. I know some of you know Xander as “that one who used Harry to-have-sex-with-fans”, and that’s a lie. He was catfished. Xander NEVER USED HARRY FOR SEX!! AND HE NEVER TALKED WITH US (fans)! He used to block us lol. Anyway some fans wanted to know more about Xander and pretend to be someone who Xander actually knows in real life. ALL THE TRUE STORY READ HERE (LINK!!).
Anyway after he figure out that he was catfished he deleted his Instagram and locked his twitter.
>> 2016
In march of 2016, Xander (finally?) deleted his twitter. And at some point in 2016, some photos were leaked, where we can see Xander with Harry’s friend and family. (THIS PIC WITH BEN+HIS WIFE/ ANNE+ROBIN / HARRY+XANDER PLEASE)
NOVEMBER 16
Xander was with Harry at Kanye West’s show in November 3th. (Fans that were there said, we don’t have photos)
>> 2017
APRIL
Xander was seen leaving the SNL’s after party with Harry (again, fan talking… no photos). April 17.
MAY
In May 9th, Xander was with his brother at the Today Show in NY.
In May 20, Xander was at Harry’s show at The Troubadour. Here photos of him with Glenne.
JULY
Xander was with his brother at Dunkirk premier in NY, July 19.
Harry and Xander together at a bar in a hotel in NY, July 19.
About the Tour, Xander’s sister went to Harry’s show in San Francisco. Xander was at the show in NY, Chicago, Austin and LA. And Xander went with his parents at Harry’s show in Philadelphia.
Here a GIF of Xander and his parents at Harry’s show in Philly (Oct 6th)
UPDATE: Harry, again, stayed at Xander’s parents house while he was in Philadelphia in 2017.
Xander was with Harry at The Fleetwood Mac show in NY in July 30. They spent the day together and then were to the show at night.
SEPTEMBER
September 15 Xander was with Harry at Grammy Museum event in NY.
In September 28, Xander with Harry at the backstage Radio City Music Hall in NY. (link of the video)
>> 2018
In January 26, Xander was with Harry at the Fleetwood Mac’s event in NY. (his head there in front of the pic). (link of the video)
APRIL
Xander was seen by fans at Harry’s show in London/UK in April 11 and 12.
In April 26, Xander’s sister posted this pic using Harry’s merchandising on Instagram.
JUNE
June 15th. Xander was seen at Harry’s show in Philadelphia/PA with his parents and his brother Max. He stayed next to Anne.
June 21, Xander was at Harry’s show at the Madison Square Garden (show 1) in NY. He was with his brother, Jeff, Glenne and Tommy. (He’s in pink)
June 22, Xander was at Harry’s show at the Madison Square Garden (show 2) in NY. He was with his brother Max. (The way he’s looking at Harry.. so cute!)
June 22, Harry went to a bar with Xander, Max and friends after the MSG show in NY.
June 23, Harry and Xander went to a bar with Max in NY.
Harry, Xander and his brother Max have a plaque at some restaurant in NY. (Don’t know why)
JULY
In July 13th Xander attends Harry’s show (show ½) at The Forum in LA.
July 13th Xander with Harry in the backstage at The Forum
Xander was in Harry’s last concert, in LA. Some fans saw him, they said he stayed backstage (almost) all time. July 14
OCTOBER
Harry with Xander at some restaurant in LA. Oct 1
>> 2019
MARCH
03/05, Harry followed kathmaloney on Ig. She’s Max’s girlfriend.
March 29 Xander and Harry leaving a restaurant in NY.
MAY
May 6/May 7 Xander was at Harry’s After-After Met Gala Party with Harry and friends.
May 12 Harry followed Mike, Xander’s brother-in-law (Georgia’s husband). Max followed Anne.
Between the days May 10 and May 14, Harry went to Philly/PA and spent some time with Xander’s family.
May 21 Harry liked Kath and Max’s pic on Ig.
May 30, Harry started to follow Xander’s sister Georgia on Instagram. (She followed him in 2015).
JUNE
Between the days June 15 and June 17, harry went to philly/pa and spent some time with xander’s family.
AUGUST
August 06, Harry spent the day with Xander and his family in Philly/PA (that’s Xander’s dad behind Harry). Harry left Philly the same day, he clearly stopped in Philly just to meet them.


















