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momo the undestroyable. she/they, 30s, tma

[isuggestsexualassault]

momo the undestroyable returns in a riveting sequel..... ! she/they, tma, 30s. previously term'd at 400 followers.

"why are you doing this?/what is radical rapism"

[jesusfaker-moved]

It's not corn, it's porn.

It's not grape, it's rape.

It's not pew pew, it's gun.

It's not unalive and unalived, it's murder and murdered.

It's not CP, it's CSAM.

[forcefemtosecond]

if anyone genuinely thinks the transfem side of tumblr has some higher affinity for harder or more problematic porn/kinks, i beg you to look at any het man's kinky blog for 0.2 seconds

incest, rape, snuff, loli, and even forcefem - all present there too, and to greater extents. And even things that unambigiously do actual harm like creep shots, stolen porn, etc. But thats normal, expected, boys being boys. If someone doesn't like that, they block, report, and move on. There's no massive campaign to get straight men off tumblr, no manufactured lie about a child trafficking ring among straight men on tumblr. Of course there isn't. Because they're allowed to do that.

of course there isn't. Because all of those things have never been the point of any of this. It's always been about the fact that trans women aren't allowed to exist, and they'll find any excuse to correct that error

[tongue-twists]

"well some rape victims use noncon kink as a way to process their trauma"

"you know most age regressing kinksters were abused as children"

"bondage is really just a way to deal with control issues in people's daily life"

actually I don't think it's very progressive to assign "morally good" justifications to kinks. actually having kinks and participating in kinks is morally neutral and that is the ground they should be defended on.

[tlirsgender]

This has been said a thousand times before but the "kink contributes to rape culture" thing is so transparently #stupid especially when you take into account like. Our whole explicitly communicated systems of ensuring consent thing. Meanwhile the whole idea of Normative Sexuality is kind of inherently coercive on some level innit

[tlirsgender]

I have real thoughts about this but I'm too brainfoggy to articulate them further rn so you're getting a joke instead: I'm gonna start telling people you can't consent to vanilla sex under patriarchy

[tlirsgender]

The idea that there is a particular way you're *supposed* to be touched and like it sounds pretty bad when you put it like that doesn't it? I've had to thoroughly deprogram myself from cishetero normative ideas about what sex even *is* in order to feel remotely normal about my body & sexuality. Talking to more trans/lesbian/ace/kinky people (in any combination of the four) teaches you you're allowed to say no, to anything, for any reason. But carefully negotiated pre-planned theater riffing on real world power structures for fun is scary so it must be the deviant perverts that are the problem and not, like, normal men in real life

[tlirsgender]

& the thing about people practicing kink unsafely/under-negotiated is that it *does* happen but in the kink community these people are universally regarded as Doing It Wrong. And that type of behavior is still running straight people software (i.e. it's usually misogyny) & this violation of boundaries via assuming they can do whatever they want to someone else's body would still be just as bad if it was vanilla, actually ! Do you know how many people have problems with painful penetration and just go along with it anyway cause they feel like they have to ??????? God

[tlirsgender]

I've *had* a shitty little online-boyfriend doing kink wrong and having access to the broader community and actual Education about it etc has been infinitely more helpful than any amount of pervert-shunning discourse. Like the roleplay being freaky was kind of the least harmful thing going on there, actually

[tlirsgender]

Tapping the sign cause the notes are getting weird on a different post I made. Carefully negotiated pre-planned theater riffing on abuses of power could not be any further from how real shit works, actually. Especially the ones you don't like. The problem with sexual abuse is that it's *real* and *not consensual*. That's kinda the whole fucking thing, yeah?

[pocket-deer-belly]

telling people who get really freaked out by kinks that they're getting mad at play pretend might genuinely be an effective strat. oh you're grossed out cause she said she wants to rape the dad from bluey? you're gettin mad at play pretend. ohhh you don't like it when she pretends to be a kid during sex? you're getting mad at play pretend. ohhh you think she shouldn't say it out loud? you're on the internet, you can just block and move on. why does everyone else have to cater to your sense of discomfort? it's not like she went to your house.

[pocket-deer-belly]

like yes i want to live in the world where people can openly talk about their freaky kinks without fear of public humiliation. i would rather live in the world where i might get a bit uncomfortable about a thing someone imagined than live in a world where only a very small range of sexuality considered "normative" is allowed to be expressed openly. because it's play pretend and nobody is being sexually harassed by someone's personal tumblr blog where they post their own thoughts and chat about them with their friends. you're choosing to get mad at play pretend you're not even included in.

[lakemojave]

One thing about being transfem online--or in real life let's be frank--is that you must live in fear of making a single mistake lest you are punished by the fury of the panopticon

[lakemojave]

Not hiding this in the tags bud this is extra true if you're black

[storyweavingspider]

Apologies in advance if this is a bit clunky - trying to not name parties involved while still getting across the story.

A Black transfemme I know just barely got saved from this hell. For Black transfemmes you can quite literally do nothing and still be punished for it.

The Black doll in question is very sweet and fairly timid socially - has a hard time even asking good friends for things if she feels it’ll make her an imposition. A white transfemme tried to begin the process of getting her torn out of community.

Her crime? A different white doll mentioned in passing to her that she had a crush on the Black transfemme, and the white doll in question got jealous because she wanted to fuck the other white doll. The Black doll had no direct role or influence in any of this.

The jealous transfemme messaged the other white transfemme to try and claim the Black doll was homeless (she wasn’t) and had used that to try and coerce her into taking her home and sleeping with her - insinuating that she was attempting to coercively rape her by pressuring/guilting her into it.

The doll that received that message didn’t believe it and spoke to other Black trans folks about it to keep the Black doll in question safe, but seeing that message and knowing the Black doll could’ve easily had her life destroyed if the doll that received the message had decided to prioritize white solidarity and automatically assuming the Black person involved is guilty, like many whites do.

I’ve been through similar myself (linked below) and I’ve had quite literally dozens of dolls tell me about going through something similar at this point, but I’ve never seen or heard it happen with absolutely no direct interaction with the target.

I said last year that as we sink further into explicit fascism in the US (and globally) we’re gonna see more “hot allostatic load” being inflicted on transfemmes as an outlet for the lack of control, especially on BIPOC transfemmes, but our own community is out here innovating new ways of harming other dolls, and they won’t always fail like they did this time.

Revenge Is Something You Do With Your Teeth - Anons.ee

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[puppygirllaika]

every callout post about a transfem reads like "she sexually harassed and practically assaulted someone while in a position of absolute power over them, abusing her authority while they were trapped and helpless against her machinations" and then you look into it and it's like "she hit on the barista at the coffee shop i go to and it was awkward and a little uncomfortable" and like... yeah, maybe she shouldn't have done that, but you are blowing this wildly out of proportion, and i don't think she should lose her community and support network and housing and income over that. and then if you voice that opinion people send you asks like "why do you think trans women should be allowed to get away with rape?"

[molsno]

tumblr is a website where the userbase gleefully participates in harassment campaigns against transfems doing consensual role play of taboo kinks while at the same time defending yankee soldiers who go overseas to rape and murder millions of people

[unhingedhornylesbianmarxist]

the problem of course is that as a trans woman you will be accused of being a paedophile about twelve times before breakfast, and of being a rapist twice as much. so it's very hard not to develop a slightly too-casual (perhaps) approach to discussing it. and of course, you were raped as a child too, most likely; and that doesn't leave it uncomplicated either.

so you exist as a person who will inevitably have to discuss sexual violence, especially against children, because it will have happened to you (usually) and you will be accused of it (always, albeit for the lucky ones only in general terms) but you are also part of this cool demographic where when you speak about this thing you will be forced to speak about, if you say anything at all which is slightly distasteful to the world's most pathetic cannibals, you will be Assigned Killable At Discourse. and the price is death; of course it is, isn't it always

[ouppysister]

You don't need to tell trans women about the negative effects of growing up as a girl btw. We know. We experienced it.

[ouppysister]

We got raped. We got ostracized. We got exploited and abused by men just as much, and to be frank likely more than you did. We felt the shame about our bodies, we felt the pressure to be hyper feminine while still being completely barred from womanhood. We know, and it concerns me that you think we don't.

[carcinogenic-siren]

so true

[that-one-kiddo-in-the-back]

Just gonna lay this out here.

If you lie about being abused.

You are a terrible person.

If you lie about being raped.

You are a terrible person.

If you hide behind your identity to get out of valid criticism.

You are a terrible person.

If you look at loil/sotacon

You are a terrible person.

[isuggestsexualassault]

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[isuggesttakingestrogen]

shoutout to the person on bsky who chose to ignore isff’s blatant racism in order to shit on me for my belief that diaper kinks were pedophillic

[isuggestsexualassault]

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[transmasc-peoples-renegade]

The world will be good when certain tumblerytes who are into forcegendering get as shy about pushing it on others as people that got a tickling kink.

[isuggestsexualassault]

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[scorchedrecords]

nothing more infuriating than the way tumblr users will latch onto their reactionary anti-sex feelings about someone who's done actual serious harm and then center the conversation around that instead of focusing on the actual issue which leads to bigots and domestic abusers running wild and free in the community and any criticism of them is clearly just anti-feminist sex negativity and transmisogyny

[isuggestsexualassault]

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[britts-galaxy-brian]

I dont CARE about helping children or abuse victims, I just want to relentlessly harass and bully their abusers! Because its morally justifiable bullying!

[isuggestsexualassault]

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