Awfully difficult becoming real, isn't it?

Just because it's been hard doesn't mean it has to stay that way forever. We're already living our lives every day, but it changes in phases and we continue anyway. Humans are my favourite animal, but I'm still not great at feeling like one.

[avatar-of-the-web]

I just want to relieve the pressure, I can't afford to live.

[friendofthefellowshipsnerdblog]

Since I discovered that “step out of your comfort zone” is supposed to mean “safely experiment with doing small things to expand your life experience” and not “ignore the fact that you are disabled and cause yourself physical and emotional pain until you have a meltdown and then stay in bed for two days straight”, my life has drastically improved.

[mtomauw]

I did a tweet on this but lemme put it in here anyway

So yeah 'step out of your comfort zone' means 'engage your learning zone' but not 'Ignore all your feelings and yeet your ass into the panic zone'

[brightlotusmoon]

[the-moon-loves-the-sea]

This is so wrong, though. Because “Don’t sit down, never sit down,” is absolutely what some of the most productive adhders I know are living by, and it’s killing them. They burn out, their health breaks down, they lose the capacity to sleep a full night because their nervous systems have forgotten how to relax, they live with chronic systemic pain that doctors can’t find a source for.

If you want to live a productive life with adhd, forget about your productivity looking like a neurotypical’s. What you need are the brain engine primers, a habit of trusting yourself, and a phone timer. What I mean is, believe that you are capable of finding a way to do what you need to do. Let go of what neurotypical people tell you about life goals and five year plans and figure out what is important to you.

And then figure out what starts your engine. Not just one thing, ten or twenty things. Does a cup of coffee in the morning help your brain get in gear? Do you process better if you go on a walk? Do you feel more present in your body with a regular yoga class? Is there music you can play that gets you hyped?

And then ride the waves of your brain. Take ten or twenty minutes to do whatever is the next thing you need — a phone call or the vacuuming or a report — and then stop. (Unless you’re on a roll you want to ride; keep going then while it still feels good, unless it’s been an hour or two and you need to eat and pee and take a breather.) Put the task down. Set the damn phone timer for ten minutes or twenty. Get one of the calm-down things that puts you back in your body — a cup of tea, or a moment standing outside breathing deep, or a look at tumblr, or a snack.

Then when the timer goes off, pick a brain starter. Put the playlist on or pull your hair back or start pacing, and start the next damn thing. Or the same damn thing. And be proud of yourself. You are gorgeous and you’ve got this.

[brightlotusmoon]

You're so correct.

I've known so many people who assumed they were exceptions. They were for a while. Now one of them needs a new hip and another needs a knee replacement.

[headspace-hotel]

Thank god someone responded with this because I was about to be like "I am obligated to warn you, that you are going to be learning a very big lesson some time soon."

Your fancy human brain is very young. It thinks of ideas, yes! But you have in the very core of your being, a billions-of-years-old survival engine that ruthlessly keeps you alive.

You can be determined to live your life as though you are being hunted for sport, and you will either die, destroy your health, or this much more ancient part of you will save you, by making your body fall apart in very bizarre ways until you have no choice but to rest.

[human-specialist]

The bottle usually has the integrity of approximately 20 years.

It depends, of course. Under low-stress (which may not feel like it relatively speaking) environments, the bottle could last a life-time. In this day and age, though, it always cracks so much quicker than that. It's likely that if the times got worse, the time-span would decrease. This isn't a sign of weakness.

It's physics.

It's likely that if the times got worse, the time-span would decrease. But on another end, the times are always changing. An improvement could lead to the invention of a way to relieve the bottle of pressure.

The future contains more than you are capable of imagining: this includes the facts we could discover, don't forget that.

You can't actually imagine what the Earth will be like 100 years from now. You can't know enough.

[human-specialist]

It's about time You remembered who You are.

[human-specialist]

It's about time You remembered who you are.

[human-specialist]

It's about time you remembered who You are.

[reikacchan]

don't give up

[mornington-the-crescent]

[human-specialist]

Do you know the difference between you & You?

It's alright if you don't.

You are only you, for now, anyway.

That's not a bad thing.

It's neutral.

My point is that you won't understand everything I say. And that's because this is because I'm speaking to You and not you, though you are the one reading.

Despite the fact that I'm speaking to You and not you, the story is actually for you more than it is for You.

And it's perfectly okay if you don't understand, you aren't falling behind, you won't be left behind.

Just stay calm and We can get through this.

Okay?

[human-specialist]

What you give is what you get.

But we live in a highly complicated world, in highly complicated bodies.

And we carry the burdens, the curses, the scars that our families passed down and often didn't or couldn't warn us about.

So it's not just about what You give.

It all got so convoluted that it feels like the back-around never reaches us.

But it comes in equally complicated waves.

All I can say is

Your time will come.

[human-specialist]

You can't fathom what you lost, because you likely never even got to hold it. But still you know you've been reaching for it, yearning it.

Without ever knowing it, you missed it.

Attempts to imagine it are crushing, it feels like it'll never change but

I've been on a Very long journey to get it back to You.

[human-specialist]

Hunger

“You are

So dramatic”

Perception is relative

They may be too # to see

But they make up my body

Billions of voices, shouting

I dedicated myself to hearing them

And they are all screaming

The same things

This is amplifying

My drama is attunement

I'm aware of your perception of me

I refuse to be taught to drown them out

They are me

And this is not how we want to end

To find it annoying begs for the end without making room for the next beginning

So I'll hold open the door

Even though it hurts

I'll meet their needs instead.

[human-specialist]

Something was stolen from You.

[human-specialist]

QR: Why can't I figure it out?

You are focusing on the problem as a whole - and that makes the details of any part of the problem vague. Once you break up the problem into parts, you get to focus on the part. Even that may be vague - but it just means you need to break it up into parts. Keep notes about what you are working on - it will help later by making your thoughts more focused. Eventually you get to a point where the problem solution to the part is obvious… and you can program that part.

Why is programming vague to me?: Answer by Jesse Pollard

[human-specialist]

Hello.

This is the beginning.

It's a little out of order.

You don't mind.

[human-specialist]

So tell me what do we need with the sun? Now we have an electric one To melt every shadow away Turn the night in to day So give a shout of farewell; Now we know we can build it ourselves But oh, we stared so long We Forgot We Were Human by Dirt Poor Robins, 2019

[human-specialist]

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