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~Just a transsexual ball of lesbian yearning~ -she/her- I'm not interested in arguing with anyone on this hellsite. I am here to vent. If you try to argue with me I'm just gonna block you.

[kayla-denker]

I'm not interested in arguing with anyone on this hellsite. I am here to vent. If you try to argue with me I'm just gonna block you.

[insaneassylum]

People who say jax isnt trans, or jax is trans FTM have such AUDACITY!! Imagine you make a self insert character of your trauma with being a trans woman. And your fandom is still debating over jax's trauma. Even though you came out and said she is a trans woman.

Yes the writting is shit, yes I also thought jax was FTM. But choosing to make her trans FTM in your head and jumping over peoples logic just to fit your narrative is pushing that toxic mindset.. that trans woman are easily pushed to the side, easily stepped over.. but isnt it crazy that if jax was ftm, she would be way more acknowledge.. because the world is so fucking male centered.

Yes the writting was so bad. Genuinely. I thought truly thought she was FTM because how she was explained seemed so similar to my experience... But after gooseworx heavily pointed at jax being one of the dolls, I feel like its very rude to ignore representation. Oh and not to mention, ofc your not gonna understand the MTF representation if you yourself arent MTF.. GASP, crazy. I am genderfluid. Trans masc. So ofc I read jax as being FTM because his experience was very similar to mine. But that shouldnt take away the representation of the dolls. And when u learn it was just bad writting, and you call yourself and activist. You should humble yourself and walk away from said hill, dont die on it. Your head cannon will never uprank cannon.

And if you say the writing wasnt bad.. I just dont understand the representation. Normally I would agree! However I seen good trans women representation.. I didnt even KNOW she was trans or even hinted at it during the fucking show!! Like whaaaat??? We should have seen more trans representation on jax's side. If an author is trying to make representation, it should be easier to pick up

But again, that's just my opinion ✨️ You have yours, I will have mine. And we can smoke a joint or share a beer over it. Its not that deep 🤷‍♂️

[kayla-denker]

Its not "bad writing" because you misinterpreted the foreshadowing while thousands of trans women correctly read it years ago, especially since Gooseworx based Jax's behavior on her own when she was in the closet. It can't be bad writing when its based on actual real life, it just means that it wasn't written for you.

Being written for an audience that isn't you =/= bad writing.

[calamity-corner]

"hiding behind your identity as a shield" ah yes trans women, classically the group of people most often treated fairly and given the most benefit of the doubt. nobody has any preconceived notions about trans women, society says nothing negative about them, The Ultimate Criticism Magnet is clearly the best shield someone could use to deflect criticism

[calamity-corner]

what kind of alternate reality do you live in where being a trans woman shields you from literally any criticism, genuinely. we don't have to get into all the widespread legal and social ways trans women specifically are easy and frequent targets, we don't even have to look further than queer tumblr specifically. if the trans woman has dozens of accounts entirely dedicated to criticizing her then i don't think her identity as a trans woman is really "shielding" her from anything, now is it?

[calamity-corner]

people love to say "we hate you because you're a trans woman and we hate trans women" and then when you say "hey this person hates me for being a trans woman" they go "why are you making this about identity politics"

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[estroghoul]

"grab life by the balls" "life's a bitch" okay yeah, clearly life is TMA and we must cling to her

[ghostlyharrow]

we aren’t even allowed to be experts on our own experiences. we have to be spoken down to like children, and be spoken over with gross misrepresentations by people who claim to be our allies and kin. university panels on transfeminity by a bunch of tmes. trans lesbians being called pervert crossdressers by supposedly well-respected scholars of queer and gender studies. We have been abandoned holy shit we have been completely abandoned

[sin0fempathy]

abt the last post i reblogged: i have made SO MANY of the same points trans women have been making time and time again on this blog. i’ve advocated against punitive “justice” and the psychiatric system, and advocated for youth liberation and the fact that trans women are functionally and societally women in every way that matters.

have i gotten banned for it? no. have i gotten reblogged and harassed a billion times by kiwifarmers and TWERF stalker blogs? no. none of this has happened, because i am not transfem, and these exile campaigns are primarily targeted at those who are.

hell, if i wanted to i could probably start engaging in a lot of the same kinks they use to justify banning some of these blogs twice a day, and i can almost guarantee nothing would happen to me. they don’t care anywhere near as much about the fact that there are nazis on this site, school shooter glorifiers, sections of this website i have seen where people are actually, literally soliciting sex from minors- but those blogs don’t get stalkers or callout posts. staff and the stalkers care way more about a transfem having kinks, or talking about how even people you don’t like or who make you uncomfortable should still have access to basic needs and human rights.

i cannot stress this enough: WE ARE NOT THE PRIMARY TARGETS OF TRANSMISOGYNY. if you are tme and care at all about the way this site has grown increasingly hostile towards transfems, SPEAK UP. GET LOUD ABOUT THE BANNINGS. GET LOUD ABOUT THE STALKERS. GET LOUD ABOUT EVERY SINGLE INSTANCE OF A TRANSFEM BEING DOGPILED, HARASSED, OR HAVING THEIR LIVELIHOOD RUINED BY TRANSMISOGYNIST MOBS.

learn the signs. pay attention, and fucking listen to your sisters. listen to them while they still have a voice. that is the least you can do.

[autisticiris]

Hey! Stop doing material analysis of societal biases! That’s oppression olympics!

Anyway, here’s a five paragraph essay on why men are actually oppressed, if you take this away from me you’re basically hitler.

[tboy-trash]

[seeing a cis woman upset after a cis man called her a hysterical bitch] omg why are cis people always infighting?? gender norms oppress all of them, they should be fighting together :3 cis women need to stop making such a fuss and be kind to their brothers

[kayla-denker]

"Why are they fighting when they could be kissing instead!"

[tboy-trash]

[seeing a cis woman upset after a cis man called her a hysterical bitch] omg why are cis people always infighting?? gender norms oppress all of them, they should be fighting together :3 cis women need to stop making such a fuss and be kind to their brothers

[kayla-denker]

Birthday boy discovers "sealioning", a tactic that MRA chuds have been using for decades. Thinks he's invented something new and effective. Sees people correctly interpreting this for sealioning, being annoyed, and probably immediately blocking him, and makes the classic chud mistake of thinking this means he's "won."

There isn't an original thought in the heads of these tMRA dorks.

[kayla-denker]

My roommate is transmasc. We were just talking about their reluctance to use the men's bathroom even as they "pass" more and more as a man, which is starting to cause people to give them concerning looks when they use the women's. They said they still use the women's because they feel more comfortable there. Which is fine, we shouldn't have gendered bathrooms anyway. But I told them "you might not feel as safe when you eventually get 'accused' of being a trans woman in the women's bathroom." To which they replied "oh, I'll lust lift my shirt and show them my mastectomy scars. That'll prove I belong in there."

Oh but "everyone is subjected to transmisogyny" (according to tMRA chuds, not my roommate), right?

This is the point of TME/TMA. This is why non-transfeminine people aren't subjected to transmisogyny.

I can't fall back on my AGAB to "prove I belong" in women's spaces.

[life-onthe-murderscene]

does your roommate go by solely they/them or are you degendering them because it sounds like they at least go by he/him

[kayla-denker]

Their pronouns are they/them. They will accept he/him, but prefer they/them.

What exactly made you confident enough to say "it sounds like they go by he/him," since I never once called them that or said that's what their pronouns are, I didn't even call them a trans man, because thats not how they identify. I said "transmasc."

[kayla-denker]

Ah, that would be what gave you the confidence....

[kayla-denker]

My roommate is transmasc. We were just talking about their reluctance to use the men's bathroom even as they "pass" more and more as a man, which is starting to cause people to give them concerning looks when they use the women's. They said they still use the women's because they feel more comfortable there. Which is fine, we shouldn't have gendered bathrooms anyway. But I told them "you might not feel as safe when you eventually get 'accused' of being a trans woman in the women's bathroom." To which they replied "oh, I'll lust lift my shirt and show them my mastectomy scars. That'll prove I belong in there."

Oh but "everyone is subjected to transmisogyny" (according to tMRA chuds, not my roommate), right?

This is the point of TME/TMA. This is why non-transfeminine people aren't subjected to transmisogyny.

I can't fall back on my AGAB to "prove I belong" in women's spaces.

[life-onthe-murderscene]

does your roommate go by solely they/them or are you degendering them because it sounds like they at least go by he/him

[kayla-denker]

Their pronouns are they/them. They will accept he/him, but prefer they/them.

What exactly made you confident enough to say "it sounds like they go by he/him," since I never once called them that or said that's what their pronouns are, I didn't even call them a trans man, because thats not how they identify. I said "transmasc."

[estro-boi]

ngl kinda hate that "this has been discussed extensively you're just 21" tweet cos it was directed at a trans woman who was getting dogpiled for saying that the "dangerous man in a dress" horror trope is shitty

[estro-boi]

she was born in 2005, the right wing culture war against trans people has been going on for half her life, if she independently arrives at a correct take then how is that something worth mocking?? you got flowers sprouting through concrete, water them dumbass

[estro-boi]

my dipshit six year old: if the earth is round how come we don't fall off??

me: lol we learned that in science class 20 years ago 🤣 prick

infinite strangers online: okay this is an all time dunk

[kaijufluffs]

She's being so big and brave.

[ellllllliote]

saw a TikTok talking about how fucked up it is that people are abandoning trans people politically.

opened the comments to see somebody (transmasculine) commenting about how transfems get all the attention and how they wish more people would talk about transmasculine people

I reply to explain that trans women are (and should be) centered in conversations about transphobia because they are treated worse and have worse sociopolitical outcomes. as politely as I am able while still conveying the relevant information

within the span of an hour this person and a separate transmasculine person reply to this comment to argue this. the creator of the video, who is also transmasculine btw, likes the comment I was disagreeing with and deletes mine.

so anyways, it’s fucked up how people are abandoning trans people politically. and when I say trans people I mean WOMEN!!!!!!!!! And FEMS!!!!!!! ESPECIALLY BLACK TRANSFEMS!!!!!!!

[tankie-transfeminist]

This is transfeminism!

[alpineprincess]

If black trans women aren't centered in the struggle for trans liberation, true trans liberation will never occur.

[kayla-denker]

It's not even hard to acknowledge the privelege you have over other more marginalized people within your demographic, and it does nothing to erase the struggles you still face.

Watch, I'll do it right now:

I, a white trans woman, have privelege over all racialized trans women. All the transmisogyny I face is amplified a thousandfold for them because that transmisogyny intersects with the racism they also face. And I will never be able to truly understand that as they do.

Did the transmisogyny I am subjected to dissapear? Lol, no.

Do I feel a need to invent some bullshit term like "transmisogynblanc" because they have the term "transmisogynior" to describe the specific form of oppression they face at the crossroads of transphobia, misogyny, and racism? Lol, no. I'm not at those crossroads. I'm just at the intersection of misogyny and transphobia. There isn't even an "anti white racism" road to intersect with those other two, it doesn't exist.

In case you're too dense: this post is criticizing "transmisandry/transandrophobia" ideology and it's belief that transmascs don't benefit from patriarchy.