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busty-shackleford

choose abortion

Life kills!

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Skyler Ewing

mmilhouse

time keeps passing

pacogabby

American bison at Antelope Island State Park.

alaskan-orca

Beautiful photo of AG pod in Southeast Alaska near Tongass National Forest.

Identifiable individuals in this photo include AG8 Newmoon, AG13 Hanus, and AG3 Gustavus.

Photo via Tour the Tongass.

alchemistdoctor

I am begging you. Please learn about stress/discomfort tolerance. Practice raising it. You need this to survive. If someone online can ruin your day with a throwaway comment, you desperately need to understand discomfort tolerance and consciously, systematically build that shit.

Also! Stress tolerance is such an important skill that having a learning disability in that area is a major symptom of a whole lot of other disabilities/mental illnesses! Struggling with it is a huge part of life! It sucks!

Am I saying everyone with misophonia needs to listen to chewing noises all day? No. But you need to find ways to tolerate it enough that you don't treat others like shit if they make a mouth noise near you.

No, you don't have to read the fic with your trigger tags. But you do need to be able to handle scrolling past the tags without being upset.

It is hard! But not having it also makes you so so so easy to manipulate. That grandma is racist AF because her mom raised her to be uncomfortable around black people and she never fought that discomfort. Trans people make so many cis people uncomfortable and that discomfort turns into bigotry real fast.

Letting your discomfort dictate your actions and beliefs about things is a great way to become a terrible person. Learn. Discomfort. Tolerance.

furball891

So important! And also apply this practice in real life too, not just with tags and comments online! I work with people who have many mental health problems and anxieties, and so many of them have avoided many sources of discomfort for so long that now they are HUGE issues. I'm talking about avoiding talking on the phone and opting for texts or online interaction until the idea of making a call for an important appointment/police/teacher/helpline paralyzes them with fear and may even cause them to self harm because the anxiety gets so big. Or avoiding public places with a lot of people for so long that the need to take a bus to school or buying new shoes at a shopping center makes them so exhausted they can't do anything except lay in bed for the rest of the day. This has lead many of them to basically live most of their lives in their room and order food in so they can avoid interactions as much as they can. Staying in your comfort zone all the time is going to make your life very limited. Keep poking at that tolerance window to keep it open.

Challenging yourself and leaving your comfort zone is how you grow. It's not fun (I still dislike making professional appointment calls), but doing it repeatedly teaches you that you can survive it.