Kayla's Page

-she/her- I'm not interested in arguing with anyone on this hellsite. I am here to vent. If you try to argue with me I'm just gonna block you.

[kayla-denker]

I'm not interested in arguing with anyone on this hellsite. I am here to vent. If you try to argue with me I'm just gonna block you.

[mousidy]

“it's "regressive" to not love having body hair or broad shoulders or a penis” Pining this specifically so I can point out that I anticipated it when you start using derogatory words aimed at specifically trans women you perceive as non-passing.

That’s another key part of being part of the clique you want to be a part of. You have to make sure you make it clear how disgusting broad shoulders and body hair are on other women, make it clear you think they should feel ashamed for going out in public looking like that. You have to really sell that you’re better than those women. They really made that clear too.

I’m guessing you’ll justify that cruelty to your sisters as somehow transfeminist because you’re just trying to shame others into stick it to transmisogynystic expectations while you’re enjoying the “transgender” free space the clique carefully curates for you.

I have to be honest I knew people would start shifting in their seats when the subject of dysphoria came up but I was not anticipating this level of catastrophically bad faith reading of my discussion on it lol

"oh you don't like when tmes try to convince you not to get bottom surgery? oh so you HATE trans women who have penises and think they're disgusting?"

this is why we need to normalize discussion of dysphoria because you people are incapable of being normal about trans women's feelings about our own damn bodies

[ashlgcostumes]

I pull up my slide show. The first slide says “I do not want to financially support the Church of the Latter Day Saints in any way”. There are murmurs of agreement and approval from the room

Next slide. “Brandon Sanderson is a member of the LDS”. The muttering has changed tone

“It’s not a very big amount of money though.” Someone in the audience pipes up. “His cut is only a small fraction of the cost of the book, and then-“ my next slide shows an income breakdown, it is titled ‘a small fraction of $10,000,000 is still a big number’

I’m sweating. The following slides explain tithing rules. The vibe of the room has shifted. I start to doubt I’m getting out of here alive

[fuckblast]

[puppygirllaika]

"X did nothing wrong" actually no, X did a lot of things wrong. X fucked up. But I also know that people like X live their lives under a microscope, and that accusations against them tend to get magnified by bias both conscious and unconscious alike, and frankly it scares the crap out of me that you have not only chosen not to question what you've heard, but that you are seeking such drastically disproportionate vengeance on a total stranger. that's not normal.

[puppygirllaika]

this post has generated a staggering number of comments/replies/asks all saying some version of "Nice try laundering your argument, but we all know you're talking about [specific person], and i hate you for defending them." and literally none of them have correctly identified who i was thinking about when I wrote this, but all of them have named a trans woman as said specific person.

[flying-potato2]

this blog is run by a serial harrasser whos gotten multiple transfems deleted btw

trans joy my ass

[flying-potato2]

in particular they were harrassing yay-bunnies and a few others

[houndmother]

The fact of the matter is that every trans masc is on thin ice. trans women are being directly and specifically targeted by the state, and rather than show any form of solidarity, these dudes are helping throw us to the wolves.

[houndmother]

it is not sufficient for you to be neutral. you must be a vocal and aggressive ally to the trans femmes in your life. you must not be complicit.

[dialogusnes]

Pictured: a fandom that definitely doesn't have issues with Trans Women.

[girlfailure-poetics]

I’ve seen trans women on tumblr get called TERFs for believing that trans men are men and trans women are women and transition materially changes your social class. What are we doing

[lavender-town-radio]

transmisogyny doesnt suddenly become okay because you think that trans woman has done something worth punishing her over.

[ign1ted-ember71]

Just say you wanna kill trans women holy shit

And these cunts wonder why we fucking hate them

[mousidy]

if you lose interest in a trans woman when you find out she has a vagina then die

[mousidy]

we're not sex toys we're people 👍

[mousidy]

oh noooo you can't fit her into the "tranny shemale futanari dickgirl" sexual archetype OR the "pure, Natural cis woman crafted by god" sexual archetype? you have to respect her as a person rather than as a sex object? fuuuuck that must be really hard for you I'm sorry

[mousidy]

it's funny that both trans and cis women alike are reduced to our genitals, but with trans women it's especially extreme. transness is thought of as infinitely worse than cisness in every way, so why would you ever desire a trans woman if not to play with her one unique feature? and if she doesn't, or can't, put out, what's the point of her? what value does she even have? she's just a sex toy, you can just throw her out

[oleafia-art]

my beloved greznedge

wip that i liked

[linearjpg]

Beach episode but awesome???

[mousidy]

the anon who's obsessed with the idea that I'm "defending transmeds" by saying that the stigma against dysphoria contributes to transmisogynistic rape culture is saying I'm part of the "transsexual clique," and can I just say. if there's a transsexual clique can I please please join I don't want to sit with these people anymore

[mousidy]

like the truth is it's stigmatized for a trans woman to have dysphoria and to not want to make her body available to people

it's "regressive" to not love having body hair or broad shoulders or a penis, to not want to top, because haven't you heard? women can top! it's current year! how regressive not to want to top as a woman!

a trans woman is told she only has dysphoria because she's internalized harmful ideas about what a woman can and can't look like, and actually by internalizing these things she's perpetuating them! if she weren't a regressive prude she'd listen when I tell her not to get rid of her penis! better pull out the terf talking points about how dangerous and risky bottom surgery is

she speaks out about this and expresses frustration that people who do not understand dysphoria are minimizing her experience with it and narrativizing about it to control her body, and suddenly a chill runs down your spine as it all becomes clear. she is the second coming of blaire white, she's coming for YOUR right to transition!

that's what the dysphoria was all along, huh? the exact kind of bitter self-hatred that drives one to hate other trans people. tsk tsk, if only she'd love herself, then she would top me

[kayla-denker]

I lost my then best friend when I came out because she wouldn't stop telling me shit like this about how my dysphoria was "only a result of toxic beauty standards for women." She would not stop telling me that I "shouldn't want to get rid of [my] facial hair." Because "you know cis women have facial hair too!" I never talked to her about how I was going to get bottom surgery. I'm absolutely positive she would have said the same kind shit to me about that too.

I told her to stop, that the things she was saying to me were hurtful. I tried to explain to her that dysphoria isn't dysmorphia, and this isn't about beauty standarda at all. But she refused to listen. She straight up told me that she wouldn't stop telling me these things and trying to convince me to stop getting hair removal "for [my] own good." So I had to block her on everything and go no contact with her.

[lucyandherlunacy]

trans girls are allowed to be annoying and stereotypical and socially inept and hyperactive and hypersexual and various types of animalgirl and there's nothing you can do about it. in fact if you're mean to that skirt go spinny reddit trans girl i'm stealing your entire house

[quasi-normalcy]

So what I think is that there's this default belief in patriarchy that men are superior to women and therefore the "masculine" sphere is superior to the "feminine" sphere. And so, as feminists have fought to expand the number of allowable female activities, men (on the aggregate over generations) have retreated from those activities because they're now seen as "feminine", and so partaking in them is incommensurate with their belief in their own superiority. And, unfortunately, as this has progressed, this has resulted in a lot of men sectioning themselves off from, frankly, everything that actually makes being alive worthwhile. It's a misery spiral, and the only way out is to abandon male supremacy.

[kayla-denker]

You can see this very starkly in certain professions too.

Like mine, archaeology. It used to be dominated by men as late as the 70s. And back then it was highly regarded as this grand prestigious profession.

But starting sometime over the last 40 years the gender demographics of it have shifted drastically. Now it's split pretty evenly between men and women (still almost entirely cis though. Anna Prentiss and myself are literally the only two trans people, let alone trans women, that I know of in the field.) In some places it's even dominated by women! And look how its now regarded: its prestige is almost entirely gone. Some people in other acedemic fields barely even consider it an acedemic profession, most outright deny that its a science at all! And in the toxic manosphere its openly hated. Men like Graham Hancock have made an entire career out of demonizing the field of archaeology.

These things are not coincidental.

[hispartyinvite]

jax if she had her amazing digital transition