Dear Me, 365 days ago
A Post on Upcoming EA and ED Decisions
Congratulations! You’ve made it to this anxiety-filled week! After all of those essays you pounded out before November 1st, you are finally going to hear from your dream school. Now, I know the feeling: your heart is beating out of your chest, you cannot focus on anything not related to that college, and your browser history is stocked full with College Confidential when you should be studying for semester exams.
Just do me and yourself a favor and stop for a second. Breathe. Your decision may come out tomorrow or maybe not for another week, but the task until then is to stay calm.
If you’re anything like I was, you are starting to imagine how you will react based on the three possible decisions. You begin to prepare yourself to be flat out rejected, and you peruse other applications to mentally prepare to write another 100 essays. However, there is still that sliver of hope that, somehow, you will be one of the lucky few.
All of that is just fine, and I might go as far as to say healthy. It is good to keep things in perspective, but with that comes keeping the decision as a whole in perspective. Even though it is the easiest thing to slip into, you cannot allow the college to control your next week. So, here are some hints for staying calm:
~Shut down College Confidential right now. But I – Nope. Turn it off. Block the website for the next week if you must, because it will only raise your anxiety. Even if you are someone who finds hilarity in other people freaking out, it is insanely easy to get sucked into it. Trust me.
~If you find the need to think about college all the time, there are ways to obsess about it that are more healthy. For me, this was MIT Blogs. I had zero interest in applying to MIT, but their blogs are very well written, and it allowed me to obsess about something that wasn’t Princeton yet that was closely related.
~Find fun distractions. It can seriously be anything, but I found homework wasn’t the best. It is much too easy to slip from “high school homework” to “Oh my gosh what if they don’t WANT me?” Distractions are best when it is doing something you love. Play music, dance, write poetry, do math, run, build a freaking snowman! Actually, building a snowman sounds really nice….post your snowmen please if you end up doing that!
Now comes THE DAY and your distraction ability has to improve ten-fold. I admit, this is NOT easy. I definitely counted down the hours, but I don’t recommend this. If you can, get rid of all means of checking the time until just before the release. Do something that calms you if possible such as listening to music, and hope that you don’t have an exam that day.
If your decision is to be released on a massive database that everyone logs into, I recommend waiting as long as you can stand it. It will likely be back-logged if you try to check it right at the minute they are out, and then you have to sit there anxiously as the wheel spins. I was lucky in that way to have a commitment until 20 minutes after they came out. It was really awesome to be able to see the decision immediately after typing in my password, no matter how hellish it was to be in that meeting. This is clearly up to you, but I do recommend waiting an extra 15 minutes for the guys at (insert college name) IT to clear out the traffic.
Your screen finally loads and here comes the Big Decision . The letter pops up on the screen and you have one of three fates: Acceptance, Deferral, or Rejection. Whatever happens, remember this: it will not define your life. If you are rejected or deferred, it will likely hurt, I know, but this is only one decision. There are many more to come in the spring. I also know that you can make your college experience great anywhere, because you are a high achieving student. If you weren’t, you wouldn’t have made it this far! If you are accepted, congratulations! I am glad they agreed that you fit the college! However, this also does not have to define you. If you are EA, this college does not have to be THE one. If you are at all unsure, I recommend leaving your options open and waiting until spring to decide officially. If you are ED, this is a lot more complicated, and there is a 99% chance you must accept the acceptance. (ED and have a question on this? Contact someone at JIF.)
Whatever happens, remember that ALL of us here at JIF are open to talk! You can ask us anything, or we can just be here to console! Let us know what your decision is, and our arms will be wide open to congratulate or comfort you!












