INFJ

things pertaining to the infj species

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INFJEDNESS #27

Gosh you know that feeling when you're really super excited to tell someone something but when you start telling them, you can tell they're not interested or they're getting annoyed because you're taking too long to say it? That feels horrible and the worst part is that sparkling excitement gets lost in anxiousness that you're being boring and annoying. I'd like everyone to know that they're precious and interesting and everything they say matters and I don't want anyone to lose that happy, excited, bright-eyed sparkliness.

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My INTJ Sister - Endearing Qualities

Yes. So. Here are some things. Enjoy.

- she zones out a lot (it's kinda funny and endearing though because she'll have a little smile)

- she so stubborn i cant

- supacool secret handshakes involving do-si-dos

- she make the funniest faces in existence of funny faces honestly it's so easy for her to make me laugh

- she's accidentally hilarious

- when I ask her if she's guilty of something she has a really sheepish face followed with big defensiveness

- she is unable to hide her emotions and is very upset about it

- she keeps up with the blog and the INTJ Sister series ("Am I really like that??" Lol)

- we'll get mad at each other and be ok literally a minute later

- we have the entire script for Narnia memorized and used to recite it every night

- impromptu action spy movie created and enacted in the basement with really cool background music

- pillow forts and imaginary friends (Sarah and Victoria)

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INFJEDNESS #26 - Nightmares

I've noticed that from a really young age that I have had some pretty insane nightmares. I don't know how I thought up these ideas but I'll share one of the ones that stands out.

So everything on earth is normal except that the moon is alive and is murderous. It can "see" and sense if people are alive. I remember being on a school bus in the middle of the night. Everyone on the bus is dead except me and the driver. I'm only alive because I'm playing dead. In my house, various relatives are strewn about on the ground and only a few of us are left trying to kill the evil moon.

Freaky, huh? My sister consoled me by getting me to imagine the moon with a diaper on and saying "moommmyy I'm scared of the dark" (I dunno it was really funny then, ok?)

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My INTJ Sister - Such a Darcy

"My good opinion once lost, is lost forever"

SOoo true. I can vouch for this on so many occasions. I find that if someone has made a bad first impression in front of her and she hasn't seen any redeeming qualities after that point, they will forever be known as THATBADPERSON. No matter what I say contrary to that belief, she'll be like NOPE!! That's not what I saw on on June 15th 2010! (Okay maybe I'm exaggerating a little she doesn't remember dates but same thing)

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My INTJ Sister - The Saviour (?)

My sister has forever been the stronger one between us. She's the one I went to when I small and crying from nightmares. She would let me sleep next to her and when I would explain my bad dream, she would spin it into a hilarious story to make me laugh

If I was being pushed around by a playground bully, she would never stand for it and tower over them as Big Sister™. She's extremely protective and DoES nOt StAND for anyone being mean to me

BONUS: she doubles as a bug hunter

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INFJEDNESS - My INTJ Sister

Arright. So I've got a sister. And she's about as amazing as they come. Wait no, she's better. Whenever I read descriptions about INTJs though, I feel like they don't encompass quite everything. But I mean can anything really describe the entirety of a person?

What I mean to say is that despite the reputation of being cool, collected and sharp as a whip, they can have such a soft side that's completely unexpected.

So I've been planning a series of posts to reveal the secret life of an adorkable genius. I hope you enjoy.

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INFJEDNESS #25 - You're such a lady

So I've always been getting remarks from my family, family friends and even people I've met only once or twice. I've heard that I'm "very prim and proper" in terms of how I sit, talk or walk. And I just...

Because I don't feel that way AT ALL. I feel very nervous and self-conscious especially around new people. I think I focus so much on trying to act normal when I'm awkward that it comes off as rigid and very careful.

They might see a graceful entrance (Yes, I've heard that comment before) but all that was going through my head was "ok deep breath, walk in, don't trip and don't drop anything, say hi, woops too quiet, "HELLO!!" *face palm* EYE CONTACT, ok that was borderline creepy let's tone it down, where to sit where to sit, ok I should say something DON'T STUTTER and ACT NORMAL *finishes interaction and starts infinite face palms* DanGFlaBbiT

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is it normal to feel guilty for everything? Even for silly things like not saying hi to a dog?

Hi there! I would say that a lot of people feel something instant like guilt or regret over little things but normally it shouldn't last very long or bother you to the point of being upset. There are so many little things that can happen in one day that getting hung up on each one could probably drive you crazy.

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INFJEDNESS #24 - im trying k

I find myself to be awkward most of the time in most situations involving strangers. Huh? What’s that? You want examples? *rolls out list of grievances*

1. That other day this really nice person held the door for me and I meant to say thank you, I really did. I think I just attempted eye contact, failed, and tripped while scurrying away

2. To the lady working at Timmy’s: I promise I’m not crazy even though I was smiling too hard and stumbling through my order (IT WAS AN AWKWARD DAY OK)

3. There was a classmate that introduced herself to me and I was too nervous to remember that I should tell her my name too and so we just kinda sat there in silence. For the whole semester.

4. To all the people that saw me flinch at things:

A. That bird was trying to attack me

B. Sliding doors hate me and try to close when I’m going through

C. There was a bug next to me ok

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INFJEDNESS #23 - My Imaginary Kids

INFJs are often described as a type that is future-oriented. A big part of that for me is making decisions about habits and improving myself with the sole motivation of being a better example for my children. Now, I’m too young and nowhere near ready to have children, but I’ve always made decisions with them (?) in mind. For example: 1. The language I use (I want the people I care about to hear nice things and influence them positively) 2. My health habits (how will you teach them to eat properly if you don’t?) 3. My thoughts (even negative thoughts can be translated into actions and kids are so quick to pick up on things)

In a strange way, my concern for these precious imaginary humans has helped me to motivate myself to be healthier, both physically and mentally.

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INFJEDNESS #22 - Lunatic

Recently I’ve come to realize that sometimes people talking to themselves make them seem a little bit crazy to other people.

I did not know this.

I’m a regular at talking to myself and inanimate objects when I’m alone.

Yknow stuff like “stop it, you!” to something that keeps falling or just making up and enacting random scenarios for fun

…and I realize that I do this while staring into nothing, completely absorbed and concentrated in my scenario.

Ladies and gentlemen, I now pose a very important question that makes me doubt the very meaning of my existence.

Am I cray cray?

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INFJEDNESS #21 - Bad Thoughts

I have a habit of mentally reprimanding myself if I have a “bad thought” Example: *makes a mental judgement about someone* NO. BAD. *mental smack*

But sometimes if I’m feeling rebellious I’ll CURSE in my head

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INFJEDNESS #20 - WhAT

So when I have different levels of comfort with different people, I become an awkward hybrid of everything. Example: With best friend being Goofball (super comfortable) when BAM a cynical friend appears and Witty-Me makes an appearance and WHABOOM an aquaintance shows up and here comes Polite-Me and POW KNOCKOUT a stranger you’ve never met before joins the group

And now I don’t know who to be amongst this group of people Solution: avoid all eye contact and speak as little as possible Bonus: best friend is now laughing in the background looking at my awkward looking awkwardness

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INDJEDNESS #19- I'm a Grandma?

Me: I tend to everything slowly and at my own pace, whether it be eating or tidying. If there’s no reason for me to hurry, I won’t. I don’t really think of it as wasting time because even if I’m working, I’m enjoying myself. I could be dancing around while putting away dishes or daydreaming while I’m folding laundry. I think it’s because I want to enjoy myself in the moment, in every moment I can.

Also me*really annoyed*: finishes everything in under 10 minutes and snaps at everyone if provoked

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INFJEDNESS #18 - Reality?

*Reads online INFJ description*

Exhibit A: haha I’m so observant I’m like a master ninja hehehe — FIRE. FIRE BAD. Dang my food is burnt

Numero 2: *walking* I’m a cool mysterious smoooooth crimin- *falls over*

Example C: *musters courage for a week* “I’m sorry. The person you calling is not available at the moment. Please leave a message after the - ” “NOOOOO” *throws phone*

Number 4: Come on, you got this. You can talk to people. You’re a unicorn snowflake. You’re Obi-Wan, you’re Galadriel, you’re the HULK!

Person: Hey

Me: I’M DUMBLEDORE.

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INFJEDNESS #17 - That Uncomfortable Feeling

So sometimes it’s hard to pinpoint WHY exactly I might be feeling uncomfortable at a random moment. I have to ask myself if someone said something unsettling or maybe I’m just hungry. I have to think about what’s wrong before I realize it.

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INFJEDNESS #16 - Under Stress

Conscience: Hey, I know you’re stressed and running from your problems doesn’t fix them, so you should — INFJ: eat everything? Conscience: Um. No. I was thinking — INFJ: watch Netflix until my eyes are broken? Conscience: Now, hold on — INFJ: I know! IMMA HIBERNATE!