I'm sending this ask not to attack you, but because I feel that you are misinformed about TMA/TME, and while I understand where you are coming from I think that the answer you gave to a previous ask can be damaging.
(I'm going to copy paste some of the below from a similar conversation I had the other day so I apologise if there is anything that seems slightly off topic)
I think that the primary sticking point is that your description of TMA/TME primarily comes from the way that (trans) radfems and other bigoted people use it, instead of the way it's primarily used by the majority of people, especially trans women. An analogy I'll draw is your response feels like saying that feminism is bad because TERFS are bigoted. It's rlly important to remember that the people using TMA/TME to attack and put down trans men aren't the majority, and instead are a loud minority, and judging all of transfeminism and it's terms based on this minority can quickly tend towards bigotry.
As for TMA/TME itself (this is the part copy pasted):
Also I do kinda agree about your point about everyone being affected by transmisogyny, and in legitimate transfeminist discussions I do find that the name to be a bit off of what it's really trying to discuss. Realistically all the term exists for is because, for example, in traditional cisfeminism it's easy to discuss the concept of "women are the targets of misogyny". But when it comes to transfeminism it gets a little murky. Because just saying "trans women" excludes transfemme enbys among others. And while there are potentially broader terms you could try to use to encompass everyone, they can quickly become convoluted, and really the point is to discuss everyone that transmisogyny is targeting.
So when you actually approach tma/tme from a transfeminist perspective of trying to engage in genuine discussion of opression, it makes more sense, even if the words are a bit off.
I am truly sorry the way that these words have been used against trans men, and I can understand why you feel the way you do, but I really think it's important to not let a few bigots poison legitimate discussion. It's part of whats leading to the growing rift in the trans community, social media pushing the loudest cruel people to the surface, and people generalising entire groups (especially trans women) based on that.
So, I do somewhat agree that the original use of TME/TMA could potentially have been useful in discussions alongside other, more specific and more nuanced terms, because on its own TME/TMA is simply too binary to encompass the actual lived experiences of all trans, enben and intersex people, but acting alongside other terms, it could have been useful in discussions about transmisogyny and how it effects different people (although Iâd still take this with a grain of salt, because as you say yourself, the language is still too rigid no matter what context itâs used in).
However, I disagree with the analogy used here, because I donât think the two are comparable. I do believe that transfeminism itself has been hijacked by a loud minority, and does not reflect the wider transfeminist community (of which I have been a part of for many years, so I do have an idea of what Iâm talking about here. This isnât just a case of me looking at a few tumblr posts and deciding what I think TME/TMA means). But, when it comes to the actual TME/TMA acronyms, an entirely separate, exclusionary movement has essentially arisen from them to the point where they can no longer be used in a vacuum without acknowledging the wider harm that has already been caused.
Personally, I believe a lot of transfeminist discussions have been set back by the ideology surrounding the TME/TMA binary. To give an example, I sometimes see trans people (particularly trans men) use the term âfemale socialisationâ to describe their experiences growing up in a society that viewed them as a women, and how that connects to their manhood. The actual crux of this discussion is still an important one to have when talking about things like reproductive rights amongst trans men that cis men arenât affected by, but the actual term âfemale socialisationâ cannot be used in these discussions because it is far too associated with TERF ideology and excludes the nuances and perspectives of how trans women are raised in a transmisogynistic society. In my opinion, I would not trust anyone who uses this term without being wary of what other beliefs they may hold.
Some of these trans people will be using it sincerely because they simply donât have another term to put into words what theyâre trying to explain, but thatâs symptomatic of discussions that have not had the necessary time, space or input from other trans and intersex people to evolve better and more inclusive language.
Rejecting TME/TMA language does not mean rejecting transfeminist discussions as a whole, nor even the specific discussions that TME/TMA language was created for. It is simply rejecting terms that have caused far more harm, division and exclusion amongst the community than good.
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