(wow i feel old saying that)
I’ve seen a lottttt of younger fans being so hateful toward Tom’s girlfriend and even toward Tom in general since he posted that picture of her. And this isn’t new because when they were seen together at a musical festival earlier this year/last year (I don’t remember when exactly), the same thing happened.
Do y’all remember how Tom essentially disappeared from social media for a bit after that? Yeah, hm. Wonder why.
Now, as someone who has gone through many of her “celebrity crushes” having relationships, I come bearing some wisdom.
First of all: I know it’s hard to hear or whatever, but give up on that fantasy that you are going to meet them one day and they are going to fall in love with you. Especially if they are in their 20s (or older) and you’re a teenager/barely 18. Give it up. It’s fine to read fanfiction, but don’t let that cloud your reality. And if it is, maybe back off the fanfics for a while.
Second: You don’t know them personally. You don’t know anything about their relationships. You do not know them. You know the version of them that they show on social media, in interviews, etc. But you do not know them. And they do not know you, nor do they owe you anything at all.
Third: They don’t have to share their relationship with us. Take it as a compliment if they even post anything because it shows they want to tell the world, they want to share it with us because they care about us. But they don’t have to. Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn are a prime example of this. It’s a privilege to be shown pictures and shared stories. Don’t harass them so much that they never want to include us on anything ever again, or to the point where they disappear to be safe/comfortable. Everyone else in the world is allowed to share their love lives. Just because someone is a celebrity doesn’t mean they should “expect” this harassment. It’s childish and makes you look obnoxious, so don’t do it.
Lastly: I want you to know that if you do feel a little sad about this, that it’s okay.
I will admit, it’s been hard for me lately to see a lot of my “celebrity crushes” be in relationships, going on dates, etc. It’s hard to see not because I’m delusional enough to think I have a chance with them, but because my brain sees it as, “There’s someone else who is happily in love and it’s not me.”
Love is something I have yet to find or even truly believe that it exists. But just because someone else has found it, celebrity or not, doesn’t mean they deserve to be harassed for it.