I’ve seen this post passed around a ton lately and let me tell you why it is fucking gross and what kind of message you’re attaching to people.
1: “Because what passes as “femdom” online usually isn’t real female dominance.”
This is a rather bold statement to make- you don’t get to have a say in what makes somebody a “real” female dom as long as the dom and sub are consenting, and having fun. (Within all law parameters)
2:“It’s fantasy porn, created by men for men.”
I agree that a lot of femdom porn is cringey but the largest market for porn lies in men, so that’s what it’ll cater to. But I’ve had no issues finding stuff I personally enjoyed as a female dom so I’m not sure why that even matters. Different strokes for different folks.
3:“For instance, why would I, a dominant female,…while wearing tight, uncomfortable clothes and heels?”
Because that shit is hella cute to lot of us. What the fuck kind of question is that???? Doms can wear whatever the fuck they want, including you, but your taste doesn’t speak for all women.
4: “I have no interest in making a man wear a chastity device either…Unless I thought he was cheating…Yet internet Dommes apparently get off on NOT having sex with their subs. Weird…”
This part is particularly disgusting. Not only does OP acknowledge this is an opinion but they proceed to call it “weird” and imply you have to be “having sex” to get hot and bothered all over THEIR tastes. OP also only connects this to cheating????? Which locking up somebody who is cheating on you, assumingly nonconsensually, is abusive lmao…. chastity being used as legitimate relationship discipline is a no-no.
5:“the whole degradation “I am a lowly worm” shit you see online coming from sub males…she’ll almost certainly mention a guy with a strong, healthy sense of self. Lowly worms just don’t do it for, well, anyone.”
This is straight up stupid, I’m sorry. It’s called a KINK, people don’t actually fucking think they’re worthless and lowly, nor does having that kink make them worthless or lowly or less of a person.This also tries to brand these men, incorrectly, as undateable and like no woman enjoys this kink.
6:“Online femdom is a sham. It’s no more real than porn is a genuine representation of loving sex. It’s bullshit, eye candy for unimaginative men who are too gutless to chase a truly strong woman and discover what real femdom is for themselves, in the real world.”
Congrats, OP, you look like a self-absorbed asshole here. “a truly strong woman” will like whatever the fuck she wants and men who enjoy that will pursue her. Those “unimaginative men” can also have the kinks even if YOU don’t like them because a dom who does like them and won’t fucking shame others for what they enjoy and call them shitty people or fake people for it will surely LOVE to have a sub who shares her interests. Literally everything you stated was an opinion, that you were a jerk about with words like “weird” and “rubbish”, which you then acted like was a fact and reason for why there aren’t “more women in femdom.” Your opinions are FINE you can have those ALL you want and I will not shame them! But present them as just that- opinions.
If you don’t fucking like it, move on, there’s plenty of fish in the sea. Don’t go poisoning other peoples’ beaches just because you don’t like the fish that swim there.
Doms, don’t let some close-minded person on the web tell you that you’re “weird” or “aren’t a real dom” if you don’t/do like certain things. If you and your sub are consenting and having fun that is what matters.
Subs, don’t let some close-minded person on the web tell you that you’re “unimaginative” or lack being “strong” for your tastes as a sub. If you and your dom are consenting and having fun that is what matters.
Every single other person, mind your own fucking business when people are exploring and enjoying their own damn fetishes/kinks/turnons with somebody they are mutually consenting and caring for and they will mind theirs when you explore yours.
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