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i can never face my family again

ten years later I'm here wondering autistically... what nature documentary is that clip from? inquiring minds need to know...

mydogismycoworker

Need everyone to know that my girlfriend and boyfriend are the same person. He’s also a they. And a tboy. But also my guy. And my girl. Hope that clears everything up

funoftheday

You don’t say.

a-spoon-is-born

timemachineyeah

For the record, she actually abandoned the movement BEFORE they all got whooping cough, but abandoned it too late. There’d been a breakout of measles in her area that caused her to reassess, and she and her doctor had already drafted and started a catch-up vaccination schedule, but her kids caught whooping cough just before it could be started. Then she wrote a blog post for The Scientific Parent explaining how she and her husband had come to wrong decisions in the first place, how they changed their mind, the consequences they suffered as a result, and asking other parents to please vaccinate their kids. And now she’s an activist for destroying the misinformation of anti-vaxxers, and reaching out to anti-vaxxers because she’s understands their fears but knows their kids deserve better.

She was trying to the best for her kids and just didn’t know how to interpret the validity of information or its sources, an actual skill that can be actually difficult and that is under-taught and a necessary first step to being able to trust vaccination research, so chose no action over taking an action she wasn’t sure of. She kept looking into it with family and friends and even eventually came to the right conclusion before her kids became sick, but it was still too late.

Honestly it was pretty brave of her to publicly admit she was wrong. She could have just quietly vaccinated her kids and not become a national news story, but instead she spoke out, even saying “I’m writing this from quarantine, the irony of which isn’t lost on me.” and also “I am not looking forward to any gloating or shame as this ‘defection’ from the antivaxx camp goes public, but, this isn’t a popularity contest. Right now my family is living the consequences of misinformation and fear. I understand that families in our community may be mad at us for putting their kids at risk.”

She understood the consequences and still put herself and her story out there.

hatey-mchaterson

You know what, it does take a big person to admit they were wrong so publicly and work to undo the harm. I believe I made fun of her in the past, but timemachineyeah changed my mind.

snarklordofthesith

“I never thought leopards would eat MY face, until I realized they totally would, and they will eat your face, too!” warns defector from the leopards-eating-faces party

aqueerkettleofish

don’t hide this in the tags….

#really important actually#like. it’s so important that we allow people to STOP voting for leopards eating faces#because if you attack anyone leaving the leopards eating faces party when they realize it’s bad#the only support system they’ll have is the people who want them to come back to it#you have to make it possible for people escape instead of considering them forever tainted and impure and inherently evil

elfwreck

The #1 trait of anti-vaxxers is not “they’re stupid” or “they fell for propaganda” but “they don’t know who’s safe to trust.”

The movement is pushed by women, especially suburban moms, because they know damn well you cannot trust doctors. You cannot trust the medical industry, the billion-dollar corporate zone of “you should lose some weight and maybe the pain will stop.” Cannot trust the ones who keep changing diet advice - is it no sugar? No carbs? No fats? Is it dangerous to let kids eat things in wild colors? Food pyramid: good or bad? They cannot trust the BMI chart that says they should lose 75 lbs to be “healthy.” (Whether or not they “should” lose 75 lbs, they know damn well that “healthy” does not describe any part of the journey to getting there.) Cannot trust the ones who keep giving them incomplete and sometimes incorrect information about contraception. The ones who said “that’s false labor; you have two weeks more” 12 hours before they gave birth. And so on.

So they have their kids, and they want so much for their kids to be safe, and the doctors and nurses say: Get them vaccinated.

So they ask: What about if there’s complications? An allergic reaction? Side effects?

And the doctors and nurses say: Get them vaccinated.

This is… not reassuring.

And they ask, My sister-in-law’s cousin had a really bad reaction to the MMR shot and I want to know how I can tell it’s safe for my kids.

And the doctors and nurses say: Get them vaccinated.

Throw in the right-wing/libertarian faction yelling YOU CAN’T TELL ME WHAT TO DO and the insurance companies saying “hey um you need a specific type of coverage for that; we probably cover those vaccinations but you’ll need this special paperwork to be sure” - and then you have the actual anti-vax propagandists yelling some combination of cherry-picked statistics and outright lies, and you get a whole lot of moms willing to say BUGGRE ALL THIS FOR A LARKE.

There is no amount of facts that can fix this. They’re swamped with facts from 300 directions. What they need to fix this is empathy and the kind of connections that lead to trust.

They need to trust that, even as the medical industry dismisses a whole lot of womens’ concerns, in this particular area, they’re right.

embervoices

Add in the consequences of having a significant portion of your social support network tied up in a particular worldview, leaving it, much less openly condemning it, is really hard and means losing your community support. In a world where the system can’t be trusted to pick up that slack, Moms can’t afford to risk the change - until the cost of staying clearly outweighs the coat of pushing back, not just in general, but for their kids.

Kindness doesn’t just matter because it’s more ethical - it'salso a more effective strategy.

aetherograph

Don’t punish the behaviour you want to see.

turquoisedata

How very depressing that Neil Gaiman had trended not even a tiny bit for demonstrating what a fucking horrific person he is.

As a reminder, he's suing Caroline Wallner, one of his accusers, for breaking her NDA. Not for libel. He's saying she shouldn't have told anyone about it, not that she lied.

The author says Wallner broke her NDA by sharing her story with the media, including with New York Magazine.

He doesn't need the money. He's risking the Streisand effect. He is punishing Caroline, he's trying to intimidate other victims who have signed NDAs to scare them into continued silence.

He is no friend to women, to the LGBTQIA+ community, to anyone quite frankly unless he thinks they are of value to him.

Share the story. Put it on Facebook and bluesky and whatever else you're on. Make it clear what a horrifying person he is. Tell your friends. He's paying Edendale a fortune to try and cover this up. Make this hard for him. Make it cost him money.

fiberartsam

Your random reminder that Neil Gaiman's actions should not be pushed under the carpet. The allegations are still here. The victims are still here. He doesn't get to get away with this.

ninjasmudge

worlds slowest fanfic author tries really really hard

ninjasmudge

everyone in the notes we are all holding hands. everyone who hasnt worked on a wip in weeks or months or years, its okay. we are going slow but we are going

lady-of-the-spirit

the plot twist of 2o2g hinges on Nile never once hurting Joe or Nicky the entire 6 months between the end of the last movie and the start of this one.

ventingmyopinions

All these people saying ‘shut up that joe and nicky didn’t kiss! Let gay relationships just be wholesome! I’m gay and you don’t need to see them tongue to know they’re in a relationship! stop objectifying gay characters!’ you don’t get it. Youre entitled to your opinion but I don't think you get it. It’s about the Vietnamese antagonist being demoted to henchman so a well-known white blonde actress can be the main antagonist (an original character) instead. It’s about another original character being introduced whose only contribution is to be the wise asian man trope. It’s about the toning down of the two most disgustingly romantic characters to the point where they barely touch eachother, when they were previously on screen spooning in bed, holding eachothers faces, and yes, kissing. Specifically kissing in a van surrounded by homophobes that they then murder in some pretty top tier comedy.

I’m not upset because i was wanting to get my rocks off. Im concerned because these were decisions that were made, and in the era of almost every movie needing corporate board approval, you need to question why these decisions are being made and who’s making them. Why can’t we show our two gay characters kissing in their only intentionally romantic scene together? Why can’t the vietnamese character be the main villain she was originally set up to be? Why has the new asian character presumably spent his immortality amassing knowledge, and not fighting like everyone else, with no explanation?

At the end of the day it was a bad movie. Plot holes everywhere, rough acting, Madame Webb style dubs. But I still think it’s important to acknowledge the slideback that’s happened here and it's okay to be upset about it.

noah-wyles

netflix: here's the movie you've been waiting 5 years for but just wait a second sorry we're going to end it on a massive cliffhanger with all the main characters separated and set up for torture and permanent death and no sorry we haven't announced a sequel i know a lot of you were waiting to see the announcement in the post credits but we might do it we might not we'll see!

also netflix:

infectiouspiss

kids deserve so much more respect and it turns out that saying that is a great way to locate the horrible people in any community <3

infectiouspiss

you'll say something as simple as "no child deserves to be hit" and people will crawl out of the woodwork to explain why they should be allowed to beat a 6 year old for spilling some water

infectiouspiss

you'll say "i think it's weird that adults literally have control over when children are allowed to use the bathroom" and up pops a teacher to say that when they're not shouting at the kids they teach, they're trying to stop them from hiding in the bathrooms

you'll say "i think children shouldn't be forced to eat food they hate" and here comes someone who feeds their kids plain rice and boiled chicken (while eating a nicely seasoned stirfry) claiming that it's okay actually and kids shouldn't be allowed to taste things

you'll say "i think kids should have bodily autonomy" and in comes someone who pierced their babies ears before it was even 24 hours old, frothing at the mouth because their kid wanted a haircut and thats somehow an insult

infectiouspiss

children are an oppressed class and everyone should be looking back at their own childhoods and making sure they don't ever make a child feel the same way they felt.

wilwheaton

"children are an oppressed class and everyone should be looking back at their own childhoods and making sure they don't ever make a child feel the same way they felt."

I wake up every day, and I make this choice. I encourage you to do the same.

unstatedmartini

nicky when joe tries to give him a bro hug and walk off without making eye contact like that's a thing they do

dude-watchin-with-the-brontes

op your tags are brilliant: #i've known this man a thousand years i know when he's lying meanwhile random passersby are like wow that guy is lying#a baby in a stroller is like damn i guess that's what lying looks like#i think we have to consider that that's what joe does when he's feeling guilty and wants nicky to catch him in a lie#one time he gave nicky a fist bump then burst into relieved tears when nicky flying tackled him in the paint aisle six hours later#and made him admit that he didn't like the color they had chosen for the living room#the old guard 2#2 old 2 guard#joe x nicky

undead-moth

"How did the person who wrote that text know about the birthmark prophecy before Nile was even born?" < The writing is bad.

"Why didn't Discord and Tuah retrieve Quynh right away if they were there when she was locked in the iron maiden?" < The writing is bad.

"Why didn't The Guard dream about Discord? Why didn't Joe, Nicky, Booker and Nile dream about Tuah?" < The writing is bad.

"Why did Discord and Lykon lose their immortality if Nile didn't cut them?" < The writing is bad.

"Why did the stab wound Nile gave Andy in the first film heal right away, when the cut Nile gave Booker didn't?" < The writing is bad.

"Why didn't Tuah just tell Nile what Booker was trying to do?" < The writing is bad.

"Why didn't Discord just take Booker's immortality from him since he was willing? Why is she trying to take everyone's immortality as if she can have extra immortality somehow?" < The writing is bad.

"Why -"

Listen. The answer to every single question about this film's nonsensical plot is:

The. Writing. Is. BAD.

cherubinas

the single most unrealistic thing about the old guard 2 is that nile freeman didn't look tuah right in the eye with the most unimpressed look mankind has ever seen and said "like the fucking app?" when he told them the villain's name is discord

asaravierr

100%

carpenters3

the-itchy-bitchy-spider

catgirlforeskin

wait THAT’S why my wife always says “son boy allowed” about our cat??

gayvampyr

happy 5 years to son boy allowed

nellie-elizabeth

Been thinking about this all day, and I think the main thing this movie failed to understand about itself is this: the immortality was supposed to be the premise, not the plot.

Like, the immortality piece fuels the villains in the first film, but the unknowability of it is part of the point. It’s a dreadful curse, to outlive all your loved ones. Or, it’s a powerful gift, to grow and nurture a relationship for centuries on end. Or, it’s a complicated responsibility, a way you are uniquely positioned to help make the world a better place, and how much of that mantle should you take on? It’s the premise, the vessel through which the themes and characters can be explored.

The point was never to find out the “rules” and drop a bunch of lore about it. This movie took the premise and made it the plot, and that I think was its cardinal mistake.

augustarambles

Sometimes the rats in my brain come together and start yelling “YEARNING” and in trying to appease them I ask “FOR WHAT” but they are too small so all they can say is “YEARNING” which is a very big word for such a tiny creature, even collectively