i hate this, i hate it. im a 36 year old adult whose parents thought that social isolation was an appropriate response to poor grades. guess what? it didnt pull my grades up. what it did was fuck me up in ways i still havent recovered from.
isolating your child from their friends isnt a substitute for parenting them. it is, however, a great way to prepare them for being abused in the future, since isolation is one of the most common tactics abusers use to entrap their victims. congratulations, youve just taught your daughter that thats a normal and healthy response to her not behaving in ways that satisfy the people in coontrol of her.
how about you fucking parent up, figure out whats bothering her, and get her the help she needs– whether it be emotional or psychological support, or a tutor– instead of this lazy, disgusting bullshit.
To be honest, this isn't exactly horrible as everyone is screaming it is. It is really different for different people.
For 1: this child owns a smartphone in highschool.
I didn't, half of the kids like me didn't. The only people in my school who owned smartphones were the rich kids or kids in very well off families.
Half of those kids used those smartphones for selfies or memes with kids they saw every day during school, ate lunch with, had sports with, had after school classes with and went over and hung out with.
And to be honest, while I would completely join the abuse wagon (seeing how I could only access the internet AT school half of the time) if you go home and are spending 90% of the time talking online with your friends, you also need to stop and figure out what's wrong.
I got bullied like shit when I was young. I came home early 3 times a week to avoid certain classes. Even when my father died I avoided school.
But that was SCHOOL. I should have been able to do my homework. To sit down and attempt SOMETHING. But half of the kids today don't. I didn't. I avoided classes because of a kid. Why did I avoid my homework?
Oh yeah! Because I was at home with internet access. And while I said "I'm using it to talk to the only friends I have on the other side of the world!" Half of those friends left for work and worked 8 hours or went to bed because they were literally on the other side of the world.
All of the time I spent scrolling through tumblr looking at pictures and refreshing, and scrolling, and refreshing, and scrolling, and refreshing, could have been used to make sure I didn't have to pull the "my father died my senior year" card to get accepted into the shittiest college in my god damn area and eventually be fucked into a proverbial hole because -like I said- the school fucking sucks.
When you people grow up and your kids cuss you out for taking their phone because they're failing or skipping school and you start getting threats from the school, you'll understand. Sometimes shitty discipline might need to be necessary.
And if you guys experience it now, try talking with an adult. See your school counsellor if you're so alienated or hurt you need to spend 90% of your time on the internet to forget you even exist. Talk to a parent, talk to a friends parent, fuck, talk to your grandma! Or a teacher! If you go to a teacher, they will help counsel you. They will talk you through the worst shit.
But i think it's important for people to forget the saying "what happens in highschool doesn't matter" because it sure as fuck does. It's important and because I fucked myself I have to go back to a college that has nothing for me and attempt to transfer out all over again.
Learn when you should put up the phone and attempt to avoid being shit on in the future. Or do homework while chatting on the internet. But don't use "i was talking to my friends on the internet" as an excuse to not do your work. And get help.
When you're an adult and on your own no one will help you. Especially if you don't ask.
