A Wife's Introduction To Verbal Humiliation
What’s Erotic Verbal Humiliation?
Erotic humiliation fetishes are most popular among men and couples, sometimes called Small Penis Humiliation (SPH). Verbal belittlement is a consensual form of humiliation roleplay that creates a rise in excitement for both partners. Verbal humiliation is not new and is by far one of the fastest growing kinks among men and couples. A recent analysis of search engine search entries found inquiries for this type of fetish are up nearly seven-hundred percent in the past ten years. Men often crave this; however, have a difficult time getting their partner to participate. Nevertheless, the once reluctant partner often finds their own form of pleasure after giving verbal erotic humiliation a chance. They report being surprised by the heightened sexual energy they and their partner derive from SPH. Women often report a feeling of empowerment as well as their own sexual gratification from this activity. Similar to a dom/sub scenario.
This form of humiliation is typically done in private and falls under the BDSM umbrella, as such a safe word is always recommended.
The most common and often most desired form of erotic verbal humiliation usually involves making fun of a physical trait of one partner, such as the size of the male partner’s penis (SPH), or teasing about the size of a female partner’s breasts. Most people would find this behavior cruel and unthinkable. Men who want to be teased for having an inadequate penis size do not always have a small penis. In fact penis size appears to be irrelevant for men who are into verbal humiliation fetishes. Most are confident men, with an average or better penis size, and enjoy healthy fulfilling sex lives. In other words, his size doesn’t matter. Consider this sexy, consensual, roleplay. They are happy with the size of their penis, yet at the same time, enjoy the sting of a good barb thrown their way by their partner for not “measuring up”. Sexual stimulation is often, but not always, the result of verbal humiliation. A form of symbiotic relationship forms. The influence of pornography this believed to have spawned this kink. The men depicted in pornographic films are over well endowed. Men who are otherwise content with the size of their penis compare themselves to these men and, while they understand the actors are chosen specifically for their above average penis size.
Like physical pain, verbal humiliation is able to stimulate an area of the brain that also remembers social rewards. Since pleasure begins in the brain, the kink of verbal humiliation sparks something arousing in the mind when it’s brought onto the scene. Dominatrix and humiliation expert, Betty Pickles describes it as “the same kind of anxiety rush you get from going on a roller coaster.” It’s sort of awful, but you love it. Many men say they get an adrenaline rush from erotic humiliation or SPH.
How to incorporate verbal humiliation into your sex life?
First, make sure everyone involved is a consenting adult. Begin with ease, don’t dive into calling your partner every awful name you can think of saying to them. Before you begin, agree that your partner will let you know if you go too far. This is supposed to be fun, not hurtful. Remember, your partner has asked you to do this and wants you to enjoy it too. Weather you believe your partner is small or not, if they are approaching you with this, they have been thinking about this and wanting it for a while.
I would suggest starting with small talk—quick phrases, humiliating words (small, little, tiny). Use these words or phrases both in and out of the bedroom. Working small barbs into everyday conversations and situations will arouse your partner greatly, Use a thesaurus, learn some phrases, and seek out erotic verbal humiliation ideas. We will include a few near the end of this article. Always make sure to pick up on any cues from your partner and gauge reactions while also creating a comfort level for yourself. Test the waters in the beginning. Make sure your partner is still okay with this form of teasing after experiencing a few humiliation jabs
Find a balance between reassuring your partner they give you pleasure and wishing they had a little more to offer. This will keep them on their toes. Cursing and calling your partner’s body parts belittling names and terms is a way to turn your partner on. If your partner does not last as long as you both would like in bed, incorporate that into your verbal humiliation as well. Names like “Johnny Come Quickly” or “Minute Man” can add a deliciously fun dimension to your roleplay. For this conversation, we will focus on teasing your partner about his size, or lack thereof.
Here are some examples of humiliation words, phrases, or activities you and your partner might find arousing.
Start in private, start simple and progress until you both find the limits you are comfortable with.
Beginner Ideas: You will probably be at this stage for a while. Have fun with it.
Give your partner’s penis an unflattering nickname e.g. shorty, shrinkydink, tiny, clitty, little guy, pin dick, baby dick, pee-wee, wee-wee, or Minnie for starters. When you talk about his penis use “small” synonyms. (Little, tiny, sad, miniature, fun sized, needle, pencil, teeny, mini, etc.)
Compare your partner’s penis to other penises you have seen. Of course he always will be the smallest of all the penises you have seen or experienced in your life.
Compare his penis size to a larger sex toy. Hold a large sex toy next to his penis, show him where his penis reaches and highlight exactly how much larger it is than he is. Also, comment on how much thicker the toy is. Tell him this size gives you pleasure. Tell him your toy goes much deeper than he does or that it reaches places inside you he cannot.
Never underestimate the power of a well-placed giggle. Giggle when you see him naked, when he is getting out of the shower, or changing clothes, etc. Laugh, grin, or shake your head in contempt when you see your partner’s naked penis.
Giggle and or call his penis “cute” while holding it in your hand.
Comment in how small his penis looks or feels in your hand.
During sex comment on how his penis doesn’t fill you up like your toys.
Use phrases like “Size matters” or “Bigger is better” in your daily conversations.
Wiggling your pinkie finger at him and giggle. This can be done in public as well.
Take pictures of your partner’s penis. Make sure to look at the picture and comment on the small size. “I have to zoom in to even see it. It’s so small.”
Send him a picture of his penis and then send him a picture of a larger penis. Point out the obvious size difference.
Use words like small, little, or tiny, put an emphasis on these words and make eye contact with your partner, or point to your partner’s genitals when saying such words. This can be done in private or public.
Shower and or bathe together, or go skinny dipping. Comment on his small package or tell him things like “I didn’t think it could get any smaller” (shrinkage)
Randomly comment on the lack of “bulge” in his pants, shorts, or underwear.
Ask your partner when he realized he had a small penis.
Randomly grab his genitals through his pants and snicker or comment on how small his package feels in your hand, then walk away unimpressed.
More Advanced ideas:
Stop him mid-way through sex, tell him he is not doing the trick, you need more and finish the job with one of your larger toys.
Have sex in a position that makes it difficult for him to keep his penis inside you. Comment how he wouldn’t slip out if he was longer.
While in the missionary position, yawn while your partner is having sex with you. Do not show him you are receiving pleasure from his efforts. “Let me know when you’re done.”
Regularly leave one of your larger toys out on the nightstand or in the shower (whether you used it or not) giving him the impression you had “big” fun without him.
Text your partner and tell them you are horny because you have been thinking of bigger penises.
A few seconds after your partner puts his penis in you, ask him to let you know when he puts his penis in you. “Tell me when you put it in.”
Acknowledgement, ask him if he thinks he has a small penis and agree with him when he says yes.
Watch porn with him and talk about how big the other men are compared to him.
Show him pictures of penises you find on the internet that are bigger than him. Tell him you think they would feel good. Text pictures of bigger penises while he is out or at work. Tell him you are curious how a larger penis would feel.
Threaten to show others pictures you have taken of his penis, revealing his “little” secret.
During sex, tell him you are “curious what a big cock feels like.”
Send your partner a picture of his penis and then send him a picture of a larger penis. Point out the obvious size difference.
The toilet roll holder test: If his penis fits in a toilet roll, he is not thick enough. If his penis does not come out the other end, he is not long enough. You and he both know he doesn’t even come close but you will still make him do it anyway just so you can laugh at it.
Tease him; tell him a bigger cock would satisfy you more than his. Next time you are giving him a hand job, tell him you fantasize about having another man satisfy you with a bigger dick.
While having sex, make your partner stop, with a frustrated tone, tell him “Nevermind” and finish yourself with a larger toy. He can masturbate while watching you,
Compare your partner’s penis to random household objects. Be amused when he loses a comparison; be surprised and disappointed when he wins a comparison.
Describe your perfect penis size; of course your perfect penis would be a few inches longer than his penis. If he is five inches, seven would be your ideal length. Even if you are satisfied with his size, remember this is roleplay.
Step up your game, use stronger words to describe his lack of size. (Pathetic, embarrassing, useless, pitiful, underwhelming, stubby, half sized, petite, puny, etc.)
Take your humiliation fun out in public. Once you have practiced verbal humiliation in private it’s time to take the fun outside.
At the grocery store, show him items such as baby carrots or a can of cocktail weenies and tell him they remind you of his penis.
In public surmise out load that other men you see probably have a larger penis than your partner. “I bet that guy over there has a bigger dick than you.” The grocery store or restaurants are good places to practice this. If your partner has fantasies about you having sex with other men, say hello to a man you have pointed out that may be bigger than him.
If you have a friend or friends, who would be into it, tell them about your partner’s kink and have them join in on the teasing. (advanced) Tease your partner about this possibility beforehand and make sure he would be onboard before including others. The outside participant(s) may not need to know all of the details and may not need to see proof of the man’s size. Just knowing the man likes to be teased may be enough. The degree of involvement or whether or not the outsider(s) sees the man’s penis should be discussed and agreed upon by all participants.
Go to a nude beach. Demands that he take a dip in the cold water and then take a stroll along the beach to show everyone his small male equipment (advanced).
Recap, make sure all consent before beginning, open communication is key, its roleplay get creative. Take it as far as you are both comfortable and enjoying it. Keep it fun, keep it kinky.