That Safe Place

Everybody needs someone to talk too at one point or another, that is what this is about - helping one another :) No matter what you are going through, big, small or anything in between, we're happy to help, or at the very least try to make you smile, just keep in mind that things take time. It's always nice to have someone to talk too, a friend, about anything and everything. Try to look at the positives in life, it can be hard but it is most definitely worth it, and really does help :) SMILE, YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL =)

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Don't let others negativity affect you. You deserve to be happy, to feel good, without having to feel bad or ashamed or any other kind of negative feelings because of someone else. So go out, be happy and shine bright!

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Individuals

My whole life I've been told to calm down, to stop being 'this way', to care what others think of me, to do as I'm told and if I'd have listened I don't think I would have made it to today. Each and every one of us are different, our own person, sure we have similarities with others, same likes or dislikes etc but we're still individuals, so embrace who and what you are and flourish, don't let some jackass tell you what or who you can or can't be, BE YOU! Love you for you, and trust me when I say others will do the same, and forget those who don't, they are irrelevant to your life!

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Having belief in yourself is one of the best thins you could ever do, believing in yourself will combat any negativity others send your way.

[the-quiet-place-project]

http://thequietplaceproject.com/thedreamsroom/comfortspot

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the quiet place project is a great website for if you need to calm down or vent. It has five activities you can do including :

the quiet place - where it talks you through relaxing telling you that it is okay.

the 90 second relaxation exercise - guided time out from your day

the dawn room - where you receive helpful comments from people who feel like you do they don't know you but they care

the thoughts room - where you can type out all your fears, worries or thoughts and watch as they fall away

the comfort spot - you have to sign up to use it and once there you can post how you are feeling and help others anonymously 

[depressionresource]

When you’re depressed, the idea of showering can be so overwhelming that it seems impossible. However, looking and feeling your best can make the difference between an unbelievably bad day and a regular bad day.

Step one: Determine why showering is too hard. Are you triggered by naked bodies? Do...

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Combating a lack of appetite

Depression (and also anti-depressants) often ruin our appetites, leading to unpleasant results like headaches, nausea, and heartburn, which in turn can make us feel worse.

When this happens, one needs to focus on getting enough calories (something that we have been trained not to do!) and also getting enough nutrients so that we can function at our best, even if our best is pretty miserable.

Note: I have no experience with disordered eating, and therefore this does not speak to that at all.

Eat your favorite food. If sushi is the only thing you want to eat, then get take-out sushi. Beg your best friend to make her famous shepherd’s pie. I once ate only submarine sandwiches for a straight week. This is a good short-term solution for milder cases, but you do need a variety of nutrients to survive, so try to keep it to a minimum.

Liquid calories. When my new medication sapped my appetite, this was my solution. I don’t know why, but not having to chew something made it go down so much easier. Smoothies are your friend, especially because they are easy to make and can have a huge variety of nutrients in them. In a pinch, drink a lot of milk.

Eat multiple small meals/snacks a day to keep your stomach busy. Work up from one, to three, to five. Small meals also have the advantage, when you’re feeling lethargic, of generally being easier to prepare.

Stay hydrated. We get a surprising amount of water from the food that we eat, so if you’re not eating much, be sure to make up for it. If you’re having trouble motivating yourself to drink water (which is fine!), try a non-alcoholic juice or drink mix.

Try peppermint. It settles the stomach and is generally cooling and pleasant. Peppermint tea is the bomb!

Take a multivitamin. It doesn’t necessarily have to be one of the gross ones for grown-ups, either; just do the best you can. If anything but Flintstone’s makes you gag, eat Flintstone’s. But do it every day.

Talk to your doctor about it, especially if it gets out of hand or is a medication side effect. Your appetite problems could be a result of a separate issue.

—Jay

[depressionresource]

Combating a lack of appetite

Depression (and also anti-depressants) often ruin our appetites, leading to unpleasant results like headaches, nausea, and heartburn, which in turn can make us feel worse.

When this happens, one needs to focus on getting enough calories (something that we have been trained not to do!) and also getting enough nutrients so that we can function at our best, even if our best is pretty miserable.

Note: I have no experience with disordered eating, and therefore this does not speak to that at all.

Eat your favorite food. If sushi is the only thing you want to eat, then get take-out sushi. Beg your best friend to make her famous shepherd’s pie. I once ate only submarine sandwiches for a straight week. This is a good short-term solution for milder cases, but you do need a variety of nutrients to survive, so try to keep it to a minimum.

Liquid calories. When my new medication sapped my appetite, this was my solution. I don’t know why, but not having to chew something made it go down so much easier. Smoothies are your friend, especially because they are easy to make and can have a huge variety of nutrients in them. In a pinch, drink a lot of milk.

Eat multiple small meals/snacks a day to keep your stomach busy. Work up from one, to three, to five. Small meals also have the advantage, when you’re feeling lethargic, of generally being easier to prepare.

Stay hydrated. We get a surprising amount of water from the food that we eat, so if you’re not eating much, be sure to make up for it. If you’re having trouble motivating yourself to drink water (which is fine!), try a non-alcoholic juice or drink mix.

Try peppermint. It settles the stomach and is generally cooling and pleasant. Peppermint tea is the bomb!

Take a multivitamin. It doesn’t necessarily have to be one of the gross ones for grown-ups, either; just do the best you can. If anything but Flintstone’s makes you gag, eat Flintstone’s. But do it every day.

Talk to your doctor about it, especially if it gets out of hand or is a medication side effect. Your appetite problems could be a result of a separate issue.

—Jay

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alternatives to self harm for the different reasons people self harm. 

the shock of pain - hold an ice cube in your palm or hold your hand against ice, it will be a shocking sensation and will leave your hand numbish

to see blood - write on yourself nothing important simply write swearwords scribbles anything on where you usually cut (minding still healing cuts) or use make up to make false cuts or scars. 

to punish imagined transgressions - if you cut to punish yourself then write lines, go for a run and keep going until your legs hurt and then stop and forgive yourself. 

to get rid of anger - play darts, exercise until your anger is gone. 

to calm down - bake, draw, take a bath, drink tea build a blanket fort

cutting is a coping mechanism and if you find an alternative it will be so much easier to stop, the first step is working out why you cut then you can best find an alternative to cutting. the ones above worked for me but that isn't saying there isn't more or better ones. Feel free to add yours, or come talk to me. 

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objects that are great for calming yourself 

stones - hold it in your hands feel the weight stroke it's edges carry it around in your pocket and hold it in your fist. 

blankets - wrap it around your shoulder if you tend to get anxious in your house, people will assume you are simply cold. Rub the edges between your thumb and fingers. If you have a favorite scent I would suggest putting it on it. 

favorite pieces of clothing - find a piece of clothing that you love, one that makes you feel safe or confident. A favorite jumper, gloves, jewelry a tee shirt or leather jacket. And wear it when you know you will be somewhere that will make you anxious.

an object that means a lot to you - whether it be a teddy from your childhood, a piece of jewelry or just an object that means a lot to you but not to everyone (mines is a sonic screwdriver pen) carrying it around with you will help. keep it with you or somewhere you can get it easily. 

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life gets hard sometimes but they will get better, I promise it will take a while but someday you will be able to breath again. 

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ways to sooth yourself (disclaimer just because these work for me doesn't mean they will work for everyone)

find an object or piece of clothing that you like the feeling of, mine is a blanket that I rub between my fingers and thumb. It could be anything from a jumper, to a stone to a book just something that you like the feeling of. 

make a safe space for yourself, whether that be your room or a place you have outside make that space your own. 

pet animals

have a long bath, spend the first while simply lying there. Maybe do things you used to do in the bath when you were little pretending to swim drawing on mirrors. Just relax. 

bake, don't take it seriously just bake something nice. I find the measuring and simply following instructions help. 

drink some tea 

make a blanket fort 

as I said these help me but may not work for you, I think you just need to find something that helps you and do it unapologetically. 

[ejlandsman]

I compiled some personal tactics and crowd sourced DIY remedies for the sads (clinical term) into a mini comic! Enjoy xoxo

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It's amazing how much a positive attitude can change out outlook on life and affect our happiness in a good way :) smile, be happy

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I'm weird, always have been, always will be, but I love it!! I wear my weirdness with pride and am confident about it :) not everyone feels the same way about me as I do, and that's fine cos you're never gonna please everybody, so work your hardest on keeping yourself happy, and sure if you have time a bunch of those you really care about happy, just don't however stretch yourself too thin trying to make sure that you make everybody happy, cos that's never gonna happen, it simply isn't possible. So go out and revel in who you are, love yourself for who you are and be happy!!! =)

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As the picture says, worrying is a complete waste of time, what will be will be and spending a whole bunch of time worrying about whether something will work out or not isn't fair on yourself. Do things to the best of your ability, be persistent and you will go far in life, just stick at it and smile and laugh as often as you can :)

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