He Should Have Been Named ...

Single and dating in SoCal, just trying to look for the one that I don't say NEXT to.

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The Too Much Too Soon ...

you have known each other for a couple of days and all of a sudden you are texting and talking TOO much. 

You go from being strangers to almost BFF's. At first its fun, and you have someone to text and share any random thought you have. He texts you with pictures and cute phrases and it makes you smile. But then one late night you realize that you don't know anything about this person, this person doesn't even make you comfortable. He asks you out on dates but you don't feel comfortable saying yes. Just days after having this thought, he text me just spilling his heart and sharing his life story with me. I'm just a stranger. I come to find out he's sick, was married for over 10 years, has 2 children. At this point I thought I didn't know him, but now I am POSITIVE I know nothing about him. 

The moment I knew it was over ... when he texts me asking if I am "feeling him" and I had to think of how to say NO without being too mean. My answer ... let me get to know you first. NEXT! 

[heshouldhavebeennamed]

The Guy who got Drunk and Yelled at me ...

this was a first. I hadn't been yelled at on a date before and looking back it makes me laugh. 

The night started with a Comedy show, and that was fun. We laughed and enjoyed it. The yelling didn't come until after the show an we headed to the bar scene. 

My date had a few too many drinks this night, even before i had met up with him, to the point that he was falling asleep on me on the car ride. When we finally get there he asked me what i wanted to do? where i wanted to go? I have no answer, because i just want to have fun and go into any bar and have a drink and do some dancing. This is what happened ... 

We go into one bar, where he is clearly a regular. He knows everyone, he knows his way around... we start talking to some of his friends and they go out for a smoke. The friends decide they are going somewhere else, but my date and i stay back. A few minutes later we decide to leave and that's when the fun starts. 

As we are heading out this bar he asks a few guys standing around if they have seen someone, who he is asking about i have no idea. But these guys don't like it and they exchange words. I tell him that i want to leave and as we leave he decides that he needs to use the restroom ... but as he walks into the restroom the guys from the bar follow him in. They even bump me out of the way to get to him. So i call back my date to not go into the restroom, he asks why and i say "i want to go somewhere else" 

his response ... to yell at me. To tell me that he is a grown man that can take care  of himself. That he needs no one to watch out for him. 

Well Mr. Drunk Yeller .... clearly you do need someone to watch over you because you have no idea what your doing. 

The thing about this all is that it upset me. We walked back to the car and i said nothing. He asked me if i was OK i responded yes. On the drive back to his place to drop him off he decided to call other females to ask what they are up to, saying things like "what are you up to? i want to be with you?" WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON?!?!?!?!?!

I lost it. I let him know that i hated him, never wanted to see him again. Done Deal. 

What i learned from the guy who gut drunk and yelled at me ... that boys will be boys but girls will be WOMEN :)   NEXT!!!! 

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The Talker ...

is the one that just simply talks TOO much. From the moment you shake his hands to say hello to the moment you say goodbye and walk in separate directions. 

Saturday evening just meeting up for a drink, that you later find out means coffee for "the Talker" and all he does is TALK. Very intelligent with interesting stories, but the question in my mind was "When will i get a word in??"

The problem on a date with "the Talker" is that you only hear his side of the story, and when you do have something to say and to add, you almost feel bad because you can tell that he just wants to keep talking. Its like not letting a child play with his favorite toy. Then there's the look on his face. While you speak it almost seems like a little part of him is dying because he cant live without hearing his own voice. 

What I learned from "the Talker"  ... he is not for me. I like men who can carry a conversation and has something interesting to say. But this was just too much. I love to talk, but "the Talker" likes to talk way too much. NEXT!