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~Just a transsexual ball of lesbian yearning~ -she/her- I'm not interested in arguing with anyone on this hellsite. I am here to vent. If you try to argue with me I'm just gonna block you.

[kayla-denker]

I'm not interested in arguing with anyone on this hellsite. I am here to vent. If you try to argue with me I'm just gonna block you.

[estroghoul]

"grab life by the balls" "life's a bitch" okay yeah, clearly life is TMA and we must cling to her

[ghostlyharrow]

we aren’t even allowed to be experts on our own experiences. we have to be spoken down to like children, and be spoken over with gross misrepresentations by people who claim to be our allies and kin. university panels on transfeminity by a bunch of tmes. trans lesbians being called pervert crossdressers by supposedly well-respected scholars of queer and gender studies. We have been abandoned holy shit we have been completely abandoned

[sin0fempathy]

abt the last post i reblogged: i have made SO MANY of the same points trans women have been making time and time again on this blog. i’ve advocated against punitive “justice” and the psychiatric system, and advocated for youth liberation and the fact that trans women are functionally and societally women in every way that matters.

have i gotten banned for it? no. have i gotten reblogged and harassed a billion times by kiwifarmers and TWERF stalker blogs? no. none of this has happened, because i am not transfem, and these exile campaigns are primarily targeted at those who are.

hell, if i wanted to i could probably start engaging in a lot of the same kinks they use to justify banning some of these blogs twice a day, and i can almost guarantee nothing would happen to me. they don’t care anywhere near as much about the fact that there are nazis on this site, school shooter glorifiers, sections of this website i have seen where people are actually, literally soliciting sex from minors- but those blogs don’t get stalkers or callout posts. staff and the stalkers care way more about a transfem having kinks, or talking about how even people you don’t like or who make you uncomfortable should still have access to basic needs and human rights.

i cannot stress this enough: WE ARE NOT THE PRIMARY TARGETS OF TRANSMISOGYNY. if you are tme and care at all about the way this site has grown increasingly hostile towards transfems, SPEAK UP. GET LOUD ABOUT THE BANNINGS. GET LOUD ABOUT THE STALKERS. GET LOUD ABOUT EVERY SINGLE INSTANCE OF A TRANSFEM BEING DOGPILED, HARASSED, OR HAVING THEIR LIVELIHOOD RUINED BY TRANSMISOGYNIST MOBS.

learn the signs. pay attention, and fucking listen to your sisters. listen to them while they still have a voice. that is the least you can do.

[autisticiris]

Hey! Stop doing material analysis of societal biases! That’s oppression olympics!

Anyway, here’s a five paragraph essay on why men are actually oppressed, if you take this away from me you’re basically hitler.

[tboy-trash]

[seeing a cis woman upset after a cis man called her a hysterical bitch] omg why are cis people always infighting?? gender norms oppress all of them, they should be fighting together :3 cis women need to stop making such a fuss and be kind to their brothers

[kayla-denker]

"Why are they fighting when they could be kissing instead!"

[tboy-trash]

[seeing a cis woman upset after a cis man called her a hysterical bitch] omg why are cis people always infighting?? gender norms oppress all of them, they should be fighting together :3 cis women need to stop making such a fuss and be kind to their brothers

[kayla-denker]

Birthday boy discovers "sealioning", a tactic that MRA chuds have been using for decades. Thinks he's invented something new and effective. Sees people correctly interpreting this for sealioning, being annoyed, and probably immediately blocking him, and makes the classic chud mistake of thinking this means he's "won."

There isn't an original thought in the heads of these tMRA dorks.

[kayla-denker]

My roommate is transmasc. We were just talking about their reluctance to use the men's bathroom even as they "pass" more and more as a man, which is starting to cause people to give them concerning looks when they use the women's. They said they still use the women's because they feel more comfortable there. Which is fine, we shouldn't have gendered bathrooms anyway. But I told them "you might not feel as safe when you eventually get 'accused' of being a trans woman in the women's bathroom." To which they replied "oh, I'll lust lift my shirt and show them my mastectomy scars. That'll prove I belong in there."

Oh but "everyone is subjected to transmisogyny" (according to tMRA chuds, not my roommate), right?

This is the point of TME/TMA. This is why non-transfeminine people aren't subjected to transmisogyny.

I can't fall back on my AGAB to "prove I belong" in women's spaces.

[life-onthe-murderscene]

does your roommate go by solely they/them or are you degendering them because it sounds like they at least go by he/him

[kayla-denker]

Their pronouns are they/them. They will accept he/him, but prefer they/them.

What exactly made you confident enough to say "it sounds like they go by he/him," since I never once called them that or said that's what their pronouns are, I didn't even call them a trans man, because thats not how they identify. I said "transmasc."

[kayla-denker]

Ah, that would be what gave you the confidence....

[kayla-denker]

My roommate is transmasc. We were just talking about their reluctance to use the men's bathroom even as they "pass" more and more as a man, which is starting to cause people to give them concerning looks when they use the women's. They said they still use the women's because they feel more comfortable there. Which is fine, we shouldn't have gendered bathrooms anyway. But I told them "you might not feel as safe when you eventually get 'accused' of being a trans woman in the women's bathroom." To which they replied "oh, I'll lust lift my shirt and show them my mastectomy scars. That'll prove I belong in there."

Oh but "everyone is subjected to transmisogyny" (according to tMRA chuds, not my roommate), right?

This is the point of TME/TMA. This is why non-transfeminine people aren't subjected to transmisogyny.

I can't fall back on my AGAB to "prove I belong" in women's spaces.

[life-onthe-murderscene]

does your roommate go by solely they/them or are you degendering them because it sounds like they at least go by he/him

[kayla-denker]

Their pronouns are they/them. They will accept he/him, but prefer they/them.

What exactly made you confident enough to say "it sounds like they go by he/him," since I never once called them that or said that's what their pronouns are, I didn't even call them a trans man, because thats not how they identify. I said "transmasc."

[estro-boi]

ngl kinda hate that "this has been discussed extensively you're just 21" tweet cos it was directed at a trans woman who was getting dogpiled for saying that the "dangerous man in a dress" horror trope is shitty

[estro-boi]

she was born in 2005, the right wing culture war against trans people has been going on for half her life, if she independently arrives at a correct take then how is that something worth mocking?? you got flowers sprouting through concrete, water them dumbass

[estro-boi]

my dipshit six year old: if the earth is round how come we don't fall off??

me: lol we learned that in science class 20 years ago 🤣 prick

infinite strangers online: okay this is an all time dunk

[kaijufluffs]

She's being so big and brave.

[ellllllliote]

saw a TikTok talking about how fucked up it is that people are abandoning trans people politically.

opened the comments to see somebody (transmasculine) commenting about how transfems get all the attention and how they wish more people would talk about transmasculine people

I reply to explain that trans women are (and should be) centered in conversations about transphobia because they are treated worse and have worse sociopolitical outcomes. as politely as I am able while still conveying the relevant information

within the span of an hour this person and a separate transmasculine person reply to this comment to argue this. the creator of the video, who is also transmasculine btw, likes the comment I was disagreeing with and deletes mine.

so anyways, it’s fucked up how people are abandoning trans people politically. and when I say trans people I mean WOMEN!!!!!!!!! And FEMS!!!!!!! ESPECIALLY BLACK TRANSFEMS!!!!!!!

[tankie-transfeminist]

This is transfeminism!

[alpineprincess]

If black trans women aren't centered in the struggle for trans liberation, true trans liberation will never occur.

[kayla-denker]

It's not even hard to acknowledge the privelege you have over other more marginalized people within your demographic, and it does nothing to erase the struggles you still face.

Watch, I'll do it right now:

I, a white trans woman, have privelege over all racialized trans women. All the transmisogyny I face is amplified a thousandfold for them because that transmisogyny intersects with the racism they also face. And I will never be able to truly understand that as they do.

Did the transmisogyny I am subjected to dissapear? Lol, no.

Do I feel a need to invent some bullshit term like "transmisogynblanc" because they have the term "transmisogynior" to describe the specific form of oppression they face at the crossroads of transphobia, misogyny, and racism? Lol, no. I'm not at those crossroads. I'm just at the intersection of misogyny and transphobia. There isn't even an "anti white racism" road to intersect with those other two, it doesn't exist.

In case you're too dense: this post is criticizing "transmisandry/transandrophobia" ideology and it's belief that transmascs don't benefit from patriarchy.

[maidslime]

"do you think pre-transition trans men have male privilege?!" Is such a telling thing from transandrodorks, because it clarifies that they do not understand privilege/power/oppression dynamics, but worst of all it shows they define transhood by hrt. Yes, some trans men pre hrt absolutely have male privilege, because hrt isn't the moment you suddenly become trans, hrt is not when you suddenly become a man or a woman. You can come out and not do anything to medically alter your body. Do you think trans women are spared harassment just because they're not on hrt? Do you think pre hrt trans women are privileged? This is another chapter in the 'transandrodorks are actually bioessentialist' because they refuse to recognize pre hrt trans people as their genders as victims of their respective bigotries. A state banned trans girls from joining women's teams to affect one specific trans girl. In an entire state. Did that trans girl have male privilege? Dumbasses.

[kayla-denker]

I'm sorry, OP, I wanna take this opportunity to build off of your point with a bit of a long addition:

Trans men have male privilege even when they "don't pass," even when they are in the closet.

Because they are men living in a world that is built specifically to cater to the needs and desires of men.

Do they face oppression? Obviously, because they are trans. Thats why theres a closet for them to be in and come out of in the first place. Its literally the same thing with cis gay men. They also have male privilege while still being oppressed for being gay. Like, do you think that cis gay men and cis gay women have it exactly the same? That they face the exact same amount of oppression and marginalization? Get the fuck out of here.

The women of every single demographic always have it worse than the men of that demographic. Patriarchy gives the men of that demographic privelege over the women of that demographic.

This is intersectional feminism 101!

And this is always perfectly displayed by the wage gap. Straight white men make more than straight white women. Black men make more than black women while still making less than all white people. Gay cis men make more than gay cis women while still making less than all straight cis people. And trans men make more than trans women while still making less than all cis people.

There is no caveat about "only when they pass", because this isn't about how you're percieved by the immediate people around you. Its about the systems we live in and who they're designed to benefit.

[dogstrogen]

"tme/tma is a binary!!" yes that's how oppression descriptors fucking work dipshit. you're either the intended target for discrimination or you're not. you don't fucking transcend oppression just because you're nonbinary or intersex

[lilith-hazel-mathematics]

Checked some guys blog to see if he was normal about transfems, and he's got a post just point blank saying "trans radfems" are pedophiles. Like okay I guess we're just going full mask off lol.

"Transfems are sexual predators" is the primary TERF viewpoint. Like that's their entire thesis statement. The "radfem" call is coming from inside the house, dipshit. You believe in their beliefs.