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its been so long but im back
[Tweet from @/fozmeadows: "human gender and sexuality are very much like animal taxonomy, in that both look structured and simple on the surface, but once you start investigating, it turns out there's actually no such thing as a fish despite the fact that we all know what a fish is, and that's okay"]
As a biologist, that is a fantastic comparison.
We talk about āfishā (which, cladistically, do not exist, there is no monophyletic group of āfishā that simultaneously includes all organisms we understand to be āfishā-like while also excluding, say, humans) because, despite the utter fiction that is fish, itās still a useful label when we talk about certain features that āfishā tend to have in common.
Gender is absolutely the same way.
Reject Essentialism, Embrace Nominalism
I love when platonic love and romantic love is so blurred that it doesnāt even matter anymore. All that matters is the devotion thatās there, the unwavering devotion
I donāt know how many boys follow me, but I gotta bet thereās some. I just wanna tell yāall to be careful.
Abusive girls exist and what theyāre doing is seen as like ābadass tough donāt take no shitā but your girl should not hit you. Ever.
She should not demand for you to hand over your phone to look through.
She should not yell at you and humiliate you either alone or in front of people.
She shouldnāt make you distance yourself from your friends or family.
She shouldnāt scratch you or twist your arms.
She should not call you names.
She shouldnāt tell you āsheāll kill herself if you break upā
These are just a few examples of abuse and itās just seen as okay when girls do it and god knows Iāve fallen victim to it a few times, but you shouldnāt have to.
Never worry about not being in a relationship. If theyāre worth it, they wonāt hurt you.
No one has the right to hurt you.
I wish someone had told me that these things are actually abuse. I would have been able to escape my ex so much sooner. Reblogging to help other people in similar situations
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My stepmom was extremely abusive to my dad, using these tactics
It was dismissed by others as her ābeing a strong and independent womanā
For the love of God donāt take this shit. Break it off immediately
For the love of God
donāt take this shit. Break it off
immediately
Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.
Reborn: I got an idea.
Tsuna: The four most terrifying words in the English language.
Tbh I think fandom generally needs to get better at sitting with the uncomfortable fact that a story/fanwork/meme/whatever can hurt one person and help another
This is why I think ātag warningā culture is kinder and more constructive than cancel culture / āno problematic contentā culture. One size does not fit all, but if we learn to be more aware of the fact that the same thing can be emotionally validating or cathartic to one person and upsetting to another, and pick up a general mindset of thinking before we post, āwhat might people need a heads up for in this content?ā, we grow more compassionate, more thoughtful, and more understanding of the differences in peopleās experiences.
Do you guys ever think about Reborn's relationship with the Mafia....?
Do you guys ever think about how he's risen to the top. (how did he get there? What do you do to earn the title of world's greatest hitman?) How he's seen to be cautious and wise beyond his years? How he's entirely self sufficient without a family to be affiliated to?
Do you ever think about how hes survived in a place like this entirely alone and has taken it upon himself to tutor future mafia bosses? Why? Why make the effort? What is he trying to change?
Do you ever think about how he never seems frightened as his students when their enemies are cruel? How used to it he is? How it doesn't frighten him, but rather exhausts him? Do you ever notice the pride in his face when Tsuna chooses to be kind and forgiving? Have you ever noticed how he notices Yamamoto's capabilities as a hitman and tells him to do his best to keep his carefree smile?
Have you ever noticed how he cautions against Tsuna too easily forgetting about what Mukuro has done to them? (To keep his guard up against someone who's intentions are not clear?)
Have you ever noticed how he smiles in resignation and isn't surprised that he's going to die to complete someone else's revenge scheme? How he expected that his curse would never allow for anything more than a dog's death? Caught in the crossfires of someone else's problem? How he figures that if it's going to happen anyway, he might as well do something with the time left in him? Leave his mark somewhere? Do you ever wonder when exactly Reborn took up teaching the younger Mafia bosses?
No, really. Do you guys ever think about Reborn's relationship with the Mafia?
OH MY GODDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD
CALLOUT POST FOR FUCKING EURIPIDES
did classical athens do something problematic
Okay so I make a lot of canon-adjacent posts. *gestures at my food post* very canon very important very informative. But my heart is full of whimsy and magic and sugar and spice and everything nice.
Today I wanted to talk about some of my hcs that I have regarding Tsuna and Reborn. Shit I just completely made up ^v^ I'll do five each to not make this a long post again rkehns.
Tsuna:
Grows up to really like coffee like his mentor, but could never really stand straight espresso. From my food post research, I saw that he is a snack food fiend. So, I think he's the type to enjoy lattes, frappuccinos, and mocha. What I'm saying is that he walks into Vongola meetings with a iced coffee and he stress-drinks it for the sugar rush.
Good with kids! I don't think he wants kids of his own, because he has enough of those, but he's the perfect balance of playful and strict. I do think though, if he did become a parent by some accident, he'd be the stricter one of the two. Mom is gonna be the fun one and Dad is the one that brings crazy things around you, but tries to put you to bed at 8pm.
Still a bit of a dumbass as a mafia boss. The moment he found out he has to give salaries to people and try to tax that shit and file it with their IRS but also do the calculations himself, since technically he shouldn't show that information to Gokudera or anyone else that will know how to Math. He lives each paycheck day in fear that he will wake up the next morning and get arrested for fraud.
Actually bars anyone from bringing in pets to Vongola HQ. Believes they have their hands full with their box animals. "No, Yamamoto please we can't keep the box of stray puppies lets take that to a shelter -" "Gokudera, I see that you have a kitten in your pocket where.. where did you get it.." "Hibari.. Carry on, ignore me :)"
Has developed noise-cancelling ears. Doesn't hear the screams anymore. An ally family will comment on the noise at Vongola HQ and Tsuna will be like "..wdym? :o do you hear something?" Look around and will completely ignore Fuuta and I-Pin strapping Lambo to a medical desk as they are threatened by Bianchi, who is putting on sterile gloves and getting the scalpel. The silence though? The silence scares him. (WHAT A SOMBER LINE TO LEAVE OFF ON)
Reborn:
Super good with the ladies. I know this is something said in the story, but I mean the type that has the whole casual flirting with no weight to it thing down. But, also a little bit standoffish, like you'll never really get to know him this way. It's very strategic, but he does it for fun!!
Tries to teach Tsuna how to hide a body on multiple occasions, in case he ever needs it, but mostly to torment Tsuna. "You can't incinerate all your enemies to ash everytime, it'll get really obvious after awhile. You have to spice it up. Now, put on these gloves. I have someone for us to use" "WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU HAVE SOMEONE?"
I've said this one before, but it deserves saying again! I've always believed that pre-curse, his cosplay skills had real use! It was something he would use to sneak into buildings into or seduce who he needed to, before he brings the gun to their head. Very comfortable in skirts, dresses, wigs, makeup, etc. Wears his new identities like a second skin.
He snickers and sneers and smirks his way throughout the series (or does a lil maniacal evil laugh), but I bet his real laugh, uncursed, is deep and low. Something he keeps just in his throat, not loud at all. A softened version of his smirk on his face, pleased and relaxed. If you weren't paying attention, you'd miss it as he flips back into his regular demeanor.
LOVES judging things. Always the referee in their games (Snowfight!). Taste-testing (Mochi chapter!). Anything. He's judgmental and you WILL hear his opinion. I fully believe in the three criminal brothers episode, where Nana gets him coffee beans from a shop, he gets straight home afterwards and stands on the counter with his hands on his hips as it brews. He was prepared. Tsuna buys new snacks so Reborn opens all of them to take a bite and decide which one he likes best before taking it, leaving Tsuna with a bunch of opened bags. Ranks the guardians on obscure shit just to get them riled up "Most likely to win at a dance competition in a chicken suit" and he'll put Yamamoto above Gokudera just to watch him fume. A villain. I love him.
OKAY EVERYONE, THAT'S ALL I'LL DO FOR TODAY. Thank you for reading this far I hope you enjoyed reading it. PLEASE give me your hcs, I'd love to hear them. I need a lil pick me up c: It can be any character. Someday, I might do hcs for the other charas too. I think.. a lot about these guys. OKAY THANKS BYE !!!
You know what, since I'm thinking about it anyways, let's talk formalwear accessories. Most of these are traditionally menswear but a bit of gender fuckery is good for the soul, and frankly most of these are about making your mass-produced clothing fit and lay properly without having to go to the tailor.
Shirt stays: these go around your thighs to hold your shirt down, so that it stays smooth and tucked in. They're usually elastic, with 1-3 clips, and if you wear skirts frequently this is a GREAT way to make sure your top doesn't ride up. The clips will be visible if you're wearing something tight, so loose pants or skirts are where these do best. There's also an insane version that clips to your socks, but that is for lunatics. If you wanted, you could also use one of these clips to hold up thigh-highs.
These do a great job of smoothing and narrowing the waist area by keeping your shirt from bunching there.
Sleeve garters: usually metal, leather, elastic, or silk. These are usually worn with button-down shirts to adjust where your cuff falls on the wrist or hand. They're properly worn on the upper arm, and you pull the fabric of the sleeve above the garter until you cuff is where you want it. Because this creates a puff of sleeve at the bicep, it also broadens the appearance of the shoulders. It's great if you're working with your hands or if your sleeves are often too long for your preference.
Waistband clip or belt adjustment clip/buttons: Three different ways of tightening the waistband of a pair of pants or a skirt. You're not going to get more than an inch or so tighter without weird bunching, and for most of these you'd want them to be hidden under a shirt or jacket, but they do the job if that's something you're having issues with.
Collar pins: There are so many fun ones out there, both with and without chains. They're not terribly practical, though the slight weight may help keep your collar where you want it. Also consider collar tips, which pin (surprise) to the very tips of your collar points.
Sweater clips/guards: meant to hold your sweater or cardigan mostly closed. Great if your cardigan doesn't button, or if you don't like it to be buttoned all the way.
There's tons of other stuff out there like this--etsy is a great place to find this stuff. A lot of these are old solutions to the very modern problem of mass-maufactured clothes not being as one-size-fits-all as advertised, but they're also a fun way to put a bit of personality into businesswear.
Wow. The patience, kindness and calm communication skills. Outstanding.
From raindovemodel
This made me cry. I wish all situations could be handled as perfectly as this
I just want to point out the core of what the diffuser did in this conversation
They recognized that the mother was also expressing a vulnerable truth about herself - that she felt like a bad mother because her child was expressing gender feelings she wasnāt equipped to help with - and met her where she was, a concerned parent with limited information - to point her where she should be heading, research and resources.
Im going to make more of an effort to stop reflexively pushing people away when they express biases and make more of an effort to hear the underlying fears when i can
āitās easier to love ourselves when we feel loved as ourselvesā
damn that is soĀ powerful though
āitās easier to
love ourselves when we feel
loved as ourselvesā
Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.
@radley-writes
Peer review
I passed peer review! Thank you. I think these are important skills for everyone to learn. x
nothing sexier than that picture with the italian players on top of eachother after the win and the english ones going through the 5 stages of grief in the back
THIS ONE
i can see it
ITALIAN MANWHORE SUMMER
always reblog italian manwhore summer
One headcanon that I've had for myself is that Luce is probably one of Reborn's exes, and I'm straight up so fine with that fact if its true. The way Uni calls him uncle does confirm it somewhat to me (im delusional) and it just seems so sweet. They both seem like people who would break up on good terms, and seeing how tight-knit and family-wise Reborn treats Uni will never let me back down from this headcanon
Why hasnāt this been done before?
You know why.
Second year medic, Malone Mukwende, has been working with staff members as part of a student-staff partnership project looking at clinical t
Cause racial health disparitiesā¦
I hope this gets published
It is available for download as a pdf from their website. www.blackandbrownskin.co.uk/mindthegap
I think Tsuna is actually deeply cognizant of Rebornās latent suicidal ideation, especially as he gets older and realizes that Rebornās been doing stupid, reckless things to himself his whole life (he doesnāt want to consider that he really is not any better)
And like. Tsuna can track the patterns in their relationship.
The over the top barbed wire and grenades? Was less about safety. Sure it was a comfort, but it was also about keeping him, and others, away
Both physically and emotionally, because who wants to learn to understand a crazy guy who threatens to blow you up if you interrupt his nap?
And those things went away, eventually. Eventually, Reborn gave up and settled in for the long haul
He gives up a lot
Rebornās entire relationship with Bianchi is formatted around Reborn giving up as well. Of not trying to clear things up and just letting her do as she likes. Like itās fine right? Heāll die and sheāll move on
But all the sudden heās NOT going to die soon at all and he has to figure out how to get out of this mess. But instead of being proactive, he just. Continues as normal
He really doesnāt know how to break up with someone normally at all (lol)
Iām sorry Bianchi I donāt think itās older men that suck. I think the men of the underworld are just trash in general. If Tsuna wasnāt her rival for Rebornās attention heād be her type by now (LOL)
God where was I going with this. I just. I think itās wildly fascinating that so many of Rebornās relationships are informed by his conviction that heās gonna die and thereās nothing he can do about it, but his relationship with Tsuna is something that continues to progress in direct defiance of that, and just. How important it is to have someone who wants you to live and is very stubborn about that.
To have someone who loves you so much that even when you donāt love yourself, itās a little easier to breathe.
take figures out of their boxes btw. sew patches on your favorite jacket. go to bed with your favorite plushes. wear the pants you usually save for special occasions. draw something cool on your wall. put a sticker on your laptop. dye your hair and pierce your lips. glass is meant to break, metal is meant to rust. items are meant to be used. that's how the world knows that somebody loved them.
When my aunt died of covid, we had to clean out a lot of stuff that she was saving. Foods she was going to try, she was a great chef, spices she'd never opened or only used sparingly, lotions and bath things she hadn't used. After she died I started making a point of using things up: the good vanilla that has to be imported, that we finally found more of, we'd used barely an ounce before she passed away. Even though we love it. I just got my family new bottles of it for Christmas because we used one up. We enjoyed that happiness. Sometimes I still get the impulse to wait for something special, or awful, to save nice things for celebration or comfort. The phrase that always echoes in my mind is "use the good vanilla". And I have been (burning the candles, squirting the body wash, dissolving the bath bombs, putting the saffron in things). And it's been great. Use the good vanilla.
This shouldn't be about "splurging" on high ticket items, by the way. It is easy to read the above as the treat yourself mantra that fuels a certain kind of consumerism. It's where my brain went at first, too.
But then I remembered the homemade strawberry syrup from my partner that I have to talk myself into using. My favorite tea that went stale and flavorless because it was one of the last gifts from my late grandmother. The pictures I'm still kicking myself for not taking because it might have inconvenienced friends. Countless things I had, actions I easily could have taken ā all possible sources of joy and gentleness and life I denied myself.
Part of the cruelty of things like puritanism and cringe culture is that it demands gentle suffering. You must bleed out the goodness in your life for it. And for what? For a morality that can only be weaponized. For a normality that it refuses to budge from. These cultural frameworks declare a grander purpose, but refuse to acknowledge that enrichment IS a grander purpose already.
Live happily! Use the good vanilla.
lesbians on a different post because the girls need their space ok
