My good people, I give you: Amatonormativity.
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You and this perfect person who youāve never met before, to come out of nowhere, fit your life perfectly, complete you and make you whole for the first time in your life, much like your mother did for me.ā
And even though what he said sounds sweet or whatever, what it manifested in my seven-year-old brain was this, āIf you are not with someone, you are broken. If you are not with someone, you are incomplete. If you are not with someone, you are not whole.ā
And thatās not just something my dad made me feel, thatās something that we as a society have made every single child born in the last 40 years feel. Every Disney princess has a prince, every prince has a princess, every television show or movie always has a character in it that doesnāt want to be in a relationship. Theyāre happy with who they are. But then by the end of the series, guess what. They were wrong! They were wrong for wanting to be alone, what a fucking idiot. Everyone needs someone, yeah. Itās all to do with love.
And when you raise children in that world, where everything points towards love, when youāve raised them for 18 fucking years, when we become an adult for the first time in our late teens and our early 20s, weāre so terrified. Weāre so trying to be an adult that some of us will take the wrong person, the wrong jigsaw piece, and just fucking jam them into our jigsaws anyway, denying that they clearly donāt fit. Iām gonna force this fucking person into our lives, because weād much rather have something than nothing.
Then five years later, youāre stood looking at a jigsaw you donāt recognize, being like, āAh! Thereās a fucking cunt in the middle of this.ā And in that moment you have a very, very difficult question to ask yourself. Do I admit the last five years of my life have been a waste? Do I waste the rest of my life?
My generation has become so obsessed with starting the rest of their lives that theyāre willing to give up the one they are currently living. We have romanticized the idea of romance, and it is cancerous. People are more in love with the idea of love than the person they are with. The worst thing you can do with your life is spend it with the wrong human being.
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This spoke volumes
āOh Iām not aromantic/asexual so amatonormativity wont affect meā
Shut up and read this. Yes it does.




















