So.. this is a disclaimer. Incoming.. a stupid post about follows/unfollows, blocking/unblocking, tumblr drama and so on. Pretty much all the reasons why I don’t want to stay here anymore, didn’t want to stay on Tumblr at all, but creating stuff is what I love and it calms me down when I have anxiety or panic attacks. This is about why I just recently moved to another blog, but a lot of people found me already. I don’t care. I wasn’t going to make this post, but I just have to. I didn’t know what I was diving into when entering this community. Here’s an answer for you: A LOT OF UNNECESSARY DRAMA. I’ve met a lot of amazing, kind and talented people and I’m so happy about it. But some of them, including tons of hurtful hate anons I got for no reason, were the toxic part of this community. You know, you try to ignore, delete the hate, avoid it as much as possible, all the drama and so on.. as childish as it is, just because this platform is irrelevant and is pretty much just for all the users to share the content they create, you still can’t escape the bad feelings, the “competition” for notes, reblogs, feedback and so on. I’m not saying everybody is like this, I could call out hundreds of people for their bullshit, for hurting my friends in the most psychologically abusive ways, I could make a freaking “death note”. But it’s not my place to do so, since that is my personal experience with those people. But I’ve seen the giffing community’s part. I’ve seen the fanfic writer’s side. Somehow fanart side is quiet, peaceful and not appreciated enough.
• Notes. Reblogs, likes.. the part that I can honestly call “drugs”, if you pay enough attention to it. It sucks you in, I’ve been there, I’ve done that. Start comparing your stuff to other people’s stuff and so on. Good thing I have a best friend who hit me in my head and told me to snap out of it. You can’t feel how you’re one day making it all for fun and another day you’re waiting for videos to gif asap just to get notes. Conclusion: not worth it. Make it if you want to make gifs, fanarts, video edits and so on. This platform is to enjoy, not compete. There’s a good reason why a lot of people hang out here, there’s a good reason you can’t see the followers count.
• Following/Unfollowing. Follow who you want to follow. Your dashboard is the content you want to see. Mutuals for a long time and they started posting something you don’t want to see anymore? Unfollow them, no big deal, if they want to keep in touch, they will. I’ve dropped a lot of people like this, I’m usually not the one to reach out, really not after the shit I’ve been through because of this type of drama, but the guilt you feel when you unfollow a mutual or a friend just because you don’t like their content in general or anymore. Conclusion: tumblr is based on putting out content and sharing it. Your blog - your rules.
• Blocking/Unblocking people. Now this is a very sensitive topic to a lot of people. I’ve blocked people, because they were mean to me or mean to people I care about. A lot of them. I block people for a reason, if they talk shit about my friends directly to me, well bye, you’re showing how much you respect others and I don’t like this kind of attitude. I’m not saying I’m the saint one here. People talk about people, that’s what we all do at the end of the day. I’ve been blocked by people because they didn’t like me, because I’m saying too much, because I’m random, because I’m “pain in the ass on tumblr for them”. Do I give a f*ck? Honestly, if I had no problems in my real life outside of this site, I maybe would give a shit about them. Now.. that’s what I tell all the time. If you don’t like me or my content - block me, no need to tell me your opinion. I’ve seen people who turned from “I love your work” to “you’re entitled, get a life”. Hurts? If it’s a person I know, yeah, hell yeah it hurts. If not then, well good for them. In the end, if you want to block someone, just do it. Some people will hate, some people will ignore it, some people will say “f*ck you” and forget it after a while. Conclusion: once again, it’s your blog, if you block people.. well that’s it. You have your reasons, move on. For the blocked people - feel however you want to feel and move on. Both of you, the person who blocked you and the blocked person, you’re not worth each other’s time, so why waste it.
• Tumblr drama. It starts with one of the few reasons mentioned above. Notes, follows, blocking, I could add feedback too, but this is another world of “you treat me badly because you don’t care about me and my work so I’m gonna be pissed about it”. Other than that, addressing tumblr drama here is important to me. I just.. somehow happened to be in the middle of it. With a whole lot people. I don’t know how it became like this, but it’s another people I’ve kept only few people close to me when moving blogs. I was afraid of it. It hurt me a lot of times. That’s why I turned my chats off here. I’ve thought a lot when writing this part of this post and the only thing I can say about this, is stay away from drama. It’s a waste of your time and energy. The things I learned in a year.. this community is toxic for all of these reasons. However, not all people are bad, that’s why I try to think like them for a second when they say mean things or say shit about me or others. Just to try and feel how they are feeling at that moment. Conclusion: Tumblr is irrelevant kindergarden for teenagers and adults. Stay away from this part and if you see someone abusing you, telling you what to do, saying mean things or something like that - block them.
Overall - this is not meant to hurt anyone here. I’m not calling out anyone directly, indirectly or in any other way. I know people like to take it to heart. This is in general how I feel about things, what I’ve experienced in a year being here. How I felt, what kind of people I met, what stuff I had to do and didn’t do. This post is simply for people who are new here and who just recently got into the giffing, fanfic or any other kpop community. In no way I am telling anyone what to do. In no way I am saying that you have to turn your chats off or go and block everyone. All I’m saying is, how you feel towards other people is valid. If you don’t like something, you’re not keeping it in your life, you usually get rid of it. You’re not obliged to chat with everyone, reply to everyone, be nice to everyone or do as someone says you should do or act. Tumblr is a platform to share your content, to support others by reblogging their content and just feel better about yourself since you can show what you created to the world. All in all, I needed a new, fresh start with positive people around me and that’s why I left this blog. It means a lot to me, or, meant, I’m not deleting it anytime soon.. I may be a bad guy for telling of all this now, but if you’ll take it personally - it’s gonna be your feelings to deal with.
