Jenna’s Journal

Real talk about life, love and empowerment

[jennamargaret]

In relationships, we often become versions of ourselves that we think others want to see. We end up dulling our inner light, and conforming to fit the other person. I believe we may do this for acceptance, or maybe for the fear that they will not love us as we truly are. I am guilty of this. I am, by nature, a very spiritual person, and I tend to dull this part of myself when I’m in a romantic relationship. It may be for reasons such as the other person not believing in anything spiritual, or perhaps I am trying to fit their vision of me. We all, meaning myself and everyone in general, need to stop doing this! Don’t hide parts of yourself to appeal to others. Maybe this is part of the reason that we get ourselves into the wrong relationships in the first place. Let your light shine as brightly and beautifully as you want it to, and the right person will come along and accept you, and love you just as you are. Don’t let anyone dull your sparkle!

[jennamargaret]

Every relationship, good or bad, is a life lesson that you can grow from. You have not lost anything by losing someone who no longer wishes to be in your life. Instead, you gain an opportunity to grow personally, and invite positive energy into your life! You know you are a beautiful soul, with a kind heart, who loves fiercely, and trust me when I say that there are people out there who will see that about you. As painful as heartbreak can be, you will come out of it stronger than ever before, and pay attention, because you will also learn things about yourself that you may not have known.

I want to share with you what I have learned so far from my relationships in this life. I learned how crucial it is to truly be yourself in every situation, and how important it is to keep yourself as a separate entity from the relationship. I learned that practicing daily self-care isn’t being selfish, but that it is a necessity for a relationship to remain healthy. I have also learned a valuable lesson in standing up for myself, and I learned what love is not. I learned the art of stepping back and observing who someone really is, by paying attention to their actions and the effort given, instead of relying on their words. I also learned that people do not love you just because you have love for them. I learned a greater sense of self-awareness, and what I’m looking for in a partner. Most importantly, I now know my worth, and I will never again settle for anything less than what I deserve.