What is forcefemme kink
when discussing kink and fetishes I think it is first and foremost important to discuss it within the framework of kink as societal taboo and the sociological roots inherent in kink
forcefemme/forcemasc are both pretty interesting kinks in that regard as we live within a society that really rewards and enforces black and white thinking around sex and gender deviating outside of the sociocultural gender/sex norms in any way can pretty quickly lead to one facing often violent and pervasive harassment
(it should not be lost on you that this blog was created shortly after the original isuggestforcefem was nuked off of the face of tumblr after being reported by someone who clearly had disingenuous intentions and that tumblr has a very long history of eliminating transfemme people of the face of this site for things that are completely ignored when done by non transfemmes or non trans people in general its worth noting as well however that tumblr has a history of doing similar things to poc on this site and transmascs as the female presenting nipple incident was something that affected trans people broadly regardless of gender but especially trans mascs as trans men being topless on this site in a nonsexual manner used to be considered very normal)
men and women both are asked to fit within VERY tight gender roles and gender norms in order to fit sociocultural ideas of femininity and masculinity and these strict gender/sex norms are not race blind woc are routinely treated as if they are hypermasculine as are moc while moc are still paradoxically often infantalized and gatekept from wite masculinity
and because woc are treated as overtly aggressive and hyper masculine they have a MUCH harder time being read as traditionally feminine and have much higher standards to meet same is true of trans women women in general are held to a high bar of femininity and being an oppressed minority often amplifies this effect
plenty of women who are happy being women even and being feminine are forced to present femininity in over the top ways in order to be treated as traditionally feminine
plenty of men who are happy being men and being masculine even are forced to present masculinity in large over the top ways in order to feel as if they belong to masculinity properly and when they dont they face punishment
and intersex people especially intersex poc tend to face the worst oif it as their sex is often surgically and hormonally enforced against their will and often without their knowledge if not from birth than from a very young age regardless
in these ways socioculturaly force femme and sociocultural forcemasc are extra harmful often to trans people who tend to experience some flavor of both at different times of their lives
if youre not "man enough" youre a sissy limp wristed faggot
if your not "woman enough" youre a carpet munching man hating dyke
forcefemme and forcemasc as kink are in constant conversation with this dynamic just like dubcon and noncon are kinks that are in constant conversation with sociocultural norms around rape culture
loss of control loss of power in a given situation attempts to regain control attempts to feel desired in ways that might even be toxic if they happened irl outside of kink attempts to regain control over sexuality by being able to give up your control to someone you trust its no surprise then that very large portions of bdsm community ae people who have experienced sa
forcefemme and forcemasc are similar in that they are in conversation with loss of autonomy and gender
it can be easier to imagine being trans in a world that so fiercely punishes trans existence if you were "forced" into it "involuntarily for one as well again there are themes of power and control and the ability to be the one with the ability to dictate anothers gender presentation and forcefemme/forcemasc are in a very close conversation with dom sub dynamics and ideas around misogyny femdom mascdom mascsub femsub also the idea of your transitioning to a gender you feel comfortable and happy and sexy in not only being desired but being so desired it is done so against your will
the things these kinks engage with have real sociological roots in systemic forms of oppression but its important to notice at the end of the day that kink is kink and reality is reality being interested in a concept or roleplay or fetish or kink erotically doesnt mean you would want to do it in real life and its important to make that very clear distinction especially when enjgaging with kinks and fetishes revolving around dubcon or noncon like forcefemme/forcemasc
