The Alpha Submissive Female.
I have been reading quite a lot lately how certain Doms think there is no such thing as an Alpha Sub. Guess what? I’ve got news for you, because I am one of those things that you don’t think exist. I am an Alpha Sub, and I am extremely proud of that.
Some may laugh and snigger about this, but I am a sub because I chose to be a sub. Make no mistake about that. I choose to submit to my Dom, I choose to freely give my control to my Dom. But he who I choose to be my Dom, must, beyond any measure, prove himself worthy of my submission, worthy of my respect, and most of all worthy of my love.
Now for those Doms that are scared of that dreaded L word, I have two words. Grow Up!! If you think for one second, that a sub that freely chooses to submit to you, to your structure, your discipline, to your everything, that she will not fall in love with you, you must truly think that you are the Sun and the Universe revolves around you. Any Dom that is worth his weight in gold, knows, without a doubt, that his sub, will fall in love with him, and more than likely he with her. It doesn’t matter how his sub has come to submit to him, through it being her nature or through the Dom breaking her, it is inevitable that this will happen.
As for my case, my Dom knows how he received the gift of my submission. My mind, my body, my feelings and emotions are such a big and difficult part of me to give, but for him, I try very hard, and I do give these things freely to him.
But as an Alpha Sub, here is the difference between me and a sub that is naturally submissive in all aspects of her life.
I will not submit to a Dom just because he is a Dom. To Dom me, you have to be a really special kind of Dominant.
As an Alpha Sub, I will hold the bar and expectations of my Dom higher than what other subs will. If I am expected to give my all, I expect that my Dom will give his all as well.
Open honest communication, and lots of it, is something that I expect. Some things that my Dom says will hurt me, and some things that I say will hurt him. If it said in an honest way, without the intention to purposefully hurt, it adds strength and security to the relationship. Just because something is hard to say, I do not expect my Dom to let it go out of fear of a difficult conversation.
I do not accept for one second that the D/s relationship or the M/s relationship is not equal between the people involved. Because if it is a good match the Dom will complement the sub and visa-versa. And really, if we are all being honest, the Dom is not a Dom without his submissive, and the sub is definitely not a sub without her Dom.
Both the Dom and the sub complete each other.
Where things get interesting is when the Alpha sub is thrown into the equation.
The Alpha sub is a strong confident woman. Quite often outside of the D/s relationship she is a powerhouse unto herself. She expects respect, she expects things to be done a certain way. She expects that she will intimidate men of all types. She knows how to work a crowd, she knows how to be the centre of attention. This woman is as comfortable being the leader of an organisation as she is at handing the reins over to someone else who she feels is worthy of being her protégé. The Alpha Sub woman is very close to being a perfectionist in everything that she does, and expects others to follow her example. What she gives, she gives freely, but does not expect to be stabbed in the back with what she has freely given.
When the Alpha Sub contacts her Dom she does so for a variety of reasons. Most times when she contacts her Dom it is because she needs something. Although she can stand on her own two feet perfectly well, she does not like to admit that she needs her Dom. It is not easy for her to show her emotions. If she is threatened, she is like a clam and closes up so tight, that her Dom is nearly back at square one with her, until she feels comfortable enough to let him back in and work with him to fix her world.
The needs of an Alpha Sub are complex and so much more than any other sub. Hence the rewards of the Dom are so much sweeter because of the fact that he has chosen an Alpha Sub, who by all accounts is not a woman who is easily satisfied.
The Alpha Sub, when she finds and develops the understanding and trust with her Dom, will fight off anyone who threatens her Dom. When she finds her Dom, he becomes the most important aspect of her life. She will depend on him, she will open up to him and she will do anything that he wishes of her. But take away her confidence in the relationship, or take away her need of open honest communication, she will start questioning herself and her worth.
Doms, if you think you have found an Alpha Sub, hang in there. She wants to please you, she wants to submit to you. She needs to know that you are worthy of all of her, she needs to know that you are not going to waver in your conviction of a D/s relationship with her. It will be effort on both parts, but once you have that deep understanding and knowledge of each other, she will not want or need any other Dom ever. Be prepared for her, when and if she decides to give, she will give everything that she can.
Alpha Subs - do not let any Dom ever tell you that you are not a real submissive because you have strong convictions, ideals and expectations. The truth is, a lot of Doms do not know how to handle an Alpha Sub, we scare them, we make them think we are too much work. The Doms just don’t realise that when they put the time and effort in, they will potentially have a strong sub, capable of just about anything, and she will and want to be his, probably for life.
– Sirs_Slut_Cielle
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