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For good reason, we're talking a lot about Jax, but I wanna analyze this scene with Caine for a second. His scene is very symbolic, and I think when he connected to the internet here, the scene of him almost walking through the door shows that he had a chance to leave. Caine could have escaped the computer and gone into the internet, but he hesitates at that door, and then stops and just stands at the barrier and decides to search everyone's names.
I think this is silent bit is Caine considering leaving, but then he decides that he can't until he's made things right. Instead of running away, he's going to go back and do what he can to fix things, even if it means they hate him. Even if it means he has to change.
which is probably a good thing because he's already sex-repulsed. if that bitch saw what those drawings of him on bsky i think he'd actually go full AM on the planet
No matter how shitty it might feel in the moment, most of the time when someone comes to you to communicate a boundary or a need or a negative feeling about something you did, it is actually a compliment. They are telling you BECAUSE they care about you and want it to work between you and because they trust you to care to do better. If they didn't care about you, they'd just avoid you. That uncomfortable convo is in fact a declaration of love and trust. Or at least intention of friendship. If they didn't like you, they'd just try to avoid you whenever possible. They wouldn't care to have The Talk (which is often scary and uncomfortable for them also). So try to treat their trust with care, even if it really upsets you to learn that you've accidentally hurt them
fellow orthostatic intolerants! I call upon ye. lend me your syncopal skills and help me find a reclining office chair
do you faint or near faint or seize and have a good reclining chair?
(and anyone else who knows about reclining office chairs)
GOALS
leans back as far as possible (bonus if it can be locked in the reclining position)
footrest raises as close to heart/head level as possible when reclined. if feet can go above head level that would be the best possible outcome. sometimes positions like these are called "zero gravity" but ~160+ degrees reclining would be great. a lesser recline is more viable if the footrest can go higher. to faint less: head down, feet up!
has good wheels or is compatible with other good wheels (bonus if wheels can be locked)
sturdy base and unlikely to flip even if someone rolls me while in the reclined position like a wheel chair
bonus points if the arm rests are really adjustable or removable or can flip out of the way but not entirely necessary if the chair is solid to lose consciousness in
if a chair can recline back really well, and does not have a footrest, but has a sturdy as FUCK base that is less likely to fall over if I suddenly seize, then let me know about those too! the steelcase gesture is like that right
basically a good office chair to faint in. or to attempt to abort a faint. or to possibly have a reclining seizure in.
a lot of office chair suggestion threads on reddit tend to land at, "get a good ergonomic office chair and a different stationary lounging recliner". so I want to say ahead of time: I will also need a normal non-wheely recliner, I might also also need a regular ergonomic office chair, but I also also also need a recliner that has wheels. depending on the fainting episode, I will not be able to transfer to another chair before I lose consciousness.
there are full reclining workstations that come on wheels too where you can mount a monitor directly above your face. maybe some day I will get one of those. but for now
tell me what you use! or have used. or know of. there are a million generic reclining office chairs of varying likelihood to break if I faint on them so I really need specific recommendations and Not just picking from random companies that come up when searching different search terms that Technically Work but are probably. not the best in build quality or quality control
you do not need to faint or near faint to tell me what you use, but if you DO have orthostatic intolerance or seizures or any kind of presyncope or syncope, please let me know how your chair works for episodes! thank you!
Not an expert / I don't faint but went digging through some medical community options and found this hospital grade chair that might be an option as it is designed for use as long term seating for things like dialysis or rehab centers and or home care. It meets many of your requests, and it would work to contain you in one spot without fear of tipping in the event of a siezure
Overall: I would say keep your options open if someone can find a comfortable one that fits most of what you want, but this is probably a solid fall back option if you really turn up empty on options.
PROS
recline either partially or fully (feet slightly higher than where your heart would be even too!)
can be adjusted by yourself or someone else for you easily
has a wide wheeled base for stability
rear wheels can lock
can function as a sort of quasi-recliner and office work chair due to the size of it and its armrests fitting under most desks
has a handle for assistance being pushed around in it if needed even if reclined
comes with a tray that hooks right into it to allow you to have a lap tray so you can work on things without having to move from the chair or lean forwards much for days you are not feeling your best (ie laptop or books or food etc)
even the default state has a bit of a recline so that it encourages you to remain in the chair if an episode should occur while seated
has 3 color options so that's better than just one take it or leave it
one of the sites i have linked has it on a sale and gives free shipping so that's always helpful
CONS
invacare brand is not known for having the softest padding and while this one has some more lumbar support, you would likely want to put some kind of cushion over top of it for extra comfort. It is designed against creating pressure sores so there is that in its favor. (maybe something like you'd put on a deck chair could work or a mattress topper with a soft blanket or etc over it? Or wait... I think you liked firmer mattresses if I can remember correctly???... maybe this is a positive for you if so then.)
Does not appear to have adjustable arm rests
the wheels don't appear to be easily changeable
the default state recline might be too far back for your preference for everyday office use, but this is going to be something you personally have to consider
it is pricey, but being hospital grade you have an idea of the quality of the build you can expect as it is designed to last.
linking both these sites for the amount of information provided between them but i recommend if you want to make a purchase to use the first link
Invacare IH6065WD-IH68 deluxe wide three-position recliner in Jade, 400 lb capacity. Extra 4" seat width for bariatric comfort, 3 posit
product manual
Browse online or download Invacare Deluxe Three-Position IH6065 series User Manual 32 pages. Communication Invacare Deluxe Three-Position IH
Purple initially didn't have wings!! they were very jealous of King being an avian though and tried their best to fly with him. He doesn't fly much while his wings are in disrepair but makes an effort to fly with Purple to bond with them!
Purple is devastated when their elytra breaks, even though King probably does offer to get them a new one. Both of them are pretty happy with the outcome of them becoming a valkyrie instead, though! King is happy to see his kid finally come into their wings.
14-year-old in a normal shonen: âI need to fight for my FRIENDS!!! And to save everyoneâno, save the WORLDâfrom total annihilation!!â *insane fight sequence*
14-year-old in Mob Psycho: âI fear if I keep living my life like this, coming to my part-time job every day and doing the same things, then life will be comfortable and easy for me, but that comfort may mean I will stagnate, and that as the years pass, the only thing that changes is my age.â *insane fight sequence*
hi, i'm living in my car and need help surviving. i'm making a meager income on music, but still end up dead broke constantly. until that income increases, i need donations to survive. please help me out if you have anything to spare!
my car is broken down and doesn't move anymore. i'm stuck charging my phone and laptop at the local shops, and can only get food from the few fast food places around here. it's all very expensive and i need help affording it. please consider feeding me so i can keep making music and eventually escape this hole!!
also consider purchasing my music on Bandcamp or joining my Patreon to set up recurring payments.
its not going below 70 degrees even at night for the next week. i'm going to have to buy a cold bottle of water every night just to sleep in my car, in which temps will be around 20 degrees hotter than the outside temp. please help me afford to survive this heat wave
âLast night I photographed a Barn Owl hovering above prey at a local farm where I have been baiting them for some time, I did attempt this last winter but failed due to the lens misting, still a work in progressâ ~ Roy Rimmer
I always think of the description I saw years ago: Self-imposed deadlines don't help me, because I know the person who set them, and they're full of shit.
Give yourself the treat before you start. I'm serious. And ideally during the task and afterwards too.
Executive dysfunction comes from a lack of available dopamine. Common advice is wrong. You need to provide your own dopamine before you can start. Otherwise you're trying to run your car on empty.
"But what if I still don't do it" well you already weren't getting it done anyway. Now you have a little treat. Try again later.
You deserve kindness and care even when you aren't being productive.
(Also read How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis)
HERE! THIS IS HOW I FEEL ABOUT THE FINALE. IT WAS RUSHED, IT WAS EMPTY AND IT GAVE NO REAL ANSWERS.
Forget about Jax for a second, CAINE DESERVED SO MUCH BETTER?? THIS MAN âFIXEDâ HIMSELF OUT OF SELF HATRED AND NOW HAS TO LIVE THE REST OF HIS DIGITAL EXISTENCE WALKING ON EGGSHELLS WITH THE OTHERS? ANY SMALL DOSE OF ANGER AND HE MIGHT THINK HEâLL GET PUNISHED??
Everyone forgiving Jax but not him??? When Jax arguably did SO MUCH WORSE? sorry I just URGH I canât I canât.