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My name is HollyRose🫶🏻

27yo

I am the Joy Haver, because I want to remind myself and the world that Joy is why we fight. All liberation is for the purpose of Joy. So I have decided to hold space for that, while also holding space for liberatory practices.

My original posts that I care about are mostly tagged #rose baker. It’s largely musings on anarchism and abolition.

I’m going to start tagging my posts where I discuss the American electoral politics. I understand why people might not want to read it and it’s taking up a lot of my thoughts and posts. So I’ll tag it #electoral politics from now on. If I miss something, lmk

- I am a 27 year old adult. I say stuff that’s very mildly sexual. I talk and joke about my experience as a human being. The things I share are not explicit, in my view. You won’t see images of sex. You won’t feel advanced upon.

Make your own decisions

My nsfw blog is @sanctuary-of-the-anarcha if your an adult and wanna follow me there.

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Watch or read my beloved sermon, about ecological hope.

Good relations with hope, sermon

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Read my Speculative Fiction Essay about clothing.

HollyRose Baker Social Fabric; Clothing in a Free Society A Speculative Fiction Essay 11/3/2023 Author note: Thank you to the Srsly Wrong di

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Peruse my Introduction To Ethical Nonmonogamy Slideshow

Basics of Ethical Non Monogamy Polyamory, Swinging, Open Relationships, and More! Created by HollyRose Baker, edited communally.

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I gave a speech at a vigil for Palestinian and Queer Martyrs, you can read or watch it here

Vigil for Palestinian and Queer Martyrs Video link: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Pd-CYHA53fWKCPToAXUgGQfjGsuPhgHa/view?usp=drivesdk (If

Watch or read my sermon about trans history and mutual aid https://docs.google.com/document/d/1BAortAnZMoQEdPa6WVUQDu95-VrYa9dP4KXZA0GcS9Y/edit?usp=sharing

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Send me stuff about prison abolition, folk music, leftist science fiction, and religious anarchism.

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I make anarchist prayer cards. Hit me up if you want one. They are super customizable and it’s by donation

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I run the Trans Artists For My Queer Heart playlist on Spotify. Feel free to submit songs for it. Limit of two songs per artist. Small artists who reach out get put on the top of the list. It had about 2000 followers. If you have a new release, let me know and I’ll spotlight it toward the top.

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Are you in or around Lower Alabama? Come to one of my plant walks, or hit me up for free plants. I mostly have native fruit and nut trees but I can give you lots of things.

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Im gay and i hate money

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it's 1pm at the marsh! come on down, we've got

𝓃𝑜𝓉𝒽𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝒷𝓊𝓉 𝒷𝓁𝒶𝒸𝓀𝒷𝒾𝓇𝒹𝓈!!!

shithowdy

it's 1pm at the marsh! come on down, we've got

𝓃𝑜𝓉𝒽𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝒷𝓊𝓉 𝒷𝓁𝒶𝒸𝓀𝒷𝒾𝓇𝒹𝓈!!!

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Quite a lot of people think they can determine if someone is worthy of living based on their behavior as a young child, even when that child is acting that way due to clear and present extreme stressors. They genuinely would rather the child die than recieve help, because in their world there are only victims and perpetrators, and if you are ever a perpetrator, you can never return to any other state of being. And in their view, the way you build the good world is to eradicate all perpetrators, ideally before they can even start. Because they see it as inborn traits that are irrefutable and unchangeable.

These people are very present in all activist scenes and all helping professions i have encountered. They are the primary reason that work collapses.

I spent the last ~10 years finding housing for people. Mostly homeless queer kids.

there was a certain level (or i guess type?) of tolerance for others required to do the work i did. It wasn’t a wide spanning general tolerance, but a very very specific one; people could not believe others were irredeemable/evil/whatever-you-want-to-call-it and do that work. Every other kind of intolerance could still make people useful and possible to work with, but in my experience, for housing work, that specific one made it absolutely impossible. It is a small scale and specific example of poppers paradox of tollerance

they dont believe people can change, at a fundamental level. So even if they agree with the work and say they want to help, when you start doing the work with them and they see that people are flawed, they stop helping, and they often try to sabotage all of the work because they think you are helping monsters

(Even if those supposed “monsters” are 11 year old kids whose parents tried to kill them for being queer)

You cant do housing work if you believe in irredeemable people. Thats the weird through line between Christian and Abolitionist housing work sometimes.

The belief that people can be “saved” or that they can grow and learn and change; either way there is a fundamental trait of giving second chances that you need for the work i was doing. And if you dont want that work to be dominated by strings-attached Christian organizations, you have to abandon the notion of evil people and learn to conspire for a better world for even the most complicated of people.

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does anyone know how to stop desire from being the root of all suffering

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does anyone know how to stop desire from being the root of all suffering

my dear friend, you and I have both been taught that we must know what we need before we dare to ask, but you and I are both trying to unlearn that. it's okay to not know any more than that you are hurting and someone else may be able to soothe it, even just a little. that is enough to be worth asking for.

I always enjoy our calls when we're both able to have them, to get to trade and share our thoughts about the big things but also about the little things. and it is probably a good thing in the grand scheme of things that there are so few of us given how we came to be this way, but it has been very rare indeed to find someone who can grasp the implications of how I grew up, someone who was shaped in a similar way, and there is a great comfort in being understood.

I don't have a lot of energy to reach out often, just to say I'm here, even though I'm certain it would do you good if I could. I will do what I can. but no matter how tired I am, if you reach out to me I will answer. I'm good at untangling knots, even if it can only be done a little bit at a time, and it is always worth it.

I keep the poetry book you made for me on my bookshelf, I always know exactly where it is. I'll make sure I box your christmas presents up properly this year so they don't get lost again.

I appreciate you so so much

You and I have never met, and what i have observed of the person you are has been gleaned from what you choose to share with us on this platform.

You seem to be a person who cares very deeply, who has done a lot of work to build a community, and try to steer what you can control in your life a little closer towards what will help and bring goodness into this world.

I’m aware in the smallest of ways that you have experienced a loss recently. Death is a difficult subject even in the most remote of times, but to experience the death of someone near and dear to you is an immeasurable grief.

I may not know you personally, but I recognize within you a heart that is hurting. Your movements do not ever have to be large to be valuable, you are valuable as you are. Your efforts do not have to be grand to be worthy, you are worthy as you are. But the movements and efforts you make are seen and recognized for the beauty that they are.

I’m so, so, so sorry your heart is bearing this load. Walk slowly at this time and take breaks often. I mean this both metaphorically and literally. Be kind to yourself as you process your feelings, and please know that those of us who are also grieving shed our tears with you.

Thank you for trying. Thank you for trying. It is all anyone can ask. Thank you for existing right now.

Thank you so much

I try to ask for this once a year to keep me going in hard times -

I would love to hear nice things yall have to say about me and the work I do. I love yall. This shits been difficult lately

This honestly feels like saying “help me help me help me” but not knowing how anyone could even possibly help me. I just want to know people care. I try so hard I really try. This has been so hard. Grief is hard. Death of loved ones is hard. Nothing about this is easy. I want affirmation of the value of my life and work

I love conserving native plants and their specific local ecotype genetics. I find that so so important. But I’m also not a purist. I’m not mad at a local indigenous woman whose growing plants from two states away that her family has been cultivating for seven generations. Im not mad at local black communities who are actively working to conserve okra populations that aren’t native to here but are important culturally and historically and also aren’t invasive. There is so much room for pluralism while still overall focusing on responsible ecosystem relationships, invasive species removal, and native plants restoration.

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I would totally mosh to Come Thou Fount Of Every Blessing.

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You can truly read this entire song as a sexual euphemism

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Maybe I’ll do a service at the UU titled “BDSM and lesbian interpretations of Christian songs”

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I would totally mosh to Come Thou Fount Of Every Blessing.

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You can truly read this entire song as a sexual euphemism

I would totally mosh to Come Thou Fount Of Every Blessing.

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My article about local queer history just got published, including a comparison of our local queer ecology to that of the local long leaf pine ecosystem. I even got to do an art piece comparing the two!

I’m really happy to have done this project. Speaking to queer elders about their experiences made me feel so much more confident in my own. I got to learn how they survived hard times, and what community and mutual aid looked like to them. I feel so much more rooted in the context of my people now, and for this I am greatful.

There is a link at the bottom of you want to read the rest of the articles in this months issue of the Mobile Bay Labor Journal!

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