An Anattractional Being

A place for me to post about my anatractional expierence

[inhuman-anattraction]

About me:

Alias: G

Part of a plural system

Nonhuman humanoid

Ageless, mentally and bodily an adult

Agender (it/its, they/them)

Anattractional

What does anattractional mean?

From lgbtqia.wiki: Anattractional, also known as attractionless, non-attracted or a-ttraction, is when one feels no attraction whatsoever. This includes feeling no physical, emotional, or tertiary attraction of any type.

What is this blog for?

I am making this blog for many reasons:

To post my own experience as someone who is anattractional

To answer questions about being anattractional

To find community with those who are also anattractional

Do you feel any other types of attraction?

Not me, no. I am completely anattractional, I do not experience attraction on any level. For others it may vary.

Don't you feel lonely?

Not particularly. I engage with people, I just do not seek out meaningful relationships with them. My situation has an added complexness as I must maintain the relationships of the host, but that is enough for me.

What relationships do you have with others?

As mentioned before, I maintain the relationships the host has. While I do not view any of them as friends of my own, they are his, and I respect his want to keep them in our life.

I do not have any meaningful relationships I would call my own, nor do I wish to have any meaningful relationships.

Do you hate people?

Not at all. I am fine engaging with people on a surface level, I just do not wish to form any meaningful relationships with anyone.

I find many people, namely the host's friends, to be kind and funny. They are fine people, I just do not wish to form my own relationship with them.

You're sick.

Indeed we are, though that doesn't change our situation in the slightest.

[inhuman-anattraction]

I hope this isnt annoying but I would like to whole heartedly understand anattraction. It's a new term I came across today and while I know the definition, I don't know how exactly that would feel or how that might affect your day to day. Feel free to ignore me if this is too much!

You are fine, do not worry.

Truthfully, it is hard for me to express how it may affect my day-to-day life. I am not often in charge of the body, and the host—who manages the body most often—does not experience attraction like I do.

As well, we are not open about being plural, so I pretend to be the host when around others.

Still, I will try my best with the information I have:

When managing the body, I feel a disconnect from others. The people that are friends, family, or loved ones to the body I do not consider to be friends, family, or loved ones of my own.

For me, I describe my anattraction as my lack of attraction as well as my lack of attachment. While I can stomach being around others, I do not actively wish for company. As well, I often find myself agitated if I must manage the body whilst dealing with others for too long, although I do generally regard myself as asocial.

It uniquely helps us as I can be an unbiased judge; I do not find myself persuaded by emotional attachment to people as I do not feel any attachment to them. I find it may be easier for me to make big decisions regarding who we associate with than it would be for others who do not feel this way.

That is all I can think to mention at this moment. If you have any follow-up questions or more specific questions, I am open to them.

As a final note: Please remember that anattraction manifests itself differently from one to another. My experience does not reflect and may not resonate with others who identify this way. I do not wish to be viewed as the only way to experience anattaction.

[inhuman-anattraction]

As one who identifies heavily as both asexual and aromantic, I experience a specific type of sex-repulsion and romance-repulsion that I feel is not talked about enough.

I do not care about watching others engage in romantic, sensual, or even sexual acts with each other. Whether is be kissing, hand-holding, groping, or intercourse, it does not matter to me. That is not the core of my repulsion. I do not feel repulsion when watching these acts.

I feel repulsion being on the receiving side of such acts, or to be implied to be involved or engaged in such acts.

I feel repulsion when it is implied I may have sex or want to have sex with others. I feel repulsion when it is implied I may have a "crush" on others. I feel repulsion when I feel one is flirting with me. I feel repulsion when one tries to hold my hand or kiss me.

Merely watching others engage in these acts does not repulse me. Being directly involved is what repulses me.

[letmebefrowny2]

Me, who thought that this is what people meant when they are sex/romance repulsed: 🧐

[inhuman-anattraction]

Perhaps it is. I just tend to see more discussion about sex-repulsion and romance-repulsion in regards to others rather than themselves.

[inhuman-anattraction]

As one who identifies heavily as both asexual and aromantic, I experience a specific type of sex-repulsion and romance-repulsion that I feel is not talked about enough.

I do not care about watching others engage in romantic, sensual, or even sexual acts with each other. Whether is be kissing, hand-holding, groping, or intercourse, it does not matter to me. That is not the core of my repulsion. I do not feel repulsion when watching these acts.

I feel repulsion being on the receiving side of such acts, or to be implied to be involved or engaged in such acts.

I feel repulsion when it is implied I may have sex or want to have sex with others. I feel repulsion when it is implied I may have a "crush" on others. I feel repulsion when I feel one is flirting with me. I feel repulsion when one tries to hold my hand or kiss me.

Merely watching others engage in these acts does not repulse me. Being directly involved is what repulses me.

[inhuman-anattraction]

hello!! i'm personally not anattractional (i experience heavy aesthetic & mirous attraction + sometimes sexual attraction), but as a loveless aplatonic aromantic person, i very much resonate with what you wrote in your intro. i engage with many different people but i also don't wish to have or particularly seek out meaningful relationships with any of them. i'm also very much asocial (partly because of social anxiety, partly because... i just am like that ^^;) so i always prefer to be on my own and not rely on relationships for emotional fulfillment.

also you're a new blog, can't wait to see more of your content soon!! i greatly support anattractional folks <2

I am glad what I said could resonate with you.

I will be transparent about the fact that I do not front often, so I may not post much at all. Still, I thank you for the warm welcome and support. It is appreciated.