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For some reason, my coworker’s refusal to use punctuation at the end of the last sentence in her emails is PISSING ME OFF today.

Especially when she is just reiterating something I asked… I asked YOU the question and gave you two options… YOU DECIDE! God!

There is a specific type of case I handle that is different than everything else our office does and I’ve picked up my deceased coworkers portion of the tasks and OH MY GOD I hate it all so much. It is really stressing me out! The attorney on it is the one I love to chat with but I’ve been pretty irritated at how checked out she has been for 6 months and I just feel like it is on my shoulders to keep things churning, drafting things and pushing them out the door. I just have no backup and it sucks.

I’m hopeful I can hand ALL of this over if we can hire a replacement but that’s at least 6 months out.

I can’t stop eating 😖 I just haven’t been able to rein it in and I am really enjoying cooking and everything sounds amazing and I’m just… expanding in a way I don’t like. I can feel the extra weight in my stomach and I’m in bigger pants. It is so annoying and I keep making unhealthy choices.

Angry woman/docile man is a good partnership

My mom called with an iPhone question from one of her friends who received a shared album from her son but only wanted several photos. It only gave her the option to “like” the photos, not delete. So I told her it was probably a setting on her son’s side and she could save the few pics she wanted and delete the album entirely and omg it worked and I only had like a 45 second convo to get there. Amazing.

You can still poke people on FB. Last time I did it was a decade ago (based on what it says) and it still makes me chuckle. I don’t think it sends any kind of public notification it was done, thankfully.

I asked my mom how many people she thought she had taught to play mahjong and she thought it was about 10. I think it is more like 50-75?? I mean, there were 4 alone when she taught me a decade ago and everyone she plays with now is someone she taught and she is always mentioning teaching someone. Her eye doctor wants to learn and is going to text her! Hell, I’ve taught 5!

She was also weirdly dismissive of her foot injury. She had an ingrown toenail removed by a dr and it got infected because she has the worst case of hammer toes you’ve ever seen. She mentioned not being able to wear closed shoes all week but that it was getting better, infection wise. Then she said she has a golf match Tuesday and I asked about her foot and she scoffed and said of course she could wear her golf shoes and wouldn’t even limp and was more concerned about the heat. And yeah, it will be 100 degrees on Tuesday! She is bound and determined to push her body to the absolute limit but whatever, have at it!

It’s funny how a day that I almost got tattooed on my body (8/8/2007) can pass by with nary a thought almost 20 years later.

I thought my life was OVER on that date. And look at my now 💃

Sorry it’s a terrible screenshot but these pork dumpling type meatballs and sauce were incredible

They reminded me of a meatball appetizer at my favorite bahn mi place with the sauce.

If you were renovating both full bathrooms in your house, which bathroom would you make the more bolder design choices in?

Guest bath (tub/shower combo)

Primary/master bath (walk in shower only)

Voting ended onAug 10

And please feel free to explain your thought process!!

My nieces reminded me of something that happened at our rehearsal dinner…

It was all family, out of town guests/ closest friends. Maybe 30 people, in a private room of a Mexican restaurant. We had just learned of the Germany job and wanted to share it with everyone.

I said (at some point in the thank you speech for everyone coming to celebrate with us) that we had something big to announce and NICOLE interrupted and says:

YOU ARE PREGNANT!!!!!!

And I immediately made a face and said “Oh god NO!” and then proceeded to announce we were moving to Germany for minimum 3 years 😂

What a fuckin’ cunt. Can you imagine if I was pregnant and she stole my thunder?!? And everyone in that room knew I absolutely had no interest in having children!! I guess I blocked that out because it is a pretty faint memory but it is pretty seared into Ella’s memory and she was 10!

This back injury for Frank is really opening my eyes to some things about myself!!

He re-tweaked it Friday and is able to stand and walk but sitting is pretty uncomfortable. He iced before but is on heat now, alternating ibuprofen and Tylenol after having just been using ibuprofen for a couple days.

So I am picking up a lot of his chores because most require bending/reaching/lifting in some capacity - physically doing the laundry (he is able to fold thank god), watering, walking Gus (putting his training collar on and being on every walk with them, he is walking to help loosen it up), clearing the table, squeegeeing the shower after we both use it (he goes second bc he normally showers at work and doesn’t have to squeegee so he does it at home to give me a break from it), taking out the trash, helping make the bed with fresh linens and more I am forgetting.

And doing all those tasks for him is… no big deal for me? I truly thought I would feel overwhelmed and tired but I feel capable? Useful? And doing all those tasks to his standard, not doing them how I would do them if it was just me.

How can I be a better person to others than I am to myself??? It is wild. It made me think about my goals for my mobility and how I just want to do it for Frank. Before, I would talk myself out of it because that wasn’t the “right” reason so I just wouldn’t do it. But who gives a shit what the reasons are as long as I actually DO SOMETHING?

I know Frank is probably gearing up for some big thank you but I would like a small one here and there when I do some of his chores. Which has also helped me examine myself!! Is it not enough to help the man I love, I need recognition/validation?

He did absolutely everything when I injured my knee, no complaints and he gave me great care. He was so supportive and kind. But every time he would bring me something, I would thank him. Every time I saw him doing “my” chore, I thanked him. I just wanted him to know I saw all he was doing and appreciated it.

He did vocalize he was worried it wasn’t improving so I mentioned making an appt at the ortho place I go to for my knee bc they could do PT as well. I said we knew they already take our insurance and don’t need a referral which is half the battle. I sent him the website page to request an appt and he did that yesterday so hopefully they can see him early next week and give him ideas on what to do. I doubt he needs imaging but who knows.

I can tell he is really frustrated and in pain but he is very stoic. I think his lack of verbal thanks is partly bc he feels like shit needing me to do that stuff. He is very much a completely capable man and it is unnerving needing help with such simple tasks. (He just got out of the shower and I can hear him kind of grunt/moan when I’m assuming he is trying to dry his lower legs off.)

He refuses a lot of my offers to help, like with his shoes or helping him off the couch. He still thanks me for cooking/delicious meals and other things so it isn’t like he is being an ungrateful dick. I just think my mindset to caregiving and things it brings up isnt something I haven’t really ever examined!!

Would it be insane to live in our house without a bathroom for 2 months if we used something like this to piss/shit and showered at work?

Bagging pee sounds worse than bagging poop… but I dunno, I don’t think the toilet would to too terrible. Not being able to shower at home would be awful for me. Plus it would be a construction zone/dusty I’m sure.

But 2 months is so long and will cost a lot of money to house us elsewhere. Could I suffer to save $4-5k? Is that even worth if since we have our original Reno budget to utilize? I just would rather pay off the truck. Ugh, I dunno.

Tell me your horror stories of trying to live in a renovation.

I’m eyeing a Speed Queen TC5. I want a top loader with agitator that fills to the brim with water and that that last thing seems to be almost impossible to find outside of SQ. The TC line is more what I’m looking for vs their TR line.

Our current washer came with the house. It is a top loader without agitator and I just don’t think it does a good job on our bedding. And it can’t seem to run a load without shaking all over even when it is perfectly spaced and not overloaded. It is so annoying and half the time it just stops halfway through.

I’ve been stalking FB marketplace and I could save 50% buying used and potentially driving 50-100 miles but… it is used, we would have to pick it up and install it. If it stunk or ran weird, we would be SOL.

So I’m thinking new. We don’t need a new dryer and maybe we could get $100 for our current washer or something.

I think unsupported motherhood will be the defining aspect of millennials.

Everyone has jobs and the women still do everything at home/with the kids. I hope Gen Z can experience a better situation but they are already having kids so I think it is 2-3 more generations away. We won’t see it in our lifetime.

Maternity care, paid maternity leave, affordable daycare, proper school funding, and equal partners.

Nothing better than cleaning your preferred thc vessel and taking that first hit

Frank re-hurt his back bending towards an item and I really really hope this isn’t the start of a chronic back problem for him!!

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