Work issues. Do I quit?
I haven’t used tumblr in a while and I don’t keep up which much that’s happening here at the moment, but just got something I need to get off my chest and I feel like this is the place.
I have been working in the same (hospitality) company for about 3 years now. Since the end of last year, I have been having issue with my (male) supervisor. One day back in November he called me in for a meeting. There he proceed telling me for 3 or so hours about how the rest of the staff doesn’t like to spend time with me and how my “attitude” towards people is not the best. Meaning that I’m too “bossy” to the new employees (even though I was asked to train them), etc.
However he said that my work ethics and my job dedication is amazing and he can only say good things about my job.
The workplace is quite laid back and most of us are good friends, including the boss and have each other on social media. Throughout the meeting he has brought up number of times regarding what I posted online. (Nothing bad, just simple normal things as me going out with my friends etc.)
This meeting has left me uncomfortable and afterwards I have refused to speak with him without someone else present, as many things said have been straight up attack towards me. It made me feel so bad to the point that I have considered quitting my job (which I enjoy very much). As I have got the understanding that everyone I work with hated me.
Fast-forward to today when we had a follow-up meeting. I have called this meeting as I started to hear rumors again throughout the company about my “attitude”. Since the first meeting, I have been carefully choosing every word I said at work (which is very difficult), and worked hard on rebuilding relationships with my coworkers.
I have naively thought, that everything was getting better. On this meeting, my boss proceeded to tell me about more situations (in details) about how my coworkers avoid me in any social situations and how the team (including my boss) went out on a team building, while I was the only one scheduled. As a cherry on the top, he also confessed that during this, all staff members had a go at me and talked all bad things possible.
Some time ago I have also applied for a supervisor position within the company, for which I had an interview with the said boss. Today he revealed that out of all applicants I was the one who would fit the most for the job and the most qualified. But since other team members “don’t like me”, he didn’t want to give the position to me. (The position then went to the boss’ friend, who did not initially even apply for it.)
How does my boss think, this is the right thing to do and then tell me? Is it worth my mental health and all my efforts to keep trying to rebuild all work relationships, which seem to be based on gossip and personal preference? At what point do I say, I’ve had enough and just quit? Is it okay that the fact, other staff members “don’t like me”, cost my a promotion?
(If anybody manages to read this far, thank you. And I appreciate all advice!)
