free my mind

we’re all terminal cases. Carter. 28. transboi. Boston, MA.

[itdoesntbothermeatall]

dirty dirty boi

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[peggy-sue-reads-a-book]

With the holidays coming up this is everyone’s reminder to

Ask little kids if they’d like a hug first

If they say no, verbally affirm the reasonable shit you just heard. “You said you wouldn’t like a hug. We won’t hug.”

You don’t even have to redirect with a high five, even though that’s fine. Touching isn’t for everyone.

Do not say upsetting things like “where is my hug?” Clown, you don’t own hugs.

It is fine to model consent by placing boundaries on touch. “Let’s wash your hands before we cuddle.” “I’m leaving this couch if you continue to yeet your foot into my pregnant belly.” “that was fun but I’m going to take a break now.”

Touchy children are not inherently sweeter. Love languages exist at any age.

Some kids like touch but not eye contact. A hug from behind is a good one or “let’s close our eyes and squeeze really tight. Ready?”

I’m dead f*ing serious there are people who want your physical affection so badly but need you to modify your approach. Just like there are people who want to get into buildings but need ramps.

Don’t comment if a kid shows affection to another adult but not you. They’re weird like that but you don’t have to make it weirder.

[bled]

Loving Vincent (2017)

[decision]

[twiniefve]

[my-teen-quote]

[winterfellis]

[itdoesntbothermeatall]

BPD is:

- I made a mistake, therefore I AM bad.

- I should be put in a box & stay away from everyone because I’m too difficult to deal with.

- I can’t actually talk to anyone about what goes on in my head because I would scare them.

- Every minor thing I do wrong is immediate reason to unalive.

- I can rarely handle conflict without feeling like the biggest piece of shit in the world.

- Going from feeling like such an incredible partner & being entirely unlovable in a moment.

- Every minor setback feels like having made no progress at all.

[itdoesntbothermeatall]

I just wish I could be better.

[itdoesntbothermeatall]

the kind of love where you leave your phone unattended & come back to filthy pictures 🥵

[sunbeamdaydreams-deactivated202]

[goodreadss]

Henri de Toulouse-Lautrec: In Bed, 1892-93

[melisica]

[cinemabun]

Lady Chatterley (Pascale Ferran, 2006)

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[incalescentheart]