We're about to begin a new phase in our domestic discipline marriage. Starting next week, I’ll lose access to my credit and debit cards. In their place will be something new: the "Good Girl Card."
My husband completely controls our household finances. He has access to all my accounts and credit and debit cards. My paycheck goes into my own savings account, which he monitors. He makes the decisions around how my investments are allocated.
We usually go over my credit card usage on Sundays as part of our weekly maintenance sessions, and pay off the credit card that day. Any spending that he deems unnecessary is discussed, and then I am disciplined — the severity of my correction depends entirely on how he feels about my specific spending decisions that week. Most weeks I don’t get punished at all, but occasionally I’ll have slip-ups.
Yesterday, my husband informed me that after this Sunday’s final credit card payment, I will lose my card privileges indefinitely. This decision isn't a punishment for bad behavior, but simply a choice he’s made—one that I am expected to accept and follow.
Instead, my spending will now be managed through the Good Girl Card. This is a loadable, digital debit card that currently has a balance of $50.00. It lives on my phone, and he can add or remove money as he pleases.
Most of the transactions I encounter day to day can be done via wireless tap-to-pay. I have an emergency debit card that I can use to take out cash in a pinch, with his explicit permission, of course.
With the Good Girl Card, I earn money for good behavior and by pleasing him. It’ll all be at his whim, but he explained that for example, an especially enthusiastic and pleasurable rimjob might earn me $2.00. Over time, good behavior should result in a balance that offers me the flexibility to make small day-to-day purchases without a problem.
For bigger purchases, like concert tickets, he’ll decide if I’m allowed to go, and make a purchase for me (outside of the GGC balance) based on my behavior, the price of the ticket, if my calendar is looking overbooked or not, and a bunch of other factors. I’m sure begging nicely and showing him that I’m a good girl who deserves to see a show with my friends will be a non-insignificant factor too.
This level of financial restriction was a bit intimidating to hear him talk about. I’ve transformed from someone who would spend my own paycheck with complete freedom to someone who has their every purchase scrutinized and evaluated, to someone who asks for permission for large purchases in addition to a weekly review, to this current situation — someone who is limited to spending only what he decides I’ve earned. Of course, we’ll still review my purchases weekly, and large purchases (over $50) will still require his explicit permission.
I’m nervous to be kept on such a tight leash, but I also know it’s for the best. I’ve been able to adapt to this kind of change before. If I can survive moving from being able to masturbate and orgasm whenever I wanted to my current reality of no self-pleasuring whatsoever and orgasming only with his explicit permission, I can also settle into the requirements of my new financial restrictions.
I know it’ll feel extra objectifying when I’ve taken his cock in every possible way, working hard to provide him pleasure, holding back from unearned release of my own, and minutes later I get a notification of $1 or $2 added to my balance. Maybe even $5, if I really impressed him.
But on the flip side, this new system will make me much more cautious about misbehavior. For instance, an accidental orgasm could end up costing me $10 and result a long corrective strapping to boot. I’ll have to be careful to maintain a positive balance, ensuring I don’t go into the red if I make a serious mistake.
Only time will tell how this new dynamic will shape our relationship. My husband is always open to change if something doesn’t work, and ultimately, this is about helping me grow and improving our marriage. Will I become softer, more considerate, and better behaved? Or will I feel too subdued and anxious? Time will tell, but I trust him to make the best decisions for us both.
