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Hotwife Lifestyle - Understanding Our Man’s Hotwife Fantasy and How to Use That to Our Advantage

The fantasy of having a “Hotwife” is growing, in fact, research shows it is growing at a higher rate than a good majority of the other lifestyle alternatives, including the old staple of “swinging” and the modern “open relationship”.  Why is it that a fantasy that revolves around only one part of a relationship – the woman – going out and finding pleasure from another man more intriguing to an increasing number of men than going out and “getting some” for himself?  

Basic psychology tells us that men are highly competitive creatures.  They have a drive to compete with other males of the species for the best mate – this isn’t so much different than what happens in the animal kingdom.  Most men have an innate drive to compete with other men when it comes to the “best mate” or the “most attractive woman”.  With this being said, one of the reservations of most women who find out about their husband or partner’s Hotwife fantasy is that he is somehow “weaker” than the rest because he wants to give up his position as your only partner.  Is this really true, though?  Could the truth lie somewhere within today’s man’s loss of natural competition in everyday life, and a desire to maintain a level of competition after marriage or “monogamy”?  Is this weakness, or rather the ultimate confidence?  

Cuckholding aside, because this aspect of the fantasy requires a bit more in terms of a “woman led” relationship, and a bit more from the man in terms of a desire for mental sadomasochism, a good majority of men enjoy the idea that they have been able to “capture” the best mate and even when she’s out having amazing physical and emotional experiences with men who may have qualities that actually supersede their own – a better body, a larger cock, youth, more prowess in bed – their woman actually WANTS to come back to them at the end of the night.  While most Hotwife-Husbands do get some level of turn-on from the jealousy and the possibility that their Hotwife may actually be enjoying their dates more than they enjoy being “at home”, the overwhelming desire is the competition and the “win” in terms of having a wife who chooses them again and again even after being allowed to go out and have other men.  

As Hotwives, we may be the focus of the fantasy, but there is that deeper and more psychological desire of a man who, even after committing to one woman, is able to compete with other males sexually.  This is why the desire for “reclaiming” a Hotwife after a date is so strong – it’s actually been scientifically proven that men who are able to reclaim a partner after she has been with someone else have an increase in testosterone levels, which means stronger desire, more powerful erections, longer lasting erections, and an overall stronger sex drive.  So, what does this mean for us as Hotwives?

He Enjoys the Jealousy, Go with It

As women we’ve learned that inducing some jealousy can actually be a good thing when it comes to dating – before we’ve found our “person”.  We use our female prowess to keep the men who we are seeing guessing…why?  Because they seem more interested in us when it seems as though we may not be 100% there.  So, if this works in the dating world, why wouldn’t it work once we’re married? In contrast, women typically don’t respond as well, or in the same way to jealousy – we tend to worry, question, and sometimes shut down if we feel that he might be “just not that into us”.  Naturally, because of our own feelings on the matter, we tend to avoid making our men jealous once we’ve committed to them, because we, ourselves don’t want to feel as though we’re in constant competition with other, more attractive, sexier, younger, etc., women.  Why would we do something to the man that we love that we, ourselves, would hate?

For men, though, and especially those with Hotwife fantasies, jealousy is a big component and tool for us to keep our men hot and bothered.  Sometimes just the mere mention of being flirted with by that cute guy at our favorite restaurant, or our interest in the sexy personal trainer at the gym is enough to send our men into a sexual frenzy.  It doesn’t take a lot to feed the fantasy.  It’s not ALL about dates and recounting how well we got worked over in the bedroom (and how much we loved it), though that is the ultimate turn on for our men, it’s also about the little things – the mention of our interest in someone else, the sexy messages that we send to potential lovers or Bulls, the “tease” of how much we loved what our last Bull did for us and how much we’re looking forward to doing it again.  Remember, this ignites the “competition” element of things, which is natural for men.

The More You Enjoy it, the More He Enjoys it

You may be thinking, “But I’m doing it for him, I’m not doing it for myself” (a common theme by A LOT of Hotwives), but in reality, our men WANT us to enjoy our encounters. They want to hear about what this “other guy” did for or to is that sent us over the edge, and yes, they want to hear what we liked better about the “other guy”.  I know it seems crazy, because we don’t want to imagine our men, even if we did allow them to be with other women, thinking that their “others” were better, sexier, hotter or had something that we don’t.  That’s because we don’t have that “competition drive” like our men do.

Let’s face it, despite what our men tell us – “It’s all about your pleasure” or “I don’t get anything out of it unless you’re enjoying it, because I love you so much” – this isn’t some ultimate “unselfish” thing our men are doing for us.  These things come out of their mouths, but what they are really saying is “I want to know that you came three times while he was fucking you, and you STILL want to come home to me”.  It’s their kink, and we have to understand it.  

So, if you’ve actually taken the step into the world of Hotwifing, you’re going to have to learn how to properly tease your man into believing that, just maybe, your Bull was better than him in some ways.  Whenever you think “But I’m only doing it for him”, follow that us with “I’m doing it for him and he WANTS to know that I absolutely enjoyed it”.  Find some aspect of your encounter that was mind-blowing, and recount, in great detail exactly what it was that sent you over the edge.  This may require a little bit of embellishment, and that’s OKAY…trust me…embellishment is your friend in this situation.  Tell your man about your Bull’s amazing cock, how good if felt, how good he tasted, how fantastic he was at oral sex, etc.  These are the things that will ramp up that competition streak in your man and make him want to reclaim you with increased vigor and desire.  

The More You Want Someone Else, The More Your Man Wants You

Again, you’re playing on the competition and the teasing aspect of things here…  The more that you act as if you WANT to be a Hotwife, the more that your husband or partner is going to WANT you.  His desire for you is going to skyrocket, his sexual desire for you is going to make it so that he’s ready to chew his own leg off to get you back in bed.  I have experienced this firsthand many times…if I am completely honest about an “encounter” and admit to “D” that my Bull was lacking in some way, or I didn’t quite “get there”, he isn’t nearly as turned on as when I tell him about how amazing things were.  I don’t like or believe in lying, but I do advocate for being selective and stretching the truth…maybe your lover wasn’t the best at giving oral sex, but maybe he was an amazing kisser, so a good answer would be “he was amazing with his mouth” and leave the rest up for interpretation.  

We’re women.  We are strong and capable and we are smart.  And the truth is, this is a GAME we are playing for and with our husbands/partners, so we need to get our heads into the game. Furthermore, this is an intellectual game, and we need to use our intellects to get to where we want to be.  Where do we want to be?  We want to have a husband/partner who is absolutely drooling over us, believes we are the ultimate sexual goddess, and in is jealous enough to realize that in order to “compete” they will need to step up their own game in order to “keep” us satisfied – be that with amazing sex, extra romance, other rewards, or all of the above.  

Happy Hotwifing!

-S

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This is 100% accurate. An excellent account of hotwifing from a woman’s perspective and sums up perfectly why many men are into the fantasy.

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WOW! You hitt ther nail on the head! This is a very big part of my feelings….

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This is us! XOXO

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About Being a Hotwife

Question

Thank you for answering my question about if this lifestyle was something you wanted to be a part of. I learned so much about a wife’s perspective in hotwifing.

Tumblr is great for exploring the fantasy of sharing your wife.  It stokes the desires with exciting memes and tantalizing thoughts.  But there is nothing like talking (emailing, messaging) with woman who is a real hotwife.  There are so many Tumblr posts that are devoid of the emotional connection between a husband and wife; it is exhilarating to hear about the woman’s honest perspective about the lifestyle. I did not intend to mimic your 20 Questions posts but your discussions and posts have sparked so many thoughts I would love to hear more of your input about the subject.  I would love to hear about your emotional journey through all of this. 1.) If you began this lifestyle purely for D was there anything that you needed to do or overcome before you engaged in making his fantasy a reality; or were you able to jump right in?   2.) If  there was something you needed to do or figure out was it something you had to do alone of did D need to help you? 3.) If you didn’t really want to start this lifestyle; if it’s something you still have some hesitation about and would abandon if D no longer wanted it; do you have any regrets in participating in this lifestyle? 4.) In this lifestyle what have you learned about D you might not have learned in any other way? 5.) In this lifestyle what have you learned about yourself you might not have learned in any other way? 6.) What have you learned about your relationship with D you might not have learned in any other way?

Response

I’m always happy to answer questions from a realistic point of view.  You are right in that Tumblr (and other websites, films, etc.) are a great way to explore the “idea” or “fantasy” of the lifestyle, but they don’t necessarily take into account all of the things involved - I constantly laugh when I come across memes on Tumblr that are just…wrong! lol  So, here goes :)

1. I definitely had to overcome a lot of things before actually going through with making D’s fantasy a reality, and most of those were emotional and idealistic.  I grew up with the idea that “true love” was what you saw in a Disney movie…all prince’s and castles and when you find your “one true love” that’s the only person you’re supposed to be with.  It was very difficult for me to shake the feeling that D’s wanting to share me meant that he somehow didn’t “value” me as much as he should - because, after all, kids will share their toys, but they usually keep the ones they love or cherish the most to themselves, right?  So, overcoming both the personal guilt and feelings that I was somehow less of a woman if I engaged in the lifestyle and that D didn’t value me as much as he would a woman who he didn’t want to share were the biggest hurdles…and I’m still working on these things to be honest.  

2. D and I are very open and honest in our communication.  We talked openly about my fears, worries, etc., and about his fantasies, motives, etc.  He helped me a lot throughout the journey, especially in preparing for it, but there were definitely things I needed to do on my own.  To be honest, when I finally did “jump in”, I jumped in…I had a “fuck it” moment related to the idea that D wasn’t going to be happy or satisfied unless I was fulfilling these fantasies, so I just got on Tinder one day and within a couple hours I had set up my first “date” (it ended up only being dinner and making out with a guy, and I learned a lot since then about how to go about finding the right guy, but that’s where it started).

3. Regrets…hmmm…  Ask me today and you’ll get one answer and ask me tomorrow and you may get a different one ;)  The truth is that a woman doesn’t think in a “straight line”, our thought process is more like someone taking a pen and drawing continuous overlapping loops on a piece of paper, which means that sometimes we “loop back” to thoughts we THOUGHT we had gotten passed.  So, today, right now, no, I don’t have any “regrets”, because I do know that I have done something for the man I love that he really and truly deeply wanted, and that’s a big thing for me. THAT is the sexy part in all of this for me…going above and beyond for D so that he thinks “damn, this is the perfect woman”.   

4. What have I learned about D?  Wow…well, I know pretty much everything there is to know about him sexually - his desires, his sexual past, details about all of his passed partners, details about everything he did in the lifestyle before me, etc.  This is a double edged sword…it’s fantastic in that we are more open and know more about each other than pretty much any couple I’ve ever met, but it’s also a source of worry for me occasionally; I get jealous, I feel like I’m competing with his past, like I’m competing with other women who may have been more adventurous that I am/better looking/sexier and crazier/more valuable, etc.  So, if we had never started this journey, I doubt I would know as many details about D’s past.  We probably wouldn’t be as close as we are, but we probably also wouldn’t have some of the issues that we have…so it’s a double edged sword, for sure!

5. I’ve learned a lot about myself.  I’ve never been the most confident woman in terms of my appearance despite people complimenting me and such, but I’ve learned that I am a desirable woman.  I’ve learned that you CAN just have sex to have sex, that it doesn’t always have to be a special, emotional thing.  I’ve also learned that I can be wild and crazy, much more than I thought that I could.  I’ve learned a lot about my own insecurities and fears too.  The strange thing is that before we got into the lifestyle and really started talking about it, I was not nearly as jealous and insecure, and even though D doesn’t “play” and we’ve decided that he won’t (unless somewhere down the line we both decide we want to do that), I’m more nervous and insecure about him wanting to be with other women now than I ever was before.  I don’t know if this is still me trying to work out the idea that if he wants me to be with someone else, he must also want to be with someone else…I don’t know, exactly, but it is something that I deal with now.  

6. This is a tough one…  Starting this journey definitely changed my relationship with D…it made it something different than it was and different than what I thought it would be.  The lifestyle forces you to be really open and honest, and because of that, D and I have had some pretty amazing conversations and also some pretty hardcore fights - I would say that at least 75% of our “fights” have been somehow related to the lifestyle.  He gets frustrated, I get frustrated…it’s hard when you tell someone your feelings and they just can’t completely relate or “hear you” because their own feelings are different.  I’ve also learned that our relationship is pretty strong and unique…we’ve gone through a lot of things that a lot of other couples probably couldn’t handle.

I hope that I answered your questions in enough detail…feel free to follow up if you’d like :)  It’s actually helpful for me in a lot of ways to write about these things and really dig into the feelings around them.      

-S

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A Note to Minors:

I see a lot on tumblr lately regarding the defense of underage participants in a certain community, as well as the underage participants expressing anger that they are not welcome on NSFW blogs. As a NSFW blogger, as well as someone who has come to know various sex laws due to their career, I thought I would clarify some things:

1. It doesn’t matter what the age of consent in your state is. Age of consent refers to the age that you are able to consent to sexual activity only.

2. Even if you are able to consent at age 16 or 17, by law you are still a minor. Pornography cannot be sold or viewed by minors.

3. If you are under 18 and you post explicit photos of yourself, you can be charged with creating and circulating child pornography, as the images contain a minor.

4. It is normal to have interests in sex and kink, regardless of age. There are safe spaces on the internet to seek these out and ask questions regarding your interests. Spaces where you can communicate with other teens, that are well moderated and do not allow adults to freely graze and prey.

5. As a minor, showing purposeful disregard for another blogger or a website’s request that no minors be present on the site (and for some explicit material, 21 is the age for legal viewership) puts the owner of that blog and/or website at risk. No one wants to see awesome sex bloggers get shut down or sex friendly spaces on the internet get hit for having underage members. Think about more than just yourselves.

If you’re under 18, unfollow me. Don’t argue, don’t flame me, just unfollow. I’ll be the first person to high five you when you turn 18 and we can reminisce about how much it sucked to wait. Until then, peace out.

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I don’t do jail. Unfollow if you are underage!!!!!

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If you are underage, please unfollow this blog and visit http://scarleteen.com.

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To all of my Followers. If you are underage, then please unfollow me. No hard feelings at all. Just refollow when you are 18. And please do the same to all the other blogs that you are on. It is an action to keep our blogs safe.

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This is a very important post and must be followed. If you are under 18 on our blog please unfollow. We know it sucks but do not jeopardize everyone else’s fun for your lack of self control. We all had to wait, so you must too!

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Yes, PLEASE unfollow my blog if you are under 18.  

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I am glad to see this and I mean it too. Unfollow. 

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Get lost kiddies, the adults are playing.

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It’ll still be here when you’re 18. And it’s worth waiting for.

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Let us know if you agree and let us know if and where you are in Arizona

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I’m wet and ready!!! Gilbert

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One of us is….

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I am.....

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Ladies if your Husband is asking, then give him whatever he wants in the Bedroom. You won't regret it!

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Watch MFM Porn with your Husband and bring it up....I am sure he won't mind!

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Ladies, don't be boring....be a Hotwife!

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My Wife knows!

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Our Anniversary is coming!