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Can we talk about less overt dominants? The ones who are the quiet, watchful types that see much more than they say? The ones whose reputations build solely by word of mouth, as "oh, ask him, he knows" and not aggressive self-assertion? Those dominants are the ones who can go from passive watching to pulling your metaphorical leash with just a few soft, quiet words, because that's all they need to assert their dominance. I want more of the peeking over their glasses at you, ordering for us both at restaurants, removing you from situations that stress you, lowkey, perceptive dominants. Show me the subtle dominants. 🥰❤🥵❤😍

cheshirelibrary

Sometimes classics can be improved upon.

The Tree Who Set Healthy Boundaries : an alternate ending for Shel Silverstein’s The Giving Tree by Topher Payne 💯🌳❤️

https://www.topherpayne.com/giving-tree?

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lovemeplenty-deactivated2020103

Me flirting: I’d totally take a nap with you

everythingfox

kis

theklaud

😖

Spirited Away | 千と千尋の神隠し 2001 | dir. Hayao Miyazaki

littleviccy-blog

when you’re sleepy but you wanna stay up with daddy:

daddykinksissues

So true! And or mommy for that matter

femsubdenial

could you please explain how the safeword traffic system works?? i really cant wrap my head around it

Sure.

Red means stop. No more negotiation, something has crossed a line (too painful, something bad that wasn’t negotiated, etc.)

Yellow means that you need a break or that something is too much, or that if the top continues then you’re going to “red” soon.

Green means that things are going well and you want to continue if not ramp it up a little.

While a bottom might blurt out red or yellow, I’ve never seen a bottom volunteer “green”. It’s usually said in answer to when a top is checking in to make sure everything is okay. Asking “How are you?” and getting an answer of “fine” or “okay” might mean the bottom is just on autopilot and reflexively answering. Asking “What’s your color?” and getting “green” or “I was very close to yellow when you stopped” is much better.

One of my favorite doms to watch at parties was doing a pre-scene negotiation with someone he hadn’t played with before and said something like “Now, just between you and me here ;-) , my favorite color is yellow. It’s not about taking anything I can dish out. I promise you, I can always go harder. I want to know how you’re doing. I’ll likely yellow you, on purpose, a few times, just to find out where your limits are and then aim for a little below that. I don’t want to hear ‘green green green, green green red’ because then the scene’s over. I want some indication of how you’re doing and when you’re getting close to what you can handle, okay?”

And then, whenever she yellowed, he praised her. And why wouldn’t he?? She gave him vital information that allowed the both of them to have more fun!