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-she/her- I'm not interested in arguing with anyone on this hellsite. I am here to vent. If you try to argue with me I'm just gonna block you.

[kayla-denker]

I'm not interested in arguing with anyone on this hellsite. I am here to vent. If you try to argue with me I'm just gonna block you.

[kayla-denker]

Hey, you, cis girl that's very (correctly) vocal about women being allowed to talk about their periods, do you include trans women in that?

I ask because every single time I've tried to talk about it to anyone that isn't a trans woman they get fucking angry. Which has caused me to have to just suffer in silence every single month. So I really relate to cis women when they talk about literally the exact same thing; being shamed by everyone around them their whole lives for talking about their periods, so they just suffer in silence every month as it negatively impacts their work and social lives. But I don't even feel like I can voice that I am literally dealing with the same exact thing because most of y'all react like you want to throw me in front of a bus for saying it, even those of you who act like your such big great transfem allies.

[kayla-denker]

I guess I'll take this opportunity to talk about trans women periods. The first thing any tme person thinks when they hear this is always "how can trans women have periods? They don't have uteruses!"

The answer is: the uterus isn't what causes your period, it is effected by your period. What causes your period and what causes trans women's periods is the same thing: the endocrine system.

HRT changes the sex of your endocrine system. Feminizing HRT makes it a female endocrine system, giving us a 28-day hormone cycle just like cis women. At the end of that cycle, the hypothalamus floods the body with prostaglandins. Those are what cause all but one of the period symptoms, because they make muscles inflame and contract. They are what make the uterus shed its lining, they are what cause intestinal cramps, they are what cause body aches, they are what cause headaches and migraines. The only period symptom not causes by the release of prostaglandins throughout the body is depression, and that is caused by your endocrine system simply not processing as much estrogen and from simply feeling like shit.

So, the only symptoms trans women don't get every 28 days is menstrual cramps, because yes we do not menstruate since we don't have uteruses. But migraines, depression, body aches, intestinal cramps, and the infamous "period shits" don't exactly add up to us having any better of a time. Except we have to pretend that we're fine and nothing is different because no one believes that we get periods, not even cis women.

"But you can't call it a period then because that refers to MENSTRUATION!" is another one I hear all the time. This is incorrect. You use the word "period" instead of just "menstruation" because it doesn't just refer to menstruation. It refers to a period at the end of the hormone cycle where we experience a host of symptoms. And not all cis women experience all of the symptoms that encompass the period. Not all cis women get migraines, or body aches, or have severe depression. If a cis woman gets a hysterectomy she doesn't menstruate either! In that instance she experiences an identical period to what trans women experience. Yet, I doubt you'd insist that cis women who've had hysterectomies don't have periods.

[kayla-denker]

Oh, another thing that I personally discovered after bottom surgery: vaginal odor changes for trans women during our periods too. I was not expecting that because I always thought it was just from menstruation. But nope, the ph levels of a trans woman's vagina are the same of as a cis woman's vagina, and it changes during our periods just the same.

[kayla-denker]

Eat an entire buffet of dicks you vile transmisogynistic scumbag

[kayla-denker]

So there was this group of guys that walked past me, and one of these dudes says....

Did you, the reader, imagine a single one of them was a woman? No, obviously you didnt. No one does, because these are not gender-neutral terms.

[kayla-denker]

This is utterly fucking absurd and you know it. If "guy" is a masculine term then so is "guys." Its just the plural of "guy"!

Thr fucking disingenuous mental gymnastics these fucking people do just to misgender women! Fuck off!

[kayla-denker]

These things are not even remotely comparable. "Gay" was a slur for homosexual people that was intentionally reclaimed.

You do not get to just decide "dude is gender neutral now" and go around misgendering women. Fuck off.

[milf--adjacent]

TMEs the second something bad happens to transfems:

[valkyriethunderbitch]

NPR did a story on the ruling and *only* talked to trans men.

[milf--adjacent]

SCOTUS upholds bans on transgender athletes participating in women and girls' sports

The Supreme Court on Tuesday said that states can bar trans girls and women from participating in school sports teams. But states that choos

Breaking down the Supreme Court's ruling on transgender student-athletes

NPR's Juana Summers speaks with Brooke Migdon of The 19th about the Supreme Court upholding bans on transgender athletes participating in wo

Chris Mosier talks about Supreme Court's decision on transgender athletes

NPR's Steve Inskeep speaks with Chris Mosier, the first openly transgender man to represent the U.S. in international competition, about the

^Literally talking to anyone but trans women about this ban

Which is super sus considering they've got noted transfem activists and journalists in their roster as recently as March 30th:

The trans athlete debate is about a lot more than sports : Code Switch

The Supreme Court is about to rule on whether states can ban transfeminine student athletes from playing on girls' and women's teams. But we

But look at some other notable reporting on this topic from supposedly queer-friendly NPR. Note how frequently the discussion pivots from transfems to TME people. Note how the bans always focus on transfems but the "experts" are rarely transfem. Note how frequently we are minimized and dismissed as a tiny minority. Note how often economic impacts are discussed in lieu of the fact that this is just dehumanization plain and simple. And go through the other examples with these ideas in mind.

The Olympic committee bans trans athletes from women's events, raising many questions

The International Olympic Committee will require all athletes who want to participate in women's events to undergo genetic testing. The poli

Supreme Court weighs bans on trans athletes in women's and girls' sports teams

The Supreme Court hears two cases this week on state bans for trans athletes playing on women's and girls' sports teams. Kate Sosin, who cov

Trump signs order that seeks to ban transgender athletes from women's sports

President Trump signed an executive order Wednesday aimed at preventing transgender athletes from competing in women's sports. It's the late

And on the rare occasion they actually talk to a trans girl in sports, they go on and on about how much she sucks at sports as some sort of "gotcha"

A conservative Supreme Court tackles the question of trans women in school sports

The first case involves an Idaho student barred by state law from trying out for the track team; the second was brought by a West Virginia m

It's not just NPR, but it's notable that the network frequently cited as the most left-leaning and socially accepting news network in the States has a glaring transmisogyny problem.

[kayla-denker]

Hey, you, cis girl that's very (correctly) vocal about women being allowed to talk about their periods, do you include trans women in that?

I ask because every single time I've tried to talk about it to anyone that isn't a trans woman they get fucking angry. Which has caused me to have to just suffer in silence every single month. So I really relate to cis women when they talk about literally the exact same thing; being shamed by everyone around them their whole lives for talking about their periods, so they just suffer in silence every month as it negatively impacts their work and social lives. But I don't even feel like I can voice that I am literally dealing with the same exact thing because most of y'all react like you want to throw me in front of a bus for saying it, even those of you who act like your such big great transfem allies.

[kayla-denker]

I guess I'll take this opportunity to talk about trans women periods. The first thing any tme person thinks when they hear this is always "how can trans women have periods? They don't have uteruses!"

The answer is: the uterus isn't what causes your period, it is effected by your period. What causes your period and what causes trans women's periods is the same thing: the endocrine system.

HRT changes the sex of your endocrine system. Feminizing HRT makes it a female endocrine system, giving us a 28-day hormone cycle just like cis women. At the end of that cycle, the hypothalamus floods the body with prostaglandins. Those are what cause all but one of the period symptoms, because they make muscles inflame and contract. They are what make the uterus shed its lining, they are what cause intestinal cramps, they are what cause body aches, they are what cause headaches and migraines. The only period symptom not causes by the release of prostaglandins throughout the body is depression, and that is caused by your endocrine system simply not processing as much estrogen and from simply feeling like shit.

So, the only symptoms trans women don't get every 28 days is menstrual cramps, because yes we do not menstruate since we don't have uteruses. But migraines, depression, body aches, intestinal cramps, and the infamous "period shits" don't exactly add up to us having any better of a time. Except we have to pretend that we're fine and nothing is different because no one believes that we get periods, not even cis women.

"But you can't call it a period then because that refers to MENSTRUATION!" is another one I hear all the time. This is incorrect. You use the word "period" instead of just "menstruation" because it doesn't just refer to menstruation. It refers to a period at the end of the hormone cycle where we experience a host of symptoms. And not all cis women experience all of the symptoms that encompass the period. Not all cis women get migraines, or body aches, or have severe depression. If a cis woman gets a hysterectomy she doesn't menstruate either! In that instance she experiences an identical period to what trans women experience. Yet, I doubt you'd insist that cis women who've had hysterectomies don't have periods.

[kayla-denker]

Oh, another thing that I personally discovered after bottom surgery: vaginal odor changes for trans women during our periods too. I was not expecting that because I always thought it was just from menstruation. But nope, the ph levels of a trans woman's vagina are the same of as a cis woman's vagina, and it changes during our periods just the same.

[hylianengineer]

I don't mean to distract from the very important message of this post, but I'm worried trans women may not know this because even a lot of cis women don't: if your period comes with severe depression, that's not normal or healthy, that's a medical issue. A little bit of depression and mood swings are normal, but if it's severe or debilitating? That's probably Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder. It sucks but it's treatable.

I thought it was normal for years to feel that way, and I don't want anybody else to suffer like I did. Trans women are likely even more vulnerable to having untreated PMDD due to a combination of difficulty accessing healthcare and the fact that cis women are refusing to share the period wisdom. (I'm not a cis woman btw, just an enby with a uterus and estrogen-dominant endocrine system.) (I'm also making the assumption that trans and cis women have equal probabilities of getting PMDD, but who knows really? I doubt anyone's ever studied it.)

I just want you to know this in case it helps anybody. Your period isn't supposed to make you feel like you're gonna die every month, and if it does, there are ways to mitigate that.

[kayla-denker]

I always welcome people talking about this. When I made this post I was one of those women who thought the severe depression every month was normal. Another person using this post to talk about PMDD a few days later is how I learned about it and that I probably have it. Now I've seen my doctor about it and we're working on figuring out a treatment that works for me.

[kayla-denker]

Hey, you, cis girl that's very (correctly) vocal about women being allowed to talk about their periods, do you include trans women in that?

I ask because every single time I've tried to talk about it to anyone that isn't a trans woman they get fucking angry. Which has caused me to have to just suffer in silence every single month. So I really relate to cis women when they talk about literally the exact same thing; being shamed by everyone around them their whole lives for talking about their periods, so they just suffer in silence every month as it negatively impacts their work and social lives. But I don't even feel like I can voice that I am literally dealing with the same exact thing because most of y'all react like you want to throw me in front of a bus for saying it, even those of you who act like your such big great transfem allies.

[kayla-denker]

I guess I'll take this opportunity to talk about trans women periods. The first thing any tme person thinks when they hear this is always "how can trans women have periods? They don't have uteruses!"

The answer is: the uterus isn't what causes your period, it is effected by your period. What causes your period and what causes trans women's periods is the same thing: the endocrine system.

HRT changes the sex of your endocrine system. Feminizing HRT makes it a female endocrine system, giving us a 28-day hormone cycle just like cis women. At the end of that cycle, the hypothalamus floods the body with prostaglandins. Those are what cause all but one of the period symptoms, because they make muscles inflame and contract. They are what make the uterus shed its lining, they are what cause intestinal cramps, they are what cause body aches, they are what cause headaches and migraines. The only period symptom not causes by the release of prostaglandins throughout the body is depression, and that is caused by your endocrine system simply not processing as much estrogen and from simply feeling like shit.

So, the only symptoms trans women don't get every 28 days is menstrual cramps, because yes we do not menstruate since we don't have uteruses. But migraines, depression, body aches, intestinal cramps, and the infamous "period shits" don't exactly add up to us having any better of a time. Except we have to pretend that we're fine and nothing is different because no one believes that we get periods, not even cis women.

"But you can't call it a period then because that refers to MENSTRUATION!" is another one I hear all the time. This is incorrect. You use the word "period" instead of just "menstruation" because it doesn't just refer to menstruation. It refers to a period at the end of the hormone cycle where we experience a host of symptoms. And not all cis women experience all of the symptoms that encompass the period. Not all cis women get migraines, or body aches, or have severe depression. If a cis woman gets a hysterectomy she doesn't menstruate either! In that instance she experiences an identical period to what trans women experience. Yet, I doubt you'd insist that cis women who've had hysterectomies don't have periods.

[kayla-denker]

Oh, another thing that I personally discovered after bottom surgery: vaginal odor changes for trans women during our periods too. I was not expecting that because I always thought it was just from menstruation. But nope, the ph levels of a trans woman's vagina are the same of as a cis woman's vagina, and it changes during our periods just the same.

[hylianengineer]

I don't mean to distract from the very important message of this post, but I'm worried trans women may not know this because even a lot of cis women don't: if your period comes with severe depression, that's not normal or healthy, that's a medical issue. A little bit of depression and mood swings are normal, but if it's severe or debilitating? That's probably Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder. It sucks but it's treatable.

I thought it was normal for years to feel that way, and I don't want anybody else to suffer like I did. Trans women are likely even more vulnerable to having untreated PMDD due to a combination of difficulty accessing healthcare and the fact that cis women are refusing to share the period wisdom. (I'm not a cis woman btw, just an enby with a uterus and estrogen-dominant endocrine system.) (I'm also making the assumption that trans and cis women have equal probabilities of getting PMDD, but who knows really? I doubt anyone's ever studied it.)

I just want you to know this in case it helps anybody. Your period isn't supposed to make you feel like you're gonna die every month, and if it does, there are ways to mitigate that.

[kayla-denker]

Birthday boy discovers "sealioning", a tactic that MRA chuds have been using for decades. Thinks he's invented something new and effective. Sees people correctly interpreting this for sealioning, being annoyed, and probably immediately blocking him, and makes the classic chud mistake of thinking this means he's "won."

There isn't an original thought in the heads of these tMRA dorks.

[cuintuar]

Do not let them make you play defense? Don't you mean :

[theconcealedweapon]

[parkayquarts]

"what if someone regrets transitioning" if you are 18 or over in free country usa you can walk into any tattoo parlor and ask for a tattoo that will be on your body forever and ever and ever and they will give it to you with the understanding that if you dont like the result or you regret it later that's your fucking problem and not theirs

[elasticheartsblog]

by shintaro kago

[bicryingpotato]

Emo trans fem Jax cures depression, I can prove it!

But be careful, if abused it may also cause: gender transition, sapphic thoughts, grief, and you’ll spend the whole day singing Isn’t she lovely? by Stevie Wonder and get kinda of sad, but if you just ignore cannon for a moment, she can cure depression.

Edit: I’ll add this, because it looks like some people missed it but my drawings are inspired by this baby girl, who appears for like 2 frames, 1 hour (and 8min I think) into the movie.

Spoiler:

I almost died right in my seat with the conformation she IS EMO! Headcanons do come true.

And something very funny I only realized when I got home, I was wearing almost the same look but with a tshirt saying I knew she was trans ahhahdhaua

[ashes2caches]

does a time-skip and one of the characters is a girl now. and everyone is happier.

[injuries-in-dust]

Body type: Godzilla

[kayla-denker]

My pronouns are she/ because I could never be her.

[lichcoil]

so there's a natural order to this world and we need atleast four million mans in boots with armor, vehicles, and firearms to enforce it, otherwise something unnatural might happen

[artstar2003]

🩷Braiding Hair🩷

They're girlfriends your honor!

[cookiethebirddoll]

bus is my friend. shes no train but shes trying her hardest in a world that hates her

[mkdoesdrawings]

is trans :D yay (finaly i can post this, since the earthquake my internet has been fucked)

friendly reminder: my comms still open ;3