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Harley Quinn & poison ivy
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god i felt the “hellooooo~” and “did i do something wrong?” in my bones ^^;
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Too Fjuckin accurate!
Genuine question?? Im a 19 y/o lesbian and ?? I dont find p*nis attractive does that make me a TERF?
I’m happy you sent this ask, because it’s a perfect place to talk about how someone can get hurt, feel wronged, and become susceptible to extremist recruiting.
First off, treat this as a simple yes or no question, asked with zero surrounding context, the platonic idea of penis preference if you will. “I don’t find penises attractive” is not a sentiment that makes you a TERF. You’re okay not liking them. My nonbinary wife doesn’t particularly like them, yet they are married to me (who has one) and we love each other more than anything in the world.
In fact, in the abstract, I don’t like ‘em much either, and I own one! Ridiculous looking thing, wish I didn’t have to deal with it. A general dislike of genitals doesn’t make you a TERF… not by itself.
Now, here is where the critical thinking comes in, because if you posted something like that on Tumblr or something, it has a different context. You might not even know! It could be a totally innocent mistake, and it happens, and some women either get criticized in ways that makes them feel attacked, or actually attacked because you never know if what you post online is hitting someone on a bad day or a good day.
The context first of all is, without any clarifying statements, saying you don’t like a genital could imply you’re reducing anyone with that particular set of genitals down to their genitals only. And it could result in either someone telling you it sounds TERFy (if they’re trying to be gentle) or calling you a TERF (if they’re out of spoons) because that’s what TERFs do. Here’s where it becomes a recruit pitch.
You say “I don’t like penises.” This doesn’t mean you’re saying you dislike trans women (not all of whom have penises anyway), but if you get the above lecture/yelling, a radfem can come along and empathetically agree how unfair it is that someone made you hurt for saying you don’t like a genital, and it’s not fair to tell a lesbian she has to sleep with a male or she’s a TERF and- OH WAIT A MINUTE!
Hold up, it looks like they were just being nice but wait wait, they just slid cozily from “it’s okay not to like a penis” to “anyone with a penis is male.” See that? Like a sleight of hand, once you’ve agreed with that premises, saying “I don’t like penises” suddenly becomes attached to “and anyone with a penis is male.”
Alright now in context, going back this kind of equivalency is so common with radfems that at this point saying you don’t like a genital is what we call a dogwhistle. It’s a phrase which is seemingly innocent, and can be innocent, which has been so widely appropriated by a hate group that it carries extra connotations in a certain context. Contexts like posting on Tumblr, which happens to have a particularly large trans population.
Now you can’t know every single dogwhistle because that’s the whole reason they exist - so normal people don’t spot someone’s bigotry and it looks like a disenfranchised group is getting angry over an innocent statement.
And lastly, which you probably already know, but generally not being interested in something doesn’t have to equate to disliking anyone with that trait, or even not being attracted to someone with that trait. I bring this up because the difference between a lesbian who just generally doesn’t like genital and a TERF is that the TERF things anyone with a penis is automatically bad and a male and probably reading this right now thinks I’m saying you have to have sex with men or like penises, somehow, despite saying exactly the opposite.
You may have a general preference, but in practice I’m sure you’ve already found a difference between “I am physically attracted to how this person looks” and “Holy shit I am in love this person is amazing and everything about them is beautiful.” If you haven’t had that experience yet, I can promise you some day you will. Not necessarily over genitals, but some day someone will come into your life and you’ll love every part of them whether or not it’s something you normally find abstractly attractive.
Keep your heart open to love, keep your mind open to constructive criticism, and you’ll never be a radfem or TERF or SWERF or whatever. That’s all.
Because of this post as usual. 😘
This is such a beautifully written, gentle, educational post, and I am infinitely grateful to @cipheramnesia for taking the emotional energy to write this. Especially the part about how dog whistles, by their definition, are meant to slip by unnoticed.
Sometimes when I get a couple radfem notes on this I reblog it, and get a larger volume of kind notes. I take this as a sign that on balance the world is kind.
This post, 100%. TERFs literally groom people like that who don’t always know any better and whose first interaction with these topics is someone (justified or not) yelling at them. TERFs look out for these people, and in the right timing, they swoop in and take advantage of this brief window of emotional vulnerability. In that sense they’re not different from many dangerous extremist groups online (and offline). They are a sort of decentralized cult, a bit like the alt-right, they are dangerous to themselves (because in the end they do not advance women’s rights, even cis women’s rights, they’re a tool of larger far right narratives) and others. Do not tolerate TERFs (and SWERFs) in your spaces.
So well written and completely accurate. You can have a genital preference without being a TERF, but once you start denying us our identities and boiling our whole existence down to what’s between our legs, yeah you are one.
#lgbt #trans #transgender #transuk #transgirl #transisbeautiful #transwoman https://www.instagram.com/p/CSkWY_wLRT-/?utm_medium=tumblr
At another Spa evening with Safe Haven. Daring to wear a bikini out for the first time! #firsttimes #transfirsts #trans #transgender #transgirl #transwoman #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtq+ (at Penventon Park Hotel) https://www.instagram.com/p/CSkPgmzLtXz/?utm_medium=tumblr
Some goodies I picked up in town today shopping with the marvellous Mrs @jasminexrayne Never found @newlook shoes that have fitted me before plus some other bits to play around with! (at Plymouth) https://www.instagram.com/p/B7Y4nFDHvqo/?igshid=9ctz18e2oyfg
Not quite a Pina Colada in paradise, but still pretty good xx #transgender #transgirl #safehaven #nomakeup (at Penventon Park Hotel) https://www.instagram.com/p/B7MUjn5nNfM/?igshid=semg6w0ckv8v
Relaxing in the hot tub at Safe Havens Spa evening #transgender #SafeHaven (at Penventon Park Hotel) https://www.instagram.com/p/B7MR3GAnrb7/?igshid=ij31dzybe5qa
Happy Weekend Everyone!! @jeccablac base #nofilter #transgender #transgirl (at Callington, Cornwall) https://www.instagram.com/p/B7LfrKAnvUq/?igshid=1hfy250iyazf6
Enjoying a fun post Christmas show of the wonderful La Nevete Bete doing (funnily enough) Treasure Island (at The Plymouth Athenaeum) https://www.instagram.com/p/B6teiYVn-Bk/?igshid=1rtup5whip11z
A lovely Hot Chocolate on Boxing Day at home with my family (at Callington, Cornwall) https://www.instagram.com/p/B6ip2UdHGcP/?igshid=1fnt30522tbl3
Got my Christmas Nails done @perfectlypolished19_ in Plymstock today. I love them! (at Perfectly Polished Plymstock) https://www.instagram.com/p/B6BezO0Htf0/?igshid=8rxbemwky4q9
Had a lovely evening @perfectlypolished19_ yesterday. Met some lovely, warm & welcoming ladies who spoilt us! Can’t wait to head back! (at Plymstock, Plymouth, United Kingdom) https://www.instagram.com/p/B4sz-WQHdVCAhbn06MDL7-vc6DMKYLgb7ZKxNE0/?igshid=1tsvrfaeztw5a
Having a nice relaxed evening at the pool and spa with Safe Haven (at Penventon Health and Leisure Spa) https://www.instagram.com/p/B2Z2Yipn46_h7SRnez3Df8q5ItpRPCOSh7Nfzc0/?igshid=o9r0m16ozt6l
Someone has some exciting new toys to play with. Looking forward to using products designed for Trans women @jeccablac #trans #transgender (at Callington, Cornwall) https://www.instagram.com/p/B1vqFyJnrPoS56BJTOIIeDovQCehAAsFXsM4bc0/?igshid=17z9swcylixi4
Flowers courtesy of a lovely customers. The nice ones really make up for the nasty ones. (at Callington, Cornwall) https://www.instagram.com/p/B1jwzDunxD2ExGoEsDHTFLzFprujTig2JMzync0/?igshid=1fsxc8am7cbrh
The Rainbow flag is flying in Callington Town Square ready for @cornwallprideofficial visit tomorrow! 🏳️🌈 (at Callington, Cornwall) https://www.instagram.com/p/By_TC3snqoruC1uKWSJpPpDy_6aH2K50nkfxZc0/?igshid=101lkx496hye5