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~Just a transsexual ball of lesbian yearning~ -she/her- I'm not interested in arguing with anyone on this hellsite. I am here to vent. If you try to argue with me I'm just gonna block you.

[kayla-denker]

I'm not interested in arguing with anyone on this hellsite. I am here to vent. If you try to argue with me I'm just gonna block you.

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

[tankie-transfeminist]

I keep getting comments under my posts about Marlow Trottie and Kyle Bassinga which amount to "why can't be people just love each other/ be accepting/ whatever" and like... Are yall still operating on the understanding that racism is the result of individual people harboring individually explicitly racist beliefs? Because that's not what racism is.

Racism is a power structure. This is why "white supremacy" gets used a lot instead. A prison guard may personally have no negative opinions on Black people at all, they may even hold anti-racist beliefs, but just by doing their job, they are supporting white supremacy. Racist ideas make things easier for white supremacy, and you definitely have racist ideas in your head, but they aren't a necessary condition.

Society has been set up in a way where racism is the norm, it is automatic. If you just went about your life as if racism did not exist, you would be complicit in racism. Being anti-racist is hard. It takes constant effort, and often it's more about challenging white supremacy in degrees rather than everywhere all at once.

The answer to "Why can't everyone just get along?" is white supremacy. Because white supremacy structures this society so that doing things that support racism does not require holding racist beliefs, "just getting along" does not mean just thinking in your mind that Black or other racialized people are human and equal and so on, it means reparations. It means affirimitve action. It means prison abolition. And it also means investigating the way white supremacy has influenced your thoughts, worldview, and feelings, even if you don't literally think that racialized people are lesser.

[tropiyas]

[socialistexan]

This is missing the full context, which is even better/worse

[estrogenesis-vaporeongelion]

"hey it feels like even amongst people who considered themselves committed to social justice and at the recent high-water-mark of that social current, it's never been fully & satisfactorily discussed digested & absorbed that trans women consistently get depicted this vile way in media"

"um people have definitely mentioned that out loud before lol you are young and therefore stupid and entitled and though i'm not saying it i'm also implying that you (trans woman) are being overly sensitive and nitpicking and nobody cares lmao"

she's obviously right. what the fuck is wrong with you people. this is funny? this is some kind of Epic Own to you? you dunk-brained shit eating peanut gallery motherfuckers are so twitter poisoned that all someone has to do is be snide, they don't even need to have a point, you'll all bark and clap like fucking seals. kill yourselves

[yuukisjourney]

But like, what films is she talking about

[estrogenesis-vaporeongelion]

Psycho (1960) & The Silence of the Lambs (1991)

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

Texas Chainsaw Massacre, Rocky Horror Picture Show, Dressed to Kill, Ace Ventura: Pet Detective, this list is so much longer than you think it is no matter how long you think it is.

[briannapuppet]

can you imagine if I was like "I'm a trans woman, but I still have a mystical and unique connection to manhood that trans men will never understand" because I have a prostate gland?

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[paper-mario-wiki]

(The Amazing Digital Circus Episode 6 Spoilers)

c'mon girl.

[storyweavingspider]

Wait THIS is what they were claiming wasn’t subtextually (lol, it is literally just blatant) a transfemme character?

Yall just hate transfemmes and have little-none in your life huh

[forgamers]

[taragrimface]

oblivion is an abysmal game and everyone should play it

[lesbyterianchurch]

Farewell!

[quinzelade]

The comedic timing in this is Oscar worthy

[neovagi]

If you are in the trans community as a political project, that's all well and good. But keep in mind that there are many, many trans people who transition because they would rather live life as their chosen gender. I am trans because I enjoy being a woman. I never asked to be politicized—that was forced upon me by society.

It is comprable to the political lesbian movement from prior decades. If you want to abstain from sex with men for political reasons, that's perfectly fine. But, you do know that some women actually enjoy having sex with women, right...?

[noze2222]

Something that pisses me off royally is when people talk about the "hypervisibility" of transfems like it's a gift. A privilege that I shouldn't take for granted.

Y'know, I'm actually not very grateful for the fact that a big account can call a random woman a rapist with no evidence and get hundreds of thousands of likes for it.

I'm actually not going to say thank you because the biggest news publication in the world frequently puts out articles debating the ethics of me and my sisters existing in public.

I think a lot of people see the visibility of trans women as like being on a stage with an adoring crowd where we can wax poetic about our struggles. In actuality it's more like being plopped in the middle of a colosseum arena, surrounded by an audience ecstatically watching you get mauled by a lion.

We might be able to squeak out a "please help" while the fangs sink deeper but the reaction that elicits is normally a chuckle.

[gumi-megpoidd]

yeah. yeah.

[gumi-megpoidd]

we're all feeling normal huh

[noze2222]

Hey so like can we talk about how fucking weird it is that Glitch is adamantly refusing to acknowledge Jax's womanhood is any external media in any capacity, even calling her "guy" multiple times? Like that's weird, right? And not to complain about the lack of plastic garbage based on art I like but there's not even any merch of Jax with a bow or anything either despite how huge of a moment in the finale that was. The lack of merch is especially weird to me given how they released a whole blind box line that was JUST Jax in different outfits. You can't even argue it's for spoiler reasons since the external material is riddled with spoilers about everything else. It's like they're intentionally avoiding it and that really doesn't sit right with me.

[death-limes]

hey quick question why is jax degendered on her own wiki page

[jaxtadcismydaughter13]

yeah, jax IS an abuser. clearly. she is a cautionary tale on what NOT to do in your life. do not repress yourself. do not push people away. why do people think that her actions are like. being endorsed or something?? also her being trans is kinda not OUT OF NOWHERE there are tons of hints before ep 9?

[mousidy]

speaking from experience, if you're a lesbian and you're attracted to a trans man then two options present themselves to you:

realize that you don't really see him as a man, or :

accept that you can be attracted to a man

a fork in the road like this would be a great place to examine your bioessentialist transphobia, but instead of doing that you can just ascend to a new enlightened plane and reach queer level 100 by deciding "welllll trans men can be lesbians"

[mousidy]

a lot of advanced level 100 enlightened queer thinking is really just bioessentialism in disguise frankly

like, no, it's actually not level 100 gender to expect trans women to top you, you just see her as a man and instead of examining your transphobia you're pretending you exist on the next plane of queer thought high above us bottom feeders who foolishly think having a penis might not necessarily mean she wants to perform a traditionally masculine role for you in the bedroom

[mousidy]

a lot of trans women I've met who initially discuss enjoying topping their partners have, over time, after getting space from the expectation to top, said that they've stopped enjoying topping and no longer want to do it

certainly a lot of trans women genuinely enjoy topping, but I think it's a lot fewer than many people imagine. we just aren't being given the space to genuinely explore what we want, often thanks to the presence of enlightened level 100 queers who see us as naive fools for thinking we might not want to top. how simple we are for not considering that Women Can Top Too! it's actually more radical for women to top! 😁

[mousidy]

no amount of pretending to be an advanced queer thinker can paper over the fact that you expect trans men to be like women in their sexualities and you expect trans women to be like men in our sexualities. you are not level 100 you're level 1

[mousidy]

"you can be anything labels don't mean anything" yadda yadda whatever but why do you always mysteriously seem to apply labels and expectations based on assigned sex? hm?

[my-autism-feeds-on-robins]

As a white queer, some of you other white queers need to unlearn your racism. No, trans women are not the black people of the trans community. Black trans people are the black people of the trans community. PLEASE. Unlearn your racism.

[creamhild-gretchen]

Just saw someone make fanart of "Jax if he had a better childhood" accompanied by several paragraphs explaining why they think Jax would be a cis man if her father didn't leave her. I fucking hate this fandom sometimes.

[donutlover417]

I find it so strange that there’s this genre of digital circus fan who seems to think that Jax being trans somehow undermines the message about toxic masculinity which is just… wrong.

then there’s the other side of the coin, where people think the presence of said messages about toxic masculinity is bullet proof evidence AGAINST the claim of being Jax being trans. Which is even more wrong.

Guys… it’s okay to be a man who relates to a transfem character. That’s fine. It’s literally fine. You can do that. There’s nothing wrong with it. Just please Be Normal im begging you