I thought it would be fun to analyze your future spouse's parents, aka your in-laws to see what they are like and how they affected your future spouse growing up and subsequently into adulthood. I'll add this to both my groom (5129) & briede (19029) persona chart series. Note that this is not how they act towards you, as that can be seen through the 9th house of your natal chart imo. This is how your future spouse sees them and how they were to your FS growing up. For this method it only applies to your Groom or Briede persona chart.
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☕ Look at the Sun & 4th house of the Groom persona chart for male spouses OR Sun & 10th house in the Briede persona chart for female spouses.
🪷Aries (°1,°13,°25) | 1st House
Their father was likely the type of man who always had to be doing something. Sitting still, waiting around, or overthinking problems probably wasn't his style. He may have been athletic, competitive, outspoken, or naturally commanding. People likely saw him as confident and decisive, though those closest to him may have also known him to be impatient, stubborn, or quick-tempered. He may have believed that life rewards courage and that people should solve their own problems rather than rely on others. As a parent, he likely encouraged independence from an early age. Instead of comforting your FS through every difficulty, he may have pushed them to figure things out themselves. He may have taught them to stand up for themselves, defend what they believe in, and never let others walk over them. May have raised their voice more often than necessary just to "be heard" at home, thus encouraging your FS to speak up or defend their counter argumens. At times, however, this could have made your FS feel like vulnerability or asking for help was a weakness. Growing up, your FS may have felt challenged, pushed, or constantly encouraged to be stronger. As an adult, they may be highly self-reliant, ambitious, and capable under pressure, but may struggle admitting when they need support.
🪷Taurus (°2,°14,°26) | 2nd House
Their father was likely dependable, practical, and someone who valued consistency above all else. He may have enjoyed routine, comfort, good food, financial security, or building a stable life for his family. Others likely saw him as reliable and trustworthy, though also stubborn and resistant to change. Once he made up his mind about something, convincing him otherwise was probably difficult. As a parent, he may have focused heavily on providing. His way of showing love may have been through making sure bills were paid, food was on the table, and everyone was taken care of. He may not have been overly emotional, believing actions speak louder than words. Your FS learned the importance of patience, hard work, and financial responsibility. However, they may have also inherited fears surrounding instability, loss, or uncertainty. As adults, they may seek secure relationships and stable environments because that is what feels familiar.
🪷Gemini (°3,°15,°27) | 3rd House
Their father was likely intelligent, curious, and always had something to say. He may have loved discussing ideas, current events, hobbies, or random topics that caught his interest. People probably found him entertaining, witty, and knowledgeable. However, he may have struggled with consistency, often jumping between interests, plans, or opinions. As a parent, he likely taught through conversation rather than authority. He may have enjoyed debating with your FS, asking questions, giving advice, or encouraging them to think for themselves. Emotional conversations, however, may have been redirected into logical discussions rather than heartfelt ones. Growing up, your FS may have felt mentally stimulated but occasionally emotionally misunderstood. Their father taught them how to communicate, adapt, and learn quickly, and solve quickly. As adults, they may be excellent communicators but sometimes intellectualize feelings rather than fully experiencing them.
🪷Cancer (°4,°16,°28) | 4th House
Their father was likely deeply connected to family and home life. He may have been protective, nurturing, sentimental, and highly influenced by his emotions. Even if he appeared strong externally, there was probably a softer side that only family members truly saw. His moods may have affected the atmosphere of the household more than anyone realized. He might've been a worrywart, and even overbearing and overprotective of your FS. As a parent, he likely cared about your FS's well-being and safety. He may have worried about them frequently, offered emotional support, or become overly protective at times. Family traditions, memories, and emotional bonds may have been extremely important to him. Emotions, family and responsibilities. Because of that, your FS grew to be. very attracted to comfort and safety in their life. They may also become highly sensitive to the moods of those they love.
🪷Leo (°5,°17,°29) | 5th House
Their father was likely someone people noticed immediately. He may have been charismatic, confident, creative, humorous, or naturally drawn to the spotlight. He likely enjoyed being admired and may have taken pride in his appearance, accomplishments, or reputation. People may have seen him as generous and warm-hearted, though occasionally dramatic or prideful. This was the father that randomly started singing in the middle of doing laundry or dishes. As a parent, he probably encouraged confidence and self-expression. He may have attended performances, celebrated achievements, proudly introduced your FS to others, or encouraged them to pursue talents and passions. However, your FS may have occasionally felt pressure to make him proud or live up to expectations. Your FS likely received encouragement to shine but may have become sensitive to praise and criticism. They often possess natural confidence but secretly care deeply about how others perceive them.
🪷Virgo (°6,°18) | 6th House
Their father was likely hardworking, practical, and constantly focused on improvement. He may have been organized, responsible, and attentive to details that others overlooked. People likely respected his reliability, though some may have found him overly critical or difficult to please. As a parent, he probably expressed love by helping, fixing problems, giving advice, or teaching useful skills. Rather than offering endless praise, he may have pointed out ways your FS could improve. His intentions were likely good, but his delivery may have felt harsh at times. Growing up, your FS may have felt that mistakes were noticed more than successes. Their father likely taught responsibility, discipline, and strong work ethics. They may be highly competent but struggle with perfectionism and a LOT of self-criticism.
🪷Libra (°7,°19) | 7th House
Their father was likely charming, sociable, and well-liked by others. He may have cared about manners, fairness, appearance, and maintaining good relationships. People probably viewed him as diplomatic and easy to get along with. However, he may have avoided conflict or struggled making difficult decisions. Might've been the "I'll ask my wife" guy. As a parent though, he likely encouraged cooperation and compromise. He may have taught your FS how to navigate relationships, treat people respectfully, and maintain harmony. Arguments may have been discouraged in favor of keeping the peace. Your FS learned how to understand others and work well with people. However, they may also struggle with confrontation or prioritizing their own needs over everyone else's.
🪷Scorpio (°8,°20) | 8th House
Their father was likely intense, private, and emotionally complex. May have had a temper to him as well. He may have been the type of person who revealed very little about himself while quietly observing everything around him. The type of father everyone was carful around. People may have respected him, feared him, or found him mysterious. Trust was likely something he took very seriously. As a parent, he may have been protective but controlling. He expected loyalty and honesty and may have reacted strongly when either was broken. They may have face a lot of trouble with thier father, or had trouble surrounding their father whatever that may be. They learned lessons about trust, betrayal, vulnerability, and emotional resilience very early.
🪷Sagittarius (°9,°21) | 9th House
Their father was likely adventurous, optimistic, and always looking toward the future. He may have loved travel, education, philosophy, religion, or learning about different cultures. People probably saw him as inspiring, entertaining, and open-minded, though perhaps somewhat restless or difficult to tie down. More than often though, he may have been quite the know it all type of father. He likely encouraged independence and exploration but also taught many lessons (or rather started yapping about his realizations and ideals) just as often. He may have taught your FS to think for themselves, question assumptions, and seek experiences beyond their comfort zone. Rules too, may have been less important than life lessons. Your FS may have been encouraged to dream big and pursue opportunities. However, there may have been times when they wished for more consistency or emotional presence. Therefore , as adults they value freedom and personal growth. It may be hard for them to take life too seriously though on the count of always having to hear their father's "lesson of the week/day" throughout their adolescence.
🪷Capricorn (°10,°22) | 10th House
Their father was likely the type of man who always seemed busy. He may have worked long hours, held a position of authority, owned a business, managed people, or simply carried a lot of responsibility on his shoulders. The type of man who believed that respect is earned, not given, and may have expected the same level of discipline from your FS that he expected from himself. He was probably not the most emotionally expressive person. Instead of saying "I'm proud of you," he may have shown it through practical support, paying for things, giving advice, or helping solve problems. Your FS may have felt that mistakes were taken seriously in this household. Their father may have set clear expectations regarding grades, behavior, work ethic, or future goals. He may have compared your FS to successful people, encouraged them to be ambitious, or reminded them not to waste opportunities. Even if he did genuinely loved them, his affection may have sometimes felt conditional on performance. Because of this, your FS may have become highly responsible, mature for their age, and achievement-oriented, but may secretly struggle with feeling like they are never quite doing enough.
🪷Aquarius (°11,°23) | 11th House
Their father was likely unconventional, intelligent, and somewhat unpredictable. He may have had unusual interests, progressive views, or simply approached life differently than most people. People likely saw him as unique, independent, and forward-thinking. However, he may have appeared emotionally detached at times . Felt more like a friend than a parent as well. As a parent, he likely encouraged individuality and freedom. He may have wanted your FS to think independently rather than blindly follow rules. While supportive of their uniqueness, he may not always have been emotionally expressive or nurturing. Your FS may have felt respected as an individual but occasionally wished for more emotional closeness. Because of their father, they often value freedom, authenticity, and personal independence very strongly.
🪷Pisces (°12,°24) | 12th House
As Pisces usually is, this placement is rather divided. On one hand, their father was likely compassionate, imaginative, and difficult to fully understand. He may have been artistic, spiritual, empathetic, or someone who often seemed lost in his own world. People may have viewed him as gentle and kind, though sometimes elusive, inconsistent, or hard to read. Might've had himself the "guru" image too. Then on the other he was likey very spiritual, or self indulgent to the point of neglect. As a parent, he may have encouraged creativity, empathy, and compassion or his lack there of. However, there may have been periods where he felt emotionally unavailable, physically absent, overwhelmed by life, or difficult for your FS to connect with consistently. Your FS may have spent years trying to understand who he truly was, developing strong intuition and empathy. At the same time, they may carry lingering questions about their father or struggle distinguishing reality from idealization in relationships. Might have developed some kind of daddy issues though.
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🪷Aries (°1,°13,°25) | 1st House
Their mother was likely a woman with a strong personality who rarely waited for permission to do what she wanted. She may have been fiercely independent, outspoken, protective, and the type to take charge when nobody else would. Whether people loved her or disliked her, she was difficult to ignore. She may have been the parent who handled crises, made quick decisions, and taught her children to be resilient. Growing up, your FS may have felt that their mother expected strength rather than sensitivity. She may have encouraged them to defend themselves, take initiative, and avoid depending too heavily on others. While she could be incredibly supportive, patience may not have been her strongest trait. If your FS lingered in self-pity or indecision, she may have pushed them to "do something about it." As adults, your FS may become courageous and self-sufficient but may struggle asking for help or showing vulnerability.
🪷Taurus (°2,°14,°26) | 2nd House
Their mother was likely the anchor of the household. She may have cared deeply about comfort, security, food, finances, traditions, and maintaining a peaceful home. There was probably something calming about her presence. She may have had favorite recipes, routines she never deviated from, and strong opinions about how things should be done. She likely showed love through practical care rather than grand emotional displays. Making sure everyone was fed, comfortable, and provided for may have been her love language. However, she could also be stubborn and resistant to change, especially when it came to family matters. Your FS likely grew up feeling protected and cared for, but may have learned to cling to what feels safe. As adults, they often value stability and consistency in relationships.
🪷Gemini (°3,°15,°27) | 3rd House
Their mother was likely curious, sociable, expressive, and mentally active. She may have always had a story to tell, advice to give, or a question to ask. The household may have been filled with conversations, jokes, gossip, books, television, or constant mental stimulation. She may have treated your FS almost like a friend at times, encouraging open communication and discussion. However, her attention may have occasionally felt scattered. She may have been physically present while mentally occupied with ten different things at once. Your FS likely learned how to communicate effectively because of her influence. They may be quick thinkers and adaptable people, though they may sometimes struggle sitting with emotions instead of explaining them away. For them to feel meaningful, was to be useful, and to always know what to do. Might've been a bit nosy as a parent as well.
🪷Cancer (°4,°16,°28) | 4th House
Their mother was likely the emotional heart of the family. She may have remembered every birthday, saved old photographs, cherished family traditions, and placed enormous importance on loved ones staying connected. Her moods may have quietly influenced the entire household atmosphere. She likely worried about your FS more than she admitted. She may have been nurturing, protective, and deeply invested in their well-being. At times, however, she could become overly attached, making it difficult for your FS to separate from family expectations. Growing up, your FS likely felt loved but also deeply affected by their mother's emotional state. As adults, they often seek emotional security and may carry a strong attachment to family and tradition.
🪷Leo (°5,°17,°29) | 5th House
Their mother was likely vibrant, expressive, and impossible to overlook. She may have enjoyed dressing well, entertaining guests, celebrating milestones, or making ordinary moments feel special. People probably remembered her warmth, confidence, and presence. She likely took great pride in her children and may have loved showing off their accomplishments. Whether it was academics, sports, talents, or personal achievements, she genuinely wanted to see your FS shine. At times, however, her pride may have unintentionally created pressure to succeed. Your FS likely grew up feeling encouraged to express themselves and pursue their talents. As adults, they may be confident and creative but surprisingly sensitive to criticism. Drama was likely quite prevalent in the household as well, meaning for your FS to be heard, they had to be both loud and dramatic to mat h their mother's theatrics.
🪷Virgo (°6,°18) | 6th House
Their mother was likely practical, organized, and constantly paying attention to details that everyone else overlooked. She may have been the person who remembered appointments, fixed problems before they escalated, and kept daily life functioning smoothly. Her love was often expressed through acts of service. Rather than emotional speeches, she showed care by helping, organizing, reminding, teaching, and making life easier for those she loved. However, she may have struggled with perfectionism or worrying excessively. Growing up, your FS likely learned responsibility, discipline, and good habits. They may also have developed a tendency to be hard on themselves because they absorbed her high standards. They may be especially judgmental towards others they deem they are better than.
🪷Libra (°7,°19) | 7th House
Their mother was likely graceful, diplomatic, and socially aware. She may have cared about manners, appearances, fairness, and maintaining harmony between people. Others probably found her charming and easy to get along with. She may have played the role of mediator within the family, smoothing over arguments and encouraging compromise. However, she may have disliked conflict so much that important issues were occasionally avoided rather than confronted. Your FS likely learned how to navigate relationships through her example. They may be naturally considerate and cooperative but sometimes struggle making decisions or asserting themselves. Because of that, your FS learned to go with the flow and just smile and wave at whatever drama comes their way. Nothing is too serious, nor black and white.
🪷Scorpio (°8,°20) | 8th House
Their mother was likely an incredibly complex woman. She may have been intensely loving but also intensely private. People outside the family may never have fully understood her because she revealed only what she wanted others to see. She may have been highly intuitive, emotionally perceptive, and protective of her loved ones. However, she may also have had trust issues, emotional wounds, or a tendency to keep secrets. Your FS may have always felt that there was more going on beneath the surface than what was openly discussed. Growing up, they likely experienced a deep emotional bond with her, whether positive or challenging. Your FS may have seen her as a guiding light in the storm to live by or follow. As adults, they develop strong instincts and emotional resilience but may be cautious about trusting others, tending to prioritize themselves and their assumptios. Your mother in law might have been a bit of a recluse or a pessimist too. Their mother is either the "their just jealous of you" or "you're just overthinking it" type of mom. Usually no in-between.
🪷Sagittarius (°9,°21) | 9th House
She may have loved learning, travelling, exploring new ideas, or exposing her children to different perspectives. People probably saw her as spirited and open-minded. She may have encouraged your FS to chase opportunities, think independently, and broaden their horizons. Rather than sheltering them, she may have wanted them to experience life firsthand. Sometimes, however, she may have seemed more focused on possibilities than practical realities. Your FS likely grew up believing life should be explored rather than feared. As adults, they often crave freedom, growth, and meaningful experiences. Their mom might not have taken that many things to seriously, and it's likely she was always busy with travel or learning as well especially if sitting in the 9th house. She's a smart woman with an open and optimistic mind, though she could have been quite the sarcastic woman too. She was the mom that encouraged either spirituality or self discovery.
🪷Capricorn (°10,°22) | 10th House
She was an “appearance first” type of woman. She was strict with your FS and may have had a hand in micromanaging their life and childhood. She taught your FS to be an achiever, someone with clear goals and motive. Her love may have sometimes come across as conditional. Succeed and you’ll be praised for your efforts. Fail, then try again and make it right. She likely also has high expectations for your spouse and has made that very clear with them. May have been quite a by the books perso too. Rather than allowing them to simply "figure things out," she may have had clear ideas about what was best for them and expected those standards to be followed.
🪷Aquarius (°11,°23) | 11th House
Your mother in law is likely a very sociable person. She may have been highly educated, eccentric, unconventional, career-focused, socially active, or simply someone who marched to the beat of her own drum. Friends, community groups, social causes, hobbies, or intellectual pursuits may have played a significant role in her life. She may have had an unusual circle of friends or exposed your FS to people from many different backgrounds growing up. Rather than raising your FS to follow traditions, she likely encouraged them to question them. She may have valued intelligence over obedience and individuality over conformity. This is the type of mother who might tell her child, "I don't care what everyone else is doing, what do you think?" She likely wanted your FS to become their own person rather than an extension of herself.
🪷Pisces (°12,°24) | 12th House
Their mother was likely a woman your FS spent years trying to fully understand. She may have been deeply compassionate, creative, spiritual, artistic, or emotionally sensitive, but there was often an air of mystery surrounding her. Even family members may have felt there were parts of her inner world she never completely shared. She may have been the type of person who carried everyone's burdens on her shoulders. Friends, relatives, struggling family members, or people in need may have frequently turned to her for support. At times, your FS may have witnessed her sacrificing her own happiness, energy, or well-being for others. She may have had a tendency to see the good in people even when they did not deserve it. For some, this can indicate a mother who seemed emotionally distant not because she lacked love, but because she was battling private struggles, grief, disappointment, exhaustion, or circumstances your FS didn't fully understand as a child. There may have been periods where she felt unavailable, overwhelmed, absent, or difficult to reach emotionally. One of three things is possible, either she was neglectful, incredibly spiritual, overly altruistic (meaning she was emphatic or a good mother, just not.. to your FS in terms of presence & involvement).
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☕ Conjunctions applied to their relation to the parent house (10th & 4th) and planets Sun (father) and Moon (mother) only.
Your in-law was likely one of the most influential people in your FS's life. Their approval mattered a lot growing up, and your spouse may have spent years trying to make them proud. This parent encouraged confidence, ambition, and achievement, but may have also placed pressure on your FS to live up to their expectations. Worst case scenario, they were overly dominant and expected your FS to become who they wanted rather than who they truly were.
Your future spouse was likely emotionally attached to this parent and highly affected by their moods, behaviors, and emotional state. This parent may have been nurturing, protective, and deeply involved in their day-to-day life. They taught your FS how to process emotions, express affection, and seek comfort during difficult times. Much of how they treat mirrors their parent. The relationship may have felt very instinctive, with your FS naturally turning to them for reassurance. Even as an adult, this parent's influence may still shape how your FS approaches love, family, and emotional security. They were emotional and unpredictable at times. It's likely that your FS was either spoiled or taken care of really well. Worst case scenario, they were emotionally unpredictable, guilt-tripping, or overly attached to your FS.
Your in-law was likely a strong-willed, protective, and sometimes intimidating parent. They pushed your FS to stand up for themselves, be resilient, and fight for what they want. There may have been frequent clashes, especially if your spouse was equally stubborn. Worst case scenario, this parent had anger issues, was overly controlling, or could be physically aggressive.
This in law is both smart and inquisitive. They were always busy with one thing or another, and thought your spouse how to be curious. Encouraging your spouse to learn and focus on a certain skill or education in general. This parent was likely talkative too, with that being a highlight in their childhood home.
Your future spouse was likely very close to this parent, seeing them as kind and ideal. They may be very close to this parent as well. A lot of their ideals came from this parent. Your in law is likely beautiful, or has a good sense of taste with whatever they do. From communication to their relationships and home interior this parent taught your FS the importance of beauty and indulgence.
Your in law was a strict parent, likely very harsh and traditional. Expected a lot from your spouse and may have exacted very… “traditional “ ideas onto them about life and how they should live it. This parent may have been significantly older in the family as well ( could be the oldest amongst their siblings) and thus acted that way towards your spouse. Tough love all the way. Worst case scenario, they might’ve been physically abusive of your FS especially as a child.
This parent may have been absent for a lot of your future spouse’s life, even if they have lived in the same roof it may feel like they did not have the closest relationship. For that reason, your spouse themselves has a lack of understanding and connection to them. Could have been quite the sentimental or religious parent as well. It’s likely this parent left a bit of a void in your spouse’s mind that either developed into hyper sensitivity or dissociative tendencies.
This parent was likely a funky one. Someone very independent and intelligent (though, creative seems to be more the case usually) and thought your spouse to be a little wild and carefree. This was the fun parent, but also the weird one. They might have pushed your FS to be a smart thinker, and to be more confident in their own creativity. A lot of their quirks could have came from this parent.
This parent was controlling, harsh and aggressive. They owned the house, and taught your spouse to thread carefully even at home. This parent kept your spouse in edge, and had to be resilient enough to face them on a daily basis. Your FS can see this parent as cruel and omnipresent. They thought your spouse to be absolute and even obsessive with their identity or feelings, being the child that likely rebelled against this parent the most they may have a bit of a complicated relationship.
Your parent in law might have been rather harsh with your future spouse, being a “shadow” of this parent that always seems to expect more from your FS. On one hand, they may feel connected to this parent as they share the same trigger or have learned to be cautious of what this parent attached themselves too. Not wanting to become their parent. This parent was also likely the sentimental and insecure one. This likely left a permanent impression on your future spouse around their own sense of belonging, safety and adequacy.
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